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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Saff(f): 11:25am On Jun 23, 2018
Elder001:




I think I'll start ignoring him henceforth since he doesn't want to stop quoting me.

What kind of human will say a woman's responsibility is to pop out kids and sit down then the man will take all responsibity 100%?

Is this man really normal?

He doesn't even know the meaning of deadbeat parent. He's here trying to tell me that the only responsibility a woman has is to pop out kids and leave everything else for the father 100%.

I wonder the kind of people that are using this site.
I don’t understand this 100% of the responsibility you’re talking about. Can you elaborate? Contributing 50% of the financial needs of the child, and being present part time is not 100% of any responsibility. Raising a child is not throwing money at them, and leaving the rest of the job for the nanny. The exact reason why women have custody of their kids. Because as much as you men like to talk, you can’t walk in the same direction. I’ve realised that most men like to run away from their responsibilities. Fatherhood has become a little to no time responsibility for most of you, if that. And if you believe throwing money at your child is taking 100% of the responsibility, then something is wrong with you. The system is allowing you to do the absolute least, and you’re still complaining. I suggest you don’t have children at all.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by sarahade(f): 12:29pm On Jun 23, 2018
Elder001:


Pray for your family... they need that love and prayers.


You have no family.
You need it more.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 6:32pm On Jun 23, 2018
Elder001:

This nonsense only apply to men who turn their wives into full time housewives and men who kill their wives ambition not a civilized man like me.

Not all men are misogynistic like you who can't share house chores and cooking so stop that nonsense.

I cook and clean the home too so responsibility must be shared.


Deji63 don't quote me again if you like yourself.

A fool who doesn't know the meaning of deadbeat parent.

I will continue to quote you for being deadbeat.what u gonna do pained leech? You don't clean shi*t. Were you in d labour room with your baby mama as she was yelling in excruciating pain and getting her vj torn and stitched back to get your baby's head out and help you carry your surname on to the next generation? If you were then you STFU cos u ought to know that she has done more than you will ever be able to do as a parent in a life time. Get lost I say again deadbeat insignificanto. You don't deserve to be called dad I swear.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 3:41pm On Jun 24, 2018
Saff:
I don’t understand this 100% of the responsibility you’re talking about. Can you elaborate? Contributing 50% of the financial needs of the child, and being present part time is not 100% of any responsibility. Raising a child is not throwing money at them, and leaving the rest of the job for the nanny. The exact reason why women have custody of their kids. Because as much as you men like to talk, you can’t walk in the same direction. I’ve realised that most men like to run away from their responsibilities. Fatherhood has become a little to no time responsibility for most of you, if that. And if you believe throwing money at your child is taking 100% of the responsibility, then something is wrong with you. The system is allowing you to do the absolute least, and you’re still complaining. I suggest you don’t have children at all.

You chosed not to go through the pages before commenting because you thought you wanted to embarrass me but you only ended up embarrassing yourself. 



Nobody is complaining about 50% financial responsibility. 


Deji63 said the husband must contribute 100% of the financial responsibility .

He said the responsibility of the woman is only to pop out kids and the man should take care of every other thing else while the woman sits down. 

I ask him the reasons why he said that nonsense.. thus the primitive man said; 

The kid is bearing the man's name
The woman passed through painful labour. 

Lo and behold this man has gone insane .Women passing through painful labour is the handiwork of nature, I wasn't the one who designed it like that and it can't be changed by me. 

What sort of human says the responsibility of a woman is to pop out kids and sit down? 

For the last statements.. Listen carefully 

Not all men drop money for the upkeep of children and leave the woman to care of the kid alone. 

There are men who bond and care for their kids even more than their mothers. 

That your father never cared for you i.e bathing, feeding you and carrying you on his bossom everyday doesn't mean all men are like that. 

And as for the kids.. yes, I don't have kids yet but I'll do soon. 

Please next time read very carefully before quoting me.  I hate people who have ridiculous and toxic minds. 

You've insulted almost everyone on romance section, I don't want to be insulted by anybody.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 3:42pm On Jun 24, 2018
Cuteamigo1:
he dosent live in the same world as us or maybe that the setting he grew up with. i come from a family where mom and dad made a fair share of contribution to my upbringing and thats what i want and thats what you are also preaching and for that, thumbs-up. in the this 21st century i cant marry a woman who cannot drag her own weight and expect me to do everything.

He sure had a bad upbringing. I'll just snub him

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 1:33pm On Jun 25, 2018
Elder001:


You chosed not to go through the pages before commenting because you thought you wanted to embarrass me but you only ended up embarrassing yourself. 



Nobody is complaining about 50% financial responsibility. 


Deji63 said the husband must contribute 100% of the financial responsibility .

He said the responsibility of the woman is only to pop out kids and the man should take care of every other thing else while the woman sits down. 

I ask him the reasons why he said that nonsense.. thus the primitive man said; 

The kid is bearing the man's name
The woman passed through painful labour. 

Lo and behold this man has gone insane .Women passing through painful labour is the handiwork of nature, I wasn't the one who designed it like that and it can't be changed by me. 

What sort of human says the responsibility of a woman is to pop out kids and sit down? 

For the last statements.. Listen carefully 

Not all men drop money for the upkeep of children and leave the woman to care of the kid alone. 

There are men who bond and care for their kids even more than their mothers. 

That your father never cared for you i.e bathing, feeding you and carrying you on his bossom everyday doesn't mean all men are like that. 

And as for the kids.. yes, I don't have kids yet but I'll do soon. 

Please next time read very carefully before quoting me.  I hate people who have ridiculous and toxic minds. 

You've insulted almost everyone on romance section, I don't want to be insulted by anybody.


You don't have kids yet because you are a deadbeat dad to the ones whose mothers you fvcked and ran away. Go sit your broke ass down. I haven't got time for your nonsense. If your father ever cared for you he would have taught you the first principle of love between man and womam. Nature from the time of Adam made us the head and if you cannot fulfill the part that nature has scheduled for you as a man and the head, you are not worthy to be called a man. Get lost.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 11:29pm On Jun 25, 2018
Deji63:



You don't have kids yet because you are a deadbeat dad to the ones whose mothers you fvcked and ran away. Go sit your broke ass down. I haven't got time for your nonsense. If your father ever cared for you he would have taught you the first principle of love between man and womam. Nature from the time of Adam made us the head and if you cannot fulfill the part that nature has scheduled for you as a man and the head, you are not worthy to be called a man. Get lost.

I ignored your earlier post but you still jumped into my mentions.

This is a civilized world. Not every man subscribe to your head nonsense.

And how did you come to the conclusion that I'm broke ass? Do you know me from anywhere?.. Seems like you're the one feeding my wife and I.

I subscribe to sharing of responsibilities. Both finance and house chores.
You don't.. Good but stop thinking every other man out there must be like you.

Now listen carefully
The woman facing painful labour is the handiwork of nature not me and it can't be stopped by me.
For the name bearing stuff I think if you're not a dunce like I suspect I once told you that if the woman is so adamant to have the kid bear her name I got no problem with that. The kid can bear both names.

Go and check the meaning of deadbeat again because if someone who share responsibility with his wife is deadbeat then you're indirectly saying more than 65% of American men who share bills with their wives are deadbeat.

Your stupidity is beyond human comprehension.

Take your primitive and uncivilized ass from my mentions.

If you give birth to a kid responsibility should be shared not the other way round.

The fact that someone is liking these dumb and primitive comments of yours shows how uncivilized Africans are..and I'm sure it's a dumb lazy female.


This is the last time I'm ever going to reply you on this platform.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Probz(m): 12:02am On Jun 26, 2018
SexyDenzel:
and increase murder rate :-), have you heard of crime of passion? Personally No person ( I didn't even say woman) no repeat no mofo will scam me out of 50% of my property, my property and be alive to enjoy it period. I don't care what they say that's just me. Any man that likes they idea of child support is a fool if only the know the real agenda behind it. its basically emasculation and will also increase the number if female whoreness, trapping mofos with pregnancy while they use the child as ATM. Have any of you supporting this child support seen what it did to the Black American community?! The black women turned to numbskulls, a BT1000 like Tommy Sotomayor calls them. Call me whatever women are not supposed to be given such power because naturally women turn into tyrants when they are given power and history have proved this.
Well I trust the useless senators on this issue, they won't allow it, the west always pushing propaganda on Africa. That's how they brainwashes mofos that being gay is OK, putting too many gay nonsense in their movies to desensitize people on Homosexuals. If its not natural I hate it. They idiots say its natural to be a fkin gay Yet I've never seen any male animal fkin another male animal, what the FCK is this world turning into?!
Gay
Feminism
Hate speech( wtf is hate speech?! what happened to freedom of speech),
GMOs,
Child Support,
Alimony (how? why? women like it because once it benefits them most women don't care whether its killing the men. Most women lack good sense of judgement except very few like Annie Coulton, Judge Judy de try sha)
Cancer ( Its a money making machine for the elites)
HIV ( They cure is out but HIV is big business for the elite so they hide they cure and kill any doctor that tries to expose it),
Population control
and many other things are just hidden agenda to fk up the society yet most people are too fukin blind to decipher the intentions of these things.
Sometimes you just say fk it, let them keep using people's dumb brains to actualize their agenda.
Another example BBN that program is used to increase, encourage and program the mind of the society that immorality cool and rewards, when a number if fools are being celebrated for doing nothing but sleep, eat, dance, party & fuk are being rewarded with millions and given contracts by corporate bodies while the students that ace Waec, Neco, finish university with Distinction are given nothing or given 10k and people think its cool?
How can you sit down to watch people do nothing meaning BBN? tweet and vote for it? with tour time? TIME?! The average Nigerian is a stupid mofo, sad but true.
Now videos of small babies are twerking and people think its funny?! The society is big time fukd. I apologize for the typos its just that these kind of things infuriates me.

“Judge Judy dey try.”

Someone who’s been a judge for half a century and earns 45 million dollars a year just “dey try.” Is that right? You reckon you and her are in the same league?

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by mikebrown92: 3:34am On Jun 26, 2018
Deji63:


grin grin Why fear dey grip you like this? What is there in supporting your own child? cheesy grin cheesy. Use condom una no dey hear word. Now to face the consequences of your action you dey fear fear lol. Never have kids with a woman you do not love and who will not stand the test of time. So enlighten us. How is child suport a scam? To me it will reduce baby mamaism because people will have more responsible sexual relationships when they know they will be forced into facing their shi*t.

A stout for you,
that will be my treat...

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by bigfrancis21: 7:01pm On Jun 26, 2018
GLeesMODEL:
The last may not have been heard of the raging media battle between Hon Emmanuel Arigbe-Osula and his estranged wife, Uwaila Agbonson, aka Uwa Brown, who recently took the issue of their divorce in America to the social media. 

https://www.nairaland.com/4500028/nigerian-lady-celebrates-divorce-calls

Uwa had alleged among other things that Hon Emmanuel has been irresponsible since the divorce and refused to pay the maintenance for her and the two children from the marriage.
In a response to Uwa’s rants by Osa Osula, a relative of Emmanuel, Uwa’s claim was described a case of greed and blackmail taken too far.

According to Osa, after the divorce, Uwa had expected Emmanuel to continue to foot all the bills of her maternal family like he had always do in the last 16 years but the recent decision by Emmanuel to resist that demand prompted the current outburst by Uwa.
Osa added that even though Uwa got A 7 bedrooms duplex in America and over $2, 500 monthly for maintenance from the divorce, she had expected a clean out and a complete take-over of all Emmanuel’s wealth, this was however, not acceded to by the court. She is therefore pained that she got less than she envisaged.

Osa also denied the allegation by Uwa that Emmanuel has failed to pay the child support and all additional gift of maintenance totalling $2, 550 monthly he agreed to, insisting that had Emmanuel defaulted on that, he would have been in jailed or be without all his driving & business licences.
He maintained that Uwa’s allegations are dirty lies and blackmail born out of desperate greed and failed attempt to rip his brother off.
He therefore advised Uwa to put an end to the shameless blackmail, display of greed and crass irresponsibility and rather focus on her life after the divorce.


Read Full Remarks Below:

Someone just contacted me that you're alleging on Social Media that he's replying your post. Drama queen, He is not interested in your fake news & sensationalized stories. Everyone in the world knows that if he was not paying child support in America & the additional gift of maintenance totalling over $2550 monthly he agreed to, He would have been in jail or be without all his driving & business licences. 

In addition until two weeks ago, he was still paying for your car insurance, you and your siblings’ phone bills. As at this very second, I am writing he still pay for your phone & Mobil internet (hot spot).
Remember that the last time you paid for anything in 15 years until recently was just a few months ago. He sent you to London for your B.Sc & M.Sc after you couldn't pass the University Matriculations Examination, UME in Nigeria. Whereas you lied that you were a graduate of Computer Science from Uniben, a school you never attended.  You spent over $100, 000 on jewellery design training & complete jewellery making studio, completed with Diamond processing & crafting equipments seating in your basement unused. You also spent Tens of thousands of Pounds on other training & setup of a fully equipped Salon that lasted less than 3months while in London.

Even when you didn't work one day in 15 years, he paid people $600 weekly to come to the house daily to tutor the children because you were too busy on phone & social media and couldn’t take care of your children.
You are such a shameless liar who is completely driven by greed & the fact that the wide dream of a clean out in the divorce fell short of your high expectations.
You told the family court that the House you got in the divorce settlement should have been fully paid for. A 7bedrooms duplex occupied by you, his two kids, your two brothers who are medical doctors, who by the way were fully trained in All Saints University in the Commonwealth of Dominica by uncle Emmanuel after their father abandoned them there in their first year, your sister & her daughter, who he has cared for since birth apart from training her at Benson Idahosa University. The man virtually adopted & cared for your entire maternal family until just a couple of months ago despite the divorce.
Whereas none of you worked, he was responsible for everyone & brought all of you to the United States after educating all of you.
As an educated woman now, he could have refused to pay for your maintenance when he filed for the divorce, but instead agreed to it because he wanted you to sign the divorce amicably.

You went to court to try to tarnish his name by filling for Order of Protection for you & the kids, it was dismissed because you withdrew it for lacking in substance. His counter-suit was granted. That's your pain. In court the transcripts will show the world that you & your lawyer argued that he shouldn't be believed because all Nigerians are 419 and now you are appealing to Nigerians sentiments after failing to tarnish him in the family court.
The divorce has been over for years, what is your beef? It must be greed certainly. It’s not easy having to work for the first time in your life and pay your own bills in America by yourself right? Prove to the world how many years you have worked in your life.

Now that you have started working for the first time in your life as a Dialysis Technician, instead of appreciating the handiwork of others in getting you and members of your family to where you are now in life, your desperation has heightened. You want him to continue to pay for everything like before.

You have bragged that you're DELILAH and will do anything to destroy him, but God knows that all he did was to marry you against all advice & lifted everyone around you up. So, you shall not succeed. You should be ashamed of yourself for the extent your greed has driven you. 
You ran up over four credit cards to the turn of hundreds of thousands of dollars & the man did not ask you to pay & yet you are saying crap and lies all over the social media. Enough of your greed and blackmail UWAILA.

Emmanuel has a good heart and the fear of God, yet you want to use your greed to tarnish him. I have told you privately & now publicly that you will not succeed.
You are not celebrating, but vindictive and bitter over the unsuccessful plot to clean out. You have your boyfriends, so move on and give him peace of mind to move on. If your greed is still driving you, my uncle said that the judge repeatedly told you that you can go to the Supreme Court to seek it, but don't cry wolf when there's none. When my Uncle said over four years ago that you boosted that you are DELILAH out to destroy him, we doubted, but you are beginning to make me believe that you are really a Delilah, but this time around, yours is an unsuccessful mission in Jesus name, Amen.

Osa Osula
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2018/5/update-you-are-a-liar-mother-of-two-who-celebrated-her-divorce-gets-response-from-her-husbands-family.html.html

2buffagain:
What the US did is weaken the neccessitative bonds of marriage so that only marriages that are founded on love can last, no longer just resources.
But the problem that revealed is that it became very clear that most women only cared about resources....a lot of women don't love men (even if they lie to themselves that they do). They only love their utility.

When finally given the opportunity to get rid of the man yet keeping his very same utility (to the destruction of the man), the western[ized] women gladly choose the man's utility over the man....rendering him nothing more than a slave. The west gave women the power to be what they want, so they chose to become black widow spiders.

It's so bad that some female hagravens feel threatening divorce s the way to get their way in any argument with their spouse.


Women are too emotional to wield the kind of power given to them in the west, and they have done very little to impress me in that regards.


I honestly think wedding vows should be changed in the west to better match the current circumstancial realities of marriage here.
Now its more like "Do you accept to do what she wants as her husband or do what she wants as her divorced slave, till death do you part?".

Who in their right decent mind will want to marry under these conditions?
So no, I don't blame the guys out here saying enough is enough. The women can go look for gullible slaves elsewhere!

In my opinion, the above is one fair divorce case that didn't go badly for the male party. Most of America's divorce laws were written back in the 50s and 60s when women were mostly housewives with very little or no education and mostly the men worked, so laws like lifetime alimony, generous settlement of the female spouse in divorce seemed very fair enough given the economic situation then. Also, divorces were very uncommon as it was a still considered a societal taboo for a woman to divorce, so despite the financial lucrativeness of divorcing women still found a way to make their marriage work. However, with the advancements made so far in gender equality, increasing economic power of women and overall representation of women in the work force (for the first time ever in US history, women have overtaken men in the overall US workforce as there are slightly more female workers than male workers in America today), concepts such as 'lifetime alimony' or alimony in general no longer makes sense since women now are more educated than their grandmothers were and maybe were working part-time at the time of divorce or could be back in the workforce within a few years after divorce. Since the 1990s, judges rarely award lifetime alimony but rather 'rehabilitative alimony' to the less earning spouse for a few years, which covers the time the less-earning spouse needs to get training, certification or education to be financially independent. The idea is that it totally does not make sense for an able-bodied and educated/potentially 'educatable' adult in this modern age of expanded economic opportunities to expect lifetime alimony from another adult simply because they 'stayed at home to raise the children' (could be the man or woman). Even parents become financially emancipated once their children turn 18, and even the lottery stops paying after a certain number of years (annuity payout option), thus why would any adult, or 'adult child' rather, depend on another adult's paycheck for life?

In the case of Uwa and Emmanuel, Uwa is educated up to master's level, able-bodied and economically capable of easily finding useful employment herself, thus totally ruling out any option of alimony from Emmanuel. In fact, Texas judges hardly award alimony anymore except in very rare cases (such as where one spouse is disabled). Also, given that Emmanuel is based in Nigeria, and also most of his assets and wealth I presume, the US court has little or no jurisdiction over most of his foreign wealth/assets except those in the US (such as the house Uwa is living in) and given that they have kids under 18 living with the parent that provides primary care (their mother, Uwa, in this case), it is only fair that the house is awarded to the mother to enable the 2 kids to continue to live in the house that they've always known. Child support is also awarded in this case until the children turn 18 after which Emma isn't bound to continue paying it except he wants to continue. Also, any wealth or assets acquired by Emmanuel or Uwa before their marriage remains solely theirs (it seems Emmanuel may have been already made before he married Uwa, thus she isn't entitled to any of his previously-made wealth, only that which they made together in their 15 years of marriage) and only assets/wealth acquired after they got married (and located in the US) are up for 50-50 split or equitable distribution. A pre-nup is also useful although it can be overridden by a judge if need be.

Due to women holding several prestigious economic positions now in the US, increasing number of divorced women are paying alimony and child support instead to their ex-spouses who happened to be the stay-at-home parent/primary caregiver to the children. Divorce laws in America are gradually changing to adapt with modern times. This is even more important given the increasing rate of divorce and a hidden financial motivation to marry rather than a genuine one. Marriage should not be viewed by some as a ticket to hitting the gold mine or expecting to live on someone else's paycheck just because you married them or 'stayed at home to raise the children' (who are also yours by the way). Financial independence for both parties is the modern key/realization here.

cc Elder001

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by bigfrancis21: 7:38pm On Jun 26, 2018
Netanyahu1:
I pay child support, Am not complaining. The effect it has on me is that am zipping it . if the child support law in Nigeria is effective men won't be inpregnating innocent girls at the slightest opportunity.

Some men won't be having 10 children from 5 women.

You also need to consider the fact that instituting child support will only but merely shift the motivation from men to women to have kids randomly knowing that the financial responsibility isn't on them. The fact that the Nigerian economy is tough and child support isn't a common thing in Nigeria may be a discouraging factor keeping many Nigerian women from becoming baby mamas but aspiring unto marriage instead, thus keeping the family unit going. I mean take a look at the african american society today and compare it to the 50s and 60s. They once used to be family-oriented and a close-knit society like ours before but now it seems their society is torn apart (thanks to liberalism and laws such as child support).

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 12:18am On Jun 27, 2018
bigfrancis21:




In my opinion, the above is one fair divorce case that didn't go badly for the male party. Most of America's divorce laws were written back in the 50s and 60s when women were mostly housewives with very little or no education and mostly the men worked, so laws like lifetime alimony, generous settlement of the female spouse in divorce seemed very fair enough given the economic situation then. Also, divorces were very uncommon as it was a still considered a societal taboo for a woman to divorce, so despite the financial lucrativeness of divorcing women still found a way to make their marriage work. However, with the advancements made so far in gender equality, increasing economic power of women and overall representation of women in the work force (for the first time ever in US history, women have overtaken men in the overall US workforce as there are slightly more female workers than male workers in America today), concepts such as 'lifetime alimony' or alimony in general no longer makes sense since women now are more educated than their grandmothers were and maybe were working part-time at the time of divorce or could be back in the workforce within a few years after divorce. Since the 1990s, judges rarely award lifetime alimony but rather 'rehabilitative alimony' to the less earning spouse for a few years, which covers the time the less-earning spouse needs to get training, certification or education to be financially independent. The idea is that it totally does not make sense for an able-bodied and educated/potentially 'educatable' adult in this modern age of expanded economic opportunities to expect lifetime alimony from another adult simply because they 'stayed at home to raise the children' (could be the man or woman). Even parents become financially emancipated once their children turn 18, and even the lottery stops paying after a certain number of years (annuity payout option), thus why would any adult, or 'adult child' rather, depend on another adult's paycheck for life?

In the case of Uwa and Emmanuel, Uwa is educated up to master's level, able-bodied and economically capable of easily finding useful employment herself, thus totally ruling out any option of alimony from Emmanuel. In fact, Texas judges hardly award alimony anymore except in very rare cases (such as where one spouse is disabled). Also, given that Emmanuel is based in Nigeria, and also most of his assets and wealth I presume, the US court has little or no jurisdiction over most of his foreign wealth/assets except those in the US (such as the house Uwa is living in) and given that they have kids under 18 living with the parent that provides primary care (their mother, Uwa, in this case), it is only fair that the house is awarded to the mother to enable the 2 kids to continue to live in the house that they've always known. Child support is also awarded in this case until the children turn 18 after which Emma isn't bound to continue paying it except he wants to continue. Also, any wealth or assets acquired by Emmanuel or Uwa before their marriage remains solely theirs (it seems Emmanuel may have been already made before he married Uwa, thus she isn't entitled to any of his previously-made wealth, only that which they made together in their 15 years of marriage) and only assets/wealth acquired after they got married (and located in the US) are up for 50-50 split or equitable distribution. A pre-nup is also useful although it can be overridden by a judge if need be.

Due to women holding several prestigious economic positions now in the US, increasing number of divorced women are paying alimony and child support instead to their ex-spouses who happened to be the stay-at-home parent/primary caregiver to the children. Divorce laws in America are gradually changing to adapt with modern times. This is even more important given the increasing rate of divorce and a hidden financial motivation to marry rather than a genuine one. Marriage should not be viewed by some as a ticket to hitting the gold mine or expecting to live on someone else's paycheck just because you married them or 'stayed at home to raise the children' (who are also yours by the way). Financial independence for both parties is the modern key/realization here.

cc Elder001


Those laws need to be reformed.. They're hurting American men really bad.

Well I want such laws to apply only to men who turn their wives into housewives.

You can't be working at the same time as a man and the court will tell him to leave his house for you.. If we look carefully at divorce cases the women hardly contribute anything to the building or acquiring of the house but later she's given the house.. Like for what?
So if the kid gets to 18 the man has the right to drive her out?


Solution to this :marry a woman who has her own properties and her own money.. She can't take your house when she has her own house.

Acquire limited things or acquire things in a separate place which your wife won't know anything about.


I pity those alpha males are whatever they're called that turn their wives into full time housewives or kill their wives ambitions.
Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 6:27am On Jun 27, 2018
Elder001:


I ignored your earlier post but you still jumped into my mentions.

This is a civilized world. Not every man subscribe to your head nonsense.

And how did you come to the conclusion that I'm broke ass? Do you know me from anywhere?.. Seems like you're the one feeding my wife and I.

I subscribe to sharing of responsibilities. Both finance and house chores.
You don't.. Good but stop thinking every other man out there must be like you.

Now listen carefully
The woman facing painful labour is the handiwork of nature not me and it can't be stopped by me.
For the name bearing stuff I think if you're not a dunce like I suspect I once told you that if the woman is so adamant to have the kid bear her name I got no problem with that. The kid can bear both names.

Go and check the meaning of deadbeat again because if someone who share responsibility with his wife is deadbeat then you're indirectly saying more than 65% of American men who share bills with their wives are deadbeat.

Your stupidity is beyond human comprehension.

Take your primitive and uncivilized ass from my mentions.

If you give birth to a kid responsibility should be shared not the other way round.

The fact that someone is liking these dumb and primitive comments of yours shows how uncivilized Africans are..and I'm sure it's a dumb lazy female.


This is the last time I'm ever going to reply you on this platform.


I can't count how many times I have read your"this is the last time I'm ever going to reply you" hehehe. You are so inconsistent. This is the same spirit you carry on into bringing babies you cannot cater for into this world. People like you be like "this is the last time I will fvck her punnah" but you still keep going back there like punnah is your life because you are inconsistent and without discipline.

So I don't know you from anywhere and cannot come to conclusions as to matters concerning but you know me from somewhere and can conclude that I don't do house chores? cheesy cheesy. When a man lacks wisdom he is as good as dead.

Your lack of wisdom is the reason why you ended up a deadbeat brat in the first place. Coming on NL to express ur fear of being "clamped down" by the law to face your responsibilities as a man. You've got vested interest otherwise you won't be the OP of such a dumb topic.

God who made it by nature that women should labour also naturally made men the head who must cater for his family like a sherperd does his flock. You are so deabeat that you are willing to throw away your surname because you don't want to cater for your own child?

You need prayers. Go out there and be a man. Knowing a Local Govt Chairman who spends 12 hours on this platform means you spend your entire time and life on Nairaland . No wonder you ended up a dead broke deadbeat brat. Go fix your disgraceful financial situation or come to Daddy for help.if you spent half the time you spend here on more productive acivities you wont have ended up a broke deadbeat runaway baby daddy.Now, scram!

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 1:08pm On Jun 27, 2018
Elder001:


I ignored your earlier post but you still jumped into my mentions.

This is a civilized world. Not every man subscribe to your head nonsense.

And how did you come to the conclusion that I'm broke ass? Do you know me from anywhere?.. Seems like you're the one feeding my wife and I.

I subscribe to sharing of responsibilities. Both finance and house chores.
You don't.. Good but stop thinking every other man out there must be like you.

Now listen carefully
The woman facing painful labour is the handiwork of nature not me and it can't be stopped by me.
For the name bearing stuff I think if you're not a dunce like I suspect I once told you that if the woman is so adamant to have the kid bear her name I got no problem with that. The kid can bear both names.

Go and check the meaning of deadbeat again because if someone who share responsibility with his wife is deadbeat then you're indirectly saying more than 65% of American men who share bills with their wives are deadbeat.

Your stupidity is beyond human comprehension.

Take your primitive and uncivilized ass from my mentions.

If you give birth to a kid responsibility should be shared not the other way round.

The fact that someone is liking these dumb and primitive comments of yours shows how uncivilized Africans are..and I'm sure it's a dumb lazy female.


This is the last time I'm ever going to reply you on this platform.

You need not call me a bastard. I know my father and I am not the cause of your broke ass destiny. Get lost.
Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 1:12pm On Jun 27, 2018
Elder001:


Empty barrels make the loudest noise.

Clown

You have made a lot of nose thus far. You just described your destiny. cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 1:19pm On Jun 27, 2018
Elder001:



Those laws need to be reformed.. They're hurting American men really bad.

Well I want such laws to apply only to men who turn their wives into housewives.

You can't be working at the same time as a man and the court will tell him to leave his house for you.. If we look carefully at divorce cases the women hardly contribute anything to the building or acquiring of the house but later she's given the house.. Like for what?
So if the kid gets to 18 the man has the right to drive her out?


Solution to this :marry a woman who has her own properties and her own money.. She can't take your house when she has her own house.

Acquire limited things or acquire things in a separate place which your wife won't know anything about.


I pity those alpha males are whatever they're called that turn their wives into full time housewives or kill their wives ambitions.


Deadbeat brat. So na rich woman you dey find? Not only are you deadbeat you are also a professional gigolo. grin grin grin. The poverty that will take over your life still dey do press up. I pity your life. Its dude like you who end up with pauper hoes who deceive you into believing they are loaded because they understand the game too well. When yoi enter one chsnce you go dey para for court upandan like pfofessional divorce expert. Go find work.Your financial life stinks to the galaxy.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 1:28pm On Jun 27, 2018
Deji63:



Deadbeat brat. So na rich woman you dey find? Not only are you deadbeat you are also a professional gigolo. grin grin grin. The poverty that will take over your life still dey do press up. I pity your life. Its dude like you who end up with pauper hoes who deceive you into believing they are loaded because they understand the game too well. When yoi enter one chsnce you go dey para for court upandan like pfofessional divorce expert. Go find work.Your financial life stinks to the galaxy.

I just realized I've been wasting time with a confused individual.

I shouldn't marry a rich woman I should marry a poor woman? This statement only shows you have psychological issues.

And I'm married. Like I once said :even if I'm a billionaire I'll still share bills with my wife.

Laziness and lack of focus are things that I'll never support.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 1:31pm On Jun 27, 2018
The lazy girl liking your comments because she think she'll sit at home while she get paid by a man should continue liking them..
And as for that mod deleting any comment made with that account.. Just start deleting the ones made with this one too because this is the only one left.

I know there are many misogynists on this forum but never thought some mods are misogynists as well.
Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Deji63: 6:33pm On Jun 27, 2018
Hanseel1:


I just realized I've been wasting time with a confused individual.

I shouldn't marry a rich woman I should marry a poor woman? This statement only shows you have psychological issues.

And I'm married. Like I once said :even if I'm a billionaire I'll still share bills with my wife.

Laziness and lack of focus are things that I'll never support.

When people are not rich, they are automatically lazy hmn? You need to borrow some brain bro. You are as poor as a church rat. That is why your entire existence revolves around NL. What makes me really happy is you meet your kind. You find out you both got screwed by each other that's why you finally get divorced and then come to NL to start creating dumb topics because you are too unserious with your life to be financially stable enough to face your responsibilities as a man, a head as God ordained. You can't even think up anything reasonable to become a thousandnaire let alone a billionaire. Your life is NL.That's where all your own "hardwork" goes but you are looking for a hardworking woman who'd go out to work her butts out to feed you while you are "working" away your life on this platform? cheesy cheesy cheesy Keep wasting it away.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:41pm On Jun 27, 2018
Deji63:


When people are not rich, they are automatically lazy hmn? You need to borrow some brain bro. You are as poor as a church rat. That is why your entire existence revolves around NL. What makes me really happy is you meet your kind. You find out you both got screwed by each other that's why you finally get divorced and then come to NL to start creating dumb topics because you are too unserious with your life to be financially stable enough to face your responsibilities as a man, a head as God ordained. You can't even think up anything reasonable to become a thousandnaire let alone a billionaire. Your life is NL.That's where all your own "hardwork" goes but you are looking for a hardworking woman who'd go out to work her butts out to feed you while you are "working" away your life on this platform? cheesy cheesy cheesy Keep wasting it away.


Lol.. This one is a troll.

Quite unfortunate that I just realized that.
Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 10:22pm On Jun 27, 2018
Hanseel1:



Lol.. This one is a troll.

Quite unfortunate that I just realized that.

until u realise that there are so many frustrated people on this forum...,,The best u can do is to ignore them.

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Re: Men Pls Resist Any Move By The Judiciary To Implement Child Support In Nigeria by Nobody: 10:25pm On Jun 27, 2018
Turkeelex:


until u realise that there are so many frustrated people on this forum...,,The best u can do is to ignore.

Well.. It's unfortunate I didn't realize he is a troll on time.

Every single thing the guy or man has said on this page doesn't make sense ,he then ventured into trolling.

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