Jimi23:
Tell her to take honey before bedtime. My kids do that and it works.

adadike:
you better tell that yeye girl to be doing kegel exercise. it will not only strengthen her vagina muscle, it will make her very tight too

famziano:


Thank you sir, but she's avoiding me, even if I have a solution for her how do I take her out of hiding

Jimi23:


Call her and let her know its between you both and you have a solution to her problem. Assuring that yoylu still love her that is if you truly still do.

adadike:
you better tell that yeye girl to be doing kegel exercise. it will not only strengthen her vagina muscle, it will make her very tight too

Massmike:
Firstly, from what I understood from the desperation she was portraying at the initial stage of your relationship, I feel she has been bed wetting for a very long time not a year like she said.

Many things contribute to the pride one has as a woman and it takes just a little thing to take that pride away. bed wetting can be very embarrassing especially as teenager talk more an adult.

My brother, you have a lot of work to do if you want this to work. first of all you have to help her maintain her pride as a woman. You "sparking" at her was wrong. A woman is happiest when she finds a man who loves her the way she is. You getting angry would have come as a serious shock to her and would have hurt her greatly.
So my is:
firstly try and apologize.
let her know you love her the way she is.
tell her you are both in this together.

A romantic man should know how to continue from here

famziano:



I love her and I've sent her series of texts telling her how much I love her, reminding her our plans for the future, I'm not sure if she's with her phone tho, I'm trying my best to get in touch with her but it seems like she deliberately disconnected with me for reason I don't understand, last time we talked on the phone she said she's looking for solution to her problem, I've apologized about the sparking too

austyn0:
I know sometimes we overreact....You shouldn't have raised your voice on her.....Bedwetting is so very embarrassing and worrisome for a grownup,, I can only imagine how low and ashamed she imagines herself in your presence.....

Give her time,, keep sending the messages,, search for every sweet and encouraging words you can find and forward it to her,, you can as well tell her you have purposely started bedwetting too sef..

On the solution,,she might be going for prayers cuz she thinks it is spiritual,,sometimes it is not spiritual....Most people that urinate constantly bedwets...... I was once a sugar-addicted nigga,, It got to a point I started urinating every 10mins after drinking water till there is nothing left to form urine in my bladder....Sugar causes constant urine and as a result sometimes you see yourself urinating in a dream not knowing that it is happpening real....Urinary bladder size causes it too[I stand to be corrected]....

So,, tell her to reduce the way she consumes sugar...There were excercises I read about that prevents constant urine,, she should google it up or you do it for her....Save your girl,, Save your relationship.....All the best man.

famziano:
Hi Nlanders, I'm sorry to bother you guys with my situation but I need your candid advice to what's happening in my 5 years relationship, now straight to story, I met her when she was 20yrs old then I was 25 (5yrs age gap), we started slowly because I was in 300L in the UNI then, she's always coming to visit me at my brother( I live with my elder bro then) anytime I'm around, she works so she'll see me in the morning before she heads out to work every morning and always see me every evening before she goes back home, she was really in love and I reciprocated well enough, one of those days she slept off in my room(my bro got 2bedroom so I had my own room) I woke her about 30mins later but she told me I shouldn't bother that she'll soon be heading home, I said OK, I went back to the living room watching an Europa match with my bro, 30mins later I noticed there was no sign of her leaving yet so I went back in and met her awake surprisingly, Oh you're awake, time to go look at the time it's already past 9, she looks at me and smile then she said I'm leaving but not now, we should talk, TALK no we can talk in the morning since you will be here in the morning, then she started talking not minding what the time says, she told me how much she loves me and cares alot about me, then she asked me "do you love me"? I said yes and I was being honest, then she begged me not to cheat on her because I WAS in school and I could possibly have any girl I want but honestly I wasn't that type of dude, I don't double date, so i told her and assured her I won't and I will tell her if I found out I'm no longer interested in the relationship instead of cheating on her, she was pleased with my reply, so she left that night around few minutes to 10, getting home that night her mom was really mad at her and wouldn't let her in, you know the yoruba parent style of handling such situation, she insisted she goes back to where she was coming from, Oh jeez which kind wahala bi dis I told her on the phone, I told you it was getting late, then she said she intentionally did what she did because her mom wasn't taking her serious, Ha! if you have family issues why did she got me involve here (I thought to myself) she said I shouldn't worry she'll be fine, finally her mom let her in around 1am serves her right? I don't know how she managed her night but she called by 6am that she'll soon get to my place, I said OK, by 7.10am she was already at my door, Oh you're here already come in, then she narrated what has been happening with her mom and how she's been over protective with guys around her and her sister, I told her that was normal for any loving, caring parent to be protective, I made her understand she's doing all that because she loves you, it's that simple she agreed then she begged me to meet her so her mom wouldn't worry much like she did last night, I couldn't give her a straight answer so I told her I will think about it because at that point I can spot her desperation, later that afternoon I was at my bro office (bro has a small printing company he runs) then I told him everything and asked for his advice, then he told me "if you love her and think she's marriable "see her mom no qualms" so I took my bro advice and met her mom that weekend, she was very nice we talked about almost everything necessary and she told me she doesn't like late night wakabout that led to her knowing about me, I promise her it will never happen again, fast forward to 2016 during my service in Ibadan she came visiting because we haven't seen in about 3months before then, that was when I first noticed, I woke up to her crying around 5am then I noticed the bed was wet, I couldn't process what has happened immediately so I asked her why are you crying she keeps mute then it occurs to me it's bed-wet(Oh it is) how did it happened? she just couldn't say a word, well I told her I've read something similar to this and I summed it up to be stress to be the cause, I tried to calm her down and acted like nothing happened so I can get her to talk, she was really ashamed because I've never seen her like this before, later that day we got into a convo, now she's talking then she told me she's very sorry it happened and I had to see it, "I've been going through this trauma for awhile (a year plus) and this is 6th time I'm bedwetting unconsciously" she said she can't tell anybody because of the shame, now I know, I was bit confused too as I've never seen this happen in real life (an adult bedwetting) though I've read something related to this online so I decided to call a distance doctor friend to seek for advice who gave us tips like she should take more water during the day and less in the night, sleep early whenever she's stressed out, don't eat sugary contained meals late night etc I think it worked because it didn't happen again until she left Ibadan after 2weeks with me, fast forward to last weekend she came home(now at my apartment/ soon to be our apartment) Lo and behold it happened again, what is this? I sparked for her because I believed she knows what to do to avoid this embarrassment, the last time I saw this happened was 2yrs ago, and this is still happening to you, how is this happening sef? meanwhile I already made plans to propose to her on her birthday which is next weekend July 7, but she's been avoiding me lately, she doesn't come home, she doesn't call me like she use to, if I call she's quick to drop my call, whatsapp messages no reply, for the past 3days she didn't pick my call at all so I called her mom and asked her whereabout then she told me she went church for a 7days program, I'm really confused I left her message to please see me.... please house I need help? advice, tips, anything at all abeg make una help me!!! could this spiritual battle?


PS: I love her and care so much about her, in the past 5yrs we've been through alot together, I'm ready to settle down because everything is place just this issue

austyn0:
How is the girl yeye? Aru adikwa gi?

mimimile93:


Op I have seen several girls (big girls) with this issues. Even one of my cousin had bedwet till he reaches 26yrs. We tried evrytin the dude was till bed wettin. Two yrs ago he stops. It just happened.

Just have to understand her. As far as she's not cheating on you. Accept her like that. She will stop with time.

Bed wettin could be related to medical or the body system but I doubt spirituality aspect of it.. Let her watch her diet

dejialam:
I remember when i was much younger, i do bedwet then but my grandma came up with a very ridiculous solution which goes thus;
Get a hot chalcoal pee on it thats all.
I observe ever since then i get this hot sensation to pee even in sleep I will never sleep again till i pee.
So tell her to try it, it might work for her too.
Thank me later.

Massmike:
Firstly, from what I understood from the desperation she was portraying at the initial stage of your relationship, I feel she has been bed wetting for a very long time not a year like she said.

Many things contribute to the pride one has as a woman and it takes just a little thing to take that pride away. bed wetting can be very embarrassing especially as teenager talk more an adult.

My brother, you have a lot of work to do if you want this to work. first of all you have to help her maintain her pride as a woman. You "sparking" at her was wrong. A woman is happiest when she finds a man who loves her the way she is. You getting angry would have come as a serious shock to her and would have hurt her greatly.
So my advice is:
firstly try and apologize.
let her know you love her the way she is.
tell her you are both in this together.

A romantic man should know how to continue from here

adadike:
obu na imaghi na aru adichaghi m