hmmm....

Lazyreporta:
You see women who cook, wash, clean, have sex in all imaginable style to keep the man they are dating?
Most times those men don't end up marrying them, and I'll tell you why..
Do you get irritated when you want to buy something from someone and they are desperate to sell to you?
They keep saying anything just to get you buy?

In most cases, how do you feel?
For me, I often feel that it's either something is wrong with the stuff or the price is inflated. I've discovered that desperation is a sign of the dearth of value, and a show of sheer insecurity. Why? So that by all means they can sell it out. It'll be gain for them to sell that stuff out no matter the price than to keep it back.

Relating this to relationships. When a woman or a man is trying so hard to keep a dating partner, that relationship doesn't lead nowhere in the end.
Why?

People don't want to feel like you're trying so hard to impress them. It devalues you and puts them above you. Most times the admiration they have for you wanes down.
Also, people who try so hard to keep a partner convey insecurity to their partners. In words, it sounds this way: “I am trying so hard to please you and impress you and make you stay because this is the only opportunity I have to marry....”

You sound so insecure that if this doesn't work, you won't embrace your personal beauty and move on.
If you have to do anything outside being yourself to impress a man, you're struggling with complex issues. You are desperate, and nothing devalues one like desperation.
A lady told me she'd just pack her things and cohabit with her man whenever she wants him to marry her. I had to school her. It's ridiculous. Withholding some most times draws out the best of your partner. Giving all just to be married is madness. You marry to give all, you don't give all to marry. Why? Because averagely humans are moved by what's not accessible.

I'm not saying folks who cohabit don't end up marrying but only 20% do. Why? Because less is more!
I'm personally more inclined to women who don't throw everything out. Women who don't try so hard to prove a point. Women who don't try so hard to push it.
It's basic psychology. Everyday a guy meets desperate women because the average woman is desperate for love and marriage. You become a different and exceptional woman when you ain't desperate.

Trying so hard to impress is a turn off. Be yourself. Don't play hard to get, be actually hard to get.
I'm not in any way saying that cooking or cleaning for your man is wrong, but if the motivating factor is to get him marry you. You are under selling yourself.


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By Solomon Buchi Bartholomew

These days, withhold at your own peril. Who has the time? Ladies are beginning to see these too. Be actually hard to get na him make aunty Chichi reach 45 for house o. Spread that legs. knack my sisters, knack LOL

R u telling me now dat u have not fell of victim to ur topic b4?

victorian:
My own just be the best u can be in a relationship and leave nature and destiny to take its course. Simple.

hmmmm....superb submissions!

well as for me, that's how i want me lady to be. I find her more attractive that way.

It would seem some folks here misunderstood the point of the op

He didn't say you should not give your best in a relationship....Rather you should do so because it will make you feel happy not because of marriage!

Candypot:
When one dnt gives all one is easily taged nt bn serious, when one gives all one is taged too desperate/cheap... Humans! Are insatiable ... Jst be d best nd let destiny take its course.. Wat will be, will surely be.

True!

openmine:
It would seem some folks here misunderstood the point of the op

He didn't say you should not give your best in a relationship....Rather you should do so because will make you feel happy not because of marriage!

Lots no read am.

Thanks

To immature guys by all means but those who know the value of a helping hand, a broad shoulder to lean on and a faithful partner all this is not extra after all Jesus a complete stranger died for you and me....

My own is just because you don't understand the purpose of love doesn't mean you spoil it for someone else

Bintabisiriyu:
So you want to buy charger you will not taste if it is working

Haha!!! Dear Lawd! Why are Nigerians like this?

different strokes for different folks....

if you like me but play some DUMB HARD TO GET games,


you've lost me already!...... l equate hard to get to HYPOCRISY & I hate hypocrites!

Whether you do what OP posted or not, if it isn't meant to be, forget it.

Massmike:
Generally, people don't value things that come easy but beware. As you are working less someone is out there working more.
Don't end up loosing your partner.

People tends to value more anything they get in a hard way and de-value things they get in a less way... Thats why I dont sound desperate for things I crave for.

no rules

what you do depends on the person you with nothing like "one rule for them all"

calm down,learn ur partner then know what to apply.

to me if we dating and you cnt bring your self down to do things,u will definitely not do it when you come in,besides that character rules leads.

Whatever that is worth doing, is worth doing well.
You either give all or don't give at all. Years from now, we are going to be disappointed not by what did bit by what we failed to do cause of fear of what will people say?

GrammarNazi1:

...test...

Jesus

'cause when you try hard
That's when you die hard
Your homies looking like why God
When they reminisce over you, my God ~ Kanye West can't tell me nothing

mimimile93:
What if she puts juju in that food she's cooking for you?

Since I was born I have never eaten any food cooked by my girlfriend..
I don't trust beings who can't close their legs while urinating..

Hope you won't marry any of these beings too, I mean, you can't marry what you don't trust, they could bear your kids and that would be super disastrous!

Lalas247:

Jesus

mimimile93:
What if she puts juju in that food she's cooking for you?

Since I was born I have never eaten any food cooked by my girlfriend..
I don't trust beings who can't close their legs while urinating..

I am with you on this!

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Massmike:
Generally, people don't value things that come easy but beware. As you are working less someone is out there working more.
Don't end up loosing your partner.

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False

There's a tiny line between the actions of an unassuming, kind, loyal and selfless woman (person) and a desperate one. Mistake the former for the latter at your own peril; that a woman offers you the best of herself doesn't automatically mean that she's desperate. There's no healthy relationship without mutual self-sacrifices.

naso

Albinoworwor:
Different strokes for different folks.....there is no basic formula for a successful relationship

If destined to work out....it will

Spot on mate. These things are not cast in stone, but one basic rule is to always be yourself in any kind of relationship.

Things are different between humans

This is the worst rubbish i have read in front page for a while.

Make sense

WHEN A MAN IS READY HE IS READY. A LADY THAT DOES ALL THIS FOR A MAN IS BECAUSE SHE LOVES HIM NOT BASED ON BEEN DESPERATE. ITS ONLY WHEN THE MAN IS NOT APPRECIATIVE THAT HE WOULD SEE THE LADY AS DOING ALL THOSE TO GET HIM HOOKED.

sarahade:
Mtcheew

I thought I was the only who felt irritated by the piece.

Lol

How people in this country think marriage is the all and all of every relationship beats my imagination..

My dear OP, there is no calculation or steps that is guaranteed in life as long as love is concerned..

Some people did all the styles in the world and still got their guys to marry them and boomm, the marriage collapsed after few years.. Or became horror after few years..

Some didn't even do anything, they were just them selves and the guy married them and boom, the marriage crashed after few years or became horror after few years..

And on the other hand, some acted in the opposite direction and still experienced blissful marriage..

Bro, forget all these analyses.. Humans are different.. What u will appreciate in ur partner may not be what I will appreciate in my own partner..


Also, that a relationship didn't lead to marriage doesn't mean it was a total waste of time.

Albinoworwor:
Different strokes for different folks.....there is no basic formula for a successful relationship

If destined to work out....it will

True relationship has no formula . Be yourself have fun what will be, will be

There is no formular for a successful relationship.wat works 4 u may not work 4 another person.ladies are complicated in nature dats all.

There is no formula... For marriage or even riches...