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Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by OZAOEKPE(f): 2:01pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
famziano:Even if we no get work, its too long to read now 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 2:21pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
If this is the "only" issue you have in your relationship. I have to admit that you have it "easy". Bedwetting is a psychological thing. Something usually triggers the involuntary urinary discharge (this is where you have to make her comfortable enough to confide in you). Talk to her about how she usually feel right and after bedwetting in course of her night rest. I used to have a platonic female friend with this issue (she was 20 at the time). She only bedwet after having a nightmare. We both worked on conditioning her mind to wake up right after having a nightmare sometimes it involves talking and chatting with her into the dead of the night before she goes to bed. Whatever it was we did. It worked. Just help her to sort out her issue and you will have her respect for life even if you don't end up marrying her. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by onyekabe(m): 2:49pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
mimimile93:one of the best advice so she will stop bedweting as soon as she has her first child and you need to let her know that she do not have any let her set a time she will always urinate. She can put her phone in alarm to wake her up |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Jimi23(m): 4:20pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
famziano: You sparked? Then you need to really apologise and assure her you love her. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 4:29pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
That year when you pee on the bed and you intentionally pour water on the bed to hide that fact... Buhhhaaaahhha. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 4:35pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
mimimile93:What would you do if you were in the op's shoes? |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by ozoneymcm: 4:39pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
famziano:Lemme tell you my story of about 20yrs ago. My younger brother had the same problem (as a teenager). We shared the same bed, I decided to take water before going to bed so I'd have to wake up to pee and take him along so most times when it happens, I consider it my fault. I would pour some water on my side of the bed and make him believe we both pee. This reduced his embarrassment and shame and we got positive results in no time. My point is you need to build her confidence someway,somehow. She needs to know even though it's not her fault it happens, she can do something about it. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Albinoworwor: 4:46pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
How about setting an alarm every 2 hours ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by mimimile93: 4:55pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: according to Op d bae is distancing herself frm op. Due to shame and I bet it will take a bullet in hrt for dat bae to pass a nite wit op again until she gets solution to her problm. If I was in d op's shoes this is what I will do, go to her place since her fam is aware of our union then talk to her try and win her over to pass a night in my place and when she does, I will purposely bed wet. Why am I bed wettin? To give confidence in herself. To show her anyybody can bed wet and it's not the end of the world. Now we are all bed wetters and we would plan on gettin solutions to our prblms. Now it's not her prblm but our prblm. We now work to get a solution. With this I am able to drive away that tension in her dat fear, that low self-estem. And shame from her. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 4:58pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
mimimile93:So I guess you didn't see the package or your decided to ignore? Was surprised at the courier. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by vincentjk(m): 5:32pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
mejai: You just made me laff although this is not a laffing matter at all Op i advice you send her few whatsapp voice notes telling her how sorry you're emotionally so she'd call you or take your calls at least, then you can both look for a solution to her problem. There's nothing spiritual here, just go to the hospital together but that doesn't mean you shouldn't put things in prayer We look forward to seeing your testimony here again bro |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Sammy555(m): 5:48pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
austyn0:pls what did u do to stop the frequent urination because I currently experience that although it has reduced but I'm still not comfortable |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by mimimile93: 6:14pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:package? Where? From who? |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Mtm5313: 6:15pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
at op u can pm me I can send u an Islamic medicine(if u don't mine) which is 100% natural and u will do it yourself. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Mtm5313: 6:18pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
Mtm5313:or you can type islamic/ prophetic medicine for adult bedwetting to google |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by agboghai: 6:25pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
I know how you feel bro. If truly you love this lady and you want a future together, then you have to be supportive. Kindly take her to a good hospital to see a consultant gynaecologist or a urologist for proper examination and treatment. The issue can be resolved medically. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by dingbang(m): 6:25pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
She must be a nairalander.. Nonsense |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
mimimile93:Never mind. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by mimimile93: 6:51pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:if u were a nigga I wud say u were rollin up a blunt wen quotin me. But yet naija women are hell of a smoker lately |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by austyn0(m): 7:35pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
Sammy555:I'm not really sure what I did but I dis these things.... Reduce your intake of sugar or do not take sugar for like 2weeks or one month,, eat vegetables more...There is also an excercise that helps strengthen the urinary bladder[Google it up].. If you drink water too much,, your constant urinating is not a problem but I urinate less frequently now after I ran very far away from sugar,, as fast as my legs can carry me ![]() |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by victorian(f): 7:54pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
It's a spiritual attack, as it started 3years ago. It's good she realised and she's going to church program and prayers Then from your part. Op. Apologize to her for getting angry at her, I know it's not easy but sincerely she's trying to source for solution. Seat her down, talk to her to be aware of her body when asleep at night. Place alarm close to the bed, to wake u and her up, I think every two hours. She must wake up to go and pee in the loo. If she's doing this consistently, her subconsciousness will get used to it and start waking up at intervals to go pee. And tell her anytime she dreams that she's in the bathroom about to pee, she should know it's a lie and she's actually sleeping on a bed. So she should stop and wake up. That's how I prevented myself from bed-wetting. It almost happened to me! When bed-wetting wanted to start on me, I was in dream and about to pee in a lovely toilet, so I was like lemme pee. Then something just woke me up as I was about to pee out the urine. Lol. I was like what! ![]() Ewo! Am on bed o! Jeez! I stood up quickly to go pee. After that night, I started taking note of my body when am sleeping. I will say am lightly awake when am sleeping lol. I do wake up 5times from midnight to morning when sleeping to go and pee. Am used to it. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 8:49pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
mimimile93:You want me to be blunt? Lucky I don't roll like that. Cheers. Deal with your demons |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Chibake(f): 8:51pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
She needs prayers that's all,any other tradition doesn't work. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Sammy555(m): 8:58pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
austyn0:thanks very much 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by mimimile93: 9:03pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: Women are my demons.. Ain't tried of dealing with "em |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by enambobo(m): 11:36pm On Jun 28, 2018 |
it's psychological. it's her subconscious mind giving her the wrong code that she's actually peeing in a toilet or by the road side. she has to train her mind, eat less sugary diet and exercise frequently. it doesn't mater whether or not she eats late. Exercise is food for the brain. it will help her have better control of her system and likewise strengthen the bladder muscles just in case she has a weak bladder. I bet you she can fight this. You made a mistake scolding her though. She's already hard on herself. No need adding to her insecure state. She's taking the right step by engaging in prayer. She has to back it up by works. As it's commonly said, Heaven help those who help themselves. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Nobody: 5:47am On Jun 29, 2018 |
mimimile93:U don't fool me. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by headz(m): 7:33am On Jun 29, 2018 |
u sparked cuz you felt she knows what to do to avoid it but she didn't? First of its not easy as you think like that, dose measures are just preventive. Now u go blame her if u see am dey drink water sef. |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by kollyjoss(m): 9:37am On Jun 29, 2018 |
dejialam:Its really work, it good to have those grandma.... OP take note of this 100% sure |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Kendumazy(m): 1:54am On Jul 14, 2018 |
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Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by boyjo: 8:11am On Jul 14, 2018 |
austyn0: Awww...I love you ![]() famziano this would work and make her laugh. Wow! For a moment I wasn't sure this was Romance section. Mature responses everywhere on this thread. Schools must be writing exams! |
Re: My Fiancée Bedwet, Now She's Avoiding me by Gaspardd(m): 9:57am On Jul 14, 2018 |
boyjo: Are u gay? |
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