Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

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Whatever makes you happy

But trust me
These will change

However
Enjoy how you feel

its normal bro, having the same issue.

Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints.

Eternal bachelorhood is becoming more popular in developed societies, not sure how you will fare in Nigeria though where it's a culture to make someone's private business everybody else's business.

Eventually you will get fed up with the side talk, back talk, spiritual talk, and just marry to silence it all.

You normal bro.

Marriage is only a social construct. Love is series of chemical reactions in the brain that compels human to breed. Marriage is just the platform that enables both love and breeding seem moral or legal, Man made this up! No consequences if you breed or love outside of marriage, it's only a personal choice. The only down side of it is you would need somebody to keep you company when you aging. Loneliness causes depression and at that point money would seem irrelevant so, what's the point of having lots of money if one lives a miserable life of solitude? This results to suicide sometimes.

I, typing this is guilty of being introvert and solitude but the internet is my play ground. Trust me, I'm worst because I shut down my Facebook page so nobody I know reaches out to me. Back to your decision.

It's not a bad thing after all, I think the same as you sometimes as well and other times I think otherwise. Reason being, Kids gives people new meaning to live for especially when you married.

Dyt:
Whatever makes you happy

But trust me
These will change


However
Enjoy how you feel

Why do you say so? Curious




@Op
Do what makes you happy especially in regards to the kids. Please don't have any kids until you absolutely want them, and if you don't, that's OK too.
It's completely normal.

Daeylar:


Why do you say so? Curious

Because we all human after all


Are there not so many things you told yourself wouldn't do but somehow had your way?

Maybe just in my thoughts sha
But whatever it Is
Be happy

Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck

I see a man DT will die of loneliness in old age, u might die and decay in your bed n nobody will know.

You can't afford not to have a wife at old age bc loneliness will kill u. Even those men whose wife is dead or divorced remarry sharply to avert this time bomb DT lies ahead

Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck

I don't believe that, then it means the world is equally evened if everyone is matched spiritually. Nah

pcguru1:

I don't believe that, then it means the world is equally evened if everyone is matched spiritually. Nah

I dont want to be religious, but God realised Adam needs Eve cos he figured he will be lonely, so i believe once a male is born a female is born or out there for him and vice versa

Biglittlelois:



I dont want to be religious, but God realised Adam needs Eve cos he figured he will be lonely, so i believe once a male is born a female is born or out there for him and vice versa

Well to be truthful, humans would be lonely during my 20(s) I could do without human interaction but my 30(s) I don't think it would be easy, however OP issue seems to be financial implication.

Biglittlelois:



I dont want to be religious, but God realised Adam needs Eve cos he figured he will be lonely, so i believe once a male is born a female is born or out there for him and vice versa

You really believe this?

crackhaus:
You really believe this?

I do

Op you need CHANGE.just try and have one kid; born or adopted (if you can afford) and see how your world will be transformed.

Biglittlelois:


I do

Okay then.

Dyt:


Because we all human after all


Are there not so many things you told yourself wouldn't do but somehow had your way?

Lol. All right then, thought you had specific reasons for saying he would change his mind, especially since you told him to trust you on that

Maybe just in my thoughts sha
But whatever it Is
Be happy

Most important

divinelove:
I see a man DT will die of loneliness in old age, u might die and decay in your bed n nobody will know

I don't get lonely, I am a social introvert meaning that I prefer keeping to myself but I still go out to socialize with friends.
And if I die alone and nobody finds me, I don't care no matter how my body decays because I would be dead and I would not feel a thing.

It is normal. But Nigerians will roast you, your parents especially.

OP

You are normal Bro. Relationships are stressful and draining and it's normal not to want something that tasking.

Very normal

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marvelli:
Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints.

ok

Ok

You are afraid of responsibility. Man up.. live ur life.. Get a good lady. Start a home with her n have lovely kids....I'm sure if you see 100M.. You'll change the story. God's plan