delugajackson:
It is now official. Some Women are the most confused set of people on earth.

Ytea:
Haunty if you don't want to get married, don't. Face your empty list. Don't try to check other girls' list. Carry yourself and go, leave us alone.

LivingFree:
This confusing! It's like me stuffing my face with cake while telling you it can lead to diabetes

Bitch_ we know, now pass me a slice, I will eat it moderately

pocohantas:


I had to read her post again, I think the questionnaire listed some benefits. She replied she doesn't PARTICULARLY advocate for marriage based on the listed things. We need to know what that lady listed for a start.

Looking at it logically, do you think if women [African women] were very independent, they would be jumping into marriage the way they do? I really do not think so. For a lot of them, it is a poverty alleviation programme. Even the men know this, one reason some want a woman they are richer than. If she doesn't submit to him, she must submit to his money or back to her father's mud house

It is actually funny she is married, going by her closing statement.

LivingFree:


Sis, this is all shades of confusion for me... What is her point? is she gloating that her marriage is better than other marriages? If so why not advocate for whatever she has going on at home? I understand that marriage no longer feeds whatever needs it was feeding in the past (poverty alleviation) but it still offers a certified partner through life! It gets lonely when the lights go out and everyone closes shop, she's arguing that we could get this without marriage but she fails to recognize the importance of the covenant made at the alter. And the payback when that promise is broken (I joke but not really)

pocohantas:


She doesn't want to be called an angry feminist

Babe, even the certified partner through life isn't guaranteed no more. Payback in Nigeria? Thinking of it now, I wanna believe that's one of her grievance.

LivingFree:


Aha! We've cracked her code! lol! In that case marriage in "Nigeria" ain't worth it

Who needs guarantees in life? shi, the oxygen we breathe ain't guaranteed but we breathe anyway

Marriage is a beautiful ideal with the right person... I just wish our generation wasn't filled with needy people. Think about it most of the broken marriages are due to some need that wasn't met! The sick irony is that no one can meet our needs but us! But we hold other's responsible for our needs. When marriage was a poverty alleviating scheme, men married many women but now a days a man can't find 1 to marry? why? Poverty is an easier need to manage in comparison to 'Making her happy' you can't throw money at happiness.

pocohantas:


She doesn't want to be called an angry feminist

Babe, even the certified partner through life isn't guaranteed no more. Payback in Nigeria? Thinking of it now, I wanna believe that's one of her grievance.

LivingFree:


Aha! We've cracked her code! lol! In that case marriage in "Nigeria" ain't worth it

Who needs guarantees in life? shi, the oxygen we breathe ain't guaranteed but we breathe anyway

Marriage is a beautiful ideal with the right person... I just wish our generation wasn't filled with needy people. Think about it most of the broken marriages are due to some need that wasn't met! The sick irony is that no one can meet our needs but us! But we hold other's responsible for our needs. When marriage was a poverty alleviating scheme, men married many women but now a days a man can't find 1 to marry? why? Poverty is an easier need to manage in comparison to 'Making her happy' you can't throw money at happiness.

pocohantas:


I had to read her post again, I think the questionnaire listed some benefits. She replied she doesn't PARTICULARLY advocate for marriage based on the listed things[i.e its benefits transcends the listed]. We need to know what that lady listed for a start.

Looking at it logically, do you think if women [African/NIGERIAN women] were very independent, they would be jumping into marriage the way they do? I really do not think so. For a lot of them, it is a poverty alleviation programme. Even the men know this, one reason some want a woman they are richer than. If she doesn't submit to him, she must submit to his money or back to her father's mud house

It is actually funny she is married, going by her closing statement.

Famousqueen:
she just said my mind, the only thing i want in life, is mental peace, happiness, and enjoy my life without anyone restricting me why get married when i will be subjected to [b]pains, commitments, emotional trauma, e.t.[/b]c

donstan18:
The lady that asked that question is an evening newspaper looking for a way to console herself.

-No matter how a Nigerian lady claim not to want to be called a wife on social media, she'll still log out and face reality.

-Comments and posts like this are often made by married women who are benefiting from marriage. But the dump and single ones will be quick to embrace it.

-It's funny how a married woman made such statements, but if she's to be asked to lead by example by leaving her marriage to get the same benefit as a single lady, she won't do it.

-If marriage is to be abolished in Nigeria, Nigerian ladies will die of hunger and poverty because an average Nigerian lady is poor, looking for a man to depend on which is their major reason for marriage(To alleviate from poverty)

Funny thing is; That lady might be holding fried chicken or turkey with chilled wine, wearing sexy dress and crossing her legs in her husband's parlor enjoying, while the foolish and single frustrated ones be consoling their lonely and unmarried state with her posts.