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Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria. After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on. At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife. Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end. What is your take on this? What do you think? 116 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Viserion: 6:49pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
are you really human, *modified* ftc ...I dedicate this to all true hustlers out there may God pick our cals.. meanwhile check my signature 73 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Dyt(f): 6:58pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
Whatever makes you happy But trust me These will change However Enjoy how you feel 174 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 7:00pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
its normal bro, having the same issue. 70 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by marvelli(f): 7:10pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints. 391 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by crackhaus: 7:55pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
Eternal bachelorhood is becoming more popular in developed societies, not sure how you will fare in Nigeria though where it's a culture to make someone's private business everybody else's business. Eventually you will get fed up with the side talk, back talk, spiritual talk, and just marry to silence it all. 149 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jul 03, 2018 |
You normal bro. Marriage is only a social construct. Love is series of chemical reactions in the brain that compels human to breed. Marriage is just the platform that enables both love and breeding seem moral or legal, Man made this up! No consequences if you breed or love outside of marriage, it's only a personal choice. The only down side of it is you would need somebody to keep you company when you aging. Loneliness causes depression and at that point money would seem irrelevant so, what's the point of having lots of money if one lives a miserable life of solitude? This results to suicide sometimes. I, typing this is guilty of being introvert and solitude but the internet is my play ground. Trust me, I'm worst because I shut down my Facebook page so nobody I know reaches out to me. Back to your decision. It's not a bad thing after all, I think the same as you sometimes as well and other times I think otherwise. Reason being, Kids gives people new meaning to live for especially when you married. 152 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Daeylar(f): 2:36pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Dyt: Why do you say so? Curious @Op Do what makes you happy especially in regards to the kids. Please don't have any kids until you absolutely want them, and if you don't, that's OK too. It's completely normal. 16 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Dyt(f): 3:57pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Daeylar: Because we all human after all Are there not so many things you told yourself wouldn't do but somehow had your way? Maybe just in my thoughts sha But whatever it Is Be happy 8 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Biglittlelois(f): 3:58pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck 40 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by divinelove(m): 4:06pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
I see a man DT will die of loneliness in old age, u might die and decay in your bed n nobody will know. You can't afford not to have a wife at old age bc loneliness will kill u. Even those men whose wife is dead or divorced remarry sharply to avert this time bomb DT lies ahead 67 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 5:43pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Biglittlelois:I don't believe that, then it means the world is equally evened if everyone is matched spiritually. Nah 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Biglittlelois(f): 5:49pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
pcguru1: I dont want to be religious, but God realised Adam needs Eve cos he figured he will be lonely, so i believe once a male is born a female is born or out there for him and vice versa 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 5:53pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Biglittlelois: Well to be truthful, humans would be lonely during my 20(s) I could do without human interaction but my 30(s) I don't think it would be easy, however OP issue seems to be financial implication. 9 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by crackhaus: 6:09pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Biglittlelois:You really believe this? 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:11pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
crackhaus: I do 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by ladygudhead(f): 6:16pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Op you need CHANGE.just try and have one kid; born or adopted (if you can afford) and see how your world will be transformed. 6 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by crackhaus: 6:22pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Biglittlelois:Okay then. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Daeylar(f): 9:08pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Dyt: Lol. All right then, thought you had specific reasons for saying he would change his mind, especially since you told him to trust you on that
Most important 6 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 11:04pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
divinelove:I don't get lonely, I am a social introvert meaning that I prefer keeping to myself but I still go out to socialize with friends. And if I die alone and nobody finds me, I don't care no matter how my body decays because I would be dead and I would not feel a thing. 96 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 11:12pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
It is normal. But Nigerians will roast you, your parents especially. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by elpj: 11:12pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
OP 28 Likes
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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by tensazangetsu20(m): 11:12pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
You are normal Bro. Relationships are stressful and draining and it's normal not to want something that tasking. 37 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by DonPikko: 11:12pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Very normal 8 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by marttol: 11:12pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
SNOOPDOG BABA AJA Anyways, make una laff small 1.Girls of today will Never apologize when they're wrong,they just sleep naked by your side.My brother you will end up apologizing. 2.Any Girl reading this...by the end of this year, you will get pregnant...if you insult me..it will be twins. 3.*A guy posted a status:My dick is my life. His ex commented: Your life is too short* 4.Why do visitors always pretend to be focused on TV or WhatsApp when you are bringing food 5.Tramadol can make u stare at your father for 30mins and be like "Have we met before? " 6... *HOW TO STEAL A CHICKEN* 1. Survey the area for about 1 week. 2. On the day of operation, wear an oversized shirt. 3. Be at the place between 11am to 2:30pm. At this time of the day, the owners will be gone to work or be indoor. The chicken will be playing outside happily. 4. Walk at the edge of the street and let the chicken walk freely at the centre, [its more easy if you are in the village] 5. This is where you make the grand move. 6. Dive like a goalkeeper and grab the chicken by the head. Quickly fold the head into the feathers and put it inside your oversized shirt. 7. Move on as if nothing happened. No looking back. *THANK-ME- LATER.* How to steal a cow is next 7.The most respected pple in a wedding ceremony is those sharing food.... i can greet them 5 times 8.Stop pronouncing God as Guard! that's the reason why your prayers don't get answered, they go straight to security companies. If you laff... Oya like my post, if you say I'm stupid, like my post too... 214 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by gurunlocker: 11:13pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
It's simple.... You are a stingy and selfish man! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by TwentyOnePilots(m): 11:14pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Jamb Question! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by soberdrunk(m): 11:15pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Oh my!! What a pity!! These sisters of the marine kingdom can be very wicked sha!!! See how they have taken this young man and locked him inside "TRANSPARENT GROUNDNUT BOTTLE" and even put cushion inside so that the young man will be extremely comfortable inside......... 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 11:15pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
marvelli:ok |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Oluwamuyeewa(m): 11:16pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Ok 5 Likes
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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by damiz(m): 11:16pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
You are afraid of responsibility. Man up.. live ur life.. Get a good lady. Start a home with her n have lovely kids....I'm sure if you see 100M.. You'll change the story. God's plan 22 Likes |
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