mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Lexusgs430:



You are simply going through a phase....... That phase would pass..... When it does, post an update.....

Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck

Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck

milemimi93:


It is very normal not to marry or have kids. A lot of men are in this boat. I am in the same boat too.

Marriage is an institution programed to favor women.
Kids too are just a bunch of unecessary responsibilities.

I see people have more than two kids and am like wtf is this?

80% of the kids won't even know u when the grow up to become something in life.

That's when their ediotic wivies and girlfriends will tell them their dad is a wizard flee from him..

I came to the world to make a name and not to make kids

blackaxe78:


Bro, when you 60years old, come back here and give a testimony

HardMirror:
i am an atheist, anti establishment, dont give a fvck abt marriage, dont see the big deal in death or even dying young. Not on facebook, instagram or what else is out there (on twitter because of my biz). I just dont give a fvck where and when people expect me to.[/b]Life shld not be defined if you are willing to live with the consequences of your choices. Sincere people dare not to blend in. Blending in is an art of deceit. Be happy, be responsible for yourself

chronique:


true. as at last year,i was making up my mind to do the baby mama thing,have a child and forget about marriage but right now,i waant none of that. i actually want the real deal. sometimes our frustration in getting certain things,makes us take rash stupid decisions. when the mind is settled,we begin to think like human beings.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

divinelove:
I see a man DT will die of loneliness in old age, u might die and decay in your bed n nobody will know

Daeylar:


Why do you say so? Curious




@Op
Do what makes you happy especially in regards to the kids. Please don't have any kids until you absolutely want them, and if you don't, that's OK too.
It's completely normal.

TEYA:

You are young now and strong. You are surrounded by friends. You have the strength to carry out every task you like. But one day, you will be old and feeble and alone. You will watch your married friends play with their grand kids and travel from time to time to visit their children and grand children while you will be stuck to your dogs. You will wish to change things but it will be too late. It is no too late to make the right choice now. There is a love that dogs cannot offer.

Lexusgs430:


Indeed...... Marriage is good, only if both of you are right for each other......

Lexusgs430:


Indeed...... Marriage is good, only if both of you are right for each other......

franchasng:
I know a lot of guys doing well financially who don't desire to marry but having kids, they so wish they could have their own kids right away, but hearing your own case; u don't want to get married and u don't want to have kids, ah that's not okay.

Bro kids are so lovely; whenever I see cute 2 - 5yr old kids I just wish to have one , so I am shocked u don't feel same.

But then reading through your post, I noticed that why u feel this way is due to financial handicap. Trust me, once u start earning good steady income, your mindset will change especially about having kids.

As for getting married, many guys of today are loosing interest in getting married sha, God will help us.

But bros money no be all o, loneliness can kill....I am not rich but by Gods grace I am doing okay but I live alone in a somewhat spacious apartment, I have basic things of life every young man dream of but guess what Loneliness wan finish me, kai....all siblings are on their own, no relative to visit or stay with me, most true close friends are either out of the country, married or far away.

Sometimes I sit at my sitting room without putting on any electronics as I keep wondering what life is all about.

I pray God continue to hold me so I don't lose my sanity one day due to loneliness.

Morning - 5pm is usually sweet for me, but once I set my foot into my apartment, everywhere is dry empty, no noise, nobody to talk to, nobody to welcome u, jeez...its scary. If its this scary at my young age, imagine if I was old and approaching say 70yrs and this lonely, mhen no matter how rich u are, u may commit suicide.

So my brother op, think again o....giving birth is very vital and getting married is also good for company and friendship and having steady person to talk to when bored.

Mhen life is vanity; some have money but no friends or company, some have good company but no money while some lack both....and some are sick but have plenty money, others are healthy but so poor, sighs

If not for internet and social media platforms and forums like this eh, we would have been hearing of so many suicide stories for no justifiable reason but loneliness

milemimi93:


It is very normal not to marry or have kids. A lot of men are in this boat. I am in the same boat too.

Marriage is an institution programed to favor women.
Kids too are just a bunch of unecessary responsibilities.

I see people have more than two kids and am like wtf is this?

80% of the kids won't even know u when the grow up to become something in life.

That's when their ediotic wivies and girlfriends will tell them their dad is a wizard flee from him..

I came to the world to make a name and not to make kids

franchasng:
I know a lot of guys doing well financially who don't desire to marry but having kids, they so wish they could have their own kids right away, but hearing your own case; u don't want to get married and u don't want to have kids, ah that's not okay.

Bro kids are so lovely; whenever I see cute 2 - 5yr old kids I just wish to have one , so I am shocked u don't feel same.

But then reading through your post, I noticed that why u feel this way is due to financial handicap. Trust me, once u start earning good steady income, your mindset will change especially about having kids.

As for getting married, many guys of today are loosing interest in getting married sha, God will help us.

But bros money no be all o, loneliness can kill....I am not rich but by Gods grace I am doing okay but I live alone in a somewhat spacious apartment, I have basic things of life every young man dream of but guess what Loneliness wan finish me, kai....all siblings are on their own, no relative to visit or stay with me, most true close friends are either out of the country, married or far away.

Sometimes I sit at my sitting room without putting on any electronics as I keep wondering what life is all about.

I pray God continue to hold me so I don't lose my sanity one day due to loneliness.

Morning - 5pm is usually sweet for me, but once I set my foot into my apartment, everywhere is dry empty, no noise, nobody to talk to, nobody to welcome u, jeez...its scary. If its this scary at my young age, imagine if I was old and approaching say 70yrs and this lonely, mhen no matter how rich u are, u may commit suicide.

So my brother op, think again o....giving birth is very vital and getting married is also good for company and friendship and having steady person to talk to when bored.

Mhen life is vanity; some have money but no friends or company, some have good company but no money while some lack both....and some are sick but have plenty money, others are healthy but so poor, sighs

If not for internet and social media platforms and forums like this eh, we would have been hearing of so many suicide stories for no justifiable reason but loneliness

tensazangetsu20:
You are normal Bro. Relationships are stressful and draining and it's normal not to want something that tasking.

Windflower:
All you need is a good woman and financial security

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

divinelove:
I see a man DT will die of loneliness in old age, u might die and decay in your bed n nobody will know

IgboBasthard:


Absolute rubbish. These are your own sentiments and personal desires. OP go and live your life and don't mind the Nigerian idiots.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?