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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Keneeby(m): 11:56pm On Jul 04, 2018 |
Daeylar: Money answers all things. No money no love. Plenty money abundant love. Any relationship without money is a death relationship. Let your hubby lack money that is when you will know you never love him. 5 Likes |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by mercy232(f): 12:02am On Jul 05, 2018 |
well, it's easy to judge the lady in question... prolly because you are single... but yes, she said the truth... when you get in, u will understand better... ppl in wanna pull out, while those out wanna get in.. lol.. but ask me again, it truly doesn't worth it.. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by tartarus(m): 12:04am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Biglittlelois: Exactly. Thank you ![]() 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by mercy232(f): 12:09am On Jul 05, 2018 |
lots of marriages are going through hell.. but our society will never allow anyone to speak up or even walk away... when you get in, you will understand better... but yes, you have d right to your own experience as well... but truthfully, it doesn't worth it.. 4 Likes |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by victorian(f): 12:38am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Marriage is beautiful, when both partners are kind, selfless, considerate and understanding about themselves and life. If you run away from responsibility or scared of financial responsibilities even to yourself then marriage is not for u. Then if u are a wicked being or selfish being or too crafty, just Stay single and enjoy your life till old age. Am not scared of responsibilities I take it head on and I don't see marriage as poverty alleviation either. Cos anyone who wants to stay and die single, be my guest. Lol. Na your life. Arrange it as u see it fit. Simple. Life is just simple! 2 Likes |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by tbliss22(m): 12:47am On Jul 05, 2018 |
What the hell is wrong with our ladies ![]() Could literacy had affected a lot in the way they reason?? For crying out loud someone's experience in marriage can't be compared with another, of course they both had separate background. Marriage remains the best and glorious institution to be in and if u've got a bitter upbringing either by parent or guardian then you are in big mess. Guys watch out the same woman used to lure us to eat the forbidden fruit which puts the man into a big mess in beginning of the world is about to be used to truncate the foundation of marriage set-up by God. Be wise!! Finally, let's see in the next 30 years how those who feels they've got everything already and feels marriage is not necessary. They will gnash their teeth at such decision. Our maker is not a FOOL!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by tbliss22(m): 12:50am On Jul 05, 2018 |
victorian: God bless you ma'am, may your oil of wisdom never run dry!!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by lascopes(m): 12:55am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Famousqueen: Mental instability everywhere...swear say you no get bf or person wey dey sample or grease your kitten. Better think am again onye ara 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by lascopes(m): 12:58am On Jul 05, 2018 |
donstan18: Some stupid and senseless entities will just sit there now and start saying she's right...tanker fall on any woman with such thought 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by InvertedHammer: 1:23am On Jul 05, 2018 |
troubleseller: Na to carry garri be your problem? Lol. All those serving times in prison all over the world, when will they bring bags of garri for their parents? Do you think Boko Haram Shekau is bringing garri in for the mother? Yet the old mother is surviving. There are no guarantees that children will take care of their parents. / 2 Likes |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by iRepNaija1: 1:27am On Jul 05, 2018 |
delugajackson: Lol. You should stay as far away from marriage as you can, if the you think a woman forcing a human from a va-jay jay is so trivial. Virtually everything, abi? If we're going by traditional roles, what about the cooking? What about the childbearing? Who's the one raising the kids? Who's the one doing their laundry, ironing their clothes, getting them dressed for school? Who is the one cleaning the house and decorating it? Abeg, you need to stop trivializing the role of the traditional housewife. If you were so focused on what the breadwinner does, you would notice that familial contributions go well beyond finances. NL has made you angry and bitter. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by BalogunIdowu(m): 1:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
And become nuisance in the community or lesbians... beautiful lady with beautiful nonsense 2 Likes |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by boringnigerian: 1:57am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ah, Nigerians. Never getting context before jumping to outrage! Number one, the lady said her mind. If you agree, is in ya pockate. If you don't, knack ya head on the grand! I agree with her, more or less - marriage in Nigeria is not exactly skewed in favour of women. Not that men only gets benefits either but in the event of a marriage failing, the lady is more likely to walk away more scarred than the man, having been labelled a bad wife by a society that's never looks for a balanced view. Also (though thank goodness this is changing), marriage in Nigeria has been set up in a way to keep a woman dependent on her husband. If the marriage falls apart, the man walks away with his money, his property and all - the kids too, if he is interested. On the other hand, the woman gets nothing or worse, she might be left with nothing, kids to take care of and societal stigma. It's much easier for Nigerian men to remarry too than Nigerian ladies. I feel marriages in Nigeria will get stronger when both parties approach it as equal partners - no heads, no tails; just equals. Equal financial contribution, equal emotional support, equal say in family decisions. People like to list their mothers as examples of how the current system works, forgetting that - 1) It's probably not the system, it's just that your father is a good man too and treats his wife as an equal partner 2) When things aren't going okay, what mother calls her kids and tells them what their father has done. Most times they just swallow it and put up a façade for the kids and you guys come out oblivious to the facts till either the cracks begin to show or the man dies. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by ajl: 2:26am On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas: Most Nigerian women get married because of one of the following set of reasons: -Economic -Social or cultural -Economic and Social Few get married for the sole purpose of a marriage. When you start listing the benefits of marriage even before getting married then you already established your main motive for wanting to get married and looking for an individual that could guarantee those benefits. If you are at peace with your choice, then go ahead. But you will soon realize than life scripts are not inscribed on stones. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Ishilove: 3:02am On Jul 05, 2018 |
All manner of junk makes it to the front page. Honestly I need to get off Nairaland |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Dami12345: 4:07am On Jul 05, 2018 |
MariaLavina: Lol, but look at the evidence around you, a married woman has a safety net while an unmarried woman has nothing, she has to face the realities of life if she's on Nigeria, how ever in the US and other feminist nations she has the run of the town. But women are werid so what do I know. It funny to see a married lady who has no intention of getting divorced telling others not to get marriage. Remind me of a story I about someone telling people to follow a different road ( which he claims ) is safe while he's taking the one he claims is deadly. So the point is so marriage is good enough for her but bad for every other lady ![]() Besides marriage for a us girl is use business. The man loses everything if he doesn't get a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement ( ironclad) 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by rOsy247(f): 5:33am On Jul 05, 2018 |
There's no benefit yet u are still married. What are u waiting for to sign divorce papers? Madam, you can't cheat nature jare. Take it or leave it there's a vacuum in every woman's life that a man must fill, no matter how successful you are. Face reality. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by octavian(m): 5:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
SheikhMuniru: Please read through every word you typed slowly and slowly, then ask yourself one question “does this make sense”... |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Rejoice5000(f): 5:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Marry ur friend ad be in heaven on earth.am married ad marriage is sweet.don't confuse the single ladies pls.plenty benefit tanda for married woman. 2 Likes |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:49am On Jul 05, 2018 |
MariaLavina: @bolded. No. Rather, it makes you look beyond financial standing in the choice of a partner. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by octavian(m): 5:53am On Jul 05, 2018 |
dasparrow: Before you sum up your conclusion, what site conducted the poll for your assumptions? Mind you, not all Nigerian husbands cheat on their wives, get your facts right. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Lawkzy: 5:56am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ytea:You better do the needful early enough before your nemesis catches up with you later. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by tunary(m): 5:59am On Jul 05, 2018 |
delugajackson:No be today o e don tay them confuse |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:59am On Jul 05, 2018 |
LivingFree: A standing ovation! ![]() |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Idrismusty97(m): 5:59am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ladies should be careful who they receive advises from. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Papanwamaikpe: 6:02am On Jul 05, 2018 |
LivingFree:Am beginning to like you though. follow back |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by lexy2014: 6:13am On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas:Ozzy etomi is a married woman with a child. With her logic that there's no benefit in marriage, what is she still doing in her husbands house? 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by lexy2014: 6:18am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Famousqueen:d person that is giving u advice is married with a kid 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 6:20am On Jul 05, 2018 |
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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Acidosis(m): 6:20am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Wrong reasons to get married 1. You feel too guilty or ashamed to back out when plagued with doubt 2. You are willing to gamble on your future spouse changing or having potential. 3. Want to be free from parents. 4. To have sex. 5. To ease loneliness. 6. To be happy. 7. To show you are an adult. 8. Because of a pregnancy. 9. Just because he or she loves you. 10. To save, rescue or help someone. 11. Because you want a baby. 12. For money. 13. Because all your friends are married. 14. You've always wanted a fancy wedding. or to wear the fancy dress. 15. Out of fear that no one else will want to marry you. 16. You think you are running out of time to get married. 17. To have someone to "complete" you. 18. For immigration purposes. 19. You are tired of being single. 20. Someone is pressuring you into getting married. 21. You don't want people gossiping about the two of you living together. 22. To get health or insurance benefits from the spouse's employer. Right reasons to get married 1. You are in love with one another. 2. A desire to share your life with another. 3. To have a lifetime companion. 4. You both have realistic expectations and shared goals. 5. You would feel comfortable doing premarital counseling to make certain this is the right choice. 6. You want to feel connected with a person you love and to grow with that person emotionally. 7. Willingness to be there for one another while you each fulfill your own needs and dreams. 8. You both do not have blinders on and have spent enough time together to know it's the right choice. https://www.thespruce.com/right-wrong-reasons-to-get-married-2300598 ^^ Conclusion; if your reasons for getting married are in tandem with the right reasons above, you will never come online to post nonsense about marriage. Those who failed in marriage should be banned from speaking about that institution. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by troubleseller: 6:27am On Jul 05, 2018 |
InvertedHammer:Ok. Don't marry then
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