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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 8:49am On Jul 05, 2018 |
IgboBasthard:Thoughts of their children neglecting them took some people to their early grave, this is a man that gave everything to raise his child, only for the child to care about himself and his wife at his mid age. I sometimes wonder why some women can be this wicked, she ain't there when the parent where suffering just to see the child through. Seen an old man like that got sick and refuse to treat himself just to go to an early grave... They later found out that all the drug the Doctor prescribed for him to use was kept under the bed, he didn't use any. Its best OP choose what he likes rather than what he feels society wants from him. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Jeferious: 8:50am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Takeproft:I dey tells you. They would warn you about loneliness, they will tell you that your family name will die out if you don't marry. How do you expect a dead man to know that his name is still surviving from the grave? Lemme just state my observation: Some people are very needy, and they expect everyone to be like them. They would wonder if you're an alien if you tell them that you don't really value companionship. Some other people...they marry because others are marrying. Ask them how marriage benefits them and their purpose in life and see them staring you like goats. The only people I understand their view are the ladies...they are by default needy and sex-maniac, and marriage affords them the opportunity to satisfy these desires. It's better you tell a woman that you killed someone than you tell her you won't marry in your lifetime. It's as if you are teasing her with her only purpose and fulfillment in life. N.B: The last sentence does not apply to all ladies though. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 8:53am On Jul 05, 2018 |
divinelove:Some people are lonely when they are with someone and they feel more alive when they are alone. Wanting to be alone is different from being lonely, You can be alone and not lonely. I can tell you really that I felt lonely when I was in a relationship but felt not lonely when I was alone, marriage is not for everyone, what some people crave for is just a good companion they can always talk to every once in a while. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Iphran6: 8:56am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Very abnormal, your village people just won over you,what a pity |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by CAPSLOCKED: 8:59am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757: HAHAHAHA.. YOU RIGHT. IF THE NEIGHBORS LIKE LET THEM NOT DO THE NEEDFUL. NA THEM GO HEAR AM ![]() BTW IF YOU DON'T WANNA GET MARRIED DON'T LISTEN TO THESE GUYS. IT'S YOUR BUSINESS AND YOUR LIFE AND YOU CAN DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT WITH IT. IN THIS MODERN AGE MARRIAGE IS BENEFICIAL TO ONLY ONE SIDE AND WE ALL KNOW THIS, SO DON'T LET ANYTHING BOTHER YOU MAN, GET THOSE DOGS. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Jeferious: 9:03am On Jul 05, 2018 |
I stand with the op. Marriage is not for everybody. But even if this mentality changes and I finally get married....I would still want to lead a separate life from my wife's. I'd keep focus on my purpose and dreams, while she will keep sight on hers. If you want to understand what I mean, take a look at how Epifanio's family was portrayed in "Queen of the South". That is the way I want my family to be- a confederation. What people don't understand is that there are those who are moving trains: they don't stop for others, even their mates. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by gudugudumeje: 9:04am On Jul 05, 2018 |
U need 2pray ursef 2be delivered 4r satanism.Am not sounding religious; just lk wat grips Nig. Dont risk dying miserably if ur not marrying wl not be 2give humanitarian services. Lower ur taste of women,family n expenses. Cut down on ur own taste/lifestyle to family size of only 2children which wat u expend on 5dogs wl be fit 2cover...U r not 4r a zoo.Then y live wt dogs n not beautifu children. Help oda people's children 2shoot up ur psychology 2love n raise children n raise ur moda's joy n cut not short ur race. Pray ursef 2break ds curse of a feeling.U can love again... Ad workplaces can be springboards to make u love again... Pray |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Chikebranny123(m): 9:07am On Jul 05, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED: Do you know the dogs will feast on you once ur dead and they're hungry You sabi
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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by greatman247(m): 9:18am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Acidosis: So to you all marriages involve love? So who told you your so called wife can't ignore you in times of trouble? Even if you've married for several years that is not guaranty for love OK. Anyone can stay unmarried if they so want. People should be allowed to live however they want and no pressure must come from any quarters, it's their lives. But if anyone feels he or she wants to stay unmarried I will advice you need to be wealthy. And that way, you can employ maids, if you feel like having sex, get random girls and pay then off, protect yourself but if you must have kids, get baby mama probably enter into agreement with them and pay them off too and that way, you will have peace of mind. Mind you all of this can fail you so also marriage. Marriage is worst. Deciding to stay single and be happy and being married both have advantages and disadvantages but staying singles advantages still out weight the advantages of being married. Most married people are unhappy and may want to quit but they are probably looking at what people may say. Lol. An elaborated marriage ceremony is no guarantee for break ups, divorce, heartbreaks, cheating. But when you are unmarried, even when your random girls that you paid off cheat, you won't suffer any heartbreaks cos its mutual thing, you've placed her on pay as you come Bleep basis. But this is not the case in marriage, women are mostly terrible as they deceive. A married woman can get pregnant for someone else and claim you're the biological father mainly because you're richer than the real father. Do you know you can cherish, nurse, and train up the child for like 25 years and you will not know? Nobody can try this shit with you when you decides to stay unmarried. Some persons married because their partners are wealthy to get away from poverty and when divorce occurs they will share in your properties. That is bullshit, reaping from where you didn't sow. stuff like this don't happens when you're unmarried. Some women can pretend for years while courting and change to tigers soon as they get married, men do too and then show you the real person they are and you'll be wondering is this the same person I dated for long before i married him/her? In a pay as you go set up, when you notice the girl has drama, you can discharge her cos you've paid her off. She have no right to turn your friends and family against you, she has no right to play boss in your home. Once she bleeps up, she's gone. Some married women wait until they are married to start claiming feminist, they wait to claim boss and decide which of your family member they dislike and they will want you to choose certain friends and discard others including loyal once from your childhood. Most married women are unsecured, they go into the phones of they lovers anyhow, if marriage is good why are people cheating, why is the husband always beating the wife he vowed on the alter of God to love and protect in good health and bad states? Why is there divorce? Why would a married man or woman put password in his or her phone? This is because, they have hidden agenda in most cases. When you are unmarried you live a life of freedom, you can decide to password your phones or not. And no Radom girl can get jealous, if you notice she wants to start loving you or get jealous, discard her and get another girl. But to break up a marriage is never an easy process. Mind you, in USA, there's a lot of freedom. No one is all up in your business whatever you choose to do. Opera Winfrey decided not to marry, even though she was engaged but later decided to just have spiritual union with her partner and not marriage and she decided not to have kids and no one disturbs her. She's billionaire in US Dollars. Her reason was peace of kind and she knows she can't raise kids, she said she does not have attributes of mothers, hence she decided why giving birth to offsprings you know you can't raise? She has money, she was not talking about money to train the child. Right now she's donating to charity organizations and she has foundation too, but If its they will all be shouting she is into ritual. But over here, they will see you as an outcast if you dare speak your mind on those kind of issues. Nigeria is still a zoo though. Remmy Ma and husband, Papoose have been together for 10 years and decides not to have kids until now. She is pregnant now. If it was here na wahala ooo. In USA, you can decide not to have more than one kid and no one will disturb you. Bill Clinton has only child and still becomes USA President, here the story is different. People should have freedom to do whatever they like, until then our society is a zoo. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by LASUITES(m): 9:22am On Jul 05, 2018 |
milemimi93:THIS IS DEEP.... 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Dyt(f): 9:25am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Aplaudez: Hehehe I like aproko reason I comment on marriage threads ![]() ![]() ![]() You are right Marriage is a beautiful something when both are willing to make it work 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by lazeal: 9:38am On Jul 05, 2018 |
marvelli:spot on! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by poweredcom(m): 9:45am On Jul 05, 2018 |
just gove one gal belle...n of she has a nice attitude den give her anoda one den later marry her na d format be dat cos if u go marry olosho codedly put for house u go face hell cos many naija gals now r not trusted https://mobile.facebook.com/naijaolosho/
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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by mmsen: 10:01am On Jul 05, 2018 |
TEYA: What love are you talking about? The OP seems like a reasonable, compassionate soul - the complete opposite from the average careless, irrational Nigerian who thinks that having multiple poorly clothed, poorly fed and poorly educated children is somehow a sign of wealth. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Ugosample(m): 10:04am On Jul 05, 2018 |
divinelove: what makes you think he will be lonely in old age? Won't he have companions? won't he be busy doing other stuff? travelling the world? Well sha na African man mentality dey do una @op Marriage iS overrated if you change your mind later, good. but don't think you are missing anything because you are not married 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Ugosample(m): 10:14am On Jul 05, 2018 |
dasparrow: This is good advice @OP |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Ugosample(m): 10:28am On Jul 05, 2018 |
ustyne: that's a lie Most marriages are useless Good marriages exists, but it's not the norm |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Rubyventures: 10:29am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Rejoice5000: That is the prayer of most third world country parents, no one can see into the future and children are entitled to live their own lives. Don't jinx fate there are no guarantees in life. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Jamean(f): 10:42am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Biglittlelois: She will get married to someone else and be happy. There's no one perfect partner for anyone. In essence, there's no such thing as what you stated. Events of life is what leads you in the direction of who you end up with. But then, people are entitled to their beliefs. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by anigold(m): 10:44am On Jul 05, 2018 |
marvelli:chai sister savage ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by anigold(m): 10:45am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Living with 5 dogs.. be careful before efcc or sars arrest you.. that type of life style u want will be accepted in a country like USA or Sweden but not in Nigeria |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by kihi23(f): 10:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757:when u die, u will leave the money and the dog with NO ONE to bury u and continue ur legacy. Think wisely. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by nick50(m): 11:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ur village people at work |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by enomakos(m): 12:19pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
divinelove:you are damm right 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by eterisan(m): 12:24pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
thegentleman: thegentleman: most relationship in Nigeria are hold based on Religious ethics, how pathetic . smh at the bolded. Thought was only me. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by vivaciousvivi(f): 12:25pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
1. Employment status - Currently unemployed 2. Living Status - Most likely with parents still covering his rent 3. Age - Most likely in the early to mid twenties 4. Love life - Currently non existent 5. Daily Social Interactions - 2 dogs...yeah---dogs! OP, if I were you I wouldn't want to be in a hurry to get married either! ![]() Next! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Olufemiolaolu(m): 1:08pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Rubbiish(m): 1:32pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
ladygudhead:The bold is quite laughable...Haven't u seen parents killed by their children sir? |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by TEYA: 1:53pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
tintingz:And what fraction of them do? |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by TEYA: 1:55pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
mmsen:No one said he should give birth to "multiple poorly clothed" kids. He should also caster for them! |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Acidosis(m): 2:13pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
greatman247: I don't even know where to start. Well it's all about our belief systems. In my own world, babymama is not better than marriage, but that's my own view and I'm sticking to it. Sleeping with random girls and paying them off can never be right in my book. Yes, people have been staying unmarried for decades (we have reverend fathers and nuns), and most of them are fine like that because they're never lonely. In fact, many of them get paid for doing next to nothing, live on church funds, donations, etc but these ones have sworn to abstain from sex and any form of romance. Advising people to sleep around and pay for sex is very very immoral even in those countries you call advanced. They're not all morally bankrupt. Just so you know, there are more sex workers in Nigeria than most of these advanced countries and it is actually easier to get random sex in Nigeria. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
marylandcakes:Exactly, the world especially this stupid country is overpopulated, too much poverty, too many kids suffering, too many peasants giving birth to kids they can't take care of and look at how our economy is messed up, no employment, businesses hardly do well because everybody is broke. Look at how things have suddenly gone for men with families that they are now struggling with brokeness to feed their wife and kids. |
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