madone:
You better run back to ur wife. Leave that old nurse alone. She needs a man u need a child. I think both of u are blind folded with ur desires. Have u asked yourself after the child what next? You be married to two women? Or divorce ur wife. Dont do it guy. Go meet ur wife cos sheis young and nothing is wrong with u both. Dont help God perform the miracle

Dezer:
I need a wider reach and advice. Mod pls help move to the appropriate section.

edoman2016:

Is your wife also HIV positive?

donstan18:
that when you seems to be promiscuous man with your attitude of looking for a woman to take in for you without consulting your wife or divorcing legally?

Olalan:
OP if your story is true the old nurse is plainly a selfish, wayward and wicked woman to have proposed such to you..... To even think your wife would be regarding her as one big aunty who's interested in her getting a baby.

Dezer:

No. She's not.

Adasun:
how come?

donstan18:
Reason why I detest single divorced mothers. I avoid them to the last.
She's aware you have a wife, yet she made such offer.

Now, do we need to be told that her ex-husband divorced her because of her waywardness and cheating lifestyle.

Why will a responsible woman offer herself to get pregnant for you when she's aware you have a wife? From getting pregnant, she'll take the next step of pushing your wife away.

Dezer:


I got mine when I was 6 years through a blood transfusion.

Adasun:
and she didn't get her's through sex?

Or u think women get pregnant using rain water?

Adasun:
and she didn't get her's through sex?


Or u think women get pregnant using rain water?

dexcira:
how sure are u that if she becomes pregnant that it is yours? Afterall u and your wife are OK. Please leave that nurse, she has her own plans. U guys can adopt please discuss with your wife if u feel u can't wait any longer

Dezer:


Hello, you should have asked for explanations

If you are on HIV Medications regularly, the percentage of infected something becomes slim.

Adasun:
come again?

Dezer:

Fixed sir

Dezer:
Dear Nairaland, I had to create this new account to narrate my story as I am in a dilemma. I would be sincere with you guys as I want an honest advice

I am a guy of 27years of age. I and my wife have been married for the past 3 years without any issue. We have been to several teaching hospitals, tradomedical houses and other with no pregnancy yet. We've been told we are both okay but yet no solution in sight.

I myself have been infected with the HIV virus since I was 6 years through a blood transfusions. For over 20years now, I have been living with the HIV virus though I started my arv few years back. My HIV status was what prompted me to get married as I believe anything could happen and I need to father a kid since I have been living with the virus for over 20years.

In the process of getting a solution, we met a nurse who referred us to a teaching hospital, at the end of it, there's nothing than to keep trusting God.

The nurse who referred us to the teaching hospital is a single mom in her early 40s but Divorced with a girl of 15years. Myself and my wife finally got along with the nurse and we became like families. Anytime I am coming back from work, I would branch at her house to see her, give her some money and also play with her and the daughter.

To cut the story short, before she referred us to the teaching hospital, I told her how I have spent lots of money trying to find a solution to I and my wife problems and all the stress I have gone through.

I also asked her how she became a single mother which she explained to me that the father of her daughter became irresponsible, physical abuses and won't take care of her and the daughter and to make it worst, the man is married to another woman who just gave birth to a twins , so she herself isn't interested and they already divorced.

After few months of getting to know her and the daughter as she is now close to I and my wife. I told her I want to get a lady to bore a child for me though I love my wife and won't divorced her , it also doesn't stop me from loving my her and performing my responsibilities as a husband.

Two weeks later, The nurse called and told me she would like to bore a child for me. I was Surprised and I asked her why? She said she noticed all I have been doing to ensure my wife get pregnant but not yielding any result. She said she's 40 plus now and so would like to bore a child for me. I don't know whether to accept or decline the proposal. If I should accept I know I would have to be there for her and the daughter too. All I need is for me to have a child as I believe I my age and health get deteriorated as long as I live with the virus.


Please note that I am not leaving my wife or divorcing her.

If I should , what do you think I can do?

If no, what do you advise?

The age difference?

Family?

Thanks

TrumpedL:
Anybody that marries a divorced woman commits adultery with her.

Don't live in adultery in the name of marriage

Trust in God to give you your own child through your wife. Don't give up! God can even heal you completely of the hiv.
Just put your trust completely in him

Dezer:


Hello, you should have asked for explanations

If you are on HIV Medications regularly, the possibility of infecting someone else becomes slim.