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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sacramento1212: 10:58pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
OgaInnocent: You know people just jump into conclusion without critically analyzing the situation. No right thinking man will tolerate the nonsense the woman did. She’s initially at fault here. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by OgaInnocent(m): 10:58pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:So why did you register it with your name Pls answer this question |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Bigprick9inches: 10:59pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
this one na gmail girl |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Anextin(f): 11:00pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Amumaigwe:Did you read very at all. She has been asked to leave damn it. The only reaaon shes not in her parents home is Cos the property is not in the Man's name. No pastors would have housed her and kids if the man succeeded Everyone is taking about the property, this marriage is hanging already before the property issue came up. Your parents should be your first point of call not some pastors and Rev or whatever.if she 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by KraticKratus: 11:00pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
OP, what is wrong with you? So you get house, get kids and a foolish husband who is willing to leave you alone and you are here complaining. To slap you dey hungry me. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by luminouz(m): 11:00pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Graxie:NL women n their emotions....never fvvking logical at all!!! |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Ollawilliam: 11:01pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
This lady ain’t loyal... How much was your share? How much was his? How much did he give his parents? How much did you spend to complete the house ? Your husband was angry and threw the regular bomb that married men throw that you should pack your load and leave then he actually found out he has been living with a sinister. Madam, you need to reassess your self, the property should be in the names of you two in the first place, regardless of whose money. Any court of law will dissolve a marriage and share properties acquired while in marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 11:01pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
The reason why I hate Nigerian men, big ego, small brain. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dajoaneke(m): 11:02pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
LewsTherin:Best advice so far 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sexdoll: 11:02pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
all i can say is that that marriage is already over! once trust is gone, it's gone! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CASTOSVILLA(m): 11:04pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:Madam I don't know your full story but your own side of the story is quite faulty. "He used his own part of the money" that statement is so wrong for a married couple. You guys are not business partners, you guys are ONE body now not 2 separate bodies. The money, belongs to both of you and the children. Gushhh!!! are guys having trust issues or what as a couple husband and wife aren't supposed to be sharing spoils rather they build on it. You never mentioned where he build the supposed "his parent's" house. Is it in the village or in the city. If it's in the village then that house is not his parents house rather it's your family house in the village for Christmas celebrations and fortunately, his parents/ your second parents are enjoying from your goodwill. Then the almighty "Your own share". There's has never been a share for you or him, it's still all of your money. Whatever it's used for is own by both of you and the kids. All properties should be in Mr & Mrs. That house is not only yours simple. Saying that he doesn't want to agree to the terms of changing the name to Mr & Mrs as a reply to a comment shows that you never suggested it in reality. Please apologize to your husband because I think you've not done that properly, change that name to Mr & Mrs ASAP and delete this thread you used to get seek for cheap sympathy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ipobarethieves: 11:05pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
he just expose himself. Ab3g.dnt write/ change ur sweat property to his name. If u do it for love sake, u'll blame urself last last not ur village pipu.Once u change d document,he'll kick u out..Be wise 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Petroking: 11:05pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Poster I am a man. Don't let your husband play the emotional game with you. I don't know why people are always stinging .. humans are just greedy. Once you change the name to his. He will chase you out I assure you. HEseesall: 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by chris31(m): 11:06pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Kiss ur marriage good bye if u neglect ur parents & go to ur pastor Most marriage have crashed coz of my pastor say this & that Ur parents are in the best position to calm ur husband down coz its anger that is burning inside him Since its not a cheating case its not that a major case But my advice to u next time learn how to shape ur mouth anytime ur having misunderstanding with ur husband U women are fond of that don't be surprise that its coz of the things u said to him prompted him to act this way Again if u don't want to bring more problem to urself don't carry this issue go meet ur pastor 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 11:07pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
madridguy:dingbang come see better advice, not that thing you wrote there. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Pataricatering(f): 11:07pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Daeylar:you know all these fools think the sun shines out of their arses ! They don’t know times are changing ! 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Unclejona: 11:08pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
[quote author=Evacroft post=69374242]U guys did a joint business and shared profit ,then ur husband decided that all his own money will be put back to his parent thinking he will fall back on urs,did u guys discuss ur own share will be for both of u and did u both agree the money should be use for his parents? Your husband is selfish by using all his money which I doubt cos if the money was as much as using it to build a house then that is no small money and I doubt he gave everything to his parent except they were sick and he was treating them with d money,that aside. What is the stance of his parents on this? The highest compromise u can make is Mr a and Mrs b, let ur first name show also on d docs. Don't give him full access since he has already told u to pack out he will leave u cos he strongly believe u cheated him out. And I don't know why he went running to his parents as soon has u guys had issues. Don't go to any pastor or imam,they will compound ur problems,go to God in prayers to change his heart . If he remains adamant then leave him be. Cos I don't know why he will pack out and seek for a transfer because of this issue, except u wronged him badly earlier. Stand ur ground and goodluck. Pls, all u need to do right now is to present ur matter to God for his guidance and take note dat no matter the pressure from either ur husband or anyone, u won't make him sole owner of the property so far each party has contribution in it. If he truly love you and his family he won't demand for a transfer when loving once are dying to ve connection with their love ones. I believe something is wrong some where, Dont rush into making decisions, keep calm, remember not to succumb to his pressure or demand. if u should satisfy his wish den ur actions might comes back to hurts u and ur kids . I just signed a partnership deed dat was prevented by my wife this evening, all wat we owned together as legal evidence and she always be the first to invite lawyer to prepare necessary documents. When she started complaint about how I spend on cars she stop running the joint account with me and i don't see any thing wrong in dat. pls Don't allow love or emotion to override ur judgement o. Or else u will later pay dearly in future. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by goldenfrosh(m): 11:09pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
do not change the name if not you will regret it. somebody that is willing to throw u out. look well before you leap. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by MPESA(m): 11:10pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall: Sis please ,don't do it for Christ Sake it will definitely backfires on you and the kids will suffers it. This has nothing to do with Ego , he's just be callous, selfish and greedy. A man who doesn't care aftermath or side effect of his actions in his children life or future. This can be so doing of an IGBO man but notwithstanding if you give up on this said property he control and remote you as pleases him, many of our GRANDMOTHERS and MOTHERS has suffered and STILL suffering the same fate in the name of pleasing animals inhuman forms in the name of keeping a marriage. EGO KO OWO NI. P.S I am Igbo man from Okija in Ihiala L.G.A of Anambra State, all this UNNECESSARY INTRODUCTION is to clarify my above mention and to avoid tribals war here. SHALOM. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 11:10pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:you do well my sister. Don't change anything to his name, you people cannot be suffering all the time because of one useless ego (not refering to your husband in particular please). Just do everything you can to calm him, and keep apologizing and if you are into religion, then take it to the Lord in prayer. You've done no wrong. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 11:10pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
The husbands pack out of my house routine has justified the wife's actions. If the house was not in her name, or if the husband had built it, what would the situation be right now? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by tallceejay(m): 11:10pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Wrong marriage with faulty foundation. Whats all dis my money, his money in marriage? His share my share, ?? I dont get . If its a Christian marriage, u both r joined as one., but i see u both are attached to material things and so, cant find an amicable setrlement. Hes asking u out of d house, he is wicked. And you keeping property in your name, r u expecting dat smday u will keep all d proceeds of d property to urself alone?? What is more important to u? because right now u r bothered abt the children , meaning the children r important, but now d property is more important than the husband? When you Identify who or what is more important to you, you will decide right. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Oluwasinayomi(m): 11:11pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
LewsTherin: Cool advice sir/ma. I love the later part about the name to put on the document but please work on your children so they won't be influenced negatively by the so called husband. In addition, please pray through! Marriages receive deadly blows from different angles. I wish you victory! |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by NoToPile: 11:12pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
iamkeyz: This table you are shaking ehn You want a Nigerian man to live in a house built by a Nigerian woman in Nigeria and you are asking the opinion of Nigerian man on nairaland. Issorait 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by lifeisbeautiful: 11:15pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Most advices that people will give you will eventually lead you astray, lots of them are single and naive about marital affair. If they advice you on divorce who will marry you ? With 2 kids, I will never support violence in marriage and have it at the back of ur mind that no marriage is perfect and a peaceful home is built by a good wife. You are wrong to have kept the ownership of the house from your man, since you agree to spend the rest of ur life with a man,definitely all you owns belong's to both you. From your story the man is actually wrong but he's a really man to have stay away from the house you built because you have lots of confidence since you owns the house and I must confess to you that submission is the major issue that prompt or raise the anger initially, in Africa tradition allow a man to tell his wife to return back to her family in other to learn or seek marital advice from her parent that will make her more submissive. My candid advise,look for ur man beg him and both of you should make amendment for the sake of the kids that will suffer a broken home. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Pataricatering(f): 11:16pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
CASTOSVILLA:but you said nothing about the husband telling her to pack out ? Your advice is so biased and one sided ! She already said he did not want joint ownership - he wants to own the property solely but you are here saying she did not suggest it ! When she said clearly that she did and he refused ! Someone who listens to advice like yours will be a slave n her own home ! You did not say a word about a husband who was ready to throw his wife out simply because he thought the house was his ? I don’t know why some men think women are not human and therefore should be treated like animals ! I’m married and if my husband dares asks me to pack out I will burn that house down ! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 11:17pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:Don't you ever change the name of the property to his alone. Never. Mr & Mrs... will be better. Telling you this because men are very calculative. He will come around, after his right senses must have finished booting. Act like nothing happened, when he returns. No need involving pastor. Will you change the name to his alone, if the pastor suggests that??. Knowing fully well that your husband won't hesitate to send you out . Relax your mind and don't be weak...nothing will happen to your marriage. OR You can still call the pastor... Family members and apologize for not telling him earlier that you bought the land with your name and not his. You sorry for leading him astray by buiLding a house that wasn't with his name. But amends can be made by using a Mr &Mrs. If after this, he says no, "Let him go fvck himself " 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by marttol: 11:18pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
JoannaSedley:you call Bible fairytale...??Hmmm... HUMANS... OK, Noone escapes death... You get to know sooner |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by oshe11: 11:18pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Alot of You are getting things wrong here.... The only thing the wife Own is THE LAND HEseesall: They built the house TOGETHER!!! 2NDLY..... What did she do to Warrant a GOOD man wanting her to leave? And when she refused, he packed out and transfered? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Dirkcoyt: 11:18pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Madam you're are partially truthful with emblems of lies. On a norms i would have analysed your write and tel your lies to everyone here but I'm too tired right now. But this is a rough idea and you know what I'm about to say is the truth. You guys truly did a joint business, yes it fetched both of you money , yes you both used the money for your respective plans yes, but the truth is You used your own share of the profit to buy the land in your name yes, your husband and you both contributed to the development to finishing yes, he believe you both own in based on trust and you've both come a long way with business and this shouldn't be an issue. As a typical Africa man he was trying to apply the rule of husband is the head of the family yes, he made a threat for you to leave the house like a typical power drunk African man yes, Since you've also subconsciously prepared for this day by using your sole name on the property you decided to slap his face back with this harsh reality that your name is on the document yes. On discovering this by your husband an initial threat became an eye opener yes. His ego won't let him, he feel betrayed after years of coming a long way. the truth is you planned this all along. If you truly care about your home you would have put a Mr n Mrs on the document without been told for future of the family if either of the husband or wife dies suddenly. cause in the end you acknowledge he's a good man which means he must have been taking care of the family financially. And you also acknowledge you're working but only you can't take care of the family which means he has been doing his duties all along. You need to go back to the very beginning your family ha lost the trust which is the bedrock of every marriage. No change it to his name cause his now wise, the meting point you should negotiate now is Mr n Mrs if he cant take that to repair the family then he has something up his sleeves also. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Pataricatering(f): 11:21pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
lifeisbeautiful:beg him for what ? - beg him because he is acting like a two year old ? Pls grow up and stop giving silly advice . 2 Likes 1 Share |
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