Flickzvill:
Evening everyone names James, let me cut the long story short. I have been dating my gf for the past 3 years and we love each other so much. Recently my gf alerted me about my best friend how he flirt with her and I really don't know how to go about this i can't fight my fellow man bcz of a woman and on the other hand I can't take nonsense but how do I act. This is their conversation [12/07, 01:00] imabong: y aren't u sleeping tho
[12/07, 01:01] lamzy: Lol... just got up..
This one a chatting with my friend babe.
[12/07, 01:02] faith: it's odd ba .. funny enough I.wonder y we new got along initially
[12/07, 01:04] lamzy: �... we find out the reason
[12/07, 01:06] faith: wah was the reason �
[12/07, 01:07] lamzy: Maybe because u too fine and hot�
[12/07, 01:10] faith: I wee tell ur friend �
[12/07, 01:10] faith: so I wasn't fine b4 ��
[12/07, 01:10] lamzy: Lol.. not saying so
[12/07, 01:11] lamzy:�
[12/07, 01:11] faith:loolxxx
[12/07, 01:11] lamzy: Just that we just getting along just like that
[12/07, 01:12] lamzy: �
[12/07, 01:13] lamzy: Sha... I don't like getting close to girls I know I won't like my self maybe after the event �
[12/07, 01:15] faith:y?
[12/07, 01:15] lamzy: You know it won't be cool now
[12/07, 01:17] faith: how u can't be friends with a girl?
[12/07, 01:17] lamzy:We could be friends
[12/07, 01:17] lamzy: But not close enough
[12/07, 01:18] lamzy: Once I know I won't like the after result
[12/07, 01:18] lamzy: �
[12/07, 01:19] faith: lol u need therapy
[12/07, 01:20] lamzy: Lol... am not lying to my self now

This happened days back I just told her it's nothing serious but yesterday evening she called my attention that he started again here is the chat

[17/07, 23:45] lamzy: The other day you said I need dotor�
[17/07, 23:48] faith: lol when
[17/07, 23:48] faith: and y
[17/07, 23:51] lamzy: Lol the day I Said I don't like strting what I won't like the after result.
[17/07, 23:52] faith: oh ok
[17/07, 23:52] faith: wah was it u meant tho
[17/07, 23:53] lamzy: Lol
[17/07, 23:54] lamzy: We can't spend much time together alone �
[17/07, 23:55] faith: so u don't have self control ?
[17/07, 23:55] faith: u need a leash to keep u check?
[17/07, 23:55] faith: is dah wah ur saying
[17/07, 23:55] lamzy: Lol....
[17/07, 23:55] faith: *in
[17/07, 23:56] lamzy: Am not say anything agin �
[17/07, 23:57] faith: ha! ya the one hu brought it up now
[17/07, 23:59] faith: that kinda thing can only happen to some1 uve got physical attractions for .. buh there's no physical or even psychological attraction lol btw us both
[18/07, 00:00] lamzy: Hmmmm
[18/07, 00:00] lamzy: Na u talk am oo
[18/07, 00:00] faith: lmao what is doing u this night
[18/07, 00:01] lamzy: Lol..don't want to put my self in truble
[18/07, 00:29] faith: wah kinda trouble
[18/07, 00:29] lamzy: Lol
[18/07, 00:31] lamzy: Just know that it will be wae
[18/07, 00:31] lamzy: War*

The thing is I like my best friend bcz we been together way back and wouldn't want to do something stupid i just need someone to advice me what to do. Thank you all

coolcharm:
Don't stress yourself boy.

Flickzvill:
actually am not stressing the thing is if it where to be a stranger it's normal girls do see this things alot from guys but he is my best friend it hurts man

Mekus68:
Just like someone wrote up there...the three of you are all mad if indeed this is a true story.

My questions;
1) Who gave/how did your best got your babe's number?

2) How could your gf be chatting with/responding to your best friend willingly and yet had the morale to report your best friend to you...to do what, fight him? Cheating has started already.

3) How could you not know,what to do, not even to talk to your best friend to desist from chaiking your babe?

4) How old are the three of you?

aswani:
Stop bothering yourself with their texts, if they are going to involve themselves with each other, they will. Nothing is in your hands.

If you can't trust them to behave, end both your friendship and relationship and move on with your life.

mgtow:
Since nobody wants to tell you the truth, I will.

Your girlfriend is a HOE!

Why she dey encourage the guy? She enjoys the attention innit? I hope she tells you when they finally get down.

eph12:
Your gf is the one longing the gist. Once she starts wasting time to reply things go normalize

coolcharm:


I get you. See my updated post.

But then, your best friend has to show you some respect and stay away from your territory.

Flickzvill:
Evening everyone names James, let me cut the long story short. I have been dating my gf for the past 3 years and we love each other so much. Recently my gf alerted me about my best friend how he flirt with her and I really don't know how to go about this i can't fight my fellow man bcz of a woman and on the other hand I can't take nonsense but how do I act. The thing is I like my best friend bcz we been together way back and wouldn't want to do something stupid i just need someone to advice me what to do. Thank you all

Flickzvill:


2. I respect her for coming to me she doesn't hide anything if she really wanted to cheat she wouldn't mention that's women maybe she just wants me to knw d kind of friend I have

Flickzvill:
my gf is not a hoe she is like that she's not rude to anyone she just play along to know who you truly are

Flickzvill:
my gf is not a hoe she is like that she's not rude to anyone she just play along to know who you truly are

ranmoor:

U are so naive, well you are young. I remember when I was about your age my gf then told me that one of my area big bro was toasting her, calling him so names bla bla bla. I decided to share it with another big bro who just smiled and told me I should come to him around 8pm. On getting to his place we went to the other bro's house but he said we should wait across the street. Few minutes later I saw my so called gf leaving his house with the big bro telling her 'till tomorrow with a peck' The other bro told me he just wanted me to see it with my eyes that the girl is just trying to position me to mumu zone should in case someone told me.

ranmoor:

U are so naive, well you are young. I remember when I was about your age my gf then told me that one of my area big bro was toasting her, calling him so names bla bla bla. I decided to share it with another big bro who just smiled and told me I should come to him around 8pm. On getting to his place we went to the other bro's house but he said we should wait across the street. Few minutes later I saw my so called gf leaving his house with the big bro telling her 'till tomorrow with a peck' The other bro told me he just wanted me to see it with my eyes that the girl is just trying to position me to mumu zone should in case someone told me.

mgtow:


This guy has explained it in all the ways that I couldn't. The annoying thing is that the more you complain, the more she would be intrigued by the thought of 'running things' with the guy. Because anything that is forbidden, na him woman dey like pass. So lay down the law just once, and if she breaks the law, you ex her straight.

Sounds extreme but I know her type. I've seen them all.

I'm not a fan of challenging a fellow guy over a broad, I feel it's demeaning. If una con fight sef it's even worse and makes the girl seem more special. Just change your attitude in a very obvious manner towards that guy until his guilty conscience forces him to fess up to you, then you can take it up from there. But challenging him is a no-no.

I believe in operating from a position of strength.

coolcharm:
Don't stress yourself boy.

Walk up to your guy and ask him a point blank if he is eyeing your girlfriend. Make him understand that you don't fancy him flirting with your lady.

Do these for your girlfriend also. Let her understand she is your girlfriend and not a general girlfriend. Let her know you don't what boundaries you both have as per relating and communicating with friends.

If you do that, if they both love and respect you, they will adjust. Else leave the Two of them alone and d for yourself reliable friends.

BTW, I feel your girlfriend is still a teenager

NB: watch your friend closely. He wants to hit your woman bad

He is leading your girlfriend on. And he will hit her if he sees any green light

He is one to be very careful off

Abbey2sam:




You got your answer right here


@op do as he said

mgtow:
Since nobody wants to tell you the truth, I will.

Your girlfriend is a HOE!

Why she dey encourage the guy? She enjoys the attention innit? I hope she tells you when they finally get down.