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Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 10:41am On Jul 28, 2018 |
The Nigeria social media was recently rocked by the case of a popular newspaper carrying the headline - A mother of 5 declares for presidency It reminds me of the chimamanda adichie "rift" with Hillary Clinton for starting her twitter bio with wife, mother. Though the newspaper have apologized, but the incident keeps refreshing a lot of thoughts in me. Why should marital status be a criteria to assess a woman's success? Is marriage the greatest achievement a woman can achieve ? What has her being a mother of 5 got to do with leadership? The newspaper editors filled with victims of a patriarchial society felt that the only way she can be accepted by a misogynistic society is for her to sample her marital status and "mother of 5"like a World Cup trophy, I felt bad reading that headline, inasmuch as I blame the men who love using marital status to assess a lady, I also blame some ladies who love using marital status to judge themselves and other ladies, . I also remembered asking 4 NYSC girls one thing they will want to achieve in the next five years, to my greatest shock, Three of them replied MARRIAGE. And what if the marriage doesn't come, what will you do? They kept quiet! None of them had a dream of going for Masters degree or getting a job or starting a business , I don't blame them sha, they are also products of a fanatical partriachial society, In their shallow mindset, a woman no matter how educated she is IS a failure if she is not married. . I believe in social media activism, To any lady reading this, Marriage is good but not the ultimate achievement, Marriage is also not a criteria to assess your success in life. Some women are breaking records now in academic fields, in business, in technology, in science, You got to stand up and focus your attention on improving yourself, If marriage comes and you are interested, fine you Marry. But if does not come or you are not interested, hear this from me, you owe no one an explanation. Go get those masters and PhD baby Go start that business Perfect yourself in that skills, Hustle for those money, be happy sweetheart. Condoleezza Rice is the first black to be a secretary of state and yet she is not married, She didn't allow the "miss shaming " to get in her way, she is living her dreams. Oprah Winfrey is the richest black woman and she is not married, She is living her dream. And so on, . Let me rephrase it again, Marriage is good but should not be a criteria in which a woman should be judged with. Stop cyber bullying single ladies, Stop the shaming. Answering MRS is not the greatest achievement for a woman. Get it into your skull. . . . NB : stupid mentions and replies will be ignored. Thank you. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Nobody: 10:43am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Well said but tell that to you follow women not us . Men are starting to wake up and realize the truth . A few women are too . But some men and some women ...they just don't want to change their programming . |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oshinadekunle(m): 10:45am On Jul 28, 2018 |
If you achieved all and you have no responsible man not ordinary man, you are nothing ![]() |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 10:46am On Jul 28, 2018 |
tobianthony:I am talking to the both gender ![]() |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Nobody: 10:47am On Jul 28, 2018 |
oshinadekunle: Guy read what you just said again ...do you hear that voice in your mind . |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by queenbetsy(f): 10:49am On Jul 28, 2018 |
...waiting for them to come and shout "feminist!" ![]() Meanwhile, its good to be back on nairaland after soooooooooooooooooooo long! ![]() Only to see what you don't expect on the front page. It saddens my heart! ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oshinadekunle(m): 10:49am On Jul 28, 2018 |
What now is the greatest achievement tobianthony: |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Caseless: 10:51am On Jul 28, 2018 |
![]() amarabae, have you left your husband before coming to deceive other girls here? 13 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 10:52am On Jul 28, 2018 |
queenbetsy:A feminist to them is that woman that does not lick their azz and kneel down to adore them. And also accept being an inferior gender ![]() ![]() Welcome back dear 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by ednut1(m): 10:56am On Jul 28, 2018 |
The nigerian society is really lame and silly. Single ladies are being made to look like failures and incomplete being. From peers,church,events,parents,work etc are being reminded about marriage. Smh. Madam op u don marry no make single gals lynch u ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oloyede252(m): 10:57am On Jul 28, 2018 |
is she not a mother of 5. the newspaper editors wrote that headline to give it more sensation and it proved effective to the agency and to the mother of five presidential ambition. All the assumption you based your write up on for it being "misogynist " is false. Also opera is not the world richest black woman... its Folorunso Alakija. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oloyede252(m): 10:58am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Amarabae:dear men... |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Nobody: 10:58am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Channel the energy you've expended on writing this to becoming a better woman, no need to be sentimental always. Every individual should work on self development and not trivialities of gender debate. My opinion is that if somebody thinks marriage is the ultimate, leave am for am. Pursue your dream abeg. 9 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Arthurwinner(m): 10:58am On Jul 28, 2018 |
dis gal try and focus on ur gp so u can gt a beta life for ur self , stp coming hia to disturb us. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 10:59am On Jul 28, 2018 |
ednut1:I tells you. It's sad. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 11:01am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Arthurwinner:which gp? 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by queenbetsy(f): 11:02am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Amarabae:be ready for them... Don't forget to put on the whole armour of God. Most of them are Misogynist. I mean, if you don't hate women, why would you want them to stick to what you can't even bear! They are almost here... ![]() I've seen their napep ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by donbachi(m): 11:02am On Jul 28, 2018 |
But,u are ur parent greatest marital achievement 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Nobody: 11:02am On Jul 28, 2018 |
oshinadekunle: Anything she wants my brother anything she wants ... I'm not saying you are wrong or right . I just don't like it when people say because of one thing or the other " you are nothing " . We can do better . |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 11:03am On Jul 28, 2018 |
oloyede252:So why don't they apply the same policy to men. All the male presidential aspirants apart from buhari, how many of their kids do you know that they have 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 11:07am On Jul 28, 2018 |
oloyede252:its called "click bait " in journalism. When you read the content, you will see that I talked to the both gender 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Hector09(m): 11:09am On Jul 28, 2018 |
I wish i can hug the op the way people are obses abt marriage ehh, sometimes i dont understand people again cus of the way they looked down on matured single ladies, its our mentality here in Nigeria cus for me i dont see anything special abt marriage apart frm having kids, thanks sweety for this u reason like me 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Amarabae(f): 11:11am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Hector09:I pray more men will be thinking like you. You are welcome ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by ednut1(m): 11:11am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Arthurwinner:diff pple. Dat one na amaka |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by ednut1(m): 11:14am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Amarabae:women are even the ones taking it as achievement na. Many would abandon thier dreams cos of marriage. The best student in my department in school is now an housewife was made to quit her job by her not so rich husband o. Tufiakwa. Anyone woman who forgoes her ambitions cos of marriage na goat cos 99% of men wont either. Bt op if ur husband was on NL wud he have ur kinda signature ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by Lonestar124: 11:17am On Jul 28, 2018 |
I don't have time to read what you write, but I stand on my own to say marriage is more favourable to the ladies. Any unmarried woman is well open to face family, public constraints whereby she've no option but to conform the societal expectation. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oloyede252(m): 11:26am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Amarabae:But you couldn't figure it out that the headline "mother of 5" is a click bait.. quite funny you knew click bait all along.Lol 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oloyede252(m): 11:38am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Amarabae:. first of all it's not a policy, more like something to help generate more respondents... if you're into advertisement you will know that using same with a male aspirant won't really generate more respondents but because of some factors. look at this headline " redeem pastor declared for presidency " will probably generate more audience than" father of five declared for presidency ". in all it's not about inequality or being misogynistic, it's just a click bait. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by AmazonHippolyta(f): 11:38am On Jul 28, 2018 |
oshinadekunle:Everyone has what is their greatest achievement. You find yours and achieve yours. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by AmazonHippolyta(f): 11:43am On Jul 28, 2018 |
It is not any thing sensational why did they not use her educational qualifications instead how many times do you see some media outlets address men like father of 3,2 etc. Any way the woman nor complain. oloyede252: 1 Like |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by oloyede252(m): 11:48am On Jul 28, 2018 |
Amarabae:your problem is not because of the said statement but because same is not used for male aspirants. How ever news agency will always use What they thought will generate more audience. so it's not because inequality or misogynistic thought. |
Re: Dear Men, Marriage Is Not The Greatest Achievement For A Woman! by lilmax(m): 12:00pm On Jul 28, 2018 |
imagine after reading this topic and you spot her signature saying "WIFE,nurse,MOTHER ![]() see how she introduced herself ![]() are Nigerian women becoming more stupid and hypocritical? a Dr can't say Dr Mrs ,but a dumbass nurse like you can? oh my ![]() nairaland becoming a dump for crappy topics like this...... in the end you wonder why those giving the advice are married and those accepting it are miserable girls be wise,do not force your opinion on others as you should do what you think is right 3 Likes |
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