Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:14pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Julivas:
Bro, you see , God may want to change the life of your girlfriend for better and for the best. Why can't you lead her to Christ first before thinking of making her pastor's wife. So far you are so close to her, use that opportunity to win her to Christ and then make her pastor's wife later. God shall help you with the wisdom to do this in Jesus mighty name, amen . thanks. I like the that prayed that God should give wisdom |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:15pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Isaac060:
God didn't speak to you bro. If God did, it would have been of her conversion first and not marriage first.
Be sure before you lay claims on God. Thank you! please I didn't say God spoke to me. I said I have a deep impression in my heart |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by itsmeurLady(f): 6:17pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
First of all, every Christian have face this temptation u are facing now and trust me it will pass. You know when it comes to the things of Christ, u don't let your head (flesh,brain,desires,lust) dominate you, you let your spirit (Holy Spirit) dominate u... I have been through this road before where I had to choose between a rich cute Muslim Guy and my faith, it was difficult but I chosed my faith. Even now, I had this same problem where I fell in love with a rich dude but he was illegal, I had to choose my faith over everything else. Remember Mat6:33 , it said and I quote " Seek Ye FIRST, the kingdom Of God and it's Righteousness and every other thing will be added unto you. This applies to relationships as well, Marry a woman that is in love with Christ, not just a Christian by title or religion,someone that is aggressively in love with him come what may, she might be difficult to find but hang in there brother, when u see her she will be worth every wait. Marriage is a warfare, u have to seek God first before u go into it, if not it can rub you off your destiny if u are not careful, All the best ! Choose Christ!
Modified I forgot to add, don't talk to her about Christ, leave her alone, pray for her in your closet, mention her name in prayer " lord I sieze so so and so for Christ and i rebuke every power of the enemy upon her life IJN, Amen" Remove your mind from her, keep her as a friend in your mind, pray for her, then if she is close to you, she will notice the love that you have for God and if she is interested, she will ask you to lead her to Christ. Our life is the greatest tool we can ever use for evangelism, let your light so shine bright that Men will see your good works and give Glory to your Heavenly Father 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:18pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
elipheleh:
Listen Christ guides us through the scriptures. And the Holy Spirit guides us through the inner witness. The pastors and our own wisdom should never contradict the scriptures.
Things to take into consideration. Search the scriptures by yourself.:
1. Christ instructed Paul we should not be unequally yoked with the unbelievers. 2. The Holy Spirit has put love in your heart for the girl. 3. Your spirit and mind (I don't know how renewed your mind is ) is directing you to have strong feelings for this girl. 4. This girl is not a Christian
How do you reconcile all these things?
All 4 must agree. The solution is easy. Preach Christ to this girl. Teach her about Christ and redemption . Who knows whether her spirit IA already ripe and waiting for a message of Christ. Who knows. Christ said look and behold the field is white already for harvest. Again the scriptures said how can the believe in Him if they have not heard?how can they hear of they have no one to preach Christ to them.
So do your work. Your christian duty is tell this girl about Chrit. I bet you she is ready waiting for you already.
thanks man. I like the write up |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:18pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
cinoedhunter:
It's impossible to serve God without faith... if she's willing to convert, I think that's just the end of the matter oj |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:24pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
wellmax:
I am a believer and advocate for 'what union has light with darkness'
I know a lady Muslim, her bf Christian, not conversant with the full details of what he did to convert her (probably prayers). This lady finally accepted Christ during NYSC orientation camp. Mind you the said bf was not even there. She's just got the opportunity to attend fellowship where she's rather not known. Believe it or not, she became so committed during that 3 weeks that she became the sister's coordinator. Yes she doesn't know much then but ever willing and ready to learn. 10 years after, I see her and give glory to God. There is nothing God cannot do. Thanks man. am really liking this write up |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:27pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
generationz:
pastor kumuyis first wife Biodun was Muslim
she got converted in his fellowship in unilag and was very fervent sharing tracts and all before he married her. ok. i never knew she is a Muslim. that's good to hear |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Moukandjo: 6:29pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
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Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by AssoJnr: 6:32pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
OK |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:34pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
generationz:
hmm I almost said a Big no until I read your full story.
I read the story of a lady who was also in your shoes.
she was a virgin Sunday school teacher and very prayerful. After many failed relationships due to her virginity ,she went to God in prayer.
God directed her to the Facebook account of her old secondary school friend . But the problem was HE WAS A MUSLIM.
she was shocked god what are you saying ,she asked.
that very week the guy contacted her . They began to chat.
God told her not to say anything . she was confusedbbut still held on in faith and kept praying for him.
they were just casual friends for about two years, then he stopped chating with her. Few months later he contacted her again
He said he lost his mom and in the process of dealing with the pain he gave his life to Christ
He later asked her out and in a few months they both got happily married with her virginity still intact . she told the story two years after looking so happy and blesses with the hubby
do you understand the story?
I know someone whom God showed her something s about her hubby but told her to wait for five good years . she did and is happily married now.
Yea she might be your wife as revealed by the holyspirit .
your pastor isn't helping issues . He or some respected elder in the church that you trust should take up the matter in church. Better still if you want to tell someone to help you pray about it, don't tell the person the name of the girl. just tell them you need finding a wife through prayer.
or why don't you go on a fast so you could receive more revelations from the holy spirit
or tell the holyspirit to pleasssse confirm thorough five men of God. don't divulge anything to them
or tell your born again family members to pray on your behalf.
she might be the one but you might have to wait. before waiting make sure you your revelation is very clear so that you don't waist your time on the wrong person
if she's the one
you will start skabashing on babes head.
wake up every night .for at least one hour pray in tongues concerning her . pray for her to be born again ,for her to be mature in Christ ,and for her to be submissive and anything you want from god to be in her. ( if you like don't do this part it will be your choice if you want to marry an unprocessed material that you may end up having issues with )
I know a lady who a pastor said sis Ruth this is your husband but wait first he needs some work to be done (he wasn't very born again then) . Sis Ruth said, no pastor this one will run away again like the others.
pastor said OK go ahead and Marry him.
she went ahead, from miscarriage,to serious beating, to embarrassment up and down to the lady going insane. She is now a shadow of herself.
thank you very much for taking the pain to write this. God bless you richly. ironically, the Holy Spirit has been leading to pray for her. I started yesterday. am believing God for a change. God bless you |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by pitamah901: 6:37pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
As far as it's God that created both of them ![wink](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/wink.png) |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:38pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
kofo844:
You are a very confused human being. You are confused personified
Check what you are hearing, the source,,,,,, cos it's glaring to me that you are hearing yourself not God.
And pleased do type-read your text very well before posting it..... One could barely understand what you are writing I don't understand, because you didn't give your reason |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by generationz(f): 6:40pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
delkuf: thank you very much for taking the pain to write this. God bless you richly. ironically, the Holy Spirit has been leading to pray for her. I started yesterday. am believing God for a change. God bless you yes please do. don't forget to update us if you guys finally end up together. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:44pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
translux:
Young man, I have been an evangelist for about 12 years now and my wonderful marriage is about 9 years now, when I was in higher institution I was dating a Christian lady and I love her very much but the problem was our frequent disagreement on almost every issue, we disagreed sometime and she quited, I moved on, later I met another lady i n the campus and we started dating, this new lady was so amazing, I mean very good character and very humble but later on I felt bad when I realised that she was a Muslim, although I continue the relationship with her, cut the story short my Christian lady also came back to me so I was dating two of them back in school.
I can tell you Thor the Muslim lady was actually a wife material, I took their names to my pastor and he advised me to marry the Christian lady but deep within me I know that the Muslim lady was better
but I prayed that God should intervain, few months later the christain lady sent an SMS to me that she is no longer interested in the relationship and that was how I settled for the Muslim lady in 2005, another issue from the lady family because they prefers she marries a Muslim man the battle she fought and won, we got married in 2010 from that day till now she has been the best thing that could ever happened to any man, she has been so respecfule ,caring, understanding, as a matter of fact, she has never disobeyed me for a day.
she is now an evangelist, a prayer warrior and a preacher of the gospel of Christ. I have been making a big mistake all this while. I would have been see with her. who knows maybe we would have gotten married. But the fact that she is a Muslim turn me down, even though I love her. am learnt from this thread what to do. I just pray the Holy Spirit help to lead her to Christ, and marry her. thank you very much |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:46pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
victorazyvictor:
Your wasting your time and the time God is giving you bro. Don't you know that through you she can become a Christian and thereafter bring her family to Christ? what else can mortal do for God? indeed, have been wasting my time. thank God I now know what to do. I just pray it is not too late |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by madridsta007(m): 6:49pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Moukandjo:
I tell you! It's so difficult to pull through! Even among people of same faith & tribe & even same local govt of origin, the wahala na die! He should just kuku leave her alone jare! But if na me, & I get the chance to be with Simi, an angel I met very briefly some years ago during my NYSC but lost contact with, nobody fit tell me say make I no marry her o! I no wan know the kin "yoke" wey wan dey unequal! I go make am equal! ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:50pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
beatmonster: delkuf
Get an engagement ring, call the lady, ask her if she will marry you? If she says yes, go ahead and marry her.
"The greatest force that conquers all (religion, tribe,.. is love"
just like that. I have learnt a lot from this thread. I now know what to do |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by delkuf(m): 6:53pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
generationz:
yes please do.
don't forget to update us if you guys finally end up together. I will do that. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Kingspin(m): 6:55pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
ollah2:
Lol, rhe you irony about the bolded is that it's the ONLY religion that recognises your god(jesus) and respect him maximally yet they are the ones you hate with passion.
Christians are completely confused. Christians are not confused, You are. I don't hate any religion rather the behavior. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by ollah2: 6:58pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Kingspin: Christians are not confused, You are. Why don't you debunk what i wrote about Jesus and Islam VS Jesus and other religions? |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Kingspin(m): 7:13pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
ollah2:
Why don't you debunk what i wrote about Jesus and Islam VS Jesus and other religions? What my Christianity told me is to love all my neighbors as I love myself including Muslims and others. Those problems you see in religion are majorly human factor. As I said before we are human not perfect, we can only work to minimize any effect. Again I cannot debunk because you have your own religion too and that is what you trying to preach. I laugh when I hear some people say they are neither Christian or Islam or others, I tell you whatever you believe have become your god/religion. All of us cannot believe in one thing or one God. So is it. But never take it away from religion, the Christian missionary did a wonderful job and so it is in Europe and down to Africa. I respect whatever you believe therefore accord me same. That is the sweet diversity of the world we live. And it add color to the world and human. Accept the diversities. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Imperare(f): 7:16pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
delkuf: Please I need your advice. Is so happened that I know this lady for years now. we are good friends. But the problem is, I know that as a Christian we can't really get married because she is a Muslim. So I have been trying to keep the relationship on just us being friends, even though I love her and I know She has this little feelings for me. If I had been serious, I know we would have gotten married or close to that, but I keep avoiding her and sometimes I do it on purpose.
Now, where I get really confused is that, any time i pray for God's will in marriage, she keeps coming to my mind. This is not infatuation or something. It has been happening over and over again. I know God also talk to us through giving us this deep impression in our heart.
It was so deep on day that I told the Holy Spirit that I can't marry her. I spoke with my pastor this week concerning this issue, and he said it is not possible for God to tell us to marry a Muslim and this thing keeps coming. am really confuse. because of this, have not been praying concerning marriage.
PLEASEEEEEE, I need Christians to comment on this. As a believer that you are, you are not supposed to seek advise from un godly council but rather from your brethren in Christ. I read some of the comments and I can clearly see some worldly advice. The user CAPSLOCKED proved the bible verse that talked about the world not understanding spiritual things right Bro listen to your pastor, maybe God wants you to convert her first cause as a christian, they are meant to be converted. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Ifakiland(m): 7:58pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
the more the days goes by the more I feel this Christianity of a thing is a scam. my gf for instance is even a Catholic o and I'm a redeemer, now I'm been told its either I convert to catholic when I marry her or I allow her and our kids remain a Catholic. I just nod my head, cos inside me I know the two ain't even an option for me, make we marry finish born, if them born her and her family well make dem no follow me go my church. stupid religion. 2 Likes |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 8:13pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
generationz:
This girl must be a tennager right? No! she is 21 years old. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 8:19pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Azam101: You want to reap where you didn't sow kwantinui! Reaping where I did not sow?? Whoever told you that?? Two things I greatly abhor is GOLD DIGGING and ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY. Whatever i do I do it with my full conscience and humanity. Truth is, I am the type that likes doing it my way and doesn't like to be assisted except for extreme cases. So bro, your assumption has no basis. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 8:25pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Azam101: You want to reap where you didn't sow kwantinui! Reaping where is did not sow?? Whoever told you that?? Two things I greatly abhor is GOLDDIGGING and ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY. Whatever i do I do it with my full conscience and humanity. Truth is. I am the type that likes doing it my way and doesn't like to be assisted except for extreme cases. So bro, your assumption has no basis. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 8:38pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
delkuf: brother that's my problem. I don't if it is possible that God can be saying I should marry her. there is feelings between us. Even where we work, people have told several times to marry her. But I love Christ. God has been so good to me. I want to the will of God. Am really confuse. How I wish she is not a Muslim. Bro if i should speak for myself, I am not going marry the girl. I love her but then, we have to be truthful to ourselves even if it is just for once. Had she been a Yoruba girl or from the middle belt, then the issue of religion is not gonna be a problem. The core North takes religion too seriously. well, i have been trying to make her see reasons why it is not possible but then all explanations seem to be falling on deaf ears. She is not ready to leave Islam and i am not ready to leave Christianity. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 8:49pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED:
BUT SHE SHOULD GIVE UP HER MUSLIM FAITH BECAUSE OF WHAT, YOU AS A MAN IS SUPERIOR, OR BECAUSE YOUR CHRISTIANITY IS SUPERIOR?
Oga sir, i never said that. Truth be told, i will not even tell her that! So they can kill her for becoming a Christian or what? This girl is so dear to me that i even consider her betterment far more important that the love we share. Yes! she is that important to me.
EVEN AMONGST CHRISTIANS SOME CHURCHES DON'T ENCOURAGE MARRYING PEOPLE FROM SOME OTHER OR CERTAIN CHURCHES. HONESTLY, RELIGION DIVIDES MORE THAN IT UNITES. IT'S THE WORST TOOL EVER INVENTED.
Religion truly divides I concede to that fact but then, it is going to be sheer wisdom on your part to consider thoroughly the matter on ground before making your comments because all you've typed are gross generalizations without any particular considerations for exceptions!
AND PLEASE, STOP ALL THIS TALK OF YOUR GOD TOLD YOU THIS YOUR GOD TOLD YOU THAT CUS YOU HEARING YOURSELF TALK NONSENSE TO YOURSELF... YOUR GOD AIN'T SAYING SHĮT. Bro, I wonder where you saw that on my post. I never said that God told me anything. I just described my plight to you as much as I could. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 8:52pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED:
BUT SHE SHOULD GIVE UP HER MUSLIM FAITH BECAUSE OF WHAT, YOU AS A MAN IS SUPERIOR, OR BECAUSE YOUR CHRISTIANITY IS SUPERIOR?
Oga sir, i never said that. Truth be told, i will not even tell her that! So they can kill her for becoming a Christian or what? This girl is so dear to me that i even consider her betterment far more important that the love we share. Yes! she is that important to me.
EVEN AMONGST CHRISTIANS SOME CHURCHES DON'T ENCOURAGE MARRYING PEOPLE FROM SOME OTHER OR CERTAIN CHURCHES. HONESTLY, RELIGION DIVIDES MORE THAN IT UNITES. IT'S THE WORST TOOL EVER INVENTED.
Religion truly divides I concede to that fact but then, it is going to be sheer wisdom on your part to consider thoroughly the matter on ground before making your comments because all you've typed are gross generalizations without any particular considerations for exceptions!
AND PLEASE, STOP ALL THIS TALK OF YOUR GOD TOLD YOU THIS YOUR GOD TOLD YOU THAT CUS YOU HEARING YOURSELF TALK NONSENSE TO YOURSELF... YOUR GOD AIN'T SAYING SHĮT.
Bro, I wonder where you saw that on my post. I never said that God told me anything. I just described my plight to you as much as I could. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Abuloma80(f): 9:01pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Meekha: Well, lemme not say that we are both sailing on the same ship but my own situation seems very similar to yours. I really helped her in the time when she needed help most and the help happened to be very timely and this made her fall in love with me. But there are many problems here 1. I am 7 years older than her (Which I do not find really ideal but nevertheless can cope or change my views shaa) 2. She is a Muslim and I am a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN who wouldn't' give up my Christian faith for any reason, though I was born a Muslim, I converted to Christianity along the way. 3. She is from a super rich family and I am only a worker hired by her dad to help coach her where she had deficiencies. I am a graduate who is just trying to make ends meet and this job is very dear to me. 4. I have made a personal commitment to myself against falling in love with people I coach but then, this seemed to be very very different! 5. The parents of the girl have a high level of trust for me or an unusual likeness so they treat me better than other co-workers maybe it's because I deliver an exceptionally excellent service plus I am very hospitable and I consider it one of the greatest wrong I will do to betray their trust. 6. I know that it is a great woe on her part if her parents never find out about her emotional connection to me because it is a big TABOO for Muslim girls to marry Christian man though the reverse is permissible! 7. She is a Hausa-Fulani girl while I am from the middle belt: A clash of culture and social values. 8. I will end up putting the saviour who connected me with the family in a big trouble and this may result in the robbing of other young people like me of their prospects. The list seems endless.
Of a truth, I love the girl and she is of the view that she can marry a Christian cos her religion permits it (i knew it's not true, she was just speaking out of love). I currently have been putting up a stern face whenever we meet but this seems to be fanning the flames of desires even the more. The more I get to see her, the more my resolve weakens as per not dating her. Whenever I pray, her pictures keep flashing before my face as if to say that she is the One and I dream a lot about her these days. She is more than beautiful (know these typical beautiful Hausa-Fulani girls)
THE TRUTH!!! Christianity does not encourage marrying people of the opposite religion and so if one does it, it may not be the best choice!! God save us!!! Yours in number 6 says it all correct. A Muslim Lady cannot marry a Christian man. But Muslim man can marry a Christian Lady. Eg Fashola (Muslim) and his wife (Christian) and many other examples. In the first place the relationship should not have existed, its haram on the Lady's side. The thought of converting the Lady into Christianity can not/never happen. So quietly both of you meet and bid each other a farewell and go your separate ways, go and marry your right spouses. |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by Meekha(m): 9:28pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
1stolax:
Lol See gold digger o
Gold digger?? Lol i am behind my screen smilling at your inept mindset! Whoever told you that dating a person richer than you is gold digging?? Have the African society so cultured you that you don't know the meaning of love?? If you have never fallen in love before, i will urge you to please do!
You helped her blablabla
I see no reason why my helping her is now your painment!
I bet this person you're talking about is still a teenager.
No. She is 21 years old
YOU ARE NOT A BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN!
Sir Judge, i am a born again Christian and i owe you no apology or explanation for that!
And I pray her father finds out about your lust desires on his daughter soon.
I Never lusted after her. I have never touched her. No kissing or smooching not to talk about sex. My conscience will not even allow me. She also has a high moral standard and this makes us very understable of each other |
Re: Can A Born Again Christian Marry A Muslim Lady? by mydeporch(f): 9:30pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
All of u saying dont be unequally yoked wt unbelievers...remember them bring the two religion come meet us for here ni o...
Its better he marries an hyprocritical believer or ....i really dont understand our thinking sometimes....religion intolerance is too much...
Life is a mystery... Maybe he might enjoy marriage better with her if their love is strong nd parents of d girl nd d man are supportive... Ori lo mo ibi to mu ese re...i dont want to talk much abt dis religion thing .
At op, i pray God help you at dis stage of confusion.......
Just littlw of my opinion. No abuse me pls ooo. |