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Very true words

We're sockpuppeting again? I can see the second account's comment history has grown by over 10,000 in three weeks.

Prick, toto, marriage, wickedness and n-udity are the only things which dominate the mind of black people the world over. Innovation repels them faster than moth balls to cockroaches.

It's like saying all Nigerian men can offer is internet fraud. If you have been meeting prostitutes all your life I'm really sorry for you. But when on a public platform you should speak like someone who has some grey matter in their brain and not insult every girl.

cosmatika:
I didn't bother reading the long tweet, but this is wat I have to say;
All an average Nigerian lady can offer to a man is just sex.
Just this night I logged into In Messenger, one lady chatted me up, after exchange of pleasantries, she asked me if I wanted hookup? I told her no. She asked me why I'm on the platform if I don't want hookups, I told her I just wanted to make friends, that I'm not interested in sex as I have more productive things to do with my life. She started insulting me that I must be very stingy, that I'm looking for oshofree. I was just imagining, shey na person go marry dis one tomorrow?

declaro:
I hope women will also understand when a man stop cold on the steps of a church & say, "This is more than cold feet. I can't marry HER".

Don't mind the self-centered ladies. She concealed her concerns until she got to the church. And the guy must have spent a lot of money. Why not say no much earlier.

AmazonTopaz:
Thank goodness you said you did not read the write up so let me not waste my time on that but to correct you that not every Nigerian lady has just sex to offer some of us have intelligence,vision,financial assistance etc to offer the right men.
It is only irresponsible men that would say Nigerian ladies only have sex to offer.

What he said applies to majority of Nigerian ladies.

Most ladies are looking for a ready made husband, they dump the nice young man that is still struggling because they see marriage as a way out of poverty for themselves and their families. They keep many men as options no true feelings at all. When their biological clock starts running the same family that encouraged her to try other men and not to marry the struggling guy will start putting pressure on her.

Ladies say yes to that nice young man that will cherish you and build your lifes together.

cosmatika:
I didn't bother reading the long tweet, but this is wat I have to say;
All an average Nigerian lady can offer to a man is just sex.
Just this night I logged into In Messenger, one lady chatted me up, after exchange of pleasantries, she asked me if I wanted hookup? I told her no. She asked me why I'm on the platform if I don't want hookups, I told her I just wanted to make friends, that I'm not interested in sex as I have more productive things to do with my life. She started insulting me that I must be very stingy, that I'm looking for oshofree. I was just imagining, shey na person go marry dis one tomorrow?

It keeps baffling me every time I just see some ladies with that attitude enjoying the moment ladies

Tell them.....

poseidon12:


Don't mind the self-centered ladies. She concealed her concerns until she got to the church. And the guy must have spent a lot of money. Why not say no much earlier.

You understood me correctly.

Jiang:
The marriage issue aside, since as a couple you must share a room together, a bed together( this one pains me most, I can't enjoy my big bed alone!!!), toilet, bathroom etc. Therefore you must make sure you are ready for that commitment which is where loves comes in. isn't it wonderful, it makes you lower your standards just to accommodate each others short fall


Anyways, did she just said SHE LEFT THE SUPREME COURT TO BE AN UNKNOWN WRITER( AFTER UR PARENTS SPENT MILLIONS ON YOU!!!!) Can't you multi-task, after all every unemployed dick & harry is a writer too, you can see them littering the blogosphere's and social media with useless crap.

Well, I hope both you & ur parents are happy, I wish luck in ur "writing"

that bed part dey pain sha, i roll on my bed, that's means i can't roll again.

Damolarh:

It keeps baffling me every time I just see some ladies with that attitude enjoying the moment ladies

i ask one out today, and now she suddenly remember her birthday is Tuesday, that what will buy for her SMH.

okwabayi:
Prick, toto, marriage, wickedness and n-udity are the only things which dominate the mind of black people the world over. Innovation repels them faster than moth balls to cockroaches.

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You are late to the party.
It has already been established that black people have nothing intellectual to offer neither can they take care of themselves. Oil in their backyard, they cannot refine. Common roads, they cannot construct. But bring anything that gives immediate gratification, you will get their attention. Put blacks and modern science/technology in the same sentence is an anomaly. Everything you listed above are the only thing they care about with mundane consumption. Ever noticed that white folks brag about how much they saved which gives birth to sales events while black folks brag about how much they waste. Typically white folks tell you they get a good deal on a car but blacks will tell you they spent N40m on a N6m car and expect accolades. Where did we go wrong?



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I bet she is in her 30s..women that feel a need to downplay marriage and trivialise their inability to achieve that status are usually bitter frustrated single women in their 30s

When you were in your 20s..you were probably yangaing and hoeing around when the men were coming..instead of deciding for one of the guys and settling down..now you are in your 30s..the reasonable available men aint coming again rather, they are turning to the 20s girls..whats the result...you hear stuff like...marriage is not for everyone..its better been single than married and not happy...marriage is not an achievement...

cosmatika:
I didn't bother reading the long tweet, but this is wat I have to say;
All an average Nigerian lady can offer to a man is just sex.
Just this night I logged into In Messenger, one lady chatted me up, after exchange of pleasantries, she asked me if I wanted hookup? I told her no. She asked me why I'm on the platform if I don't want hookups, I told her I just wanted to make friends, that I'm not interested in sex as I have more productive things to do with my life. She started insulting me that I must be very stingy, that I'm looking for oshofree. I was just imagining, shey na person go marry dis one tomorrow?

Inmesaage is the new sodom and gomorah

hmm

Happily married Lady: Marriage is so wonderful and the best thing to happen to women like me

Olosho still lookin and not finding: Marriage is overhyped, too much pressure and a waste of time.


Now, each person is coming to the table, from their own personal experience, which is also a function of their personality or WHO THEY ARE. !

Kappish?

AmazonTopaz:
Thank goodness you said you did not read the write up so let me not waste my time on that but to correct you that not every Nigerian lady has just sex to offer some of us have intelligence,vision,financial assistance etc to offer the right men.
It is only irresponsible men that would say Nigerian ladies only have sex to offer.

A million gbosas to you!

I can sense she is a good writer

cosmatika:
I said an average Nigerian lady, didn't u see that side??

Still incorrect

dancok:
that bed part dey pain sha, i roll on my bed, that's means i can't roll again.

You can still roll, just get/order/make a damn bed that is twice the size of the one you normally roll-in.

Who says Beds must be restricted to 6ft x 6ft?

Big Room, Big Bed, money talks.


BTW: you people are just not very smart. Why are you just focusing on the negative side of marriage, what about the positive things it brings to the individuals involved .... emotional stability (where the marriage is working), companionship, children, upward mobility by combining resources, e.t.c?

highchief3:
Most ladies are looking for a ready made husband, they dump the nice young man that is still struggling because they see marriage as a way out of poverty for themselves and their families. They keep many men as options no true feelings at all. When their biological clock starts running the same family that encouraged her to try other men and not to marry the struggling guy will start putting pressure on her.

Ladies say yes to that nice young man that will cherish you and build your lifes together.

Not true at all. So many cases of women sticking by their men only for the men to dump them when they start making money.

I don't believe in all those excuses and pressure talks. Some things remain the realities of life, they won't go away just because you don't like it. It's how you choose to handle and face it. If you marry someone because u feel pressured to do so, don't cone and rant the blame on anybody. U married because you were emotionally and mentally weak to establish your will and decision, and that is nobody's fault but yours. There are millions of people who have refused to do what they were "pressured" to do because they had a mind of their own, got mentally and emotionally mature enough to chart the course of their lives according to their personal choices. Stop shifting the blame of ur mental and emotional weakness on others. They only "pressured", they didn't force you. Even a horse cannot be forced to drink from the well it doesn't want to. How a horse is more strong-willed than a lot of humans is quite unfortunate. Whether the pressure in life, you are the one with the final decision. We should learn to take responsibility over our lives. That's the first mark of maturity and until you can do that, you are not fit for marriage. There are so many "babies" unknowingly walking about with adult age and unfortunately they are those who become victims of such experiences blaming others for their weaknesses.

LordKO:
The importance of one living life at the periphery of conventionalism and doing so conscientiously can never be overemphasized. It takes a whole lot of guts to do so, and such is the true hallmarks of self-realization and independence, respectively.

Burouba, where is my dictionary

cosmatika:
I didn't bother reading the long tweet, but this is wat I have to say;
All an average Nigerian lady can offer to a man is just sex.
Just this night I logged into In Messenger, one lady chatted me up, after exchange of pleasantries, she asked me if I wanted hookup? I told her no. She asked me why I'm on the platform if I don't want hookups, I told her I just wanted to make friends, that I'm not interested in sex as I have more productive things to do with my life. She started insulting me that I must be very stingy, that I'm looking for oshofree. I was just imagining, shey na person go marry dis one tomorrow?

So because of one silly girl I met online, your conclusion is that all an average Nigerian woman can offer is sex?

I can't express my disappointment

pweshboi:
Ok enough of all the talks.... All I know is there's one guy somewhere that's tired of smashing her. In today's Nigeria love get eyes now. U see and feel it, if it's not working u bounce! So what's all the epistles about. If you're forced into a relationship, that means you never had a mind of your own and it's bound to be doomed.

Nigga wake up! Being forced into a relationship doesn't make you a mindless person. Some people just try to please their parents. So mothers go to the extent of threatening to place cause on their children if they don't oblige. It's obvious u are inexperienced and u are talking based on "I think"

pweshboi:
Ok enough of all the talks.... All I know is there's one guy somewhere that's tired of smashing her. In today's Nigeria love get eyes now. U see and feel it, if it's not working u bounce! So what's all the epistles about. If you're forced into a relationship, that means you never had a mind of your own and it's bound to be doomed.

Nigga wake up! Being forced into a relationship doesn't make you a mindless person. Some people just try to please their parents. So mothers go to the extent of threatening to place cause on their children if they don't oblige. It's obvious u are inexperienced and u are talking based on "I think".

bezimo:
I bet she is in her 30s..women that feel a need to downplay marriage and trivialise their inability to achieve that status are usually bitter frustrated single women..

When you were in your 20s..you were probably yangaing and hoeing around when the men were coming..instead of deciding for one of tge guys and setyling down..now you are in your 30s..the reasonable available men aint coming again rather, they are turing to the 20s girl...whats the result...you hear stuff like...marriage is not for everyone..its better been single than married and not happy...marriage is not an achievement...

You're part of the problem not the solution. Is that where you'll rather be?

Daboomb:
Happily married Lady: Marriage is so wonderful and the best thing to happen to women like me

Olosho still lookin and not finding: Marriage is overhyped, too much pressure and a waste of time.


Now, each person is coming to the table, from their own personal experience, which is also a function of their personality or WHO THEY ARE. !

Kappish?

How about not happily married women and Prostitutes that searched and found?

hippieguy:
I don't believe in all those excuses and pressure talks. Some things remain the realities of life, they won't go away just because you don't like it. It's how you choose to handle and face it. If you marry someone because u feel pressured to do so, don't cone and rant the blame on anybody. U married because you were emotionally and mentally weak to establish your will and decision, and that is nobody's fault but yours. There are millions of people who have refused to do what they were "pressured" to do because they had a mind of their own, got mentally and emotionally mature enough to chart the course of their lives according to their personal choices. Stop shifting the blame of ur mental and emotional weakness on others. They only "pressured", they didn't force you. Even a horse cannot be forced to drink from the well it doesn't want to. How a horse is more strong-willed than a lot of humans is quite unfortunate. Whether the pressure in life, you are the one with the final decision. We should learn to take responsibility over our lives. That's the first mark of maturity and until you can do that, you are not fit for marriage. There are so many "babies" unknowingly walking about with adult age and unfortunately they are those who become victims of such experiences blaming others for their weaknesses.

The part about shaming? There is no such thing as weakness.

cosmatika:
I didn't bother reading the long tweet, but this is wat I have to say;
All an average Nigerian lady can offer to a man is just sex.
Just this night I logged into In Messenger, one lady chatted me up, after exchange of pleasantries, she asked me if I wanted hookup? I told her no. She asked me why I'm on the platform if I don't want hookups, I told her I just wanted to make friends, that I'm not interested in sex as I have more productive things to do with my life. She started insulting me that I must be very stingy, that I'm looking for oshofree. I was just imagining, shey na person go marry dis one tomorrow?

Cool fiction though.

Okoyeebos:
One of the hardest things to change is culture. It's easy to change religion or even skin like Michael Jackson but cultural practices are veery difficult to change.

The communal nature of Africa means that one person's issue is borne by kith and kin. Amebo is part of our culture.

What 'communal nature' and why does it only appear to have negative connotations? Where are the positives such as good governance and respect for the environment?