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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 5:57am On Aug 06, 2018 |
linearity: Thank you, sir! You hit the nail on the head! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Donjazzy12(m): 5:59am On Aug 06, 2018 |
LaudableXX:His wife already have three kids of her own to parent. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Lambarry1: 6:03am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Now I see why the country is like this from the senseless comments am reading here. 12 pages no common sense , no stands , no principles 95 percent of comments are based on emotions and religion. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Lambarry1: 6:04am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Now I see why the country is like this from the senseless comments am reading here. 12 pages no common sense , no stands , no principles 95 percent of comments are based on emotions, sentiments and religion. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by youngbabaj(m): 6:07am On Aug 06, 2018 |
well since u don't want the child, and u want ur wife, I will like to have ur contact, so whenever I come down to Nigeria (probably this December) I will take her and pay u both off, and have her as my first fruit, 6 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Analysiscorner: 6:08am On Aug 06, 2018 |
For the love you have for your wife, please, accept the little girl into your house. If you wish, you can press the biological father to say what exactly he wants to do with the girl. Does he still want her or not? And if he does not want her anymore, you can get official adoption papers based on the written document from the biological father. If he still wants her but you feel that the expenses is much on you, you can also press for welfare package from him. Please, don't make the little girl to cry. Show her that fatherly love. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Daeylar(f): 6:09am On Aug 06, 2018 |
MsGood: She herself doesn't love the child. That's why it doesn't touch her that someone she married doesn't care an inch about the child. Like I said. All 3 foolish, but I think the op is the most foolish in This scenario, (foolish and wicked though) because he wasn't embroiled in the drama from the start, but saw how the situation was and still decided to marry her. Thinking he can give her idiotic rules and regulations. I'm still wondering how a man thinks he marry a single mother and have such stupid rules as he she shouldn't bring the child near him, is that a joke or what? And the mother is tolerating such disrespect to her child. Why have a child she doesn't care about? This is where abortion should have come in play. So a little baby isn't brought to this world by people who couldn't care less even if they tried. Allowing an innocent baby who wouldn't be on this earth if not for her to be treated this badly, I think that's why the grandmum wants to force her to take care of her child. Because she knows op's wife is callous enough to abandon the child with her just because of op and move on with her life. All just to say she has a horseband. Shameful. The father of the baby also. A man refused to take care of his out of wedlock baby just because he got married. Foolishness all round Smh A real situation of 3 idiots. It's just a party of fools. Leaving that one behind. Thanks for saving my comment jor it's been deleted. nairaland mods who hid that comment. Wetin I do na? I'm sorry, please release my comment 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by bullabong(m): 6:10am On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE:pls take the girl and love her strictly like a father, she doesn't deserve further trauma. Thank you Sir. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:10am On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE:Are u a man at all? Does ur family pay ur bills? I don't think ur families opinion matters in this situation, unless u r still depending on them. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:11am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Lambarry1: Thank you. I thought I was the only one that noticed. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by linearity: 6:12am On Aug 06, 2018 |
LaudableXX: Custody and Support are two different issues and in most States decided differently. In New York, two different judges decide these cases and on separate dates...one does not have bearing on the other except that, the percentage of parenting factors into the support the non custodian parent will pay. If one parent have all the money and the other parent have zero money; the one that have all the money have zero advantage in winning custody...the court believes that, they can order the redistribution all the money, which ever direction they want after determining who is the better parent and as such, the Judge deciding custody does not look into who is paying what and who is not paying. In fact, in some cases inability to pay can be an advantage as that parent will have more time to take care of the child as in been the ‘home care taker’ and the one with all the money, will be the perfect ‘breadwinner’ who because of his/her time consuming breadwinning endeavors will not have that much time for the child compare to the ‘home care taker’. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 6:12am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Donjazzy12:So she should abandon the first child she gave birth to, on the street? Especially since the father does not want the child? 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Aquariann: 6:12am On Aug 06, 2018 |
janellemonae: And the child's biological father is what for throwing his own child out because of his own marriage? Isn't it possible the other woman too rejected the child and asked for her to be returned to her own mom? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by bullabong(m): 6:13am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Daeylar:hmm, intelligent evaluation 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:14am On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE:U are not a nice person at all, if u love ur wife this shouldn't be an issue, ur wife child is ur child, adopt the lil girl, she's just 7 yrs old, take her as ur child n forget wat ur family say. U r a married man for crying out loud ur family shouldn't control u. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Aquariann: 6:15am On Aug 06, 2018 |
InvertedHammer: Mr kind man, will you throw your own biological daughter out for another man to train just because of a new wife who's not her mother? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Galaxydon1(m): 6:15am On Aug 06, 2018 |
you have a wicked heart. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by bullabong(m): 6:15am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Lambarry1:kindly proffer a solution 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Donjazzy12(m): 6:15am On Aug 06, 2018 |
LaudableXX:Why are you not attacking the biological father who dumped her daughter? Why? How much money are you contributing to bros to aid in upkeep? How much time of yours are you going to use to be visiting and counselling the couple when problem starts as it surely will. My guy don't be a hypochrite! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Amberon11: 6:17am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Wow, that dude isn't their real dad? misolataiwo: 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 6:17am On Aug 06, 2018 |
linearity: You are saying something similar to what I have been saying. My remarks were a response to another poster who claimed that, the person paying the school fees is showing how capable he is. He kept arguing in previous posts, that custody of a 7 year old child, would be given to the father, and I disagreed with that. This is what he said : ".....So once somebody is paying school fees, the other person must not be capable. Are you for real? Showing you pay school fees only proves you are capable it doesn't mean the other person is not capable. So if the husband pays school fees it means the wife must tell the school that they should reject the school fees to prove she is capable or what. In Africa, who pays school fees even if the wife is okay...." |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Aquariann: 6:20am On Aug 06, 2018 |
tjadeba: And the child's biological father and grandma are what? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 6:20am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Donjazzy12:Go back and read through my previous posts. You will see what I said about the biological father. Do not be a hypocrite. And stop making silly insinuations that do not hold water. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Amberon11: 6:20am On Aug 06, 2018 |
The guy is very much safe. Worse case, the case will be in court and the deatbeat father will be asked where he's been since the child was being taken care of by another person. xtervaganza: 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Donjazzy12(m): 6:22am On Aug 06, 2018 |
LaudableXX:Why don't you take the daughter yourself and be training her? Why? 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 6:25am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Donjazzy12:If I knew who she was, I would do so. My parents and grandparents trained children that were not their own, in addition to their own biological kids. So why can't I? 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by kayzat: 6:26am On Aug 06, 2018 |
If I am the mother of that baby I will rather make arrangements for the kid to stay elsewhere because this guy will make life more difficult for the kid if he eventually bow to the pressure 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MrMakaveli20(m): 6:27am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Bro you really need to grow up. which one is my family said she's after one? You seem like the kind who can't stand for himself. the type that allows his family to bully his wife without doing nothing. Don't deprive that child of the mothers love. allow that child move in with you. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by livinbygrace: 6:28am On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: Mr Man,your wife even messed up allowing her child to be with her ex.,It seems your wife is the gentle type as Most African women will never do that,as its always better for a child to be with his/her mother than fathers.I no need to talk too much,but children are blessings from God and nobody knows tomorrow.That child might bring fortunes into your family,If you are a real matured African man you will understand better. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by doe: 6:28am On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: Your wife should dump your sorry ass. People like you will is the child for sacrifice! When you married her you also became step father to the 7 year old. So stop being stupid and take responsibility. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by AreaFada2: 6:29am On Aug 06, 2018 |
reyscrub: Nice to hear your experience. But did the child's father consent to you giving your surname to his son? You have no right to without his consent. I am against men taking other people's kids in due to many experiences close to me. I have mentioned it on similar threads here for years. People took in several kids with their new wives, did their best for around 15 to 20 years until they grew up, had education. Over 95% never appreciated their step-dads. The few who respect their step-dads happen to VERY rich step-dads. And we all know the rich step dads didn't give as much (effort or percentage of their income or time) nearly as much as the average step-dads. It is all good to be emotional and all that. To please the wife is fine. But from what I saw step-kids do, especially once their mother died or they made it in life, is appalling. They completely ignored their step-dads and rather now thank their paternal relatives (where biological dad is no more). They have never been able to point out one thing the step-dads did wrong. Only their perception that the step-dads could have "done more for them". But how? Everyone saw them grow up and how much the men did. Growing up nobody could tell they were not biological kids of the men. I know of several cases recently. Can you imagine one step kid is about to do introduction of his bride-to-be but didn't tell his step-dad, a man who took him in around age of 2 or 3 with older siblings? Once their mum died, they cut off. Even though the half-siblings (the man's kids) have been solicited to assist financially? Another step-son would drive past the house he grew up in, step-dad was around age 95, to his in-laws house at the end of the same street and never stop to say hello? The same bride the step-dad played a big role in her parents even allowing him marry that pretty girl years earlier. When the man eventually died they played no role nor assisted their younger half-siblings. Luckily the man had many well-to do kids too. These are specific examples and more I know. Fact is most step kids never accept another man in their mum's life. No matter how much the man tries. In Africa blood seems the only thing that matters. In my observation in Europe it is different. The parent who brings up a child matters most. Even several EPL footballers have no relationship with their still living biological dads. But consider step-dads as dads. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by blazesam(m): 6:29am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Yes she is right. And if you were the one with the 7yearz old daughter, na bit u 4the bit and u 4knw ask ur wife, straight u 4vamous her come 1 Like |
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