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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by baby124: 11:41am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann:The father has taken care of that child for 7years! Do you think a time will come when the mother will not also have to take care of the child? That child is a girl child and getting closer to puberty. Who should teach her to become a woman? Her step mum?? ? While her own mother is alive? Even if the father gave her up because of his wife, her mother is long overdue to also take care of her child! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:43am On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE:oga, your family has no say in your family issue.. you don't need permission from them to do the right thing. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Donjazzy12(m): 11:43am On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes:Adopt the child or shut up! Hypochrite. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by knigthadam: 11:44am On Aug 06, 2018 |
People like you will spit fire and faint when tour man does ssme to you Quiescere: |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Aquariann: 11:50am On Aug 06, 2018 |
baby124: My elder sister lived with us all through her life. Same with my neighbors daughter. And both of them got married from our respective homes. My elder brother also married a lady raised by divorced dad. In her own case their dad didn't remarry and single handedly raised both girls from a young age. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Amberon11: 12:02pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
What rubbish justice are you talking about? Did he kill or kidnap the child? Isn't the child's mother living with the child? Please educate yourself. xtervaganza: |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by condomuser: 12:06pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
How long do you have to live on this earth, in the next 100 years from now 99 percent of your age mates on earth must have vanished, this new generation will take over Make an impact while you can. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 12:09pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
lielbree:men pay the bills for their kids. The highest a woman wd do is keep being rude to the child but the basics of life the dad wd provide ie achool shelter and food. For a woman she wd need the man to cater for the childs basics and the man wdnt do tht. Plua the mans family wdnt even accept the child if he doesnt and the child will truly be alone. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 12:11pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann:I totally agree with you. You are the champion. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 12:12pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
EmpresFIDEL:clearly u dnt know wht marriage is.. there are too many ppl with no knowledge of life sokn here |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by doyen101: 12:18pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
It makes absolute sense to take the child... But just as they took the baby for 7 years and ready to return.. They can come after 14 years and want the baby back.. So whats best is involve a lawyer to sign an undertaken that they are not coming back for the child, except its subject to a compensation that will be determined by you having taken care of the child so far. Also note that the child does not deserve any of these trauma so deal with this like a man! When you married the mother, you married her with a full body and her fruit. so dont act less than a man now. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Anextin(f): 12:18pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Tozinetita:I tried to understand bro, just didn't see how having a child out of wedlock made her a married woman, and now u refer to her one and only husband as her second best. That's why I brought in those examples cos they are sure ways of women having kids without marriage. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 12:21pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann: What are you talking about dude?? That's her daughter! And the daughter can stay with the mum too. Nothing wrong with that! Because the biological father is useless does not mean the mother should be useless too. Imagine how they are tossing a kid around! The biological father is useless, the step father too is acting up. Awon oniranu gbogbo! 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 12:24pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
EmpresFIDEL:clearly u dnt know wht marriage is.. there are too many ppl with no knowledge of life spkn here |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 12:24pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
revolt:all I know is that separation have to take place before you and your wife is joined together as 1.. you getting married to your wife it's your own personal decision, so whatever decision you take in your family does not affect anyone because you are the head. you are a man, act as one. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 12:25pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
lielbree:men pay the bills for their kids. The highest a woman wd do is keep being rude to the child but the basics of life the dad wd provide ie achool shelter and food. For a woman she wd need the man to cater for the childs basics and the man wdnt do tht. Plua the mans family wdnt even accept the child if he doesnt and the child will truly be alone. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Anextin(f): 12:25pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann:Oya sit down and sip some hot tea. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by bluefilm: 12:26pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann: I decided to lambaste the OP because of the manner he presented his case. He came off as someone who is quite insensitive to the issue at hand just because it is not his own blood. The best way out of the imbroglio for all involved is for them to reach a conclusion on how to take care of the girl in question. I don't think the biological father is actually rejecting his child for his marriage to stand. I feel he's just trying to tell the woman that it is now her turn to take care of their child. Like I said, the best way for all of them involved is to reach an agreeable conclusion. If not, when the girl in question finally grows up, she will develop serious hatred for everyone of them... including the OP. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by foolbuster: 12:28pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
baby124: So in other words if it is a boy then he should continue staying with the dad but since it is a girl the father is right to suddenly disrupt her life and ship her to the mum without giving a damn what happens to her so he can start a new life with another woman whom I am sure wants the girl out and brainwashed the mofo. See reasoning Who told you the woman was not part of the girl's life before or you think the girl does not know her mum? So irrespective of how the OP feels he should accept another man's child being forced down his throat. What makes you think if the girls stays with him she will have a good normal life my dear marriage is a partnership stop being selfish, I don't know if you will accept another man's son midway into your marriage with your husband and children but not everyone can. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Truthsbitter: 12:28pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
The safest place for her to be is with her grandmother.... take it or leave it. If the grandmother is denying her own granddaughter to the extent of issuing a dead line then something has to be wrong somewhere. But in all and to be truthful, Oga try help the girl it wasn't her fault that her mom decide to take careless steps and also remember that everybody makes mistakes so don't vent on your wife as well. most importantly make strict rules to your home, be fair and be very careful, Because sometimes good may be taken for bad in the end. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by daveP(m): 12:40pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Hypocrites Sympatheticus just full this thread. Over 580 comments here are hypocritically said. Everyone is just saying accept accept and accept. Is it that easy? Why not calmly analyse all angles before commenting. The real dad just got married, and then rejected custody. Which means that the new wife has a very big big hand in this issue here. She must have told him he must show the girl the door. Thus we are here. Most especially the ladies commenting here, y'all are hypocrites. Only seen like 20 comments from the ladies that is objective. Cos I know that most of y'all would do exactly what the new wife would do if in this kinda situo. Stop using this religion and future talk to coax the OP. It's cheap Blackmail!!!! This is something you think through well with our cultural background. Bringing the European mentality of this situo cannot help this situo atall. So reason with sense abeg. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Jesusina(m): 12:40pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Personally, I don't believe this incidence really happen to you as a person. 2* You are not matured yet to marry, who feeds you among your family "who will not take it, bkos they did not like her" Did she forced you to marry her ni! Oro jatijati. 3* I wish your so called wife can read your post here, I will ask her to divorce you and I will adopt her as wife and make her live under same roof with her first fruit. Then you go manage ur life with 3 children* 4* What concerns you with the girl's father, Did she hid her from you from onset. Some men are still teenagers!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MissRaine69(f): 12:40pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann:Let’s agree to disagree because I am not petty like that. He is in a relationship with the mother of that very child so any way you want to look at it there is a child in the middle of all this. An unwanted at that. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by InvertedHammer: 12:43pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
/ Many women are married and take the youngest child from her family to live with her husband. They train the children up to university level and heaven didn't break. How someone will treat his step-daughter as an outcast beats me. She is a sister to your kids by blood and you cannot wish that away. / |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:02pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Donjazzy12:You are wrong. The OP knows exactly who she is - she is his wife's daughter. He has known her identity, from day 1. And if I told you that I can bring her in, in what way does that mean I am supporting him? He refused to let her into his house, remember? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by zolajpower: 1:02pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Pwettyella: Can you get me the op's number (s) so that we can fine tune how i can adopt her. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:06pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes: May the wisdom God deposited inside you, continue to increase! Can I get an Amen from somebody? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:17pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Aquariann: The new wife of the biological father, who rejected the kid is highly stuvpid, because she knew the kid was living with the man while she was dating him. And the girl's father who allowed his new wife to reject the kid, is disgustingly pathetic, for allowing such a thing to happen. Most single dads who have custody of their kids, would NOT even marry a woman who does not get along with their children. That is why some women pretend to like the man's kids before marriage, but become wicked stepmothers to such children after they get hitched to the man, and move into his home. As for the OP saying his wife would not accept such a thing, I think he is either lying or being economical with the truth. He did not say WHY she would not accept it. Most women who have kids outside wedlock readily accept such things, because they have been in such a situation, before. Did she say she would not accept it, because she is scared he may cheat on her during their marriage and have kids outside the home? So she wants to use that excuse as a way to prevent him from engaging in infidelity, with other women? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:20pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Lomprico2:Don't mind them. They have not even considered the fact that the grandmum may be weak, infirm or may even lack the energy to take care of an active 7 year old child. In these days, when issues like high blood pressure, arthritis, diabetes etc are plaguing older people, why add to their problems? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:34pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
adontcare:Then if he does not marry his wife again and sends her packing, what happens to the 3 children that they had together? Who looks after them, when he is not around? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:36pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes: Thank you! Your post make sense, die! 1 Like 1 Share |
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