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And you can be pregnant and also dont kno the real owner whc is d main and the worst of it. And this can make innocent child suffer. Cos I was dating a girl then and I knew she was seeing another guy and the other knew she was dating me. Later she said she was pregnant and I denied it. I dont care if shes mine or not. She had the baby, atimes looking at the innocent baby brings many questions .... is this beautiful baby mine? So sooner or later AMA go for DNA. But it's a life time pain to me. And I wont forgiv her even thou we live togeda

Pls read and drop ur views

And the guy will be enjoying himself while the lady will be suffering it when it happens, ladies always suffer more in issues like this

Not only pregnancy, many things involved, all join

Babatundebaabs:
And you can be pregnant and also dont kno the real owner whc is d main and the worst of it. And this can make innocent child suffer. Cos I was dating a girl then and I knew she was seeing another guy and the other knew she was dating me. Later she said she was pregnant and I denied it. I dont care if shes mine or not. She had the baby, atimes looking at the innocent baby brings many questions .... is this beautiful baby mine? So sooner or later AMA go for DNA. But it's a life time pain to me. And I wont forgiv her even thou we live togeda

A lot of innocent children have been brought into the world thru this way. Some women don't even know the real fathers of those children. And we're worried about this country's problems how it came about, what about the home front? Is it ok?

Moderators pls kindly move this thread to the front page

I guess this one is not controversial, so no comments yet abi

Suoo

I'm coming back to comment. Lemme read the text first

Babatundebaabs:
And you can be pregnant and also dont kno the real owner whc is d main and the worst of it. And this can make innocent child suffer. Cos I was dating a girl then and I knew she was seeing another guy and the other knew she was dating me. Later she said she was pregnant and I denied it. I dont care if shes mine or not. She had the baby, atimes looking at the innocent baby brings many questions .... is this beautiful baby mine? So sooner or later AMA go for DNA. But it's a life time pain to me. And I wont forgiv her even thou we live togeda

Hmm such a pity really, so as u were dating her she was still seeing another guy, waoo, she was unfaithful to u. I think u should go for the DNA test to know if the baby is truly yours. That's one of the implications of having many partners, unwanted pregnancies is common, no doubt. But I pity the innocent baby who now becomes the innocent victim of everything.

[quote author=BRMN post=70051572]My people, this is a serious matter oo, and i want all of u to be part of it & contribute.

Has Nigeria become so bad dat a self acclaimed relationship counsellor would now resort to advising women to double date in order to find a husband?

Have men become so scarce in Nigeria that the only way women can get married is now to have back up boyfriends?

I read a thread where many Nairalandlers were commenting about a certain guy called Joro who claimed to be a relationship counsellor where he advised women to double date & have spare boyfriends. And I noticed that many people were condemning him & craving for a genuine relationship counsellor instead of what the so called Joro had to offer.

Well I just searched the net & found this article by Nigerian activist & Relationship Counselor Tayo Demola, which I hope will interest many of u & so I decided to share it here as always.

Should ladies truly have backup boyfriends?? Lol!!

Pls read & share ur views, let's discuss the issues. Drop ur comments.




TEN COGENT REASONS WHY HAVING A BACKUP BOYFRIEND IS DANGEROUS FOR WOMEN -BY TAYO DEMOLA over to the backup boyfriend.
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Really cogent reasons indeed

Wether joro endorsed having multiple partners or not..the fact is most ppl in relationships in naija already have backup boyfriends or girlfriends. There are ladies with six boyfriends and four sugar daddies and there are guys with eight girlfriends and in some cases sef two sugar mummies. Ladies do the multiple thang for financial gains. Imagine a lady her first boyfriend bought her an iphone...second boyfriend bought her an android... Third and fourth boyfriend sent her 50k each to her account and her sugar daddy bought her a clean camry. Now u understand why a number of ladies indulge in it.na lucrative business.

Hmm, really??

So it's a lucrative business u say??

Moderators pls move this thread to the front page

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@lefulefu

Some ladies have six boyfriends & four sugar daddies? Are u really serious? That can't be true. U must be joking.

BRMN:
@lefulefu

Some ladies have six boyfriends & four sugar daddies? Are u really serious? That can't be true. U must be joking.

joking ke?. If i want to add their facebook and instagram liason some of their backup might be running up to 10 or 15. Many ladies can handle their backups professionally though but then the motive for backup relationships for the ladies is financial for the guys is just for male ego.

lefulefu:
joking ke?. If i want to add their facebook and instagram liason some of their backup might be running up to 10 or 15. Many ladies can handle their backups professionally though but then the motive for backup relationships for the ladies is financial for the guys is just for male ego.

This is serious. This is expert oloshoism abi?

And yet we complain about our leaders. The things some ladies do in private is even worse. All for the money. Lord have mercy

BRMN:


This is serious. This is expert oloshoism abi?

And yet we complain about our leaders. The things some ladies do in private is even worse. All for the money. Lord have mercy

all for d glam.so jus forget joro.he was jus re echoing what is already happening.

lefulefu:
all for d glam.so jus forget joro.he was jus re echoing what is already happening.

But was it ok for him as someone who advises people on relationships to give such advice? Being a role model to some people, do u think what he said was proper? I saw many people condemning him and calling him fake on that thread

BRMN:


But was it ok for him as someone who advises people on relationships to give such advice? Being a role model to some people, do u think what he said was proper? I saw many people condemning him and calling him fake on that thread

joro is an attention seeker.he thrives on negativity just to trend. If he had said it was wrong to multiplie date do u think his piece would have gathered this much attention?.he's just doing it for d attention and i dont think a right thinking lady would take him seriously. If u get one serious person who is really worth ur time make u hold am tight. It really pays to be faithful ..what with these deadly stds ravaging our society. Anyway like i said b4..ladies who multiple date mainly do it for financial gain and guys do it for male ego soothing.there's stress in it abeg. U will see some ppl involved in it looking older than their biological yrs. Look at dose girls involved in runz..check dem five yrs later hw dem dey look.

BRMN:


But was it ok for him as someone who advises people on relationships to give such advice? Being a role model to some people, do u think what he said was proper? I saw many people condemning him and calling him fake on that thread

joro is an attention seeker.he thrives on negativity just to trend. If he had said it was wrong to multiplie date do u think his piece would have gathered this much attention?.he's just doing it for d attention and i dont think a right thinking lady would take him seriously. If u get one serious person who is really worth ur time make u hold am tight. It really pays to be faithful ..what with these deadly stds ravaging our society. Anyway like i said b4..ladies who multiple date mainly do it for financial gain and guys do it for male ego soothing.there's stress in it abeg. U will see some ppl involved in it looking older than their biological yrs. Look at dose girls involved in runz..check dem five yrs later hw dem dey look.many will be looking so obese and faded looking.

So much stress in it really

I'm too focused achieving my dream to have a backup boyfriend, the stress is not my thing and am actually not cut out for that shi.t.

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Colourich:
I'm too focused achieving my dream to have a backup boyfriend, the stress is not my thing and am actually not cut out for that shi.t.

U are right. A busy person who has a job or busy schedule won't even have the time to double date, u know!

@ lefulefu, u're right, this Joro guy is a real attention seeker, but i think he might end up destroying his career if he continues to give bad advice to people. What do u think?

BRMN:
@ lefulefu, u're right, this Joro guy is a real attention seeker, but i think he might end up destroying his career if he continues to give bad advice to people. What do u think?

well if he's really a proffesional relationship advicer then he's certainly doing himself more harm than good. But i doubt if he's really a professional love doctor by career cos no sane person would want to jeopadise his real career. He's just doing all this to thrive on online notoriety.

lefulefu:
well if he's really a proffesional relationship advicer then he's certainly doing himself more harm than good. But i doubt if he's really a professional love doctor by career cos no sane person would want to jeopadise his real career. He's just doing all this to thrive on online notoriety.

Yes, no doubt that's his game plan