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Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Afamed: 10:43pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Radiant1020:Yes in Samaru, Zaria |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 10:47pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Acidosis: You're the one that is useless.. jeez, see the nonsense you just typed up there. I've always said it that men who love dependent women do so for the following reasons not because of love Cheating, abuse and submission. Only dependent women tolerate cheating, abuse and whatever and they'll be afraid to leave because of their financial situation. 2 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Afeski(m): 10:50pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
The sad reality is that this generation of Nigerian girls/women lack the ambition to be self dependent 1 Like |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by amiskurie(m): 10:56pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
nlanded:you don blow o, i actually know her. |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Acidosis(m): 11:07pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Elder001: Your obsession with working class women is too much. When I say dependence, I'm not talking in terms of finance only. You think everything is all about money? BTW, what is wrong with having a woman rely on her husband for finance? Don't tell me you're embracing this gold digging thing as the new order. I say it again, if your woman can't depend on you, or not scared of walking away (because of her financial status), you're still useless. Some working class women can't survive 1 day without hearing their Hubby's voice, dependence does not end with money. That you do 8-5 job does not automatically shuts the brain power. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 11:11pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
what about the guys that can't with for you to finish school b4 marriage |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Pataricatering(f): 11:13pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Same men who insist on submission, same men who are intimidated by successful women ? Shior ! You can’t make a successful woman submit to your bs , I hope you guys know that ! Goodluck in eating your cake and having it ! Lol ! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 11:16pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Acidosis: Just confirmed my words... You like dependent women because you know they'll be scared to walk away if you abuse,cheat on them or treat them anyhow. I pity any lady who get married to you with this your ridiculous mentality. 3 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by amakabel: 11:35pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
I heard someone ask that ''y can't women make their own money'' my question now is ''y can't men start getting pregnant and having their own babies on their own. 2 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by madami123: 11:46pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
This lady will go places 2 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 1:14am On Aug 10, 2018 |
amakabel: Your mumu no be here. So it's wrong for a lady to make money? ladies shouldn't make money because they get pregnant and have babies? Linda ikeji, Paris Hilton, Fulurono alakija and other female billionaires they can't get pregnant or give birth abi? Women in the west who work and share bills 50/50 with their husbands they don't also get pregnant, right? This was how one married woman in family section said she can't work because she bleed monthly . Don't go and make money ,keep depending on men for survival. The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits -Albert Einstein 2 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by spiceadole: 2:05am On Aug 10, 2018 |
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue. Social media and reality are 2 different situations. On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything. They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date. In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women. Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud". They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men. In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it. Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady?? As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? " That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us". Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"... It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality... If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady... 90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A. A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival". Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid. The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 2:09am On Aug 10, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: You are using emotion to think simply becoz you are woman and the statement is against women Let break it down All abuse in marriages and relationships have links to financial stability Ever since the begining of paid work men brought average 80% of family income meaning traditionally men were financial providers and meaning women would be attracted to someone who is financial provider in his right, without her looking into what she can provide financial. Hence we have women who ask “can you look after me” meaning she wants to be look after without providing but managing what the man brings on the table We have women who set bars for men eg i want a man who drives a car but herself has nothing to her name not even a cat So basically traditionally women have been depending on men financially and men have been taking advantage abusing women becoz a woman can not walk out from marriage becoz she was never a financial provider but depended. And becoz of year of being a depended they dont no were to start so many stay in those abusive marriages So if a woman is financially stable before marriage, she wont marry to be looked after financially So having her own income helps her if things turn sour in marriage Many marriage from african born and raised couples who moved to the west are failing becoz most women are financially stable, women nolonger depend on man for finance she works and even brings more money. No more advantage for men eg he cheats and forgiven becoz without the man financially she is stuck, no more than you find most men being kicked out and also most women being abusive and in any small issue the man is being threatened to call police on him(in the west any violence towards a woman is big issue) So basically from tradition women have been leeches they look for the fat man who can look after them A financially stable women wouldnt be a victim of abuse via finance aka man being the provider she can easy walk out than a woman who depends on a man financially Hope you got my point 3 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by fcnaxo: 2:26am On Aug 10, 2018 |
pocohantas:The real question is how many dependent women really exist in this our present Nigeria. Sadly few! |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 2:35am On Aug 10, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL:I perfectly understand all you've typed. All these arguments changes nothing. If a ladies financially capabilities is now the yardstick for marriage, you guys should voice out. |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Kennedyiheme: 2:37am On Aug 10, 2018 |
nlanded:dont argue with women.. naturally they dont have sense.... when its time to investigate if their boyfriend is cheating.. there sense they sharpe 1 Like |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 2:39am On Aug 10, 2018 |
davillian:How many "rich" guys date Broke Girls? Don't mistake average with rich please. You can get a rich girl if you exude confidence |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 2:41am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Afamed:Im very observant and sensible. I don't go around billing someone's son. |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 2:43am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Chukapage:Blame it on the society. |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 2:45am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Elder001:Making your personal money is bliss. Who exactly wanna depend on anyone exactly? Nigga please. |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by CrazyPros: 2:56am On Aug 10, 2018 |
spiceadole: Valid argument, though according to you there is still 10% that value independent women. So will you prefer to be dependent? |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 3:27am On Aug 10, 2018 |
spiceadole: Very true I also think men think buying material things is love but sometimes its not as love cant be bought but expressed without much material things eg doing things that most people dont do within your culture and beliefs eg cooking for wife So sometime as men we think buy materials things is love but what happens when you bought all what you can ? U wont be able to express love Also women have been made to believe material things are love, The whole thing is mix up This thread backs me https://www.nairaland.com/4667399/money-millions-still-no-girlfriend He think money has answers to all He has the money but girls turn him down Maybe its his attitude which makes girls not like him |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 3:34am On Aug 10, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: Its not yardstick But i think the message is dont burden a man to look after you when yourself you cannot Eg i hear lots of guys here talking of “upkeep of girlfriend” its as if he has takenover the girl’s parents responsibility to look after their child If she is financially stable in her own right, no guy would feel obliged to give upkeep money In the western world especially among black americans, financial stable women now look into credit history of the guy she think she might marry becoz once she marries him her own good credit history might be affected 1 Like |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Rooneyboy(m): 5:08am On Aug 10, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: Your last statement "men eyes being in ladies money" has put alot of ladies in deep shitt lately. I have a colleague that makes such statement all the time, now she's almost 50yrs looking for the perfect man. Just don't be deceived by your married friends that comes out in public to paint an imaginary picture of them having it all in their marriages . Truth is they go the extra mile to make their marriages work, including contributing their own quota. My advise, "if you like someone, you guys should talk things over before walking down the aisle ". FINANCES IS A BIG FACTOR IN MARRIAGE. 2 Likes |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Rooneyboy(m): 5:17am On Aug 10, 2018 |
highqueen:And how old are you ? |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Rooneyboy(m): 5:30am On Aug 10, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: You must have strength oo, #goofball |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Rooneyboy(m): 5:45am On Aug 10, 2018 |
amakabel: Your stupidity is topnotch. I'm surprise someone could be this daft. |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by eyinjuege: 5:57am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Never a truer word spoken... Ladies need to get their acts together 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Dollabiz: 6:16am On Aug 10, 2018 |
hmm |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Teespice(f): 6:19am On Aug 10, 2018 |
she's correct na. any woman who isn't financially independent and gets married is on her own. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 6:31am On Aug 10, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:saw a blank pm |
Re: A Lady's Comment On Women's Financial Status Before Marriage by Nobody: 6:33am On Aug 10, 2018 |
nlanded:.. taken more seriously. |
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