Truly, on no1, not all guys can handle such info without feeling bad or bitter when they get to know that their gf or fiancee have had quite a couple of sexcapades...the same applies with the ladies on their guys too

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Lol.... you must tell everything.. . because nothing stays hidden forever....

Noted

Olalan:
For me it's better to tell it all, if they love you they will stay and if they can't deal with it will bounce off.
BTW it better while dating than getting some info about your partner when married

It's true to come out open and clean than keep secret you know will hurt your partner later in the future

Me that I like sincerity and openness and lik to learn about our Past and how we can learn from them and avoid similar mistakes.

But what if they ask??... Should we lie or what?

RadicallyBlunt:
God bless you bro!
Op's brained is half-done!

got it right

exporters101:
3 and 4 so irrelevant.

That you have crush on someone else or someone at work has crush on you, that's nothing.


On the other hand, chai, if ladies start to dey confess their body count for their boyfriend, na there the relationship go end.

And if guys start to dey confess their own body count, relationship go still continue ?


All these do 's and don't doesn't really change anything.
If you feel your partner can handle it then tell them. Nothing beats the joy of an open relationship (no secrets) and no one can blackmail you about your past cause your partner knows everything.

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AmiciLord:
Before I and my wife got married she told me about are previous relationships. I had no problems with that at all. All that happened before we met was in the past and we started a new life. I love her and I don't give a fvck who she slept with before we met.

But I never told her mine though.

Your wife is like a high mileage vehicle. Used in US, shipped to Nigeria, used by several yahoo boys before finally being bought by you.

Anyways, after respraying and bodywork no one will know. I salute your courage for settling down with someone with a very high body count.

Previous Relationships indeed. Press her more and she’ll also tell you about her previous abortions.

You own a Vib. Best to keep that to yourself.

I also believe relationships is for MATURED partners who should be wise enough to know that not all fingers come equal and while some have had it easy, others got it the hard way.

Building mistrust by hiding all that is in that list especially when the question comes that "is there anything I should know at this point in our union? " and a lie is set as the foundation, just one wrongly placed brick discovered would lead to the distrust of the entire building structure.

A matured mind is prepared to know and a matured mind would know how to lay down info too.

koncienz:
But what if they ask??... Should we lie or what?

What's the essence of lying? What if you were lied to and later you realised they lied to you, how would you feel

EntertainingYou:

1. Your s*xual history;-[/b] For real, not many boyfriends/girlfriends want to hear the step by step narration and graphic details of how you had s*x in a bathroom stall at the mall with your ex or some random babe.

2. Your body count;- As we already discussed in detail here, for the ladies, only your doctor and gynecologist deserves this information.

Why should I delude myself that "ignorance is bliss" when I already know she isn't a virgin & would have probably had some weird & idiotic sex & probably even aborted a couple of times before?
My resolution: Marry only a virgin so I don't have to worry about who she's been with or how weird her sex life was!
And if you can't marry a confirmed olosho with many years of experience, but can marry who you'd call a "normal" girl who isn't a virgin, then don't dare judge people like me who would take it further & wish to marry only virgins!

Divay22:

And if guys start to dey confess their own body count, relationship go still continue ?


All these do 's and don't doesn't really change anything.
If you feel your partner can handle it then tell them. Nothing beats the joy of an open relationship (no secrets) and no one can blackmail you about your past cause your partner knows everything.

That's it jare. Nothing like openness in a relationship.. Though not everyone can handle the thought of what their partnersm has done previously. Its still good to be open abt it

RadicallyBlunt:
God bless you bro!
Op's brained is half-done!

Abaaaa. early this morning,lol

myca:
The dos and don'ts about marriages these days is just silly.

very silly

Especially because they work on the assumption that everyone is morally bankrupt and has zero sense of decency.

I have zero body count, so nobody should say "don't disclose body count' to me, as if I used to work as a prostitute. And most girls may not have that high a body count, so, why not disclose it? What is the point of being with someone if you cannot tell them everything? How can trust be established in the midst of secrets?

Once left a lady because of no 5...


Although what she said was I send her money too much,

I never told her why I left though.

Make una nor vex abeg but wetin be body count
That said, I like to know it all o, and I'll also tell u all, if u can't stand the heat in the kitchen then u gotta get out of the kitchen.

Divay22:

And if guys start to dey confess their own body count, relationship go still continue ?


All these do 's and don't doesn't really change anything.
If you feel your partner can handle it then tell them. Nothing beats the joy of an open relationship (no secrets) and no one can blackmail you about your past cause your partner knows everything.

And who the guys dey do am with? It's disgusting to know you guys body count, sometimes there's no difference between it and that of a sex worker.

safarigirl:
very silly

Especially because they work on the assumption that everyone is morally bankrupt and has zero sense of decency.

I have zero body count, so nobody should say "don't disclose body count' to me, as if I used to work as a prostitute. And most girls may not have that high a body count, so, why not disclose it? What is the point of being with someone if you cannot tell them everything? How can trust be established in the midst of secrets?

Spot on. I tell my wife everything that goes on with me. My health condition, sources of income, all my bank accounts, my passwords, my inner struggles...you name it and chances are she knows already.

Olalan:
For me it's better to tell it all, if they love you they will stay and if they can't deal with it will bounce off.
BTW it better while dating than getting some info about your partner when married

so it's better u say u don't love your spouse parents or the number of body count?go n read about psychological damage

Op u lie there. After my ex left me for keeping a vital secret from her, that was wen i vow neva to lie to any gal i cum accross again. I hav a daughter b4 i met her and i was afraid if i tel her she wil leave me. So i decide nt to tel her til after our wedding. B4 our traditional wedding, my cousin broda told her abt me having a beautiful daughter n datz d end of me and my darling ex

No Be Today, Na Him Friends Go Still Tell Am. This Is Naija, Nw

Abeg ladies snoop his phone to find out if he is cheating, if he is, please protect yourselves from unwanted std's, sti's and finally HIV

A fellow lady just tested positive to HIV recently, all because of the husband's wandering Dick. Prevention is better than cure, same goes to the men too.

Nice

Should i tell her that i am balling with her best friend Also.
Apart from AMAKA which other girl can disappoint.

Tobyarab:
You should be honest with your partner down to the last detail. A mature person would soak it in and move on with the relationship. An immature person would do the opposite. So, whom do you wish to date? An immature or a mature?

Tolerance level it is. What do you even mean by an immature person.

We all have different tolerance level.

Justice for Offa

Moukandjo:

Simple, man! Marry only a virgin! The non-virgins can marry themselves if they wish!

Aswear, marrying a virgin is sweet.. The thought that no man penetrated her gives u that sweet feeling..

But i no see virgin marry