And I see no reason why any man will be spending on a lady without getting anything in return in this economy.

pocohantas:


The fact that you and so many guys always think men like this do not exist, only goes a long way in showing how majority of you are.

You're not the standard. There are good people out there.
Maybe you should visit that Nairaland thread on the kindest gesture from strangers .

That said, you have broken up with her, make everybody rest.

hisgrace090:
There are people out there who have vowed to touch peoples life positively to the glory of God.

mikejj:
bro u know whats best for you..sit down and talk to yourself. know exactly what you want..that man is sowing a seed in her life,and the day he comes asking for sex do you think she will refuse?that's if they have not been seeing each other behind your back and she don't want to tell you the truth... know what u want!!and imagine how its will be like if d worse happen..

lefulefu:
There's more to this story. Maybe ur girlfriend has secretly agreed to marry this guy after she graduates and this might be the reason the man has taken fully over her finances. Yes some guys might help a lady or someone in need once in a while..nothing to dat. But that one random guy will be paying a girl's house rent monthly or yearly,buy her new phones every three months and pay her school fees just like out just because he feels like it...hmm. I know for sure he's not a philantropist. Buy the way does he not have responsibilities? Im no get parents or younger ones wey he dey look after? Bros op its either this ur girlfriend hoodwink dis guy with lies dat she will marry him or d guy dey chop ur baby steady without u knowing.shine ur eye.

Oluwaferanmi90:


Never claimed the standard, I reach out to people around me too (ladies most times) asking nothing in return.
But this has been going on for over two years and still counting, not a small amount each time he sends and kept a total secret, do the strangers with kind gestures on nairaland do that too??
And the question is a result of her reaction to the breakup, so rest
thanks

pocohantas:


Guy, men have done that and more for women/people without asking anything in return. If it were a woman, would you be so bothered as to how long it has been going on?

The issue here is your girlfriend kept it away from you, she doesn't learn from her lessons and she isn't contented with what she has.

You are the only one that knows her well enough. After telling you to kick her out, we would all logout and continue chatting with our own lovers, while you brood and look at you guys pictures with teary eyes. Analyse the whole thing without bias, if you really think she is cheating, go ahead with the break-up. If you are still having doubts, which is obvious going by this thread, call her and tell her your mind. Be firm in stating what you want henceforth. If she can't abide, she can bounce, if she flops again, you can bounce.

victorian:











So true!

The man will even end up marrying her.

He's protecting his investment and school boyfriend is still asking questions.

My friend has similar story as well.. She ended up marrying the other guy who's spending more on her, immediately after her youth service.
Her school boyfriend almost went crazy with the breakup, after call up letter to service. But shes now married to the other guy. He even owns a house in lekki, shes now a landlady at age 23. Well taken care of, her husband dotes on her .. While the school bf is done with youth service searching for job In his mum's house.
You can see the difference. And moreover she's on the big side, then also looks older than her age. Maybe that's why she chose to marry immediately and discard school love.

She had to choose the available over I love you. They both love her anyways

So op, just move on Biko..
If she ends up bn yours? Thank God .. But if not? Move on.

lefulefu:

how many campus relationships in naija end up in marriage?.....very very few of them.in most cases u will see a campus babe dating a campus guy from hundred level and after graduation they will break up and the girl will go and marry a total stranger just because the total stranger is financially stable.i just dey laugh at male undergraduates wey dey carry university relationship 4 head .

lefulefu:
so buying phone for one girl and sponsoring her in school when its obvious her parents can do dat with ease na touching life ba? everyday we see on tv about ppl earnestly begging for money for kidney transplant and many of these ppl die when nobody answers them.but one man go throw 500k at one girl with probably no need any help and we call dat doin it to d glory of God?.. Ok oo i don hear.

pocohantas:


The fact that you and so many guys always think men like this do not exist, only goes a long way in showing how majority of you are.

You're not the standard. There are good people out there.
Maybe you should visit that Nairaland thread on the kindest gesture from strangers .

That said, you have broken up with her, make everybody rest.

By the way, how old are you two? Students?

Next2Bezee:


I'm sure that even you don't belive the rubbish you just typed.

A man spending 100's of thousands on a girl without getting anything in return? Even the girl's father won't be that stupid.

If her claims were true, then the girl wouldn't have lied; therefore, we can easily conclude that she's just sorry that she got caught.

Why would a pastor from another state neglect his spouse and send all that money to the OP's ex? The phoney god of man must be getting something in return for investing his congregation's tithe on a girl.

hisgrace090:



All I'm too sure is that there is always two side to a coin, an intention is either good or bad and the man action is not left out.

pocohantas:


Yes, I believe the rubbish I typed. If you weren't in so much a hurry to attack, you would have seen I am speaking of generally. Not OP's peculiar situation.

I know most men would never help a woman without wanting to sleep with her. That's why even after taking a lady on a date, they don't understand why she won't wanna follow them home to rumble under the sheets. There are still men that don't act that way, if this man is one of them, I can't be so sure, but they exist.

The fact that it's men arguing and countering this is cool. Hopefully if tomorrow I say no man would ever help a woman tremendously without having other motives, no one will call me a feminist. I will just refer them to this thread .

pocohantas:


Yes, I believe the rubbish I typed. If you weren't in so much a hurry to attack, you would have seen I am speaking of generally. Not OP's peculiar situation.

I know most men would never help a woman without wanting to sleep with her. That's why even after taking a lady on a date, they don't understand why she won't wanna follow them home to rumble under the sheets. There are still men that don't act that way, if this man is one of them, I can't be so sure, but they exist.

The fact that it's men arguing and countering this is cool. Hopefully if tomorrow I say no man would ever help a woman tremendously without having other motives, no one will call me a feminist. I will just refer them to this thread .

lefulefu:
as if she for tell op say she dey sleep wit d guy.if d guy is so kind why not sow a seed in both the life of op and d girlfriend.

pocohantas:


The fact that you and so many guys always think men like this do not exist, only goes a long way in showing how majority of you are.

You're not the standard. There are good people out there.
Maybe you should visit that Nairaland thread on the kindest gesture from strangers .

That said, you have broken up with her, make everybody rest.

By the way, how old are you two? Students?