Shugavee:
The guy was wrong,,, he would hv told her,,, cause since he ordered the taxify ,, it’s expected he would pay.. she was very clear.

Lol... you are right though. The guy requested for a date not the girl so he's expected to foot the bills. I don't understand why we compare Nigerian ladies to others in diaspora. We do not have the same mentality plus here, men do the chasing unlike there where women wouldn't hide their feelings if they like you. If you know you can't afford expensive date, be free to discuss it with her. Leave her to decide whether she will come or not. Most guys will paint themselves rich just to get a girl's attention and after, start complaining.
Biko, act according to your capacity and be truthful to yourself.

Shugavee:
thank You... stand by my opinion regardless

You need a good dick in your life

Nigerian ladies we have now in 2018 are pure trash .. don't waste your money they ain't worth it

Abeg where is the insult?

The guy is at fault. The minute he booked her ride to come see him, she assumed he will still do same when she's leaving.

Guys are the ones who allow ladies to think and act this way. When you give someone an entitlement mentality, they keep having it.

I'm an advocate of spending on your woman in a relationship, but don't go about picking random ladies or inviting random ladies on dates and coming to fill our ears with stories that touch.

The both parties are stupid.

The girl shouldn't have complained at last since she has paid the fare. She complaining makes her stupid and that what she is.

The guy should have closed his eye pay for her tfare since he can spend 17k!!!(jesu) on her. What is small tfare to him. And that makes him stupid too.

If he knows he won't pay he shouldn't have ordered the taxify. That's makes him more stupid.

Since the girl's battery is dead. She shd have thought of a way to go since she has the money. You don’t have to be babyfed by guys every time. Find your way to go home jor. He just spent 17k!!!(jesu) on you. At least show love my girl. Well, that makes her much more stupid.

zicoraads:
The guy is at fault. The minute he booked her ride to come see him, she assumed he will still do same when she's leaving.

Guys are the ones who allow ladies to think and act this way. When you give someone an entitlement mentality, they keep having it.

I'm an advocate of spending on your woman in a relationship, but don't go about picking random ladies or inviting random ladies on dates and coming to fill our ears with stories that touch.

Reciprocal spending, right?

The man wasn't wrong bro. A lady who can't afford her own t-fare has no business going on a date, she's not yet ripe for relationship stuffs.

Like v1vkiz said the other time, date women with class and you won't experience these kind of problems. In a bid to form gentleman some men or guys take out broke ladies who can't fend for themselves.

If you're going out for a date even if you're not going to pay for anything, it is advisable that she go with not less than 5k not just because of t-fare but something can happen anytime.


If you can't behave like a gentlewoman why do you want a guy to behave like a gentleman? The fact that she was even cursing and insulting him shows alot about her.

Shugavee:
I don’t know.

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Olalan:
Nigerian girls and the entitlement mentality that's why many are vulnerable to getting into wrong hands.....
BTW even the so called independent financially well to do girl isn't left out of this madness, a friend told his aunt who lives aboard about not wanting to get into a relationship cause of money and she was surprised saying dating a girl isnt about money over there as they could share date bills sometimes........

Did I hear you say share bills

Perhaps , the ladies there don't even need your money...#fact

letterman:


could not have planned

Hehehe. No, I wrote what I meant. Read the post I was responding to very well. Grammatically, yours is a better construction, though. But I was responding in context.

Shugavee:
she paid didn’t she?? He would hv told her.. that’s the point.. what if she didn’t hv money with her,,, n he begged her to come out to chill,,, what would she hv done?

You lack understanding. You don't have to use gender to choose a side. That girl is a thief!

PrimadonnaO:
Y'all cut the girl some slack.

Her complaints were justified... oga booked the ride. It was natural for her to assume it was a card trip. Since it was a cash payment, he should have told her she'd be paying once they get to her destination.

Perhaps she didn't plan for that expense incurred.

All these dates here and there. That's why these days, I do things strictly on my own terms.. if I'm not in the mood for an outing, I stay in my house, if you look like you won't be worth my time, I face my work, if I'm in no mood to spend my money, I stay in my house. Can't be having expectations of people.

You sef. From the story, the girl didn't spend a dime on the date. Dude even paid for the uber that brought her and then she had the guts to block him after he spent 17k to please her or should I say help break up her supposed boredom.

This kind of things annoy me so much! Why should a guy be paying for a girl tf because u both want to see. His he your mother or father!? Rubbish! He shouldn't have even paid it when she arrived the destination. The girl now really feeling entitled to the guy money! Fvuck! Guys please stop giving girls tf money. If a girl wants to come visit u, then she should come on her terms!

letterman:


should

what's the difference bro

Earthbound:

You sef. From the story, the girl didn't spend a dime on the date. Dude even paid for the uber that brought her and then she had the guts to block him after he spent 17k to please her or should I say help break up her supposed boredom.

I'm not saying she wasn't supposed to spend her money. My argument is that he should have told her she'd be paying. People are used to different kind of things, so it affects their expectations.

For some girls, when you call them out, you've got to take care of everything. Lol

letterman:


got

Thank you!

JuanDeDios:

I doubt she could have not planned for it since she came with an Uber which he paid for before he went on to incur other expenses.

You never can tell...

Earthbound:

You sef. From the story, the girl didn't spend a dime on the date. Dude even paid for the uber that brought her and then she had the guts to block him after he spent 17k to please her or should I say help break up her supposed boredom.

As for the blocking part. There's no telling what happened. Argument probably escalated and dude must have said hurtful things.

PrimadonnaO:


I'm not saying she wasn't supposed to spend her money. My argument is that he should have told her she'd be paying. People are used to different kind of things, so it affects their expectations.

For some girls, when you call them out, you've got to take care of everything. Lol

Maybe. She shouldn't have been mad at him though.

As PrimaDonna wey you be, come take me out na.

Earthbound:

Maybe. She shouldn't have been mad at him though.

As PrimaDonna wey you be, come take me out na.

And then when I don't pay for your Taxify ride, you'll come here and call me names.

PrimadonnaO:


And then when I don't pay for your Taxify ride, you'll come here and call me names.

Nah. I'm better than that. We'll not split up after the date. We'll crown it with some 'activities'.
Your moniker makes me imagine you as a feisty woman. *licks lips*

Earthbound:

Nah. I'm better than that. We'll not split up after the date. We'll crown it with some 'activities'.
Your moniker makes me imagine you as a feisty woman. *licks lips*

Oloriburuku!

PrimadonnaO:


Oloriburuku!

Ha! Emi na?! Kilagbe Kileju?



I said it. No be small feisty.

pansophist:
It's easy to blame the ladies, but if Nigerian men stop aiding and abetting this passive extortion, the ladies will have no choice but to stop it. A woman asking you to pay for her transport fare is one big red flag that any self-respecting man should never condone.

What I also know for a fact is that a girl interested in a man will be in her best behaviour, and blatant extortion masked under "date" will be the least of her focus. Men should also learn to read passive cues to determine if the girl wants to use you as a cash machine.

In the end, a woman will only go as far as permitted. The choice is yours

God bless you for the bolded

PrimadonnaO:


I'm not saying she wasn't supposed to spend her money. My argument is that he should have told her she'd be paying. People are used to different kind of things, so it affects their expectations.

For some girls, when you call them out, you've got to take care of everything. Lol

At the very least, she 'planned' to pay for the uber which is still in the taxify range. Considering she could have called for a cab but for her phone that 'lost charge'.

With both incidents, the guy could easily have believed his date would naturally have the cash to pay for either or both of her trips and would not be a short for her. His assumption whether right or wrong created the initial crack that ended up with fuses blown.

'maybe' if had been a bit concerned about her statement and the lady not presumptuous, that date could have yielded future fruits and maybe just maybe, wedding aisle things.

Case in point and lesson to all. Male or female: go along with your tfare on dates. Gbam!

The guy is not only a learner but a foolish one at that

I detest when fellow guys can't be manly in their stance & choose the cheaper way of getting to buy their way out. From all account the lady in question doesn't even "send" him & the olodo already splashed 17k. Then WTF is he complaining? Since he has already declared himself the pay master.

Fernandowski:
That's why I get ps4 and good trap music to keep my mind off women



So the guy has to foot all the bills?? Like everything?? She doesn't work and make her own doe or what?? None of my business though


Being single is far better than all these bullshit

Good choice bro until you're sure you've finally met who has earned such attention & stress.
Abeg what's on your latest trap playlist

pansophist:
It's easy to blame the ladies, but if Nigerian men stop aiding and abetting this passive extortion, the ladies will have no choice but to stop it. A woman asking you to pay for her transport fare is one big red flag that any self-respecting man should never condone.

What I also know for a fact is that a girl interested in a man will be in her best behaviour, and blatant extortion masked under "date" will be the least of her focus. Men should also learn to read passive cues to determine if the girl wants to use you as a cash machine.

In the end, a woman will only go as far as permitted. The choice is yours

Couldn't have said it better

Shugavee:
yes.

lol

Stop carrying any random lady u just see on faceook and twitter on dates. Many of dem dey look for men wey go feed dem cos dey are hungry and looking 4 money.