Guys a friend needs your advice on this issue,he's not on nairaland so I'm helping him to share....he wrote

I've been dating a girl,the love of my life for the past 3 years ,she knows everything about me because I've never lied to her ,I presumed I knew everything about her too until I found out through one of her friends that she has a 4 yrs old from her last relationship, this is a girl I'm trying to marry by December ....the most painful part is that her parents and sibling hid it from me all these while ,I feel betrayed and I no longer trust her at all...she and her pple have been calling and begging ,but right now I'm thinking of calling everything off because who knows how many other secrets whe may be hiding ...pls advice me.

Guy do more findin cause she has dated more than 8 men within that 3years

Ekez:
Guy do more findin cause she has dated more than 8 men within that 3years

Fled and run because your life is in danger........

people do anything to protect their relationship..it is not enough reason to break up with her..she hid it from you,fine..you should be happy knowing the fact that,both of you will not visit pastors insearch of a baby...if you truely love her,try and have a rethink..i know you've made up your mind.

Op,If she told you herself that she had a four year old child from her previous relationship,will you still have gone ahead with the relationship?.
What she did is what every woman in her shoe would have done.The decision to continue or call off the relationship lies in your hand

dump her abeg, marry her at your own risk

upower123:
Fled and run because your life is in danger........

how best do you think I should do it so that it wouldn't be too mean.

donbachi:
people do anything to protect their relationship..it is not enough reason to break up with her..she hid it from you,fine..you should be happy knowing the fact that,both of you will not visit pastors insearch of a baby...if you truely love her,try and have a rethink..i know you've made up your mind.

she has a kid...and she's probably still seeing the child's father .

Kimsokrates:
Op,If she told you herself that she had a four year old child from her previous relationship,will you still have gone ahead with the relationship?.
What she did is what every woman in her shoe would have done.The decision to continue or call off the relationship lies in your hand

She should have come clean from the beginning,what's the need trying to hide something that will still come out in the open one day.

Having a child is not a disease, but hiding it from a guy you want to marry is worse than cancer.
FLEE my guy.

Call it off. The girl and here family members ain't good people, you should not marry a girl like that, or marry from such a family.

Ops friend its not easy at all. Some people have been there. So if its difficult for you to forgive her please move ahead.

Like people above have already said, Leave Her.
If someone who you plan to marry and her family could hide something like that from you, the can hide more nasty things from you.
Moreover, the chances that she's still seeing and will continue seeing the child's father is extremely high.

As someone has said, a child is not a disease, but hiding the fact? That's a serious character flaw. Can you deal with secrets and possible disappointments later on?

If you can't deal with secrets all your life, ghost her. If possible, just leave town, say nothing. Save yourself from possible backlash if you try to breakup with her.

Passy089:



how best do you think I should do it so that it wouldn't be too mean.

You Want Make I Stone You Slap?
You don't want what to be mean?

For them to hide this from you is mean.
See, if they call you and start begging, start your own begging. Beg them to leave you alone for life.

And warn them not to take your matter to any shrine or alter, that you will be watching them (scare them).

And Finally, say this to them "you people are evil" in your dialect.

Don't Mention!

Passy089:



how best do you think I should do it so that it wouldn't be too mean.

Your friend typed this one too?

My son, you are never going to be happy in that relationship.

For crying out loud,how many signs do you want me to show you before you realise that this lady is my demon sent on a mission before she met you.

As your God I advice you to let this demon continue her work on earth.

If you want to dare me, get married to her and I will make sure I frustrate you till you return to Hades.

they are just starting,..they will do u ka ima nkean ima nkeozo

chioma-ajunwa u must answer

Brother the real issue here is TRUST,ask yourself are u gonna be able to trust her after she hid such information from you? And please why asking ursef this question remember that MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE!

I don talk my own!!

she's not sharp she should learn how to pin a man down with pregnancy from fancy4eve mother

You just have to end the relationship asap else you might end in regret.

Op you said it is your friend yet you personalize everything here. It wouldn’t kill you if you admit it’s you. We all have burdens we are carrying

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Kimsokrates:
Op,If she told you herself that she had a four year old child from her previous relationship,will you still have gone ahead with the relationship?.
What she did is what every woman in her shoe would have done.The decision to continue or call off the relationship lies in your hand

abeg not all single mothers are secretive....some will tell you straight up..if you agree fine..if not buzz off....don't say every woman please..I don't like secretive people... they are dangerous

I wonder what else she can be hiding? Hiv status? Genotype?
I see no reason why she would hide this for three years. I mean fine she can hide it to find love, but after seeing that the relationship is stable she should have told you. And this should have been in the first year. Who will stay with definitely stay. Mehn! This woman is capable of getting pregnant with some else's child in your home and you won't know.

godfatherx:
Having a child is not a disease, but hiding it from a guy you want to marry is worse than cancer.
FLEE my guy.

Exactly on point. The family can even kill. Nothing wrong having a kid outside marriage but hidding it from someone she want to marry and her family too are involved, goes to show that they are bad. Flee

Passy089:
Guys a friend needs your advice on this issue,he's not on nairaland so I'm helping him to share....he wrote

I've been dating a girl,the love of my life for the past 3 years ,she knows everything about me because I've never lied to her ,I presumed I knew everything about her too until I found out through one of her friends that she has a 4 yrs old from her last relationship, this is a girl I'm trying to marry by December ....the most painful part is that her parents and sibling hid it from me all these while ,I feel betrayed and I no longer trust her at all...she and her pple have been calling and begging ,but right now I'm thinking of calling everything off because who knows how many other secrets whe may be hiding ...pls advice me.

That's the way to go......The foundation of your relationship was built on lies.

She can no longer be trusted

You can't trust her family

Leave now before you receive a terrible knock out

ShenTeh:


Your friend typed this one too?

what's your problem? must you scrutinize everything?? I'm trying to help out someone here by typing on his behalf. that's exactly what he told me.