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Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Eglobalma: 9:43am On Sep 01, 2018 |
So first, I am very polite and mind my business a lot. I grew up to realize like every adult do, that life is no fairytale and that you must work hard by yourself to succeed. Even Davido with his fathers wealth is always doing his best to be somebody because ur fathers money can only get u so far in life. Now everyday I’m always hustling trying to be relevant without support from anyone but God, I don’t have time to play or womanize cuz I’m trying not to end up as a cup in hand beggar. But I noticed I have a very charming demeanor, im one of those people u just see and instantly try to be friends with, u may think I’m delusional but for all I can remember people always try to be my friend wherever I go. The thing is I’m always polite, the type to greet u , smile and leave but I noticed people around me always want more. They start giving me unnecessary attitudes when I don’t give them space to “visit me” , “sit with them for hours chatting” “stroll out together and waste time” (the same time I’m trying to use to build a life for myself) they become bitter and make me their enemy. I have experienced this my whole adult life. Recently I moved to a new place and the same thing happed, a particular girl there always knocked on my door everyday asking me why I don’t sit down outside playing, (can u fucking believe that, a man of 29 should sit outside playing) that I’m always inside. (Funny part is no one ever sits outside since I moved here) and Guess what, we are only four in the house. The first guy upstairs never sits outside, barely talks to anyone and she doesn’t bother him. The other lady upstairs , always indoors writing articles cuz she’s a freelancer..the amenities Neigbour never bothers her, they never talk even. Then there’s the amebor Neigbour who always disturbs me, I couldn’t take it anymore and I had to warn her never to knock on my door again! I tried not being mean, I did everything possible..told her my family story and that I’m alone in the world struggling so she would know why I’m always busy but no she kept bothering me. Moral of the story, some people don’t deserve friendliness and why am I always targeted. Is it now bad to be charming, that’s if I’m even charming cuz I keep attracting psychopaths. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by futuregovernor: 10:09am On Sep 01, 2018 |
I don't understand you,come again please 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Prognose: 10:12am On Sep 01, 2018 |
So what advice do you want exactly? Embrace who you are. There are people that will accept you for you and won't bother trying to change you. Those are your real friends. Those are the people that matter. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by kelish(f): 10:13am On Sep 01, 2018 |
Me i dnt understand how someone will be give the " you are disturbing me atitude" and them will still continue 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Liliyann(f): 10:29am On Sep 01, 2018 |
Op the lady likes you and simply want more!! Why not give her what she wants or are you waiting for her to make the first move? You can be the man in her life and be supplying all her needs!! That's how real men roll 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Eglobalma: 10:40am On Sep 01, 2018 |
Liliyann: Guess what? She has a boyfriend that keeps coming every week!!! The guy barely greets me now cuz he noticed she’s always trying to be close with me. She’s not my type, she’s all those over religious and oversabi type of girls..those I know better than u type. I was friendly at first, making her laugh and all but she started pushing it. Would bang on my door and comman me to come outside, then complain that I’m inside my own fucking house? Like WTF 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Nobody: 11:25am On Sep 01, 2018 |
I may know the girl you're referring to |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by chigozie1010: 11:28am On Sep 01, 2018 |
So.....what do you want we (NLders) to do? |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by chiommy123(f): 11:34am On Sep 01, 2018 |
I think you started it and now she has fallen for you. Maintain your distance and keep a straight face when you see her |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Airforce1(m): 11:40am On Sep 01, 2018 |
Mtcheww |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Mcy56(f): 12:10pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
@Op, start giving the lady attitude. Be on your own and stop greeting her if its possible. You dont want to start what you cannot finish cos compound relationship is completely out of it. Dont listen to the advice that you should give her what she wanted. She's greedy and a trouble maker. Whatever you have started with her, stop it. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Fourwinds: 2:50pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Mcy56:good advice |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Eglobalma: 4:53pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Mcy56: Thanks dear, done that already. Told her to keep her distance |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by OfficialAPCNig: 5:37pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Eglobalma:You wrote all these in one paragraph and you expect us to read am abi? Your case don reach village. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by eniorisha(m): 6:20pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
If u want to move fast, go alone. But if u wan go far, move with people. I feel u are somehow rigid. Why don't u relax your stance a little. Not everyone trying getting close to your are out to exploit u(sexually), or frustrate your hustling life. A proverb in Yoruba says: If one closes his eyes for bad people to pass, good people will pass too, he won't know. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Nobody: 6:48pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
I can't believe I just wasted 45seconds reading sh*t from a narcissistic slowpoke. If you're friendly to people, then its okay, because you're the nice one, but when they try to be friendly with you then they are desperate. So great was your desire to show the world how self centered you are that you had to make a post about it.. Oga park for one corner... Look outside the window and see folks enjoying their life, world doesn't revolve around anyone, so get a grip on yourself , 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Kudducini(m): 6:57pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
what are you always doing alone inside? you shouldn't be sitting alone inside else they think you don't have a future. But as for the girl who keeps disturbing you, try hanging different girls pix in your room |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Eglobalma: 7:47pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Kudducini: And what they think should bother me because? ![]() |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Eglobalma: 7:57pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Kudducini: To answer ur question even tho I didn’t want to, I’m inside hustling looking for clients cuz I’m a yahoo yahoo , we yahoo yahoo are always indoors ! So no bitch is allowed , excepts she’s getting fuckedd ..now tell ur bitch to back offf !!!!! |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by TOMSY(f): 7:58pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
rychard:God bless you. I thought i was the only one seeing through his bullshit. When you start having problem with most of the people you meet, just know that you are the one with the problem 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Kudducini(m): 7:59pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Eglobalma: You have problem 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by TOMSY(f): 8:01pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Prognose:So even if he has a bad character (as clear in his case, then he should'nt allow anyone to change him?. Your own advice weak me o. Imagine him calling them 'psycopaths' behind their backs, just because they are nice to you. SMH for op o. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by TOMSY(f): 8:02pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Kudducini:He sure does. He needs a psychologist ASAP. Ibwas surprised some girls were supporting him. Birds of a feather... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Mcy56(f): 8:10pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
TOMSY:You are actually looking at this from one angle. We are all different and have different personality. Some introverts likes to be alone and not disturbed at all; they want to associate only if they feel like not when someone is pressurizing them for friendship. Some don't know how to make friends 'cos it becomes boring to them along the way. If you read what he said well, that the lady's bf hardly greets him again. So what do you want him to do? To keep romancing the lady all in the name of friendship till one jealous bf waylay him somewhere? I read where someone says ladies were supporting him. I think it's for both of them's good anyway but you can enlighten me the more sha. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Prognose: 8:17pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
TOMSY: He has not said anything that indicates he has bad character. He wants to be left alone, no be by force to make friends. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by TOMSY(f): 8:30pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Mcy56:I understand you perfectly, but do you think he didn't have to include this...'' Is it now bad to be charming, that’s if I’m even charming cuz I keep attracting PSYCOPATHS.'' to make his point? My own opinion tho. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Mcy56(f): 8:33pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Prognose:Exactly. Why must someone force himself or herself on him all in the name of friendship? Someone like me, I like my privacy and will not just accept any person as a friend. Besides, they live together, he might have seen some attitudes or moves he doesn't like, thus try to keep his distance. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by TOMSY(f): 8:35pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Prognose:What I'm trying to tell you is that you can't tell someone to remain rigid such that nobody would be able to HELP him adjust any part of his character that needs adjustment. Of course people have different personalities, but it's not a good thing when you're not open to corrections. Cheers... |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Mcy56(f): 8:37pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
TOMSY:Well, I believed he's in the best position to define what he meant by that. The use of the word 'psycopaths' might be a bit offensive but nevertheless, I want to believe that he was literarily describing the kind of friends that his 'good looks' I think, attracts or brings along his path. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by TOMSY(f): 8:40pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Mcy56: Did you see this? ''To answer ur question even tho I didn’t want to, I’m inside hustling looking for clients cuz I’m a yahoo yahoo , we yahoo yahoo are always indoors ! So no bitch is allowed , excepts she’s getting fuckedd ..now tell ur bitch to back offf !!!!!' I replied because of this actually. |
Re: Why Do I Always Experience This, Please Advice by Mcy56(f): 8:43pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
TOMSY:Lol. Don't take it personal. You don't even know him talkless of the lady in question. I think he was been sarcastic here. Just let it slide. ![]() |
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