Hanseel1:


No man is scared of being financially responsible but they want you as a woman to also be financially responsible. It's a collective work.

I've always said it that ladies who speak like this are poor ladies, made ladies don't have time for all these senseless debates. It's poor ladies who always use the "real man " stuff to escape responsibilities.

Homely woman. It's time you stop deceiving yourself on this forum, no man wants just a homely woman. Other qualities+ being homely are desired by men of this era and I believe you know those qualities.

Immediately, I saw your post I knew the kind of responsibility you were talking about.

Don't bother yourself quoting me with insults.

if u get a women who is financially stable n homely at the same time,, what can u offer her,, hope u would still learn to be a homely man,,, because hope U don’t expect women to make money for the home n take care of the home,, while to go work n do nothing else!!! Women r not ur slaves

babasolution:


you dnt write like a man,its clearly evident,thats why i could infer u a weak male and nt a man

I'll have a reply for you when you type something readable.

I don't deal with illiterates.

This is the most sensible comment I've read on the post today.

majekoam:


Correction. Most of the guys you've met or been around with are pricks.

Also of all the women that have commented about men. Have you met all of Us... Those comments are wildly ignorant.

The tables can be turned...alot of men have plenty of stories of being messed over by women so lets not be partisan and hypocritical.

The fact is that most ladies would prefer a well to do guy. The problem is that SOME of those well to do guys prey on it and take advantage....

Then Ladies you have a choice... Take a risk and suffer with a guy that might not be all set but is going places (Usually the nice guy or the quiet ones who are either overlooked and exploited) and is more likely to end well (but not all the time)... or continue to "Enjoy" with "Bad guys", who are Fresh, Paid, will most likely be using you and then dump you (The writing is on the wall - He is a "Bad Guy" and then you come on every social media platform to then call the male gender a bunch of P-nis led demons...

....Oh and if your thoughts are Id rather go with the bad guy because he has money....then I dont have any sympathy for you.

One last point....there are maaaany women who are in great relationships and marriages...they just are afraid of letting the world know because they know there are many low-life women that would be willing to snatch their boyfriends/husbands if they could.

Essay over.
Peace y'all.

kunleweb:



Pure water as against Table water.

By the way, i have a machine fabrication business and will be producing farm equipment too 2019

You can't near my sole,trust me,you'll die trying.


Why you're forming high and mighty on the local scene, i'm resuming commodity exportation. Oode.


5 Million Yams yearly alone cancels those rubbish you typed, work the maths out.


Now get lost.

who dash you? I say who dash you? You are just blabbing...

Remember you called me jobless, remember?

Shugavee:
firstly U r foolish, u know why I never talked about them coming here or not,, do u now think those African Americans will date a broke Nigerian boy?? Or an uneducated idiot that will beat them up?? That shit has nothing to do with culture,, there r women who feel they r bellow men even some whit women,, not all women r feminist!! But they benefit from feminism n don’t take shit!!

are u trying 2 say that African American women don't date broke guys? Are u saying that d guys African American women date are educated and that their men don't beat up women?

Shugavee:
if u get a women who is financially stable n homely at the same time,, what can u offer her,, hope u would still learn to be a homely man,,, because hope U don’t expect women to make money for the home n take care of the home,, while to go work n do nothing else!!! Women r not ur slaves

I agree, many men are guilty of such. When i see how women are treated by some men, i just shake my head. They're products of absentee fathers or bad fatherism hence, they perpetuate the system that produced them, unfortunately, there aren't conscious or their conditions and continue with the same process.

The truth is that every lady in Nigeria wants a man that is wealthy or has a lot of money to throw around. They easily ignore the ones that are struggling to make it and have a great future/vision. I've been on both sides of the coin(struggling at a point in my life and then living comfortably now) and I know what ladies reaction are. To be honest, most of the guys you call Bleep boys are actually not. Guys reason logically and no guy messes around with a good-natured lady who has something more than sex to offer in a relationship. It will shock you to know that majority of the ladies that come online to announce how men are scum are jobless, lack intellect and ambition and have nothing other than sex to offer in a relationship and it doesn't take a guy more than three outings with the girl to discover this. The other reason why a guy beats his wife or girlfriend, apart from the fact that the guy is naturally violent, is because he married or is dating a slayqueen who only channels or her efforts into caring about how she looks and nothing more. She feels entitled and believes her physical or facial beauty is the reason why the guy should spend on her. I have a lot of female friends that are quite wealthy and working class ladies. Many are married because they decided not to unrealistically set astronomical standards for men. The few that aren't married actually made this same mistake and are trying to correct it now. Stop listening to social media rants from ladies who claim to be ill-treated by guys- Many of them have no jobs and only rely on the men for everything. Sadly, majority of guys can differentiate between ladies that can add value to them and those that will set them back. The other day, I was reading a post here on Ifu Ennada talking about how she needs a boyfriend. My first thought was, "What job does this lady do or what is her profession?If I want to date her what value will she be adding to my life?" I found it difficult to answer these questions. Same with Linda Ikeji. She's a blogger but I know how much bloggers make on the average. Are her own fingers laced with diamond that her income seem to be in wide variance with other super bloggers?Have you ever thought about why the likes of Mercy Aigbe, Rita Dominic, Genevieve Nnaji and other female actresses flaunt a lot of wealth while their male counterparts that are quite as good if not better are just struggling to barely live comfortably? And you come here to say that these ladies are rich and comfortable but guys aren't coming. Which sane man wants to date a corporate prostitute?Guys know these things even if nobody says them. No man(both rich and poor) wants to marry a lady that with either not impact his life or may even send him to his early grave.

kunleweb:
I'm begging for an answer, why are there too many single ladies these days. Just heard of a stunt where a sister ( rich and graduate, working class with car who had no husband ) pulled a game-play to unseat her uneducated sister from her husband, i'm left bewildered why, why are there too many single sisters out-there left unmarried. I need answers. I really do as it beats my understanding.

iwatch:
who dash you? I say who dash you? You are just blabbing...

Remember you called me jobless, remember?

Remember to look out for me in the news from next year, out


Pained. Permanently ignored

majekoam:


Correction. Most of the guys you've met or been around with are pricks.

Also of all the women that have commented about men. Have you met all of Us... Those comments are wildly ignorant.

The tables can be turned...alot of men have plenty of stories of being messed over by women so lets not be partisan and hypocritical.

The fact is that most ladies would prefer a well to do guy. The problem is that SOME of those well to do guys prey on it and take advantage....

Then Ladies you have a choice... Take a risk and suffer with a guy that might not be all set but is going places (Usually the nice guy or the quiet ones who are either overlooked and exploited) and is more likely to end well (but not all the time)... or continue to "Enjoy" with "Bad guys", who are Fresh, Paid, will most likely be using you and then dump you (The writing is on the wall - He is a "Bad Guy" and then you come on every social media platform to then call the male gender a bunch of P-nis led demons...

....Oh and if your thoughts are Id rather go with the bad guy because he has money....then I dont have any sympathy for you.

One last point....there are maaaany women who are in great relationships and marriages...they just are afraid of letting the world know because they know there are many low-life women that would be willing to snatch their boyfriends/husbands if they could.

Essay over.
Peace y'all.

Guy, guy, guy....how many times I call u? Abeg chop knuckle with double hand

Shugavee:
if u get a women who is financially stable n homely at the same time,, what can u offer her,, hope u would still learn to be a homely man,,, because hope U don’t expect women to make money for the home n take care of the home,, while to go work n do nothing else!!! Women r not ur slaves

Is this post for me or for another individual?

I didn't say you should take care of the home. Read my post carefully and understand first before you quote me.

smeag0l:
The truth is that every lady in Nigeria wants a man that is wealthy or has a lot of money to throw around. They easily ignore the ones that are struggling to make it and have a great future/vision. I've been on both sides of the coin(struggling at a point in my life and then living comfortably now) and I know what ladies reaction are. To be honest, most of the guys you call Bleep boys are actually not. Guys reason logically and no guy messes around with a good-natured lady who has something more than sex to offer in a relationship. It will shock you to know that majority of the ladies that come online to announce how men are scum are jobless, lack intellect and ambition and have nothing other than sex to offer in a relationship and it doesn't take a guy more than three outings with the girl to discover this. The other reason why a guy beats his wife or girlfriend, apart from the fact that the guy is naturally violent, is because he married or is dating a slayqueen who only channels or her efforts into caring about how she looks and nothing more. She feels entitled and believes her physical or facial beauty is the reason why the guy should spend on her. I have a lot of female friends that are quite wealthy and working class ladies. Many are married because they decided not to unrealistically set astronomical standards for men. The few that aren't married actually made this same mistake and are trying to correct it now. Stop listening to social media rants from ladies who claim to be ill-treated by guys- Many of them have no jobs and only rely on the men for everything. Sadly, majority of guys can differentiate between ladies that can add value to them and those that will set them back. The other day, I was reading a post here on Ifu Ennada talking about how she needs a boyfriend. My first thought was, "What job does this lady do or what is her profession?If I want to date her what value will she be adding to my life?" I found it difficult to answer these questions. Same with Linda Ikeji. She's a blogger but I know how much bloggers make on the average. Are her own fingers laced with diamond that her income seem to be in wide variance with other super bloggers?Have you ever thought about why the likes of Mercy Aigbe, Rita Dominic, Genevieve Nnaji and other female actresses flaunt a lot of wealth while their male counterparts that are quite as good if not better are just struggling to barely live comfortably? And you come here to say that these ladies are rich and comfortable but guys aren't coming. Which sane man wants to date a corporate prostitute?Guys know these things even if nobody says them. No man(both rich and poor) wants to marry a lady that with either not impact his life or may even send him to his early grave.

You spoke well. I'm not speaking for myself by the way. I was just curious. I'm surrounded by many good ladies and it shocks me to the marrow, i had to probe

dasparrow:


Many are single because the average Nigerian Bred male is a misogynist, a cheat, a scammer, a rapist and a pedophile. No woman in her sane mind will want to spend the rest of her life with such kind of individuals. It is unhealthy to raise a family with such kind of human beings who have questionable character and depraved minds.

Besides, the entire world knows that the average Nigerian bred male treats his wife like a slave. Now why would anyone with a functioning brain willingly go into slavery? Today, children can be gotten without being married. Most women want children, not misogynist husbands that will oppress, abuse and enslave them. Life is too short for that!

I understand your point, but it's clear you are talking about the Kind of guys you have met.
Sorry for the heartbreaks , but we still have many responsible guys, and your brothers or cousins are responsible

lexy2014:
are u trying 2 say that African American women don't date broke guys? Are u saying that d guys African American women date are educated and that their men don't beat up women?

most of them don’t,, a broke guy in America isn’t the same with a broke Nigerian guy!!! Their mentality is shitt n westernized women can’t adopt deal with such rubbish

dasparrow:


Can you blame your women? In the past, our mothers and grandmothers married and stuck with our broke fathers and grandfathers. But guess what? The minute our fathers and grandfathers finally hit it big and became rich, they dumped the woman of their youth - our mothers and grandmothers who stuck with them in trying times - and went on to marry some twenty-two year old.

African men can never be trusted and I will never advice any female related to me to settle with some broke Nigerian or African nigga. Go and make money first because it takes money to raise a family.

This is why Africans can never seem to get out of poverty. You don't even have sufficient money to take care of yourself yet you are dreaming of bringing a woman and innocent children into your poverty stricken life to suffer with you. Nonsense!

i concur with u on this....

Hanseel1:


Is this post for me or for another individual?

I didn't say you should take care of the home. Read my post carefully and understand first before you quote me.

I believe u didn’t understand ur own post!!

Meanwhile, Below are the common reasons for late marriage. You may add Feminism and Bad attitude to it if you like!

1. Money related issues/fear of poverty.

2. Waiting to complete Education.

3. Feeling immature.

4. Family troubles and non-agreements.

5. Not seeing your kinda partner/ being too selective!

6. Already got a bed partner, boyfriend/girlfriend things,baby mama/papa things etc or involving in masturbation, homosexualism, etc.

7. Fear of marriage.

8. Spiritual problems eg having spiritual spouse.

9. Medical problems. eg impotence.

10. Environmental problems eg bad friends.

11. Expensive dowry, wedding cost, bridal gifts, etc.


Abu-Twins

fvck boys everywere

Shugavee:
most of them don’t,, a broke guy in America isn’t the same with a broke Nigerian guy!!! Their mentality is shitt n westernized women can’t adopt deal with such rubbish

were did u get that? Have u dated an unemployed guy from d western world 2 have come 2 that conclusion?

MissWrite:



Ha.... ; my own case is strong. I'm not a wife o! You need to keep looking.

All the best in your search, hun; God will see your heart....

Now I understand, you are a man
Bad market

Hanseel1:


No man is scared of being financially responsible but they want you as a woman to also be financially responsible. It's a collective work.

I've always said it that ladies who speak like this are poor ladies, made ladies don't have time for all these senseless debates. It's poor ladies who always use the "real man " stuff to escape responsibilities.

Homely woman. It's time you stop deceiving yourself on this forum, no man wants just a homely woman. Other qualities+ being homely are desired by men of this era and I believe you know those qualities.

Immediately, I saw your post I knew the kind of responsibility you were talking about.

Don't bother yourself quoting me with insults.

It’s poor ladies that want men who are providers? What planet are you living on? Or are you just delusional? I’m not here to argue about my financial status as this is only argument that most of you guys can ever counter me with. I know I’m good, never struggled and never will. Thanks for your concern though.

You want women who are financially comfortable but just not more than you...right I get it. A woman who you can still have total control of, still cook, clean and do everything in the house but someone who you can also share the financial bills with. Rightttt, I get it. Someone who can help you do your job financially, but you still want to be regarded as the man of the house, riightttt I get it. Someone who is helping you in every aspect but helping her equally to do domestic chores is non existent in your world. Rightttt I get it. I find it so funny how most of you men are so adamant about women being financially responsible and helping out financiallly in the house but don’t have that same energy when it comes to things that are not financially related. I believe in gender roles. Why? Because I believe when there’s no gender roles the woman will carry the burden. She ends up doing nearly everything, being super woman. I’ve seen it happen too many times.

why the blame game people?
it is worrisome that as single men and women, majority of us are at a loss as to why we r in dis precarious marital predicament.
It is general knowledge that ignorance of a problem is a different problem on it's own.
Below are the reasons for the above topic;
1. Increased awareness about quality standard of living.
2. Over population
3. Decaying national economy
4. Unemployment
5. Greed

Please not most men. Maybe the kind of men you've met. There are thousands of good men out there but they are wiser and also will not want to ruin their own lives with a lady that offers only sex in a relationship.

Saff:
Most men of this generation are mentally weak and unable to handle life circumstances. Relying on weed/ alcohol, cigarettes or any kind of drug to function.

Most are lazy and not ambitious looking for easy quick money.

Not responsible, looking for a woman to help them or give them money. I don’t blame them, most were raised by women with the father absent or barely there. They don’t understand what it means to be a MAN.

Most men have poor financial management. Spend all their days on social media, betting, money on random women. It’s pitiful.

Most men never take responsibility for themselves. Always looking for one person/ thing to blame for their misfortune.

Rather be single, have a child and be happy than raise a boy into a man because his father didn’t do that job. I’m sorry.

lexy2014:
were did u get that? Have u dated an unemployed guy from d western world 2 have come 2 that conclusion?

nope but I hv travelled!! In foreign countries u see men willing to cook n kiss ur feet,,, knowing they ain’t finically okay atm!! But in Nigeria u see useless broke Nigerian boys asking women,,, what can u cook with 200 Naira !!!WDF

victorian:
Most men are not ready to be responsible, that's why.

And women these days prefer to be single have kids, than settle with just any guy for marriage sakes. Gone are those days, a woman will be suffering and smiling.

More women are not ready to be treated as slaves in a marriage they spend their hard earned money on. The guy more or else doesn't contribute anything other than sex, collects her money and he will still be as controlling as fucvk! Some slaps here and there, feeling he should be able to make her scared of him.
Why would a man instill fear in his wife instead of respect from his wife
So,
Most single ladies don't need such stress biko.

Personally, I can never marry a controlling, abusive, lazy man. I rather remain single and have kids instead.

Sadly, this is the truth. No one wants to suffer in silence while a man torments them in the house. Who wants to be a slave for a man these days. Life is to be enjoyed. No one has the right ro make life unbearable for someone.

Too many mummy's boys who end up being a nuisance to their wives.

And mothers do not help matters when they spoil their sons. You can imagine a guy whose mum was washing his boxers up until he got married. Infact the guy is just less than a man now.

Because there are more mummy's boys parading themselves as men.

Shugavee:
I believe u didn’t understand ur own post!!

No. You lack the necessary cognitive ability to understand my post because my posts aren't meant for the feeble minded and dull individuals (Not trying to insult you)

Being financially responsible as a woman doesn't mean you should take care of the home(except it's your choice or whatever) -I think you should do some research on “collective financial responsibility”

You shouldn't tell me before I know that a man who wants collective responsibility will also be a homely man -by being homely

Cooking, taking care of the kids too, and doing other house chores.


You might not necessarily contribute much but be financially responsible .


I can't continue with this conversation because you won't understand my post.

Saff:
It’s poor ladies that want men who are providers? What planet are you living on? Or are you just delusional? I’m not here to argue about my financial status as this is only argument that most of you guys can ever counter me with. I know I’m good, never struggled and never will. Thanks for your concern though.

You want women who are financially comfortable but just not more than you...right I get it. A woman who you can still have total control of, still cook, clean and do everything in the house but someone who you can also share the financial bills with. Rightttt, I get it. Someone who can help you do your job financially, but you still want to be regarded as the man of the house, riightttt I get it. Someone who is helping you in every aspect but helping her equally to do domestic chores is non existent in your world. Rightttt I get it. I find it so funny how most of you men are so adamant about women being financially responsible and helping out financiallly in the house but don’t have that same energy when it comes to things that are not financially related. I believe in gender roles. Why? Because I believe when there’s no gender roles the woman will carry the burden. She ends up doing nearly everything, being super woman. I’ve seen it happen too many times.

exactly they want women to do everything!! Using her n doing nothing ,,, come back from work n expect the women to present them food,, see the kids feed n house clean!!! Women r wiser

Shugavee:
nope but I hv travelled!! In foreign countries u see men willing to cook n kiss ur feet,,, knowing they ain’t finically okay atm!! But in Nigeria u see useless broke Nigerian boys asking women,,, what can u cook with 200 Naira !!!WDF

madam I didn't ask u if u have travelled. I asked u have u dated or had a r/ship with an unemployed guy from d west. D men that kiss feet, did they kiss ur feet? If u havent, then u cant speak aithoritatively. Are u trying 2 tell me there are no men in Nigeria who cook 4 their wives?

Yomit71:

only if you know the trauma and emotional syndrome attached. ask those who are in the situation

that being single has alot of emotinal trauma..it a myth to me.because if you are single by choice that means you have other things doing for yourself that you have always wanted..to achieve..but the others that allow family and social pressure to get to them usually fall into your category.I choose to remain single by choice not because i am looking for a man with money but Someone I will be at peace with..I have not found that person..and if I dont find him..then I would rather remain single ..forget the biological clock bla bla bla..things..I really don't care about those things..I am this kind of person that believe that i need not conceive and give birth before i can be a mother, must I?..no!..there are so many motherless children all over the place that need all love and care that they can get..if possible a mother figure....so there are so many things in this world that need our attention and contribution for the good of mankind...Marriage is not for every body.If you find love and a good and hard working person with a wonderful personality then marry but if not it is not the end of the world..one should not end up with necessary idiot and monster in sheep clothing just because society is on their neck to get married...I see marriage has one of those circle of life and not everyone will be captured in this cycle.So let the single women be please...na waooo!!

Hanseel1:


No. You lack the necessary cognitive ability to understand my post because my posts aren't meant for the feeble minded and dull individuals (Not trying to insult you)

Being financially responsible as a woman doesn't mean you should take care of the home(except it's your choice or whatever) -I think you should do some research on “collective financial responsibility”

You shouldn't tell me before I know that a man who wants collective responsibility will also be a homely man -by being homely

Cooking, taking care of the kids too, and doing other house chores.


You might not necessarily contribute much but be financially responsible .


I can't continue with this conversation because you won't understand my post.

u r trying to twist what u just wrote cause this n what u wrote first don’t even follow

?

samguru:
Alot of factors are contributing to these

1. The rate at which our ladies are not submissive to their husbands is alarming as a result, the violent and immature guys will resolve to beating their wives to demand submissiveness.

2. Men who have attained marriageable ages are scared of getting married as the rate at which wives are killing their husbands is disturbing.

3.women have failed to realise that their divine purpose on Earth is to completement men and not to compete with men,but nowadays our women will want to hijack the control of family from their husbands and render their husbands useless and we all know men have this natural ego of being domineering in their homes.

4. Westernization has reconfigured the thinking of our women and made them to believe divorce is normal even when resolvable and petty disagreements happen the next thing our women's minds is divorce.



All these and more are the reasons our ladies are single and some of them think they are happy being single but I can bet with my life that no man or woman who has tasted sex can hold body for six months or more. If you know this why not resolve whatever issue you have with your husband/wife and keep living together happily.

lol.......if only thy know how scared we are.