kizyalex10:
you re nt far from the truth.ladies re much more than men in numbers.but take a look at it from dis angle.ladies re favoured from childhood till maybe dey re married.even after marriage.some get favours.like secondary sch.boys chyke dem.give dem money.nd what have u.same with university.u see a boy whose pocket money is 5k nd will still share it with a babe who might nt even be his girl or have nt accepted to be his girl.and maybe d same girl still have like 10k in her pocket nd den other 3 chykers on her tail.u study hard to get b in a course nd a lecturer who fancies her gives her d b eith d hope of getting sometin in return.then nysc.she lobbies her way to get good ppa while u re posted to where u suffer.and den she still feeds on boys nd save her money.den outside nysc.she goes for a job nd gets it easy while after hw many years of search.u get marketing job dat will pay u 30k den with almost 5k to be spent on ur shoe sole.replacement.den she is successful nd then at d end of the year u re looking to save 200k.squartting with someone.it might take u two years to even save money for a one room apartmentnot self contain oo.remember u have parents nd siblibgs who re jumping up dat u have a job.den a girl who u have promised to marry as time goes on.so tell me hw much u will save from dat amount.but even if a girl is paid dat same amount.there is a greater tendency that she will double it at d end of the month.after paying her rent nd eating good food.so by d time she have aquired all she wants.d ideal man is still struggling to pay his rent.wedding nd dowry list is not less dan 1million atleast.unless na blessing of marriage u wan do.i analysed this based on personal experience i had with a young man.even my early days as a hustler.i worked where i was paid 35k monthly.if not for my experience nd familiarity in d business.i wouldnt have made a dime.apart from my salary.i was able to stay dia nd do my own business.i wasnt after d salary but had to key in nd do my business and as well deliver for my company.cos they gave me d platform.with all d business did.it took me 3 years den to say i own two million naira.i knw hw i was squeezing nd saving.den out of that i rented apartment nd furnished.den u see that 2 million is nothing.den i have left d company started mine.somehw dats hw i grew gradually till i relocated.most men aint dat lucky.note.d way i described d ladies above doesnt mean all re like dat but most.d decent ones who choose to make it decently.still struggle like men do

God bless you sir. It is really tough out here and men are not complaining. We know where we get sex and alcohol to cool our nerves from the pressure. But upon all these, Nigerian girls still hate us and call us broke for staying on our lane.


Nigerian girls can stay single if they like. We men will do just fine because we grow better with age, we have no menopausal problems.

Nigerian girls should keep waiting for economic saviors. It is well.

ImaIma1:


Lol...don't mind these guys here that like to feel unduly superior

Funny enough, they feel superior over absolutely nothing substantial. In all my years on this planet earth, I'm yet to see it. Much ado about nothing. Lol.

They Are Not Serious.

GreenArrow2:


Well, if everyone was going to be awesome, what you have now wouldn't be special. Treasure it, nuture it, enjoy it. Wish you the best.

I will, thanks.

DonPikko:
it's the average ones, the rich ones mingle and relate freely amidst themselves

But most Nigerians are average....

I began noticing the bad attitude of Nigerian girls right from my university days. Most of them from my school are either divorced or misbehaving in their homes—all because of money. What is the problem of Nigerian women with money? Are we not all facing the same recessed economy?

Why are the women insulting the men for not being able to marry them? They have condemned most guys and chosen to follow yahoo ritualists, but now that yahoo is on the decline, they have begun venting their frustrations on "average guys" again.

I am not happy with what i am seeing at all.....

Most empowered women feel they don't need a man because they have been raised to see a man's usefulness to be that of a bill payer.

A lot of men have started seeing marriage as financial slavery because most women won't even be loyal and supportive when the chips are down.

The problem is everyone is gradually embracing equality but the lines of engagement is still not clearly defined and conflicts here and there over the roles each person should play in this emerging new order.

As with everything new, people will gradually decide to siddon look till it is clear how to relate in this era of equal opportunities and equal expectations, however won't they procreate?...Answer is "they will" hence the rise in baby mamaism...

In the future rules of engagement will be clearly defined so men stop seeing marriage as a medium to have a woman cook his meals and do his laundry forever(even though lot of men have evolved from this already with the use of domestic help and machines) Likewise women will stop seeing marriage as a means to evade bills forever(A lot of women are yet to leave this spot)

When the lines are no longer blurry, a new type of cooperative marriage is what we will get

kunleweb:




Is this excuse legit when many fathers and mothers of the previous generations got married before they had jobs and were not at the mercy of jobs

and who was d President then?

MissWrite:


Don't be so quick to jump on a comment just because you perceive ill intent. Take another minute to confirm what you think you understood.

Women who can afford to take care of themselves, can afford to have standards with men. A growing number of women fall into this category these days. They would rather stay single than be with someone who gives them no value. There was a time when women were so financially dependent on men that all of a man's vices would fade into the background when compared with his ability to provide a living. I can't say that this doesn't happen anymore, but it is definitely becoming less frequent. Now that women have more freedom to evaluate what they want from a relationship, it has become clear that while men in general are still common as water, men of quality are few and far between.




The words in green: There used to be a time when the most important benefit to a woman from relationships (marriages in particular) was financial security. In those days, women did not have the luxury to pursue anything else (like love) and they even had to overlook certain vices (like infidelity, for instance)

The words in blue: Now that an increasing number of women can provide for themselves, they are no longer confined to needing financial security, and they can decide what qualities in a man would give their life value.

The words in purple: the freedom to evaluate what they want from a relationship. Does this not mean that they aren't limited to wanting money? After this evaluation, some women will decide they want good companionship, or someone responsible to raise kids with, or whatever else there is to want from the plethora of things men have to offer. But all these requirements shrink the pool of eligible men. Because not all men can give a certain woman good companionship. And not very many would be considered responsible father-types by a specific woman. For the women in focus, if they cannot find what they are looking for, they would stay single. It is not a matter of life or death if you are looking to meet desires. If it comes, hurray; if it does not, life goes on.

Quality is the degree to which something meets requirement. So, when I say that men of quality are few and far between (as a result of women affording standards), it is precisely because these women aren't looking at finances (exclusively) anymore, and they are begging men to have more to offer than their check-books. But if they don't, why should she bother? to prove to you that she can value a man? That should not be a woman's burden.

you made no sense with your long epistle and I understood your post clearly before I mentioned. This post of yours confirms my assumption about the mentality you have. Are you saying until a woman is financially independent, she doesn’t have the right to have standards? This is a sordid thought... no apologies. Everyone has the right to a standard... again, you have put the utmost importance of marriage as the need to meet the financial responsibilities of women. Women being independent is not a new thing, if you think it’s new, ask your mother. Women had farms. There are some tribes in Nigeria where the women used to be the breadwinner. Some places in delta I know. like I explained clearly the reason it’s like the trend is the bleeped up mindset of seeing relationships and marriages as an escape route from poverty. The Essence of marriage is companionship which you have put as a third option upthere. Our culture someway made women subjects, times have changed and the men that are progressive have seen things differently. However, many women still have the mentality they will be subjects in marriages thus they don’t have the wisdom to tell when a man is being controlling or being progressive.

samguru:
Alot of factors are contributing to these

1. The rate at which our ladies are not submissive to their husbands is alarming as a result, the violent and immature guys will resolve to beating their wives to demand submissiveness.

2. Men who have attained marriageable ages are scared of getting married as the rate at which wives are killing their husbands is disturbing.

3.women have failed to realise that their divine purpose on Earth is to completement men and not to compete with men,but nowadays our women will want to hijack the control of family from their husbands and render their husbands useless and we all know men have this natural ego of being domineering in their homes.

4. Westernization has reconfigured the thinking of our women and made them to believe divorce is normal even when resolvable and petty disagreements happen the next thing our women's minds is divorce.



All these and more are the reasons our ladies are single and some of them think they are happy being single but I can bet with my life that no man or woman who has tasted sex can hold body for six months or more. If you know this why not resolve whatever issue you have with your husband/wife and keep living together happily.

I have actually been to a church where the pastor(woman) was preaching any woman who is having serious issues with her hisabnd or not enjoying her marriage should live and not die of sorrow...I just remembered I never read any verse in the bible that said a woman should leave her husband because of misunderstanding and domestic violence... although the woman have the rights to defend herself in cases of domestic violence but she can as well report the matter to the husband's family or if the husband proves adamant she can leave...majority of the single women we have nowadays are either from broken homes or are not happy with the way their fathers treated their mothers...marriage in Nigeria nowadays is very tricky if both parties don't complement each other...a marriage where the wife is doing the job of the breadwinner is a failed marriage

tunjilana:
Most empowered women feel they don't need a man because they have been raised to see a man's usefulness to be that of a bill payer.

A lot of men have started seeing marriage as financial slavery because most women won't even be loyal and supportive when the chips are down.

The problem is everyone is gradually embracing equality but the lines of engagement is still not clearly defined and conflicts here and there over the roles each person should play in this emerging new order.

As with everything new, people will gradually decide to siddon look till it is clear how to relate in this era of equal opportunities and equal expectations, however won't they procreate?...Answer is "they will" hence the rise in baby mamaism...

In the future rules of engagement will be clearly defined so men stop seeing marriage as a medium to have a woman cook his meals and do his laundry forever(even though lot of men have evolved from this already with the use of domestic help and machines) Likewise women will stop seeing marriage as a means to evade bills forever(A lot of women are yet to leave this spot)

When the lines are no longer blurry, a new type of cooperative marriage is what we will get

This is very spot on. Men are already adapting to the new order, but women are anxious and frustrated, hence the insults you see on this thread. We are waiting and watching how everything will pan out. SInce women want rich guys only, they go get 'em.

We shall get to a time when women would be forced to protest the lack of men to mary. We are fast approaching that point. In the meantime, men shall keep their cool and getting some of that pus*y and beer to calm our nerves.

150 to 200 years from now, marriage will be abolished.

^
Marriage is over rated.
Our women achieve more without marriage, and as a result they don't see the need.
Many who are married today,did so cos of societal pressure.
^
Dear humans, STOP birthing children you can't raise. So many lost and idiotic humans fill the earth. STOP!

Them no they carry there matter for head, I didn't come to life to live for one woman, if a better woman doesn't come by, na to enjoy my life alone,
I canur coman die

resurgent2019:


But most Nigerians are average....

I began noticing the bad attitude of Nigerian girls right from my university days. Most of them from my school are either divorced or misbehaving in their homes—all because of money. What is the problem of Nigerian women with money? Are we not all facing the same recessed economy?

Why are the women insulting the men for not being able to marry them? They have condemned most guys and chosen to follow yahoo ritualists, but now that yahoo is on the decline, they have begun venting their frustrations on "average guys" again.

I am not happy with what i am seeing at all.....

victorian:









Also do u know there are some sophisticated and high class looking ladies out there, that are submissive, smart, go getters and dedicated?
But you won't know until u come close to them. It's not all about the looks , it's about the character. Not all supposedly looking high class women are living highlife.
Some are looking high class due to their kind of buisnesses they operate, all to draw customers but as soon as they enter the four walls of their homes or comfort zone. They are meek, humble and natural. Not all but some are like that.

I am not saying that there are not good women with high class. But they are very rare

And then also good women with high class rarely stay single. There are high traffic of guys around them. So they are quickly married.

Most of the women around come with a lot of drama. Can talk brashly, rudely and disrespectfully.

But from personal experience not so flashy girls are much easier to blend as a wife. As a man I can cook, keep my surrounding neat, even take care of a baby. But my encounter with these simple young women changed my perception. Wash my clothes, cook, keep house neat and listen to instruction. Invariably running a home is nothing to them.

So then I ask myself why Will a man go in the name of marrying high spec girl, bring in someone that will be trouble from day one. When you can get a woman that will give you peace in your home. Respect you, give you sound advice and grow with you. Why?

Also if a woman keep attracting wrong type of guys. She should check himself. There are still good guys out there. Wonderful guys, just that they set unnecessary standards and then fall prey to bad guys.

majekdom2:
you made no sense with your long epistle and I understood your post clearly before I mentioned. This post of yours confirms my assumption about the mentality you have. Are you saying until a woman is financially independent, she doesn’t have the right to have standards? This is a sordid thought... no apologies. Everyone has the right to a standard... again, you have put the utmost importance of marriage as the need to meet the financial responsibilities of women. Women being independent is not a new thing, if you think it’s new, ask your mother. Women had farms. There are some tribes in Nigeria where the women used to be the breadwinner. Some places in delta I know. like I explained clearly the reason it’s like the trend is the bleeped up mindset of seeing relationships and marriages as an escape route from poverty. The Essence of marriage is companionship which you have put as a third option upthere. Our culture someway made women subjects, times have changed and the man that are progressive have seen things differently. However, many women still have the mentality they will be subjects in marriages thus they don’t have the wisdom to tell when a man is being controlling or being progressive

I wonder if this would be worth it since you seem to have a problem with comprehension.

There is a difference between having a right to standards (or a desire for them), and being able to afford them. May be that's a dose little enough for you to handle. Let's not overcomplicate things with more words.

DonPikko:
Them no they carry there matter for head, I didn't come life to live for one woman, if a better woman doesn't come by, na to enjoy my alone,
I canur coman die

Baba na so ooooo. I used to worry about them before but found out that all they want is money so i refrained from them. I get sex when i need it and i take care of myself. I am my mental point of origin. I only care about myself and my mother.

The unsavory truth is that women are not capable of loving men. They only care about what a man can provide. It is just the way they are wired. The faster men know this about women, the better for everybody involved.

In fact, women love themselves more than men. They are more attracted to each other than they are to men. It took me a long time to realise this and once i did, i made peace with myself. It is just unfortunate that Nigerian women are more elfish due to the squalid economic condition and poverty in Nigeria. Nigeria women are greedy on a whole different scale entirely.

Only God can save Nigerian men.

Marriage is like JAMB you will be aiming UNILAG or LASU and later end up in Ibadan Poly

there are so many single ladies cos simple morality has been eroded. you see your girlfriend and her friends, you can't even find one to pick even for free as a wife! but they are all best for company!

Saff:
Most men of this generation are mentally weak and unable to handle life circumstances. Relying on weed/ alcohol, cigarettes or any kind of drug to function.

Most are lazy and not ambitious looking for easy quick money.

Not responsible, looking for a woman to help them or give them money. I don’t blame them, most were raised by women with the father absent or barely there. They don’t understand what it means to be a MAN.

Most men have poor financial management. Spend all their days on social media, betting, money on random women. It’s pitiful.

Most men never take responsibility for themselves. Always looking for one person/ thing to blame for their misfortune.

Rather be single, have a child and be happy than raise a boy into a man because his father didn’t do that job. I’m sorry.

I won marry......don't form4me ooo
Be matured bcoz I'm serious.

tunjilana:
Most empowered women feel they don't need a man because they have been raised to see a man's usefulness to be that of a bill payer.

A lot of men have started seeing marriage as financial slavery because most women won't even be loyal and supportive when the chips are down.

The problem is everyone is gradually embracing equality but the lines of engagement is still not clearly defined and conflicts here and there over the roles each person should play in this emerging new order.

As with everything new, people will gradually decide to siddon look till it is clear how to relate in this era of equal opportunities and equal expectations, however won't they procreate?...Answer is "they will" hence the rise in baby mamaism...

In the future rules of engagement will be clearly defined so men stop seeing marriage as a medium to have a woman cook his meals and do his laundry forever(even though lot of men have evolved from this already with the use of domestic help and machines) Likewise women will stop seeing marriage as a means to evade bills forever(A lot of women are yet to leave this spot)

When the lines are no longer blurry, a new type of cooperative marriage is what we will get

environment is changing I certainly agree with your point on the new order of marriage but I think modern civilization has caused a serious barricade in our today marriages...but why would I have a wife that can't cook for us that's utterly rubbish if she doesnt know how to cook i will teach her or subcribe for her to learn how to cook on youtube or better still send her to culinary school but I have seen majority of ladies keep saying I can't be cooking for my husband that she would look like a slave...the concept of marriage is the man is the head of the house and has every right over the woman well not to the extent of turning her into a muppet.. about doing other chores like taking care of kids, laundry, paying bills I think it should be collective and done cooperatively..it is even wrong for a wife to be wasing her husband clothes...cloth that you used u will be giving it to your wife to wash is wrong...but cooking should be done mainly by the wife but at times the husband can cook to assist not just to assist but to show sign of love...because the kids will imitate what they see...but if they see their dad cooking and washing their mummy clothes, the kids will feel its normal....

resurgent2019:


I dont understand what you are talking about? What is my mummy said?

I was referring to your tribal drivel in your earlier post.

You must be from the the SE or igboid part of the SS. You people hate other Nigerians and are suffering for it.

And as God will have it, the tribes you hate control Nigeria. So what will you do to save yourselves from slavery?

That is what you should be worried about dear.

Don't lie...you know what i mean?

Luckily for me, i hate no tribe. I just point out what i see.

Who cares who rules the country? How does that affect me in any way? A beninois can rule for all i care. What has all the ruling got us since 1960?

kunleweb:
I'm begging for an answer, why are there too many single ladies these days. Just heard of a stunt where a sister ( rich and graduate, working class with car who had no husband ) pulled a game-play to unseat her uneducated sister from her husband, i'm left bewildered why, why are there too many single sisters out-there left unmarried. I need answers. I really do as it beats my understanding.

Men are usually fewer and to make matters worse, a lot of them are not gainfully employed.

[quote author=Ihatelove post=70844843]Cause most guys are pricks, so we would rather stay single than die of heartbreak [ your monicker speaks volume about your state of mind.

your points are valid chief!

resurgent2019:


Baba na so ooooo. I used to worry about them before but found out that all they want is money so i refrained from them. I get sex when i need it and i take care of myself. I am my mental point of origin. I only care about myself and my mother.

The unsavory truth is that women are not capable of loving men. They only care about what a man can provide. It is just the way they are wired. The faster men know this about women, the better for everybody involved.

In fact, women love themselves more than men. They are more attracted to each other than they are to men. It took me a long time to realise this and once i did, i made peace with myself. It is just unfortunate that Nigerian women are more elfish due to the squalid economic condition and poverty in Nigeria. Nigeria women are greedy on a whole different scale entirely.

Only God can save Nigerian men.

MissWrite:




I wonder if this would be worth it since you seem to have a problem with comprehension.

There is a difference between having a right to standards (or a desire for them), and being able to afford them. May be that's a dose little enough for you to handle. Let's not overcomplicate things with more words.

feminism advocates a right to a standard/ values and not “being able to afford a standard”/ values when it comes to a romantic relationship. Being able to afford means “price tag/limit” on the individual or situation you wish to relate with. This is why you came first with finance not checking clearly that one can have values that match upto “your” standard. I have heard many girls say “ he can’t afford me”. Isn’t that lame and this is obviously what you are saying too indirectly- a woman who is financially dependent cannot afford men of certain values because she needs him to meet her financial needs. A woman who is financially independent is able to afford any man with her desired values because she doesn’t need him for her financial needs, and there are not many men of values thus the high number of single women . I don’t have a comprehension problem, you are the one with a bleeped up mentality or perhaps one who don’t know what word to use.

Hanseel1:


Tax?

With the way you type I'm sure you don't have a girlfriend, you can't even take care of yourself talk less of being billed by another individual.

you've said it all, the two criterias to have a girlfriend i donnt even have ,, vocabulary zero ,bank account zero ! God help me!

nothing like talkless bro ,,next time say "not to talk of" face ur book

because men are not ready to marry this days

majekoam:


Correction. Most of the guys you've met or been around with are pricks.

Also of all the women that have commented about men. Have you met all of Us... Those comments are wildly ignorant.

The tables can be turned...alot of men have plenty of stories of being messed over by women so lets not be partisan and hypocritical.

The fact is that most ladies would prefer a well to do guy. The problem is that SOME of those well to do guys prey on it and take advantage....

Then Ladies you have a choice... Take a risk and suffer with a guy that might not be all set but is going places (Usually the nice guy or the quiet ones who are either overlooked and exploited) and is more likely to end well (but not all the time)... or continue to "Enjoy" with "Bad guys", who are Fresh, Paid, will most likely be using you and then dump you (The writing is on the wall - He is a "Bad Guy" and then you come on every social media platform to then call the male gender a bunch of P-nis led demons...

....Oh and if your thoughts are Id rather go with the bad guy because he has money....then I dont have any sympathy for you.

One last point....there are maaaany women who are in great relationships and marriages...they just are afraid of letting the world know because they know there are many low-life women that would be willing to snatch their boyfriends/husbands if they could.

Essay over.
Peace y'all.

Are their relationships really great if their lovers can be snatched like a bag?

Shugavee:
There is greater peace in being a single woman,, i miss it sometimes

i sense REGRETS in your words . You seem to be very uncomfortable in your marriage.

What do you mean by "single ladies"?

There is a distinction between Single and Unmarried. Many unmarried ladies are not single, some of them have more than 2 boyfriends and some have multiple sex partners.

Mehn is so pathetic, u need to see the alter call of single ladies at winners chapel Enugu yesterday being Sunday that was marriage encounter service.

Shugavee:
There is greater peace in being a single woman,, i miss it sometimes

I sense regrets. You seem to be very uncomfortable in your marriage

sprints2:
environment is changing I certainly agree with your point on the new order of marriage but I think modern civilization has caused a serious barricade in our today marriages...but why would I have a wife that can't cook for us that's utterly rubbish if she doesnt know how to cook i will teach her or subcribe for her to learn how to cook on youtube or better still send her to culinary school but I have seen majority of ladies keep saying I can't be cooking for my husband that she would look like a slave...the concept of marriage is the man is the head of the house and has every right over the woman well not to the extent of turning her into a muppet.. about doing other chores like taking care of kids, laundry, paying bills I think it should be collective and done cooperatively..it is even wrong for a wife to be wasing her husband clothes...cloth that you used u will be giving it to your wife to wash is wrong...but cooking should be done mainly by the wife but at times the husband can cook to assist not just to assist but to show sign of love...because the kids will imitate what they see...but if they see their dad cooking and washing their mummy clothes, the kids will feel its normal....

Hello, the way things are going and the way things will be in the future, it wont be a matter of who should but who can. If you seek equality, seek it in totality and don't shoot yourself in the foot by marrying someone who cant be equal to you or help u seek your desired life...that is if you are really progressive and forward thinking oooo...In some countries where people have to work many jobs to survive...couples work around their schedules to be able to baby sit, cook, do laundry and all together....so u are planning to have your wife on day when u are on night and vice versa and expect her to still be the one worrying about domestics alone!...

As for the women, marriage is about companionship not having a man pay your bills cos u take care of his domestics. The world is gradually moving away from the point where domestics are such a big deal...wish a washing machine, food processor, vacuum e.t.c... a lot can be done in minutes...besides the average family size is shrinking, most men dont want more than 2 kids...probably coming generation will be 1...So that idea of I am giving him a family is gradually shrinking...