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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by SmellingAnus(m): 1:31pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
you don taste sweet preek... its difficult to totally leave sweet preek.. even if you leave am you go still cheat on you new guy if your never totally get over Mr. Sweet Preek... |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Shugavee(f): 4:27pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
Read this, hope it would be helpful One of the key contributing factors is a lack of self-love, which leaves you completely vulnerable in the relationship since you end up relying on the guy to fill that void. And as Eric pointed out, that dependence on him will create a massive fear of losing him, which inevitably leads to you settling for less than you want sooner or later. The importance of self-love is immense. In fact, I'd say it's the number one antidote against any relationship issue out there. As women, we can't just know something intellectually, we need to feel it emotionally. Think about it, why do you need your significant other to keep telling you he loves you? This knowledge was established the first time he said it, you know he loves you, he wouldn't have said it otherwise. I mean, imagine if after your boyfriend tells you he loves you for the first time he said, "Okay, glad we established that. I'll be sure to let you know if anything changes." I don't think you'd be too thrilled because the reason you want him to keep saying the words is not to know, it's to feel. Every time he says it, you feel it. The reason you feel it is because you associate those words with all the things he's done to make you feel loved throughout the course of the relationship. In order to really know anything, you have to feel it. This is true of just about everything in life. When it comes to developing confidence and self-love, telling yourself over and over "I have self-love" won't work, neither will keeping a running tab of your attributes. Sure it's nice to be aware of all the wonderful things that make you you, but telling yourself "I'm smart, I'm beautiful, I'm caring, I'm fun" isn't enough to firmly ingrain these beliefs into your psyche. And if you aren't firm in these convictions, you become susceptible to question yourself when something happens that doesn't align with these notions (not getting attention from men, your boyfriend acting flaky, someone undermining you etc.). To experience feeling whole and complete, you need to feel the things that you already know. Now comes the fun part. I'm gonna share an exercise that will give you the tools to ingrain an unwavering love for yourself, one that radiates from within and makes you a shining light that draws people in. Here's how it works. Take a piece of paper and write Self- Love in the middle. Then around the self-love, write down 5-10 instances when you experienced love. They can be times when you did something kind for someone else, moments when you felt proud of yourself, times when you felt completely content and secure with yourself or any time that you gave or received loved. You can also jot down quotes about love that strike a chord with you, or times when you witnessed selfless love in its purest form. Once you have a list, meditate on these memories. Close your eyes and allow your mind to reflect on each memory. Paint a picture of the scene, see yourself and how you felt in that moment. The second your mind starts to wander, think about the next example and keep going until you've experienced all of them (take about 5-10 minutes to do this). The mind is a tricky thing because it doesn't want to focus on a single topic for more than a few seconds. By creating images and letting your mind move from one instance to the next, you will maintain an unbreakable concentration. As you go deeper, you will actually feel the positive emotions. When done right, this exercise is incredibly powerful and transformative. In general, nothing anyone says or does actually has the power to affect your mood and your opinion of yourself unless you let it. If you're unsure of yourself, you'll be a lot more likely to allow the negativity to penetrate. When you form the foundation of self-love, however, nothing on the outside can get you down. When you know and feel with every fiber of your being how incredible you truly are, you will never again be at the mercy of someone else. If your significant other acts in a way you don't understand or appreciate, you won't be sent into despair. You'll realize that his actions have nothing to do with you and are no reflection of your inherent value and worth. Give the exercise a try and please report back to me and let me know how it worked for you! 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 5:23pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
Uniquetani1:how do people fall in love self? Like what does it mean to be so much in love? I really don't understand how this love of a thing work self. Like falling in love that you don't want to leave, how please? |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 5:59pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
IntrovertedK: Don't worry it will soon get to your turn. Be patient! |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 6:06pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 6:17pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
Uniquetani1:you deserve better. 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 6:20pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
Uniquetani1:ok oooooo. I hear oooo.. Maybe when i turn 40 i'd feel what i never felt since birth. |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Zhahovic(m): 6:25pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
Uniquetani1:.. My dear..true love is hard to find these days.. .. Do not love with your heart, so u don't get heart broken.. .. Love with your head and never let anything take u by surprise... .. 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 7:04pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
IntrovertedK: I hope you do |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by RexTramadol1: 7:33pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
Op so sorry Dat bros dey chop u And if u like allow make e chop u tire Every mallam with him kettle. You're just being used. |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 7:42pm On Sep 06, 2018 |
ur boyfriend is a fukboy sorry |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 4:42am On Sep 07, 2018 |
RexTramadol1: He can't again |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 4:43am On Sep 07, 2018 |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by IamPlato(m): 7:17am On Sep 07, 2018 |
Uniquetani1:... So You Wont Commit Suicide One Day better Start Hangin out With Other Great Guys without Attachin emotions, make Him See You Enjoy Your Life Freely then Boldly end The Relationship and Occupy Your Self With Positive People Around You, think Of How To Make Money Let Him Keep Thinkin Of How To Marry Girls Who dont Like Him 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by IamPlato(m): 7:37am On Sep 07, 2018 |
Uniquetani1:... Its Obvious You Love Him Better Than Yourself. You Have To Start Loving Yourself First. He Sees You As Shiit, there Are Guys Out There Who See You Are Extremely beautiful. Be Proud Of Your Looks, carry Yourself With Pride. See Him As One Who Doesnt Meet Up To Your taste... While He Is Busy Thinking Of Women Who Can Never love Him, you Should Be Busy Thinkin Of Making Money, surround Yourself With The Right People And Create the Right Atmosphere 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Hexzyz(m): 7:57am On Sep 07, 2018 |
Uniquetani1: I think you have disappointed someone who genuinely love you. Trace your step back and make peace with your past. Things will change for good. 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 9:02am On Sep 07, 2018 |
IamPlato: Right thank you |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 9:04am On Sep 07, 2018 |
Hexzyz: Hmmm I will think about this |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by rosieluv(f): 8:19am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Zhahovic:Well said |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 10:36am On Sep 08, 2018 |
LBK1: Yes I hope my heart heal soon |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Zhahovic(m): 3:22pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by chigoizie7(m): 5:04pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
I am already taken, if not I would have proved u wrong. that's if u are ready to tag along |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 11:37pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
chigoizie7: Well I wish you guys long lasting love |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by rosieluv(f): 12:09am On Sep 09, 2018 |
HardMirror send it here |
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by HardMirror(m): 12:15am On Sep 09, 2018 |
rosieluv:buzz me. |
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