Weddings are usually a ceremony of great joy but today the sorrow that follows some wedding ceremonies raises questions in ones heart.

Who decreed that Christians must have white weddings which we have now christened church or Christian marriage.

How many marriages were conducted in the sanctuary or temple in Bible days? Should we really spend so much to get married?

We have heard stories of people arranging some part of their marriage ceremony on credit in the hope that they will make enough from the spraying of money during the bridal dance to offset their loans.

I remember attending a wedding where the DJ refused to turn on the microphone because he had not been fully paid for his service at the reception. We pleaded and pleaded but he would not budge. Someone had to go to an ATM to get the cash for him before the reception could begin.

What type of marriage ceremonies were carried out in Bible days? How were these ceremonies conducted? Does having your marriage ceremony in church add anything to your marriage?

Let's share notes and thoughts on this.

The bible.


Puting on white cloth is not part of it.
Instead of the church, the wedding Jesus attended was done in the village square, caana in Galilee to be precise.

And before Jesus turned water to wine people were already drunken with the wine presented by the celebrant. John2:10.

My brother na ignorance dey worry people. There is nothing like white abi na church wedding, all that one na waste of money and resources. Marriage is when a man & a woman agree to be each other companions and the parents consent to it. It doesn't have to be flamboyant. Alot of marriages in the Bible are just simple marriages where the father just hand over the daughter to the prospective suitor eg Leah, Rechael and Jacob.

But nobody is holding a gun to your head that you must wed in the church

I kukuma don't like wearing suit. So u know what that means

Katier00:
But nobody is holding a gun to your head that you must wed in the church

Thanks for REPLYING him.
Anyway, my man leave wetin people go dey talk.
Just carry your girl, do traditional with court.
Except your lady no gree.
She can also wear her WHITE GOWN to the court if she deems so. Most times na white Gown and Facebook be women problem.

A lady is more interested in what people will say about her, than what pleases her.
They always want to please others at their own detriment.

africans too like copy copy

cassidy1996:
africans too like copy copy

Don’t mind them

Well, Africans are still brain washing themselves, even after the white man has left.

If you have attended over 100 weddings in your life and are still single, you are not different from a canopy.

marriage is just all about understanding.. not white gown and suit

I don't know baby, but I'm wearing that white veil on my day!

White wedding is the tradition of the west

Why can't we all embrace traditional wedding system.

My assertion is not applicable to a certain region where the bride price is enough to buy landed properties

Please don't quote me ooo, I'm not feeling fine

I no kuku mention name

But what has Christianity got to do with high cost of marriage?

My marriage will be trade by barter.


I give her parents some salt.

They give me their daughter.

EVILFOREST:

Thanks for REPLYING him.
Anyway, my man leave wetin people go dey talk.
Just carry your girl, do traditional with court.
Except your lady no gree.
She can also wear her WHITE GOWN to the court if she deems so. Most times na white Gown and Facebook be women problem.

A lady is more interested in what people will say about her, than what pleases her.
They always want to please others at their own detriment.

Have you seen anybody go to court to get wed b4??

hisgrace090:
The bible.


Puting on white cloth is not part of it.
Instead of the church the wedding Jesus attended was don't in the village square.

And before Jesus turned water to wine people were already drunken with the wine presented by the celebrant.

Really? What chapter of the Bible? Maybe the wedding was not at the village square but the bible never said that the wedding took place in the synagogue.

Oyinbo culture they adopted.

The Catholic church will forbid you from partaking in certain sacraments until you're wedded in Church.

Soleymania:
Weddings are usually a ceremony of great joy but today the sorrow that follows some wedding ceremonies raises questions in ones heart.

Who decreed that Christians must have white weddings which we have now christened church or Christian marriage.

How many marriages were conducted in the sanctuary or temple in Bible days? Should we really spend so much to get married?

We have heard stories of people arranging some part of their marriage ceremony on credit in the hope that they will make enough from the spraying of money during the bridal dance to offset their loans.

I remember attending a wedding where the DJ refused to turn on the microphone because he had not been fully paid for his service at the reception. We pleaded and pleaded but he would not budge. Someone had to go to an ATM to get the cash for him before the reception could begin.

What type of marriage ceremonies were carried out in Bible days? How were these ceremonies conducted? Does having your marriage ceremony in church add anything to your marriage?

Let's share notes and thoughts on this.

Your post is a classic poor attempt to tarnish the Christian faith. That marriage celebration is costly has nothing to do with the Christian faith. Marriage celebration is mostly a community affairs hence the cost. It's evident in all cultures and religions.
Even the biblical example you cited, there were complaints of the wine not being enough which necessitated the Lord to step in. Or do you think people were complaining for fun?

hisgrace090:
The bible.


Puting on white cloth is not part of it.
Instead of the church the wedding Jesus attended was don't in the village square.

And before Jesus turned water to wine people were already drunken with the wine presented by the celebrant.

"" Instead of the church the wedding Jesus attended was don't in the village square""

what is this?



"" The bible ""

Pls bring scriptures from bible as proof.

Christianity is not devoid of culture and traditions. What you call white wedding is but a European way of getting married which has come to be accepted by many around the world due to culture integration. What matters to CHRISTIANITY is the VOWS, not the wedding dress, food or pomp in which you choose to celebrate not minding anything contrary you might hear from whomever.

Having your marriage in the church is a necessity. It's you asking The people present to stand as witness to whatever promises you make to your spouse before God.

There was a thread about a couple on front page sometime this year who had their marriage on a Thursday afternoon at Mass in a Catholic church and gave those present, who were not more than 30 there and had come for their personal worship rice and coke as guest. So whoever chooses to go overboard is only doing his or herself, it's not by force to invite the whole village

Katier00:
But nobody is holding a gun to your head that you must wed in the church

The church is holding bomb sef on top head of anyone who doesn't want to do white man's wedding

The worst is even the priests saying God does not recognize a union until they have done church/white wedding.
Fat lie! Deception at it's peak. God established the Marriage institution in a way that once a man and woman decides within themselves and gets the blessings of both parents to be together; marriage has already happened o. Any other thing they decide to do, they are doing for themselves oo.

To op post, my fiance should know that after our traditional marriage, the only reason I might even consider going to court is because of the certificate which I might need for a few transactions; if not na traditional be all for me.

Mandynews:
In Rev. 19:7-9 the Bible says, "Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honor to Him; for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife has made herself ready. And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white; for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. And he said unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he said unto me, These are the true sayings of God."

Lovely.....


Mind You OP, the church didnt ask anyone to do extravagant reception anywhere.....
U can receive ur guests at home and provide what u have or dnt do reception at all, church wudnt persecute you for that

It is not a decree. . . . Only a matter of CHOICE.

Never had one and will never have one.
Allergic to priests, pastors and churches!

If e gree you do. . . Fire on!
Don’t invite me abeg!
I go see una for reception hall.

op
its like u have calculated the expenses involved in ur up coming wedding and u are look for a way out.

take it easy bro
almost everybody experienced same