I waited for two days and he didn't remove the pix. I confronted him about it. He told me it's none of my business, that he can use anybody's pix as his DP and I have no right to question him.

gabinogem:
apart from this incident, has he done any other thing before that is related to cheating?

delugajackson:
Good people of Romanceland. Should we tell her the truth?

gloria34:
Met a guy April this year, we seem to have a lot in common and I really like this guy. we started dating and things have been going fine until last week. I travelled to Lagos in June (work related), in July, he went to port for NYSC camp (now at his ppa there). communication has been fine and all seem normal until he used a girl's picture (a corp member) as his d.p. if it had been his status on what's app, I would have considered it a birthday wish but it's on his d.p and there was no congratulation or birthday message to it. I waited for two days and he didn't remove the pix, I confronted him about it. he told me its non of my business, he can use anybody's pix 4 his d.p and I have no right to question him since he has never done same to me.
I got angry, we quarrelled and didn't talk 4 two days. I got fed up, apologized and he also did. we resolved it and he took down d pix but maintained his stand that I should not question him about his d.p.
though, we are good now, I feel kind of scared. I can't seem to trust him like I did few weeks back, we spoke last yesterday which is not normal (we talk and chat everyday). I feel reluctant to call him, I really want things to work out for us but I feel I am taking d wrong step

gloria34:
none at all. this is d first time we are even having a serious argument

Wilfredpat22:


Open up to him and tell him you have been faithful and loyal. Truth is he thinks you are probably also bangging another guy also

gloria34:
go ahead pls

Eberechi24:


the Truth they want to tell you is that the guy may not faithful in his side. the lady on hs dp maybe his new catch.

be careful,
ppa matter tire person.

Eberechi24:


the Truth they want to tell you is that the guy may not faithful in his side. the lady on hs dp maybe his new catch.

be careful,
ppa matter tire person.

gloria34:
none at all. this is d first time we are even having a serious argument

Babacele:
I think for disrespecting you for that long despite not discussing with you about who the mystery lady is calls for serious concerns. I hardly comment on relationship threads because the best judge of most relationship are the two folks involved. Notwithstanding, It is a huge disrespect to your person and emotion to have treated you that way ,and it is only a cheating gut that can pull that off. How is your boy?

gabinogem:
OK... u guys just need to come open & plane in ur affair...I won't say he's cheating on u just because he kept a lady's pics on his fb profile. Maybe he did that because of something u are doing or u did that is upsetting him & wants you to feel jealous; the reason u should pry & find out what made him had to act that way.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Red flag?? Not so many can keep distance relationships

gloria34:
maybe u are right but I have tried to make him understand that I won't so such. probably, he don't trust me enough

gloria34:
Met a guy April this year, we seem to have a lot in common and I really like this guy. we started dating and things have been going fine until last week. I travelled to Lagos in June (work related), in July, he went to port for NYSC camp (now at his ppa there). communication has been fine and all seem normal until he used a girl's picture (a corp member) as his d.p. if it had been his status on what's app, I would have considered it a birthday wish but it's on his d.p and there was no congratulation or birthday message to it. I waited for two days and he didn't remove the pix, I confronted him about it. he told me its non of my business, he can use anybody's pix 4 his d.p and I have no right to question him since he has never done same to me.
I got angry, we quarrelled and didn't talk 4 two days. I got fed up, apologized and he also did. we resolved it and he took down d pix but maintained his stand that I should not question him about his d.p.
though, we are good now, I feel kind of scared. I can't seem to trust him like I did few weeks back, we spoke last yesterday which is not normal (we talk and chat everyday). I feel reluctant to call him, I really want things to work out for us but I feel I am taking d wrong step

Babacele:
have there been reasons or instances where the seeds of doubt or mistrust have been sown by you in this relationship?

SilentWisper:
you are at fault here

gloria34:
none that I know of. we've been good till d d.p issue

IamLEGEND1:
Another relationship about to crumble because of DP...

Babacele:
and he is aware about my friend in kg1? Right from the start?

gloria34:
I still have three months to finish up here, and when I finally gets home, he won't be home. after staying away from relationships for long, I really want this 1 to work

gloria34:
pls tell me how?

gloria34:
sure, we attend same church. I don't hide my son

victorian:







My dear with this mentality of you want to this to work? U will really take shit from the guy.
The guy is also interested in the babe he used as his dp.. He's stringing both of u along.
For a guy, u are dating to say it's non of your buisness whom he uses as dp is just warming up, his arrogance and authoritative attitude towards u.
With time, u will realise what am saying.
Better retreat , set him.loose and be patient to date a better guy.

This one will just break your heart in a selfish and non chalant way at the end . The signs are glaring already.

SilentWisper:
well technically it's none of her business. Since she's not his wife