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. by Nobody: 9:02am On Sep 17, 2018 |
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Re: . by OneCorner: 9:41am On Sep 17, 2018 |
Hausa and afonja dying over igbos ![]() |
Re: . by tabithababy(f): 10:09am On Sep 17, 2018 |
Look for another guy nah ![]() Na by force ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:39am On Sep 17, 2018 |
The guy doesn't have sense and he's still a kid. As far as I'm concerned parents can't decide for me who to marry or who not to marry (Thank God I've done what needs to be done already) How can your mother or father choose a wife for you? When some men have wasted your life and they don't want to marry you, they'll start giving useless and ridiculous excuses on why they can't marry you. 8 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:09am On Sep 17, 2018 |
Elder001:I never said he wasted my life. The relationship is just barely over a month, I should be thankful for his sincerity |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:10am On Sep 17, 2018 |
OneCorner:How please? Cos there is nothing of such in my story |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:10am On Sep 17, 2018 |
Sapphire11: I wasn't referring to you. |
Re: . by Richy4(m): 11:50am On Sep 17, 2018 |
Though those days has gone when parents decides the tribe and places where their kids should get married.... Religion wise, The Good Book says Abraham told his servant not to get a wife from certain tribe Even Isaac instructed Jacob not to marry from certain place for some reason...it's not a new thing.. Have you asked the young man why the mother was forbidden him from marrying from your side of town? |
Re: . by Nobody: 1:11pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Richy4:I didn't bother asking. |
Re: . by Richy4(m): 1:15pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Sapphire11: Maybe you should ask since you were still into the guy.. |
Re: . by Nobody: 1:37pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Richy4:He said due to some reasons I may not understand ![]() |
Re: . by ImaIma1(f): 2:04pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Mothers just try to manipulate things and it sometimes works against them. My very close friend had same issue. His mum refused his girlfriend because of her town even if they were the same tribe. He finally married from a town his mum okayed and now she and the son's wife don't see eye to eye. She cannot even stay at her son's place when she comes to Lagos. At least her son did her bidding. I think it is just best for parents to allow their adult kids make their decisions especially on life partners. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by Nobody: 2:38pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
ImaIma1:I hope it doesn't end like that for him. She doesn't even want to get to know me, as long as I'm from that town |
Re: . by Eberechi24(f): 4:17pm On Sep 17, 2018 |
Nne, give it time. steer clear from that family. they don't want you including the man in question. a man who wants you will put some resistance/ try convince the mother at least to see you. don't appear too desperate. 4 Likes |
Re: . by OldBeer: 6:03am On Sep 18, 2018 |
ImaIma1:I love hearing this type of stories. ![]() ![]() ![]() I hope the daughter in law continues to give her hot hot. 2 Likes |
Re: . by CanadianNaija: 7:06am On Sep 18, 2018 |
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Re: . by CanadianNaija: 7:15am On Sep 18, 2018 |
He's a weakling, that's doesn't want to marry you stop making excuses for him. You're even lucky, if his mother makes marriage decisions for him, what else will she be deciding when you get married. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by babyfaceafrica: 9:12am On Sep 18, 2018 |
it is well |
Re: . by Wilfredpat22(f): 9:40am On Sep 18, 2018 |
you are both from owerri and you are from Mbaise. your women like money and most men that marry from there, their finances goes down the drain... I know a man that had two cars and a business (import and export) today he is a okada rider at Mission to Emohe emii.. Women especially Igbo women are hardworking,, yess but we shouldn't let the man do all the work. men run away from added responsibilities. we know Yoruba women depend on their pussiess to survive lets not be like them focus on your self. marriage is not everything. I even hate marriage sef. I rather have consensus sexx with my desired man 1 Like |
Re: . by CMaritalAffairs: 9:53am On Sep 18, 2018 |
Sapphire11: I did not get to see the earlier thread, but my dear from your responses here, I'll advise you move on. You said you have been together for a month. As much as I do not want to make excuses for him, I believe he is letting you go because he hasn't come to know you so well to vouch for you before his mother. In any case, he made the decision to be in a relationship with you, it means that some things about you must have endeared you to him. He could have presented those features before his mother. Again my dear, move on. You do not want to get into a home that you are not welcomed. When you marry, you marry every body related to your spouse. Your relationship with these people is very important. Especially the relationship with the mother. And if at this stage, your partner's mother is not interested in knowing who you are, and your partner is willing to let go off your relationship pretty easily like this without giving explanations to why, other than that you would not understand, then you should let it go. Trust me, a broken relationship is always better than a broken marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:29am On Sep 18, 2018 |
CMaritalAffairs:Thank you |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:05am On Sep 18, 2018 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 11:19am On Sep 18, 2018 |
Sapphire11:Op I guess you are drom Ogun state. Though a Yoruba state a lot of other Yoruba states actually try hard to avoid marrying from Ogun state. I dont want to talk about the reason why, I lived in Ogun state for 8 years, God was good to me there but I'd think twice too marrying from that state with the things I saw. Although not everyone there is bad. |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:33am On Sep 18, 2018 |
Guitarlife:I hear about dispute in inter tribal marriage stuff, I hardly hear of parents being against someone of same tribe as them. I have accepted to move on tho, I'm still surprised. Someone that was born and raised in my town, his parents have lived here for more than 30years ![]() Only one of my sis married a yoruba man. The others married from edo, cross river, akwa ibom one even married outside the country. My frnds sometimes joke about me getting married to Hausa man ![]() |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:54am On Sep 18, 2018 |
Sapphire11:I dont want to talk about the reason most other Yoruba states seem to avoid marrying from Ogun state. It will sound a bit like stereotyping but honestly having lived in Ogun state for 8 years myself. I saw things and you are more likely to marry from Ogun if you havent lived in Ogun than to marry from Ogun if you have lived there. That is the issue with your boyfriends parents, they saw somethings ofcourse I lived there just 8 years myself and saw things too. Although we cant just generalise as we still have some good people in Ogun State. I will always remember those 8 years I lived in Ogun state. Got my first six figure salary job. Bought my first car a tokunbo. Bought my first land and built a property while I was in Ogun state. I lost my virginity too in Ogun state. |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:18pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
Guitarlife:Lols @ loosing ur virginity there. I'm not from Ogun |
Re: . by ImaIma1(f): 12:38pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
OldBeer: Both mother and wife are alike...but hot and domineering. Now she spends more time in her other son's house and that one married an extremely opposite tribe |
Re: . by frozen70(f): 10:04pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
He is not being sincere to you What makes you think his mother said so, both of you are from the same place, does your family have bad names or bad records that made his mother to refuse? He has politely told you that you guys will remain friends while he keep searching for who he wants If you can confront his mother about it pls do, ask her why she doesn't want this relationship that his son said you are not in support, give your reason. But if you feel you can't confront his mother, move on with your life and keep searching These are one of the excuses guys give when they can't face you and tell you to your face that they can't marry you but can continue bleeping you He is yet to get the kind of woman he wants to marry Don't allow him to keep you floating Find your way pls |
Re: . by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:43pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
Are you sure there isn't any other reason for the objection? Anyway, with the kind of mother I have, if my she disapprove of any lady (with reasons) then that's the end of my relationship with that lady. To answer your question @OP, I suggest you let go |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:58pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
frozen70:@bolded ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Op you know that will make you look stupid right ? |
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