.

Just give yourself a break from relationships for now. Dedicate yourself to doing the things that make you happy.

Above all, pray God to cancel all wrong relationship pattern and direct your rightful man to you.

What is wrong with you is the thought of thinking if anything is wrong with you.

Stop thinking like that. Just be your best, keep on adding value to yourself. Focus on God through service n leave the rest.

Now my last advice. Don't give sex to any man again until he marries you. QED

inforesource:
What is wrong with you is the thought of thinking if anything is wrong with you.

Stop thinking like that. Just be your best, keep on adding value to yourself. Focus on God through service n leave the rest.

Now my last advice. Don't give sex to any man again until he marries you. QED

OP please don't follow the last paragraph of this post oooo!!!

while waiting for the right man, just develop yourself academically and business wise!


Please there is nothing wrong with you!

I repeat there is nothing wrong with you!!!

There is light at the end of the tunnel!!!


Cheers!!!

Estherdqueen:
Good evening all, i had to create this account to seek advice, am Esther, i won't say am a saint but i can beat my chest and say that am a nice person, am honest, am neat, a good cook, am beautiful, abit stubborn though, but yet i always come across the wrong guys, my last relationship lasted for more then 5years, we made plans for our introduction to be this year, only for him to start giving me excuses how his family doesn't want him to marry me, but he was going to try and speak to them, before i knew it one day he called to tell me he was no longer interested bla bla bla, then a month later i heard he was getting married to another woman.
I met another very nice guy who i thought loved me very much, he promised me heaven on earth, even came all the way just to see me, spoke with my mum on fone and all, only for me to see wedding pictures of him and another woman on facebook few days ago,they even have a son together.. Hmmmmmmmm and have been asking myself where exactly i went wrong, am not desperate, i hardly even give a guy listening ears, i dnt sleep around, i dnt smoke nor take alcoholic drinks, i dnt club, i try to be the best i can ever be, am independent and hardworking, yet nothing to show for it.. Please i just need advice, maybe there is something am not doing right, all i want is a man to call my own, that will love me sincerely... Am in tears as i type this.

Sorry! Shìt happens. Those guys were not meant to be yours in the first place. Take heart, forgive yourself and live your life the way you want for yourself only! When u start another relationship don't raise ur hopes too high, just go with the flow. Keep being yourself!!

Am nice though!

how old are you ma?...let's start from there

Am 26 years old

ennon92:
how old are you ma?...let's start from there

Sister, take it easy. Your own husband will come.

So many people going through what you are. Just breath and don’t pressure yourself too much.

God has got this.

Lomprico2:


Sorry! Shìt happens. Those guys were not meant to be yours in the first place. Take heart, forgive yourself and live your life the way you want for yourself only! When u start another relationship don't raise ur hopes too high, just go with the flow. Keep being yourself!!

[/b]Am nice though! [b]

My guy is setting P by the side.

We can never tell. You maybe the one for her.

Estherdqueen:
Good evening all, i had to create this account to seek advice, am Esther, i won't say am a saint but i can beat my chest and say that am a nice person, am honest, am neat, a good cook, am beautiful, abit stubborn though, but yet i always come across the wrong guys, my last relationship lasted for more then 5years, we made plans for our introduction to be this year, only for him to start giving me excuses how his family doesn't want him to marry me, but he was going to try and speak to them, before i knew it one day he called to tell me he was no longer interested bla bla bla, then a month later i heard he was getting married to another woman.
I met another very nice guy who i thought loved me very much, he promised me heaven on earth, even came all the way just to see me, spoke with my mum on fone and all, only for me to see wedding pictures of him and another woman on facebook few days ago,they even have a son together.. Hmmmmmmmm and have been asking myself where exactly i went wrong, am not desperate, i hardly even give a guy listening ears, i dnt sleep around, i dnt smoke nor take alcoholic drinks, i dnt club, i try to be the best i can ever be, am independent and hardworking, yet nothing to show for it.. Please i just need advice, maybe there is something am not doing right, all i want is a man to call my own, that will love me sincerely... Am in tears as i type this.

Where do you meet the men/ in what circumstance do you meet?

Have you asked any of them why they did not choose you?

The best things in life happen to us when we least expect it, trust me.

probably you go for the ready made guys and ignore those hustlers wanting you.
anyway, I'm ready made also and very single
I like you already even without seeing your pic

Dear op,
Firstly, you’re 26. I know you feel you should be married already. But try not to appear desperate, when next you find yourself in a relationship.
Secondly, what kinda guys are you attracted to? Is it the hot, good looking rich guy? Or the comfortable sugar tongue coated ones? Mind you, I’m not saying you should go for a poor dude..but sometimes, you need to look out for prospects..a whole lot of prospects, before choosing to date a guy. ‘Prospects’ involving trying to create a vivid picture of the kinda husband the guy would be. Don’t be carried away by instant affection or show of love. We guys do this to sweep a lady off her feet and make her fall easily..it doesn’t mean we want something deep.
Thirdly, try to develop yourself. Focus more on making yourself a better person..focus on your career, passion..etc. This would make you less depressed. Also, work on that stubborn part of you. It could be discouraging..(I’ve been there).
Fourthly, sex isn’t a determinant for marriage. I know plenty guys who can wait/date for 10 years, just to sleep with a lady. Let him see/crave other things in you, beyond sex.
Lastly, don’t ignore the position of God in life endeavors. Pray hard.

Estherdqueen:
Am 26 years old

Personally, i will say you still have time ahead of you. Do not appear clingy cos most guys can sense desperation from desperate ladies, just try to be calm. I believe Mr right will show when it's time but then, dont expect too much from him.

Take it to God in prayer

Have you called your exes one after the other to ask them what the problem was?

Call them, tell them to be completely honest as they have nothing to lose if they are honest, let them tell you what they found unpleasant with you.

Asking nairaland will not give you any solution, asking the people you had relationships with will answer everything.

At the end of the day, it just might be the way you draw your eyebrows or some other trivial thing.

mrAMG:
Have you called your exes one after the other to ask them what the problem was?

Call them, tell them to be completely honest as they have nothing to lose if they are honest, let them tell you what they found unpleasant with you.

Asking nairaland will not give you any solution, asking the people you had relationships with will answer everything.

At the end of the day, it just might be the way you draw your eyebrows or some other trivial thing.

How can you advise her to call her ex(es)...seriously? No one is perfect...she could ask her friends...not her past relationship partners. They would only see it as an avenue to hurt her feelings....don’t follow that advice op.

Don't be desperate to get married oo, u will surely make mistakes dat mit be difficult to correct, keep your calm, focus on other aspects of ur life, and most importantly get closer to God.

The problem is that you put all your focus in having a man of your own,build other expects of your life and add more value to it. A good man will come your way soon

You are worrying over nothing as far as I am concerned. You only need to be more amiable and open minded. And meet as much people as you can. If you are a wonderful person, you will meet someone like yourself. Don't leave anything to fate. And eliminate worry from your life. Don't think that anything that goes wrong with you is your fault. I've tried.

Alvin007:

How can you advise her to call her ex(es)...seriously? No one is perfect...she could ask her friends...not her past relationship partners. They would only see it as an avenue to hurt her feelings....don’t follow that advice op.

Ask her friends? Is that logically sound?

Did she date her friends?

Omo the truth is bitter and if she wants to get to the bottom of the problem, then she has to reach out to her exes.

Since they are married, calling might be a problem, in that case she can text or message them of facebook or something. Discreetly of course.

Her exes are the only ones that can tell her why it didn’t work

tukdi:


OP please don't follow the last paragraph of this post oooo!!!

It is crazy really
She should ignore that
Dear poster, I hope you do not think that not smoking, not drinking, not clubbing, makes you better than others who do? And I hope that you do not do these things because you truly don't like them for health reasons, personal moral grounds etc and not because you feel that is how things should be? How to draw men to you?
Just checking

Find your true path and follow it. Do what makes you happy, live life. These would reflect from you and draw the person that should be with you. You "sound" panicked and too guarded, and this will surely be reflected off you and radiate from you too. Take this advice, live your life, the most important time to be happy is NOW
You are not handicapped because you are not married yet. Some beautiful relationships do not end up in marriage. Maybe the men do not want to spend the rest of their lives with you and not because there is something wrong with you. Not bad, this. The important thing is you wanting to spend the rest of your life with you, as you, and this is not a function of marriage. Good luck

Just look at it this way...If they don't want you, then they don't deserve you...stand in front of a standing mirror..look at your self from head to toes and tell yourself that..try your best and believe it then you are ready to move on.....

Again try to watch out the kinda guys you got attracted to...it might be that u like the smooth talkers...Those ones that looks like they have arrived or made it...FYI, I never ask that you settle for chewing gum boys....If there are any re-adjustment you have to make, do it...

Do not beat yourself up...believe that your man is out there looking for you too..when both of you have found each other, don't forget this thread....Don't be like those ten Leprosy in the good book that forgot to say thank u ...remember to come and testify here on family section...and email us your well wishers our own share of the wedding cake. ...Good luck. ..

Sounds like desperation.
Too many women to choose from, so many others will be SINGLE. Not their faults. It is called marketability.

Do you BLAME Linda Ikeji-Jeremi for going for a married man?

When no one can love you, you love yourself and enjoy your loneliness.

No one can bring you happiness.
A man to call your own?
In your dreams.
All you can do is SHARE! As married or single.

Stop being miserable and LOVE YOURSELF!
Perhaps, your desperation is chasing the men away. Relax and enjoy your life. . . . Married or not!

extremelygolden:
Just give yourself a break from relationships for now. Dedicate yourself to doing the things that make you happy.

Above all, pray God to cancel all wrong relationship pattern and direct your rightful man to you.

Best advice so far , start with friendship a lot of snakes out there

mrAMG:


Ask her friends? Is that logically sound?

Did she date her friends?

Omo the truth is bitter and if she wants to get to the bottom of the problem, then she has to reach out to her exes.

Since they are married, calling might be a problem, in that case she can text or message them of facebook or something. Discreetly of course.

Her exes are the only ones that can tell her why it didn’t work

Is calling her ex sensible? Are they perfect? How can they know why it didn’t work? Ain’t they humane with flaws? Should they be the judge?
Smh...if you were to be her ex and she calls you...will you take her serious? Won’t you laugh?
Can you call to ask your ex same?

The truth is that your guy will show up just be patient while you pray, i have a similar challenge. Who knows i might just be your guy if you can give me a chance

There is an epidemic about to happen in this country, all the eligible men are escaping to canada while all our ladies are left to be chasing the few men that are left who themselves wait till 30 years plus to marry ladies in their early 20s.

Mmmmmnnnnnnn I just dey advise women if you know you have the opportunity to get married at any age please hold the guy well, once you cross 27 years mnnnn na so so story o.
Na miracle with plenty prayer go remain o.

Cos guys wey remain nor gree marry all of them dey gather money to escape the country leaving our single ladies without potential spouses .

it is well.