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I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Suzzyyy: 10:35am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice. Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with. The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend Plz advice me on what to do, plz. 58 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by madridguy(m): 10:40am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't borrow anyone amount you cannot let go. My kobo 592 Likes 34 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by donstan18: 10:43am On Sep 23, 2018 |
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim] He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out of his life. Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice. 626 Likes 55 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by yazz09(m): 10:43am On Sep 23, 2018 |
You are not obliged to lend him the exact amount he asked. Give him what you are comfortable with and tell him that's what you can part with as you still have other personal and business things that needs your funds 797 Likes 42 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Ahmed0336(m): 10:44am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Listen to what the poster above said. 142 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by eezeribe(m): 10:46am On Sep 23, 2018 |
OK |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by nero2face: 10:49am On Sep 23, 2018 |
If really u have such amount and u truly love him, sure u can borrow him, 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Blakjewelry(m): 10:53am On Sep 23, 2018 |
only you truly knows your man well, if you trust with all your heart then there is nothing to fear. life itself is a risk. 17 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by eph12(m): 10:55am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Give him what you know you can afford to dash him. And don't expect to get it back 127 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Suzzyyy: 10:55am On Sep 23, 2018 |
donstan18:You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall. 227 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by globemoney: 10:59am On Sep 23, 2018 |
If you are not married to him then o so at your own risk.. Dont say I didn't warn ya but if you are married then with all pleasure. bf/gf issa scam if you know, you know 65 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 11:02am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: Take my advice. If you don't want to lose that relationship, please don't lend him money. rather, dash him 100 or 200 thousand. dont say I didn't warn you 213 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by donstan18: 11:04am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:You don't want advice, you want to see a reason not to. Nairalanders don't know your boyfriend as much as you do, you know him and should be able to tell if he's responsible or wayward, if he's extravagant or not, if he's wise or dumb, if he's worth the sacrifice or not. You alone can tell yourself these, not strangers. You'll be advised by people here based on what they can personally do for a partner, some will advice you to go ahead because they can do it, while some will discourage you not to, because they can't do it. I would have advised you not to, but I made my first comment because this same guy helped you when your business needed to stand, so if you feel he's worth it, do it. I can do this for a woman, but before I do, there are positions you must hold in my life to be qualified. You must be my mum, sister, daughter or wife, any position less than the aforementioned will be a NO NO for me. 252 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Boxer007(m): 11:05am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: I love my boyfriend too my dear. Lend him 4 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by SalafRider(m): 11:07am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Well like you said he has been there for you when you needed him the most. I will advice even if you finally make up your mind to take the risk of borrowing him the money. Make it 500 biko not 700 leaving your account almost flat.... [color=#770077][/color][i][/i] 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by NNAMDIII(m): 11:08am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't borrow money you can't afford to lose,use your brain Just dash him like 200k 64 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by myself13: 11:08am On Sep 23, 2018 |
women sha 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ZoeyJ(f): 11:09am On Sep 23, 2018 |
I made that mistake of lending out 43k and never got it back. I'm still pained 76 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by phorget(m): 11:12am On Sep 23, 2018 |
lend him half of what he asked for but within you just assume that that is a sacrifice you have to make for love. If he's grateful to the point of paying you back then he is indeed ur man. This days people only know how to borrow never to pay back, they will quickly put up a fight thereby annulling the friendship. 38 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by lovelybugs(f): 11:15am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Have you ever borrowed him money before? Did he pay back before or on the agreed date? How is he with fulfilling promises? Does he easily break agreements? You said he knows your account balance? Your relationship is already in a delicate situation because if you don't help him and he has genuine intentions he'll feel like you don't love and trust him enough to borrow him. But on another hand if you do and he doesn't pay back you'll be wrecked. But first of all please answer my initial questions, what is his attitude to promises? 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by twerkjack: 11:16am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Lend him wetin?? Is he ya husband? Girl Better use ya head ![]() 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Headlesschicken(m): 11:17am On Sep 23, 2018 |
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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 11:19am On Sep 23, 2018 |
don't borrow him 5 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ojoj(m): 11:21am On Sep 23, 2018 |
My sister, life is a risk. Take the risk, if successful thank God, if unsuccessful thank God. But it's worth it. But I will advice you to take the risk. Borrow him the money. All the best! 5 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by CAPSLOCKED: 11:25am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Saff: Jennifer89: Colourich: LOL. WE'RE VERY MUCH AWARE THAT MOST WOMEN (NOT ALL) WOULD RATHER COMMIT SUICIDE INSTEAD OF HELP OUT A MAN. THEY CAN'T HELP THEIR MALE FRIENDS, NOR THEIR BOYFRIENDS, NOR THEIR HUSBANDS.. NOT EVEN THEIR OWN BLOOD BROTHERS. THEY ONLY WANT TO RECEIVE, AND NEVER TO GIVE. "SELFISHNESS AND WICKEDNESS" IS THE SYNONYM FOR WOMEN LIKE YOU. 87 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 11:27am On Sep 23, 2018 |
I have a STORY, this na my STORY STORY STORY ![]() On a more serious note, when there are BANKS why think of lending someone such large amount ![]() ![]() He should consider taking bank loan. I don’t wan another acrimony thread on NL ![]() ***Modified - The people below me saying dash, isn’t that cash too large ![]() 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by LadyHeaven(f): 11:29am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't lend him all, dash him like 100-200k tell him it's what you can afford and no need to pay back,firstly it validates you as having his back and been kind enough to freely give without hope of payback and secondly you still have a strong back up, what my eye has seen when it comes to money and trust no be here, Be wise PS- even if it was the woman asking the man I would still maintain same stance. 31 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 11:29am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Babe, don't try this poo. Just dash him 200k. 14 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by CAPSLOCKED: 11:30am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Sàff: BUT IT'S A MAN'S JOB TO GIVE WOMEN MONEY... HAHAHAHA. NO WONDER AUNTY CHIMAMANDA WANTS MEN TO STOP DOING THINGS FOR YOU PEOPLE (INCLUDING THE SIMPLEST THINGS LIKE OPENING DOORS) CUS MOST OF Y'ALL TERRIBLE HUMANS WHO DON'T DESERVE ANY LOVE OR FAVOURS. DID YOU SEE WHERE THIS LADY SAID HER MAN HELPED HER WITH SOME MONEY TO DO BUSINESS? AND NOW HE'S UNFORTUNATE WHILE SHE'S BETTER THAN HIM AND ALL YOU WOMEN ON THIS THREAD ARE DOING IS DISSUADE HER NOT TO HELP HIM BACK JUST THE WAY HE HELPED HER. YOU WANT HIM TO REMAIN BROKE SO SHE CAN BROKE-SHAME AND DISRESPECT HIM, AND JUMP ON TO THE NEXT AVAILABLE MAN. MOST OF YOU GIRLS ARE TERRIBLE. WOE BETIDE THE MAN THAT'LL TAKE ANY ONE OF YOU AS HIS WIFE OR ANYTHING SERIOUS. HE'S DESTINED FOR RIDICULE, SORROW, POVERTY, PAIN AND UNTIMELY DEATH. THIS IS WHY MEN DON'T GO TO WOMEN FOR HELP. YOU AIN'T GETTING NOTHING. THIS IS WHY WOMEN DON'T GO TO OTHER WOMEN FOR HELP. NOTHING GO FALL OUT... EXCEPT SHAMING AND INSULTING YOU. YOU CAN'T HELP YOUR MAN WITH CASH, YOU CAN'T PAY BILLS, YOU CAN'T CONTRIBUTE IN ANYWAYS TO ANYBODY'S LIFE... YOU ONLY USE YOUR MONEY FOR WIGS AND MAKEUP AND YOU THINK YOU'RE REALLY LIVING? DAMN. JUST LIKE MISSRAINE69 SAID... MONEY BRINGS OUT THE WORST IN PEOPLE. . 60 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Saff(f): 11:30am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Please do NOT borrow him anything. PLEASEEE!!! Or give him something that you’re ready to lose, pleaseee. But preferably nothing. Goodluck 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by khalazi: 11:30am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't lend him the money. 700k more than 80% of ur savings... abeg ooo. Even the 100-200 wey pple de talk dash, make sure say na lend u lend am to am. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Suzzyyy: 11:31am On Sep 23, 2018 |
lovelybugs: Hez hardly make promises he can't fulfill because he likes keeping his words and he has never for one day ask for money from me if not this one 7 Likes |
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