thunderfirebuha:


Take my advice.


If you don't want to lose that relationship, please don't lend him money.

rather, dash him 100 or 200 thousand.

dont say I didn't warn you

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

Boxer007:

I love my boyfriend too my dear. Lend him

highqueen:
Babe, don't try this poo. Just dash him 200k.

geo4c:
I don't understand this kind of advice sef

U said maybe he saw your account balance

Wat if he want to know if you can loose all you got to save his

If u two truly i mean truly understand each other

I don't think you would b here seeking advice

Meet him after dinner and tell him how much u'v got.. If after telling him Nd he still insist. u will b left with no other option than to trust him and give to him

On the oda hand

If he truly care for you and your business he wouldn't want you to go bankrupt

He might reduce the amount to something u can afford to loose

emykuzee:
no matter how you borrow to your partner
they will never pay you back
exprience

emykuzee:
no matter how you borrow to your partner
they will never pay you back
exprience

lovelybugs:
for me sef, even if they were married I wouldn't advise them to use all her savings to fix the business. He has plans. Plans fail. What if the money is lost? He obviously doesn't have any savings left that's why he's asking her to borrow him. Now if they are married and she gives him all her money and the plan fails they would need a little money to hold body and soul together. My point is in no situation should all the life savings of both partners be spent at once.

donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out of his life.

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.

KMSunshine:


Oops seems I forgot my eye drop in the kitchen..

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Learn to mind your business snoopy.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
@Suzzy as a criminologist whose number one is trust nobody, what if this your boyfriend sold off everything to traveled abroad Pretty conducive he encountered a problem that got him owning or did Custom seize his goods or they capsized in the Sea

For you to know his true side just tell him you can cough out only 200k intact you have only 250k in your savings and can give 200k.

The ultimate con is using little money to catch more Money.

Just saying

Kampack:




so good a response, I read it twice. fear women!

KMSunshine:


Your face is too ugly honestly, couldn't help but to voice it out! You damn ugly woman, I swear you fcking look like igwe Kala Masquerade!

Shugavee:
she is beautifully n wonderfully made !!

Jyde89:


As your name implies, o ma kala gan, okala baby elenu yama yama.

baby124:
You are very stupid for showing a boyfriend your account balance. I am sure your family needs that kind of money to survive but you can’t give because you are trying to save for your future which is normal. This guy is not your husband. If you give him this money, you will lose him. If you don’t, you will lose him. Give him back the 100k he gave you as a loan. You were able to hustle from 100k to 800k, he can hustle better and start from small rather than getting himself in more debt. Let him hustle to find the rest. Tell him a family emergency came up and they say you have to contribute 500k and you need 200k in your account for rent and emergencies. You can only give 100k right now. I can’t even give my husband 80% of my savings.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
And a guy would give a lady 700k out of his 850k to start afresh Please let's b realistic.

Kampack:




not just 700/850, his life, his future, his glory, his everything....and that's luv. just listen to OP & yourself, " I luv him, but Im scared to give him" that's not luv my dear. luv conquers all!

KMSunshine:


Your face is too ugly honestly, couldn't help but to voice it out! You damn ugly woman, I swear you fcking look like igwe Kala Masquerade!

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol... Typical. How that one take concern you? Hmmmm? Your cheap shot ain't hot abeg. Gimme something better. The " you ugly, you a how" is soooo yesterday.

policysamuel:

just 43K?

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

policysamuel:

just 43K?