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Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by holywater24: 3:01am On Sep 30, 2018 |
My name is Johnson am from Lagos state,Nigeria.I am a business man,I have a friend that I trust so much and I use to move with anywhere am going.he is not buoyant financially and he was abandoned by his ex wife, I always feel concern about him that I even use to give him money to maintain his daily activities I even introduced him to my business,I move him around on the business so he can learn and I also do take him travel with my own expenses,he is older than me by 5 good years. Suddenly I noticed sometin in him he has spirit of anger if one offends him he find it difficult to forget and sometimes when we have misunderstanding he can keep malice for 3 days this has been pissing me off before I got another shocking revelation. It happened last week that I secretly check his WhatsApp phone and messages,there is this fine lady I am dating and he knows and to my surprise I see that he has been chatting with my girl without telling me and as I proceed on his chats history with my girl.he was telling my girl he loves her and funny enough I have a very big secret I did not reveal to my girl and he exposed everything to the girl I was shocked ibsaw it on their message conversations and this is the person am squatting sleeping on the same bed with me. Right now as at this time am chatting he is sleeping and I can't sleep am just thinking about this life how human being can be so devilish and betrayal set in. Please am confuse what should i do to this kind of friendship? I need a serious advice.. Thank you 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 3:06am On Sep 30, 2018 |
What is confusing you there OP. Your friend is an Enemy. Just look for an excuse & leave him, relocate or travel somewhere else. As for your new fine lady, Just leave her for him & go. This will be hard honestly, but its better to let sleeping dogs lie as you said she already knows your BIG secret (what ever that is). There are girls/guys everywhere, a dime a dozen. 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by kay0195: 3:59am On Sep 30, 2018 |
Reason why I dont keep friends. And ppl will think am too quiet or am not friendly enough but I'm just avoiding these kind ppl and dem plenty. Jealousy and envy everywhere. I just have one very close friend from childhood whom am using sense n wisdom sef to relate with. I can't face this kind of drama in my life joor! I no fit shout! 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Neiy: 4:05am On Sep 30, 2018 |
Please cut the friendship and stay on your lane. If he can do this now, expect the worst in future if you fail to leave the friendship. For the lady chatting with your friend without letting you know from the onset is a time waster", let her go too. So many fishes in the ocean. Take your time, u'd find the Best 3 Likes |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by carammel(f): 4:07am On Sep 30, 2018 |
The first mistake you made was revealing your "big secret" to your friend. The deed has been done anyway, just leave the house for him if it is a rented property, look for another place. Inform the police that the guy is a threat to you so he should be under watch because once he finds out you know about his bad behaviour, he may try to hurt you, a stitch in time saves nine. As for the girl, let her go, she is not loyal. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by ipobarecriminals: 4:43am On Sep 30, 2018 |
is he related to Ebora of Owu?Cos dat one to dnt forgive/forget.He'll eat ur food/drink ur palmy and still flog u join Ask Audu Ogbeh Come again,U dnt have a friend A friend dat revealed ur secret to Ur GF/share her with u,is dat one a friend or murderer? Leave him b4 God leave u. Leave him b4 he poison ur food and inherit ur property. A friend dat snatch ur GF can snatch ur life/property join May u not see evil/friend wey go send u go journey of no return.May u not trek from Oshodi go Yola . Stop giving space to friend. I dnt have friend. I dnt go visiting pipu. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by ipobarecriminals: 4:54am On Sep 30, 2018 |
Dnt stress urself too much.Go buy calabash, put 3 eggs inside it Tie red cloth on ur head and waist.dance and chant incantations in unknown language like gbewiri gbe fopo moyoyo.Ori gbe,ixi jabo.kuru bente kuru bente. Nah run he go run comot ur house 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by marshalldgreat(m): 6:22am On Sep 30, 2018 |
You better discard him now before he does more damage 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Hugo55(m): 7:08am On Sep 30, 2018 |
ipobarecriminals: Hahahahahahahahahahah Bro you need to see me laughing here. you dam creative. Can you chant that thing again... Thank you for putting smile on my face. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Gloriagee(f): 8:34am On Sep 30, 2018 |
So what's the big secret? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 10:40am On Sep 30, 2018 |
The reason I don't have a friend, na my mama be my padi. The only mad girl left in my life sef I showed her the door some days ago. Oga, throw his bags away, show him what you've seen, shut your door and walk away. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by KanwuliaExtra: 9:52am On Oct 01, 2018 |
Call your girl and the man to dinner. After feeding them and they are relaxed, show them both copies of the chats. Ask them both to LEAVE TOGETHER! Delete both from your phone and life. Life is complicated enough. No time for losers. * make sure 2 olopas are outside your gate to escort them out * 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 11:04am On Oct 01, 2018 |
some people are actually enemies in disguise, not friends. |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Ishilove: 12:19pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Gloriagee:It won't be a secret if he tells us |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by TheeDetective: 12:32pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Is your lady aware that this is your friend? If she is, then she is a two timing faced individual; GET RID OF HER FASTER THAN SHE CAN SPELL HER NAME. As for your friend what exactly are you confused about? Someone just revealed a big secret you told them and you are her asking how to deal with the friendship Oh please; no one needs to tell you that it is time to cut ties with him or nah when him carry your money run before your eyes go open abi? LESSON ONE IN LIFE; DON’T KEEP TOXIC PEOPLE AROUND YOU THEY HAVE A WAY OF MESSING YOU UP. A word is enough for the wise. Enough said. 2 Likes |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by extremelygolden: 1:46pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Moreover, if you don't disassociate yourself with them now, one day, the yeye friend of yours will team up with your gullible girlfriend and poison you and take over your business. But before you send them packing out of your life, make sure you transfer that their betrayal Whatsapp chats into your phone as evidence. I mean girlfriend might come up oneday to claim that you got her pregnant before kicking her out. |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Godmother(f): 2:28pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Please cut off from your friend before he does something worse. This is not a friend to keep and be sure to let him know why you are separating from him. |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Chubhie: 2:46pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Don't be too angry and forget the lessons. Don't take it personal. They're merely holding a mirror to you. Find the lessons and make the needed changes to become better not bitter. |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 3:11pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Gloriagee: Gentlemen, this is the reason why you must never trust or divulge your secrets to any woman. Women are naturally wired to go about talking cho, cho, cho, cho, cho, cho. OP - With a friend like that your paddy, you do not need an enemy. I trust you to do the right thing with wisdom. Do not alert him, just do what you gotta do. Leave that house or apartment for him & find another one. If you're in Lekki, relocate to the mainland & vice versa. As for your big secret, just be expecting to read about it on facebook, twitter or instagram. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Gloriagee(f): 3:16pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
It's an anonymous forum, right? Apart from my general nosiness I'm also wondering if he's overreacting by keeping such from his babe. Ishilove: |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 5:44pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Gloriagee: Also an anonymous forum where the bad friend + new GF can also have an account, so NO. keep your Nose sorry Nosiness to yourself. |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Gloriagee(f): 7:07pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Dude back off. You're not the OP so keep your unsolicited opinions to urself. [sup][/sup] cruchenutii: 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Gloriagee(f): 7:10pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Dude back off. You're not the OP so keep your unsolicited opinions to urself or the op. Do not quote or respond to me abeg. Keep encouraging bloke to keep secrets from his romantic partners n this will def happen again [sup][/sup] cruchenutii: 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 9:22pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Gloriagee: It pained you sooooo much, you even quoted me twice |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Gloriagee(f): 10:19pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
I suppose that gave you a high. N I guess you know nothing about connection issues so go and feel good bout being quoted twice. Wat an achievement How have you helped the op with ur immature painful or perhaps silly remarks? cruchenutii: 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Gloriagee(f): 10:30pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Was it the woman that spilled the secret? How come she's now the one being accused of spilling some so called secret. If the op never stumbled on the chat, he will be not even aware she knew. But dont fail to blame the babe after all she's only a woman.. Zoharariel: 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 11:02pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
Gloriagee: k |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Seahawk: 1:27am On Oct 02, 2018 |
But he divulged it to a man and it was the man who went telling wasn’t it? Can you people post one comment without looking for a way to insult all women? Is this a disease afflicting you that you can’t help talk down on women even when unwarranted? Zoharariel: 2 Likes |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Seahawk: 1:30am On Oct 02, 2018 |
. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Nobody: 7:00am On Oct 02, 2018 |
Seahawk: Women are dime a dozen doesn't mean that they are worthless. Men are dime a dozen too, maybe you didn't notice that a Country with 200M+ people have so many singles Men/Women out there, you can/will always find someone else. I apologise that It may sound derogatory, but that was not my intention. The truth is, there are plenty amazing men/women out there & you can't be stuck on someone/crying simply because they are so beautiful or handsome. There are a lot of amazing people you haven't met honestly. |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by StrongWoman333(f): 10:52am On Oct 02, 2018 |
kay0195:Same here.. I'm just like you..jealousy and envy everywhere and I hate the drama that comes out of it . |
Re: Please I Need A Serious Advice Concerning A Bad Friend by Seahawk: 1:07pm On Oct 02, 2018 |
Apology accepted cruchenutii: |
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