I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

Sit her down and talk to sense into her

"so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants"
a cliché girls have been using since 19BC.. leave them to go marry those men and watch them still unmarried in the next four years. Bro don't let someone rush you into getting married, make as much as you want, when you fully settled go for it.

Mr Man. There's nothing to discuss about.

She's ready and want to get married as a woman she is, that's her major priority and goal in that relationship for now, and I believe you have yours aswell.

Path ways if you aren't ready to marry her yet so that she'll settle down with someone else, while you get busy with your hustling priority until you are ready to settle down.

-Don't delay her and end up not marrying her.
-Also, don't let her drag and emotionally blackmail you into what you are not ready for.

It's a simple stuff. No time for Yama Yama.

The question is would you love to get married to her eventually.
If yeah, then tell her it's you both alone in your world. And why you feel it's better to wait and prepare well before marriage.
She should't mind what anybody says, or whatever her culture preaches.
And assure her she won't lose you for anyone.

Oga, hustle and make money. No time for hullabaloo

Lol

oxladexo:
The question is would you love to get married to her eventually.
If yeah, then tell her it's you both alone in your world. And why you feel it's better to wait and prepare well before marriage.
She should't mind what anybody says, or whatever her culture preaches.
And assure her she won't lose you for anyone.

That is what I have been preaching for the past 2 months now. She is giving me deadline till December and I hope to call it quit before then since she isn't listening to me anymore.

She tryna intimidate you by saying other guys are asking her out. Abeg call off the relationship to avoid story that touches the heart.

But I don't know why we Africans sees marriage as an achievement or competition, the thing dey baffles me I swear.

Even though mother nature put expiry date on our girls@ 35 but why the rush at 24? Let her go and see whether she won't still be unmarried @35





#makemomeyfirstabeg #moneyovereverything #moneyoverthembitches

dyze:
Oga, hustle and make money. No time for hullabaloo

Am telling you bro. The worse thing is that while my mum is telling her to cool down, her mum is telling me about tradition.

If deep inside you, you aint ready to marry, and she threatening to marry one of her suitors if you don't marry her on time, let go of her, she's worth it and don't let her get into your head lying that it is Yorubas' style, it is her style

Tajbol4splend:
If deep inside you, you aint ready to marry, and she threatening to marry one of her suitors if you don't marry her on time, let go of her, she's worth it and don't let her get into your head lying that it is Yorubas' style, it is her style

Abi oooo

tetula123:
"so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants"
a cliché girls have been using since 19BC.. leave them to go marry those men and watch them still unmarried in the next four years. Bro don't let someone rush you into getting married, make as much as you want, when you fully settled go for it.

Marry her na, you want chop clean mouth fold blokos run. Go marry her

Oyindidi:
Marry her na, you want chop clean mouth fold blokos run. Go marry her

This is not chop and clean mouth ooo. Funny enough we haven't had sex before as untrue as it may sound. Am not keen on that.

Let her go.

Yoruba girl rushing to marry at 24

She said a yoruba style...big fat lie

Any Yoruba girl desperate to get married at that age has issues.might be family, peer pressure like u just said or financial problem from the family

80% of them not all

The only girl that wedded at a young age in my family was about 25 or so.only girl.it was because of family/school issue.

The rest enjoyed their lives very well.toured Europe, America well well. Made money before settling down

LaBozz:


This is not chop and clean mouth ooo. Funny enough we haven't had sex before as untrue as it may sound. Am not keen on that.

Why you no want marry her? Yoruba marriage no cost, according to nlders

Oyindidi:
Why you no want marry her? Yoruba marriage no cost, according to nlders

The desperation dey fear me. Maybe she get problem wey I never know.

LaBozz:


The desperation dey fear me. Maybe she get problem wey I never know.

Na normal women gra gra

give am belle make her head calm down , that's if you really wan marry am o

daben1:
give am belle make her head calm down

Ahhhhh this one go be better kerosene on top fire.

LaBozz:


That is what I have been preaching for the past 2 months now. She is giving me deadline till December and I hope to call it quit before then since she isn't listening to me anymore.

deadline?
hmm its like one malaysian big boy is already proposing to her and she"s already giving u one last chance

lefulefu:

deadline?
hmm its like one malaysian big boy is already proposing to her and she"s already giving u one last chance

Make she follow go Malaysia naaa... As I be small African boy. But then again she knows am the type that can't be oppressed. Am not rich neither am I a show guy, but if Malaysia big boys pop 20 Hennessey, I go fit pop with legit money. If Malaysia big boy buy am Brazilian hair 500k, I go fit buy 20k and e go fine pass the 500k lol

LaBozz:


Ahhhhh this one go be better kerosene on top fire.

na true Na my brother, why the girl go Dey give am deadline?

Oyindidi:
Marry her na, you want chop clean mouth fold blokos run. Go marry her

BraHahahaha!

My gross gosh! Didn't know guys fold blo.... Gross I can't even pronounce that.

HARDDON:


BraHahahaha!

My gross gosh! Didn't know guys fold blo.... Gross I can't even pronounce that.

Watin dey make you shame? E get watin you no sabi?

Op, there are a lot of factors at play here but the Major thing is: NONE IS IN YOUR FAVOUR!

The worse thing you can do as a man is get straightned into line by a lady. Do that and kiss your Balls good-bye.


Besides, from your statements above, it's obvious you don't really dig her much. Just the wet walls perhaps?
Let her go.

Sense pill:
Balls Over Bitches(B. O. B) (oops!! I didn't say that)

at 24, I bet you this girl is not psychologically, mentally and emotionally fit for marriage, one if these girls that you'll marry and in the middle of the night they'll start crying, when you ask them what happened? they'll tell you nothing and in the morning they'll start crying again that when she's was crying in the night, you didn't pet her, you continued sleeping...

Oyindidi:
Watin dey make you shame? E get watin you no sabi?

Didi,

bliv me, there are a lot I don't know especially when it comes to blok.... Ouch!

LaBozz:
I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

Sounds like you should end the relationship because she's not being unrealistic, 1 to 2 years is the normal time to discuss marriage. If she ain't the one for you then jump and pass... don't make her feel way.

Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.