iLegendd:
You'll learn a lot from this short post.

This is what I observed about creating a thread on Nairaland, especially, in Romance Section.

There are two people on Nairaland.

1. The leader (thread creator)
2. The readers (thread viewers)

Let's assume there are 100 people. Out of these 100, one of them is the thread creator, the leader, and the other 99 are the viewers.

There is something about the viewers — they are united at first.

When the leader creates a thread, the readers come as a union. One of the readers will pick a fight with the leader to see how he or she will react.

When this happens, the remaining 98 of the viewers are watching and waiting to judge the leader based on what he or she will reply.

If he attacks back, 90, out of the 98 will attack by defending the first attacker who attacked the leader.

The remaining 8 will feel sympathetic and align with the leader to make him or her not to feel bad.

Now, here is the tricky part. If the leader refuses to ignore the attacker, the thread will become a war zone. It will become 9 people vs. 91 people.

The negative comments made by the attackers will be liked by some of the attackers allies. This "Like or Share" make the attacker feel validated and appreciated.

At the end of the thread, the attacker(s) will move to another thread feeling fulfilled because his co-attackers supported him by clicking the like button of his comment.

This is the reason most of these attackers are addicted to Nairaland.

There is a chemical called dopamine. It makes attackers strive for success and what is that success? The success is: their fellow attackers supporting them with likes and share.

What does these "likes and shares" do? They secrete serotonin in the membrane — a feeling of love, fulfilment, happiness, and content.

These attackers feel fulfilled because they were loved and supported by their union. This feeling is what make attackers waste hours online without realizing it.

When they wake in the morning, the first thing they think about is their phone and the website where their unions are.

I want to advised these attackers: at the end of the year, you'll look back without achieving much in life except the LIKES & SHARES your "union" bestowed on you or the ones you bestowed on your union members.

On the other hand, when the leader looks back, he has achieved a lot. The next year, the attackers will start to envy the leader for achieving more than them — they forgot they wasted their time attacking people online.

So, be a leader, not an attacker. Leaders get attacked the most, but they rule. You should rather be a leader and be attacked than an attacker, but depressed at the end of the year for not achieving much.

Though, I love attackers for one selfish reason and that is: they waste their precious time making a leader trend / popular as they attack and abuse him.

If the leader is smart, he can leverage on the controversy these attackers bring and make a name for himself — not just a name, but MONEY too.

If you wake in the morning and the first thing you pick or touch is your phone, then you navigate to checking your social media profile, you're in trouble — BIG TROUBLE.

If you check your phone, let it ONLY be to check time and nothing more. After checking time, drop it — don't let temptation push you to open any social media app or site.

Let me give you a secret of the first 5 things I do when I wake in the morning before I touch my phone.

1. Pray (short prayer)
2. Push-up (short exercise)
3. Brush
4. Drink water
5. Shower or clean

The above must be done before I'll check my phone. This is the secret of being productive.

Unfortunately for attackers, the first thing they do is to check their phones, check Facebook, WhatsApp, Nairaland, Instagram, Twitter, etc. Before they realize it, 1 hour has been wasted.

Why are they addicted to such a lifestyle? The answer is: emotional attachment of being an attacker under a unified union which is controlled by a high dopamine drive and hunger for serotonin and validation.

I have a lot to reveal, but let me stop here. Learn to be productive, not to be an attacker. If you must be an attacker, do it smartly and be cognisant of your time wastage online.

No one will reveal all these secrets to you, so count yourself lucky for reading this.

What did you learn from this short post?

A. Be an attacker
B. Be productive
C. Open your social media app immediately you wake
D. Be a leader
E. Keep wasting your time watching porn
F. Keep on masturbating without going on a break
G. Be smart
H. All of the above
I. None of the above

Thank you for reading.


Joe Clef,

Relationship expert / psychologist / programmer

The CEO of www.wetclef.com and a bestselling author of men's relationship help books.

QueenBelle:
what i've noticed is that most guys here love slutshaming women. I just dont know why. Ive barely spent a month here and ive been bashed by 3 different guys.

MhisTahrah:
60% of male romancelanders are illiterates, have zero respect for other people's opinions and hypocritical.

Iamgrey5, been a while.

MhisTahrah:
60% of male romancelanders are illiterates, have zero respect for other people's opinions and hypocritical.

Iam.grey5, been a while.

Iamgrey5:
Hello tarah, yes it has been a while, how is school and everything.

MhisTahrah:
Is it school or marriage dais keeping you from us?
Every every dey fine.

MhisTahrah:
60% of male romancelanders are illiterates, have zero respect for other people's opinions and hypocritical.

Iamgrey5, been a while.

Uglymugg:


They know they'll get likes for any kind of comment they post. Watch how people will post when there's a dislike button.

Most people only post nonsense for likes.

Iamgrey5:
Marriage kee

We are still praying for Gods blessings

I have just been a little busy than usual

So how is your bfs? I suspect you are already on holidays abi.

neezar:

Do you have Pinky new contact

MhisTahrah:
I got the most disheartening news about her.I'm so sorry, I heard she passed away.

MhisTahrah:
I got the most disheartening news about her.I'm so sorry, I heard she passed away.

neezar:

Aaaaaargh.....Just tell me you are joking please

MhisTahrah:
Aleso.
We don't do BFs around here. Mid-semester.

resurgent4oodua:


Neezar, how far?

You sef dey reach here? Wetin u dey find upandan?

MhisTahrah:
I got the most disheartening news about her.I'm so sorry, I heard she passed away.

neezar:

Egbami i am everywhere

resurgent4oodua:


Your Waka Waka too much abeg.

I know say na woman you find come but nothing do you.

We go continue our battle for politcs section na

neezar:

Aaaaaargh.....Just tell me you are joking please

MhisTahrah:
I wouldn't joke with such a thing.I also wish it was a joke.I wish she'll come online and tell me that it's a prank.

iLegendd:
What? Stop joking. Just don't make me emotional, okay?

Iamgrey5:
Tarah, how true is this ?

neezar:

When did this happen

neezar:

Which woman

I am born again Bro

The heat for politics section too much....Either here or sports section dey cool me down

MhisTahrah:
July.