.

This was the practice and belief during the olden days.

However, there is a caveat to it. The man must properly marry the lady and must not skip the traditional marriage unification that involves the man killing a goat for the woman...the isokos have a name for this, it has to do with ‘rescuing the head of the woman’.

The above is the reason why, if a woman cheats on an Isoko man, the woman must kill a goat for the man as part of the cleansing, but only if the man killed a goat for her.

If the man didn’t kill any goat, there is no killing of goat by the woman and no cleansing and nothing will happen to the man, because the main traditional thing of consulting the ancestors by the killing of the goat did not occur.

Also in Isoko beyond being a taboo, relatives don’t date each other, it is believed that the ancestors will strict both of dead unless you perform cleansing rituals....even seeing your relative unclothedness by mistake requires a cleansing ritual to avert the wrath of the gods.

But, like I said before; the efficacy of these things are in doubt today, becos many of these villages no longer worship these ancestral spirit, regular ancestral festivals no longer holds, evil forest has been taken over by development in many communities and religious growth have seriously watered down these.

Nawa ooooh... These are really happening

Hanseel1:
Why you shouldn't cheat on your husband if he's from delta.

Please, this is to women married to urhobo and isoko men of delta state.
Don't ever cheat on them, Biko!!

Delta state is a very complicated and complex state when it comes to traditional and religious stuffs. If a woman cheats on an urhobo or isoko man and the man doesn't take up the matter seriously, he'll die.

It doesn't matter whether he did traditional marriage or only registry marriage as long as he's from isoko or urhobo. Ancestors are following him, even he run to America to do only registry marriage with a white woman and the woman cheats on him with another man and he was informed, if he dismisses it as a joke because he trust you and he doesn't take up the matter he'll die.

See, whether he's Christian or not ,this thing is very active. Anybody from delta state can confirm what I'm saying now.

When I was younger because of this stuffs, I used to say that I'll skip traditional marriage and do only registry.. I thought that those stuffs are superstitious or works only on men who pay bride price but now even though I'm married I've known much.

As long as the man is from isoko or urhobo, he'll die if you cheat on him and he still eat your food or still have sex with you.

This ancestors or traditional something is kinda sexist, yes . If a man cheats nothing will happen but if a woman cheat the man is a dead man.

I don't think this happen in igbo, Yoruba and other major tribes too else their women won't be cheating anyhow.


Many isoko and urhobo men have died because of this matter.

If you're married to an igbo or yoruba man, you can cheat anyhow you wish .

Can you show evidence for this?e

So what i was told is really true... wonderful, weird tradition

helen4:
I bet to disagree, not all Isoko and Urhobo my brother. I am 100% certified Isoko in culture, language and belief. it has some parts that has that culture but not all. Make your research and Get your fact right please .

hope you havnt cheated to be this sure though
I am Isoko too and I have heard this too many times.. just that it’s the ladies who die if they cheat.. infact I have experienced...

It happens to Esan people too

tosyne2much:
Nawa ooooh... These are really happening

seriously bro. I experienced one

victorian:
Op your information is false.
If urhobo or isoko Man marries from any tribe even his own tribe, anywhere in world but didn't do traditional marriage, he won't die, the wife won't die, nobody will die. If she cheats.
But if the traditional marriage is done? And she cheats, the woman or her children dies mysteriously. That's how it works. Even if they later travel abroad after the traditional marriage, and she cheats, she dies.. Not the man. That's in the days of my dad.
Maybe they've now changed it to be killing the man, just maybe? I can't say. But from onset, the cheating woman is the one who dies. Op where are u from?

Exactly how I know it to be..

When I was studying at Edo State (ESAN), the man usually dies but I heard it’s changed as of now

linearity:
This was the practice and belief during the olden days.

However, there is a caveat to it. The man must properly marry the lady and must not skip the traditional marriage unification that involves the man killing a goat for the woman...the isokos have a name for this, it has to do with ‘rescuing the head of the woman’.

The above is the reason why, if a woman cheats on an Isoko man, the woman must kill a goat for the man as part of the cleansing, but only if the man killed a goat for her.

If the man didn’t kill any goat, there is no killing of goat by the woman and no cleansing and nothing will happen to the man, because the main traditional thing of consulting the ancestors by the killing of the goat did not occur.

Also in Isoko beyond being a taboo, relatives don’t date each other, it is believed that the ancestors will strict both of dead unless you perform cleansing rituals....even seeing your relative unclothedness by mistake requires a cleansing ritual to avert the wrath of the gods.

But, like I said before; the efficacy of these things are in doubt today, becos many of these villages no longer worship these ancestral spirit, regular ancestral festivals no longer holds, evil forest has been taken over by development in many communities and religious growth have seriously watered down these.

Well I don't know about the killing of goat but all i know is once the bride price is paid or oyinbo wedding with your oyinbo wife is done, signed and seal, the woman should not try it. And my dear @helen4, no Isoko community or town is exempted from it. Let no one deceive you but a chit chat with those your elders or guys in the village will help.

WebSurfer:
hope you havnt cheated to be this sure though
I am Isoko too and I have heard this too many times.. just that it’s the ladies who die if they cheat.. infact I have experienced...

It happens to Esan people too

You must be stupid and daft. For me to be sure doesn't mean I've cheated it's simple my folks passed down. Do you know the number of villages, towns and communities we have? You're talking about just one out of many. SMH

enm:


Well I don't know about the killing of goat but all i know is once the bride price is paid or oyinbo wedding with your oyinbo wife is done, signed and seal, the woman should not try it. And my dear @helen4, no Isoko community or town is exempted from it. Let no one deceive you but a chit chat with those your elders or guys in the village will help.

my dear speak for yourself. I am isoko on both sides an my folks passed down history and stories. So, get your facts right.

helen4:
You must be stupid and daft. For me to be sure doesn't mean I've cheated it's simple my folks passed down. Do you know the number of villages, towns and communities we have? You're talking about just one out of many. SMH

No wonder you are complaining of depression, guilty conscience dealt with you on that one
You must be really stupid and useless...

WebSurfer:


No wonder you are complaining of depression, guilty conscience dealt with you on that one
You must be really stupid and useless...

he-goat like you, are you sure you're not the one with depression. Am sure you think you're talking about your sister or wife. Because you think every woman is like them. Orhue, ehwe, Lazy Nigerian like you.

helen4:
he-goat like you, are you sure you're not the one with depression. Am sure you think you're talking about your sister or wife. Because you think every woman is like them. Orhue, ehwe, Lazy Nigerian like you.

depression finish you there

WebSurfer:
depression finish you there

it's written all over you bros.

linearity:
This was the practice and belief during the olden days.

However, there is a caveat to it. The man must properly marry the lady and must not skip the traditional marriage unification that involves the man killing a goat for the woman...the isokos have a name for this, it has to do with ‘rescuing the head of the woman’.

The above is the reason why, if a woman cheats on an Isoko man, the woman must kill a goat for the man as part of the cleansing, but only if the man killed a goat for her.

If the man didn’t kill any goat, there is no killing of goat by the woman and no cleansing and nothing will happen to the man, because the main traditional thing of consulting the ancestors by the killing of the goat did not occur.

Also in Isoko beyond being a taboo, relatives don’t date each other, it is believed that the ancestors will strict both of dead unless you perform cleansing rituals....even seeing your relative unclothedness by mistake requires a cleansing ritual to avert the wrath of the gods.

But, like I said before; the efficacy of these things are in doubt today, becos many of these villages no longer worship these ancestral spirit, regular ancestral festivals no longer holds, evil forest has been taken over by development in many communities and religious growth have seriously watered down these.

Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

enm:


Well I don't know about the killing of goat but all i know is once the bride price is paid or oyinbo wedding with your oyinbo wife is done, signed and seal, the woman should not try it. And my dear @helen4, no Isoko community or town is exempted from it. Let no one deceive you but a chit chat with those your elders or guys in the village will help.

Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

tosyne2much:
Nawa ooooh... These are really happening

Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

victorian:
Op your information is false.
If urhobo or isoko Man marries from any tribe even his own tribe, anywhere in world but didn't do traditional marriage, he won't die, the wife won't die, nobody will die. If she cheats.
But if the traditional marriage is done? And she cheats, the woman or her children dies mysteriously. That's how it works. Even if they later travel abroad after the traditional marriage, and she cheats, she dies.. Not the man. That's in the days of my dad.
Maybe they've now changed it to be killing the man, just maybe? I can't say. But from onset, the cheating woman is the one who dies. Op where are u from?

Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

lefulefu:
not only in delta..even edo sef.if the man knows his wife bleeps around and he still eats her food or has sex with her he go die.the way i hear am...the man will start swelling up and after that he expires.why u do u think ini edo"s esan husband broke up with her.....but for this to happen there has to be a traditional marriage.

Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

I have also heard of this... Don't know how true but I have seen urhobo/isoko men take it extremely serious.

so it's okay for the man to cheat right? very sexist nonsense.


cc: onesentence

See ignorance everywhere... mtewww... sick cultures, sick traditions.. works for those that believes the trash.

Elder0001:


Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

Wow! Thank you for your effort in finding out things yourself and coming to share with us. God bless you.

Patriarchal or not we should exercise caution in condemning our traditional because when this law were being set by our grand grand grand Fathers, we weren't there and no record to educate us on things or condition of things at that time that warrant them to make such a law.

Accepted the tradition is partial to the women folk but what can we do? All i can say is that we men should empathise with them and try in our own little way to balance the equation.

I once ask an elder why can't this law or traditions be amended to conform with our present day and he said nobody can change what the ancestors has set in place and sealed and when i tried to argued the tradition is set by humans and the ancestors are human too so what stopping us we human to amend it and he said i should go and try it.

Like one elder said this law of cheating and all that was to prevent we men fighting over women thereby leading to disturbance of the community peace and unity and moreover the community then where closed knitted ones. There are many reason to give but the fact is cheating is not good whether done by a man or woman.

Nobodys:
See ignorance everywhere... mtewww... sick cultures, sick traditions.. works for those that believes the trash.

It's either you're a kid or you're just joking.

This is real ! This isn't some joke.

enm:


Wow! Thank you for your effort in finding out things yourself and coming to share with us. God bless you.

Patriarchal or not we should exercise caution in condemning our traditional because when this law were being set by our grand grand grand Fathers, we weren't there and no record to educate us on things or condition of things at that time that warrant them to make such a law.

Accepted the tradition is partial to the women folk but what can we do? All i can say is that we men should empathise with them and try in our own little way to balance the equation.

I once ask an elder why can't this law or traditions be amended to conform with our present day and he said nobody can change what the ancestors has set in place and sealed and when i tried to argued the tradition is set by humans and the ancestors are human too so what stopping us we human to amend it and he said i should go and try it.

Like one elder said this law of cheating and all that was to prevent we men fighting over women thereby leading to disturbance of the community peace and unity and moreover the community then where closed knitted ones. There are many reason to give but the fact is cheating is not good whether done by a man or woman.

Patriarchy has no place in a modern way.

Nobodys:
See ignorance everywhere... mtewww... sick cultures, sick traditions.. works for those that believes the trash.

No my dear sister, it also work for those who don't believe the trash. Believe it or not, carry bible and Koran for head, once one deviate OYO is that person case.

Elder0001:


It's either you're a kid or you're just joking.

This is real ! This isn't some joke.

. Comprehension is key...

Ain't got time to joke with you, ADULT.

Elder0001:


Patriarchy has no place in a modern way.

Nothing wrong in patriarchy if we take a critical look at it, the problem is some men not applying wisdom.

enm:


No my dear sister, it also work for those who don't believe the trash. Believe it or not, carry bible and Koran for head, once one deviate OYO is that person case.

. Don't even try to sell me on it dear. .... I don't believe those shiits..

.All mechanisms used by our forefathers to keep women in check....Like I said earlier, it works for those who believe it...

helen4:
I bet to disagree, not all Isoko and Urhobo my brother. I am 100% certified Isoko in culture, language and belief. it has some parts that has that culture but not all. Make your research and Get your fact right please .

When last you go village??

victorian:
Op your information is false.
If urhobo or isoko Man marries from any tribe even his own tribe, anywhere in world but didn't do traditional marriage, he won't die, the wife won't die, nobody will die. If she cheats.
But if the traditional marriage is done? And she cheats, the woman or her children dies mysteriously. That's how it works. Even if they later travel abroad after the traditional marriage, and she cheats, she dies.. Not the man. That's in the days of my dad.
Maybe they've now changed it to be killing the man, just maybe? I can't say. But from onset, the cheating woman is the one who dies. Op where are u from?

From the information I hear too, it was the Man first, then they changed it to the woman and the children..