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Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by CanadianNaija: 5:20am On Oct 20, 2018 |
ednut1: Supported. Take loan and invest like you want to, the minute you’re done paying it off, take another loan and handle something else. I will know if you’ll leave your loan repayments to give your mother church money. That way you won’t have excess cash, because you can only give what you have. 2 Likes |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Seahawk: 12:47pm On Oct 20, 2018 |
Pray tell how he can set up his siblings Do you know how much is required to set someone (much less a lot of siblings) up financially so that they don’t depend on anyone for money anymore? Where are those many hundreds of thousands if not millions of naira going to come from? From his 200k salary? You talk like your head is in the cloud. From guilt tripping the OP, to making it about your own perfect family, You’re not being helpful. At all Ioannes: 6 Likes |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Nobody: 12:56pm On Oct 20, 2018 |
Seahawk: You and only you are responsible for your inability to read and understand. Wouldn't it be nice if you read and refrained from quoting me, or is it that you can't restrain yourself? I have made my opinion known to the op. It's his prerogative to consider it or discard it. I don't have to explain myself to you, a faceless internet user. Now please, don't make my mentions your abode ok? |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Seahawk: 12:58pm On Oct 20, 2018 |
Mtchew Ioannes: |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Nobody: 1:07pm On Oct 20, 2018 |
Seahawk: No need to be annoyed Mr. I only adopted the tone you addressed me with. A little more civility from you and I might have actually explained what I meant and how I hoped the op would accomplish that which I advised him. Maybe you wanna try again? This time without the insults, huh? |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Seahawk: 1:15pm On Oct 20, 2018 |
Give your explanation to the OP. I’m certain he would love to learn how he can set his siblings up. Thanks Ioannes: |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Nobody: 1:27pm On Oct 20, 2018 |
Seahawk: I would but he hasn't asked for it, so I'm assuming he's got a better option than my idea. |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by ImaIma1(f): 4:37pm On Mar 08, 2020 |
Set up indeed! Why didn't the people who brought them to the world set them up? 2 Likes |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by NoHoper: 6:09pm On Nov 14, 2020 |
The NoHoper moniker was created at a point in my life when I felt really hopeless. I felt I wasn't in charge of my life. Felt like a victim. Felt like everyone around me was taking turns to screw me in the assss and there was nothing I could do. I was just a depressed loser. But things have changed, thanks to a couple of books I read. I feel in charge of my life now, though I've stepped on a number of toes, lost some "friends" and "family", but it's a worthy sacrifice. Growing my savings now. I'm really at peace with myself. Thanks to everyone who chipped in a word of advice here. 10 Likes |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Coolcalmcollect(m): 7:22pm On Nov 14, 2020 |
NoHoper:na you dey do nice Bobo na, trying to impress your parents bah, cos of their bullshit story of sending you to school and all dat. lol typical nigerian parent emotional blackmail.... I'd advice you change your sim card and never hear from them for atleast a year. they won't die and if they die, well its their time to go. never allow anybody come btw u and peace of mind....I repeat nobody. 2 Likes |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Stevenbright(m): 7:39pm On Nov 14, 2020 |
NoHoper: Set a target of saving #60,000 every month and don't touch it for any reason. Not even for your own needs. To do this, discuss with your banker to create this automatic savings account for your such that once your salary is paid, that amount is automatically debited and then credit into your savings account. Do this for 18 months and then start a side hustle with it to grow your streams of income. From the remaining one, you can spend half for yourself and the rest for your dependents. You should not ever live for any one because none will do that for you. Repeat the above saving to business/investment processes until you have at least three side hustles and then set up a provision shop for your mum too as this will as well reduce their dependence on you. Cheers! |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by dprincedej(m): 10:56am On Nov 15, 2020 |
Force your father to work. When your father lost his job, why did your mother continue to have children ? Tell your dad that this month would be the last time that you would give him money. You can not stop after marriage because they would blackmail you and your wife. This is the time to stop so that you can begin to save and acquire stuff. If your siblings are doing well in school, continue to sponsor them partly but encourage them to find a side hustle or learn a trade alongside. If they are not doing well in school, then don't bother to sponsor them. Start ignoring them and give them a lecture on reality. This night even make it hard to find a good wife when she sees how they suck you dry. They would attempt to make you feel bad but don't worry about it. It is a desperate move to cause you to continue. |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Luak(m): 11:11am On Nov 15, 2020 |
NoHoper:. During my days at NYSC, I served myself while serving my fatherland. Cheers |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by MrHighSea: 6:49pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
NoHoper:WTF did i just read. church stuffs? hang up? Guy, you try. 1 Like |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by eyinjuege: 11:40pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
NoHoper: Glad to know you're in a better state of mind 1 Like |
Re: Pressure From Family Members, Unbearable. Tired!!! by Saccharine: 1:32am On Nov 16, 2020 |
NoHoper, It's nice to see you are better. Can you list the steps you took to have this peace? It may be useful for people going through the same thing. |
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