lefulefu:
my brother most cases its really not about feminism. Its just dat some ladies dont know how to do any domestic stuff cos their moms never taught them when they were younger. Probably when the mom was in the kitchen cookin the dauther was in the sittingroom watching keeping up with the kardeshians or zee world. When it was time to wash her clothes it was either d mom washing her dauther's clothes or telling a maid to wash it. So how do u expect such a lady to engage in any domestic stuff when married. Does a lion change to a hyena?.

ednut1:
Works in a multinational but cant afford washing machine

MsGood:
Do whatever makes you happy. It's a NO for me though.

pureheartlady:
True talk

lefulefu:
there some ladies dem no even sabi boil egg. Give dem kettle to boil egg and dem go burn egg to charcoal.

lefulefu:
my brother most cases its really not about feminism. Its just dat some ladies dont know how to do any domestic stuff cos their moms never taught them when they were younger. Probably when the mom was in the kitchen cookin the dauther was in the sittingroom watching keeping up with the kardeshians or zee world. When it was time to wash her clothes it was either d mom washing her dauther's clothes or telling a maid to wash it. So how do u expect such a lady to engage in any domestic stuff when married. Does a lion change to a hyena?.

michaelandre:
tell ur friend to stop paying her schoolfee and use the money to buy a washing machine if she ask why let him tell her that "he is not paying her schoolfee anymore that if he continues paying it when they get married what would he be doing, that should better start paying because he isn't her dad" u can't be helping someone that can't help u nahh!!! a relationship should be a 50/50 thing.

CAPSLOCKED:


BUT COLLECTING HIS MONEY IS A YES.
WHAT'S YOUR ROLE IN HIS LIFE AGAIN?


ADVICE TO THE MAN IN QUESTION + OTHER MEN FOLKS..
IF AFTER ALL YOU'RE INVESTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND THE ONLY THING YOU'RE GETTING IS SEX.... (YOU'RE LOSING ENERGY TO DEADWOOD HERE AS WELL)....

YOU BETTER STOP WASTING ALL THAT EFFORT TRAINING ANOTHER MAN'S GROWN UP CHILD.

LAST TIME I LOOKED COMMERCIAL LOVE PEDDLERS PROVIDE BETTER SERVICES THAN WHAT YOU'RE GETTING SETTLING FOR LESS.

Administration1:
No need of too much stories,
I have a friend who works with a multinational firm, he has a matured girlfriend in her second level in the University, she resigned her job two years ago to get a degree.
They have been dating for over a year now and he intends settling down next year with her, presently, the guy pays her fees and gives her monthly upkeep cash, money to make her hair etc. but the problem is that the young man complains that she rarely washes his clothes, even boxers. Sometimes the guy spends 7 days in a week at work with no time to wash his clothes. And he doesn't like giving his clothes to drycleaners as they usually ruin the colours. He prefers hand-washing them, which he does any night he returns, sometimes, into the night, 1:00AM when you call my guy, he is still washing his clothes, bedsheets etc.

When asked the girl says "I am not washing your clothes, if i start washing your clothes now, what will I do when we get married, you'd better give them to the drycleaner.

My guy is totally confused, knowing that a character exhibited during a relationship will definitely come into play in marriage. Please what should he do.

pureheartlady:
have you met one before?

Daeylar:
Unfortunately the fact that he is pays her fees and gives her money for upkeep monthly doesn't mean she will do whatever he wants.
Your friend's girl should help wash if she can, but this one he is looking for hand washed clothes specifically (meaning he doesn't want the use of a washing machine.) it's to get and pay someone who will wash his clothes for him
Her reasons for not washing the clothes is quite unnecessary

SixDividedByTwo:
how is it the mothers' fault or what sort of reasoning is this? a mother doesn't need to teach you how to do other domestic chores before you learn how to do them for yourself.

lefulefu:
my brother most cases its really not about feminism. Its just dat some ladies dont know how to do any domestic stuff cos their moms never taught them when they were younger. Probably when the mom was in the kitchen cookin the dauther was in the sittingroom watching keeping up with the kardeshians or zee world. When it was time to wash her clothes it was either d mom washing her dauther's clothes or telling a maid to wash it. So how do u expect such a lady to engage in any domestic stuff when married. Does a lion change to a hyena?.

Administration1:
No need of too much stories,
I have a friend who works with a multinational firm, he has a matured girlfriend in her second level in the University, she resigned her job two years ago to get a degree.
They have been dating for over a year now and he intends settling down next year with her, presently, the guy pays her fees and gives her monthly upkeep cash, money to make her hair etc. but the problem is that the young man complains that she rarely washes his clothes, even boxers. Sometimes the guy spends 7 days in a week at work with no time to wash his clothes. And he doesn't like giving his clothes to drycleaners as they usually ruin the colours. He prefers hand-washing them, which he does any night he returns, sometimes, into the night, 1:00AM when you call my guy, he is still washing his clothes, bedsheets etc.

When asked the girl says "I am not washing your clothes, if i start washing your clothes now, what will I do when we get married, you'd better give them to the drycleaner.

My guy is totally confused, knowing that a character exhibited during a relationship will definitely come into play in marriage. Please what should he do.

tosyne2much:
You have spoken wisely bro

Even as a man, I'm very domesticated. I can't stand the sight of dirty plates and unswept floor, so I don't expect less from a lady

Some ladies are just plain lazy. To bathe sef na war. You see some of them outside and they will look glooming. Follow them to their room and you will be disappointed

eyinjuege:
Why is he responsible for her school fees and what not?
If she cannot help him with housework especially when he's hardly around and she is, why should he also help her pay her fees?
Meanwhile, there are other options of washing clothes. I'm sure he can employ someone to specifically hand wash his clothes. He should do that, or she can get someone to do it.
If they're both very busy people, they should employ someone to wash for them

zicoraads:

See una double standards!

As long as his friend is concerned, she has to do it. What is her own contribution to the relationship financial-wise?

Tell your friend not to buy any washing machine OP. She should either do it, or he should pack her things out of his house.

lefulefu:
there some ladies dem no even sabi boil egg. Give dem kettle to boil egg and dem go burn egg to charcoal.

LadySarah:
So who has been washing his clothes until he met the girl?
wanted to align with the Op but got put off when he insisted on a hand washed cloth.it means that even if the girl gets him a washing machine as a gift,it will be kept aside for the hands to do the job and for how long will this happen?

She's only trying to stop what she can't encourage in her marriage. When the babies come,laundry will become lager plus ogas own that will be "hand washed".

If I were her,I will get you a washing machine then you can do ur wish with it.


This is the reason why most women get fat and out of shape because of chores and soon look older than their husbands..

Youngjohnosas:
it's pretty sad some ladies just want a one sided relationship,they can offer nothing and u can't please them as well.they ask for a favour and you decline, it automatically makes you a bad person but u ask for one they feel they are not slaves and therefore not obligated to you...i am currently facing such in my relationship, I try to make her happy to the best of my ability but she simply can't reciprocate.when she comes visiting, she always wants me to join her in all chores.its compulsory for her because she is not a slave,i should join her prepare the meals or do it my self and she will serve and I will clear the dishes while she will clean it.. we having been dating for over two years,I treat her well and till date I haven't gotten a dime from her when I am broke but I don't complain that I am a slave.its bad.