Been dating a married man for about 3 years, it was sort of on and off cuz he loved his wife, and always felt guilty. He was with me mainly cuz he needed someone to talk to, give him attention and a sex. After the last time he left me, which was last year, I decided not to have sex with him again. He came back and we became good friends, hungout, gisted but no sex. He kept begging, that he wasn't getting any at home. I said no.
About 2 weeks ago, he messaged me that his wife died during child birth, after waiting for about 17years of marriage, I felt devastated, he loved her so much. Now he's all lonely and vulnerable. He begged me to attend the funeral, that it would give him strength, I did. He even mentioned my name during the vote of thanks. He asked me to cook some soups for him, which I took to his house(first time going there) I wanted to cry. I gisted with him, tired to make him laugh. Then with a straight face asked me when we're gonna have sex, that he has been begging me for months, that he's going crazy. I said it's not possible o, it will be so awkward and disrespectful to his late wife. He gave me a tight hug, before I knew what was happening, his cum was dropping oon my feet.
Cutting the long story short, I really like him, I don't mind taking care of him, helping him through all he's going through, but I plan on telling him that we have to wait for a year before sex, so as to respect his wife, and so he and his new born daughter can also respect me in future. How long should a girl wait before having sex with a widower?
How do I get him to wait?

As long as he's not responsible for the death of his dear wife, allow him to mourn her for the period given to him...then you can suck on that d!ck cos you've been longing for it too.

Haha, lol. Thanks
... but he wasn't given any period of time to mourn. He doesn't even know when to go back to work

Bamidey:
As long as he's not responsible for the death of his dear wife, allow him to mourn her for the period given to him...then you can suck on that d!ck cos you've been longing for it too.

Fished brain Op. He marries u den gets anoda side chick. Am sure u would cry den

So you have helped him kill his wife, good of you, someone you didn't respect when she was alive, what does she need your respect for now that she is dead and no longer aware of what is happening on earth.
Well you can now have him fully, get married to him as soon as possible but trust me,another tighter babe is lurking around to kill you too. He will tell her the same things he told you when he was cheating with you

Somebody that is in the grave serving and receiving her rewards from the Lord. Someone whose main concern now is her hereafter life. What concern does she have with the so called "respect" you are giving to her? She is not even feeling it. Believe me, she is not even aware of your "respect". This attitude or belief of Africans self.

Aunty, the guy seriously wants you (judging from your post) and it is obvious that you are also seriously longing for his di*k (Don't ask me how I know. I got it right, didn't I?) . You both had better give your private parts what they want before they get angry and stop working. Respect Kor, Time ni.

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I just feel like giving you a sound and thunderous slap now.

What respect are you typing about?

You couldn't respect her wife by sleeping with her husband when she was alive, and here you are, typing about respecting her in her grave.

C'mon will you get out of here, you home breaker. GET OUT!

May God forgive you. How heartless can you be?

carammel:
So you have helped him kill his wife, good of you.
Now get married to him as soon as possible, another tighter babe is lurking around to kill you too.

Demibi005:
May God forgive you. How heartless can you be?

It's OK.

wish I could counsel you privately I don't want anyone here to insult you but all same you need wisdom and understanding of the times...

Chat me up...

he is a good man

He is.

nelson7777:
he is a good man

U need to ask for forgiveness oo... U have been having an affair with him when his wife was alive...she come die in a very sorrowful circumstance, two week later u won go fyck him again....my question be this na u kill her? Maybe u love the man more...go ask for her forgiveness oo before u continue with Ur fuckery ooo

It is well...I feel sorry for both you and the guy.

You, because he's probably using you to ease his burden.

Him, because his burden is actually grave. May God help him and the child.

Biko follow your heart. I wish him and his daughter a speedy recovery. BTW, no point in hoarding the cookies for a whole year

People dey o, you don't want to disrespect the late wife, by having sex with the husband while he is mourning. When you were fucking her husband when she was alive and pregnant, which later claimed her life, you were respecting her abi? And you have the teremity to come and ask when is the right time to resume the knacking? No una for start when them dey bury the woman.

But will he ever love you the way he loved his wife? Will you ever measure up? Will you be able to live with all these things at the back of your mind?

Be rest assured that as he cheated on his wife he will equally cheat on you someday

Demibi005:
Haha, lol. Thanks
... but he wasn't given any period of time to mourn. He doesn't even know when to go back to work

It depends, mourning period is normally 3-6 months. But let me advise when it is time for marriage please tell him to inform the late wife's family about his intention.

bidemib:
But will he ever love you the way he loved his wife? Will you ever measure up? Will you be able to live with all these things at the back of your mind?

Heeii don't say that. It is not her business the way the man decides to love her. The late wife has a different personality from hers. She shouldn't be competing for love with a dead woman. She is not supposed to step into the shoes of another woman cos it will never size her. What she should pray for is for God no give her, her own size.

Demibi005:

Been dating a married man for about 3 years, it was sort of on and off cuz he loved his wife, and always felt guilty. He was with me mainly cuz he needed someone to talk to, give him attention and a sex. After the last time he left me, which was last year, I decided not to have sex with him again. He came back and we became good friends, hungout, gisted but no sex. He kept begging, that he wasn't getting any at home. I said no.
About 2 weeks ago, he messaged me that his wife died during child birth, after waiting for about 17years of marriage, I felt devastated, he loved her so much. Now he's all lonely and vulnerable. He begged me to attend the funeral, that it would give him strength, I did. He even mentioned my name during the vote of thanks. He asked me to cook some soups for him, which I took to his house(first time going there) I wanted to cry. I gisted with him, tired to make him laugh. Then with a straight face asked me when we're gonna have sex, that he has been begging me for months, that he's going crazy. I said it's not possible o, it will be so awkward and disrespectful to his late wife. He gave me a tight hug, before I knew what was happening, his cum was dropping oon my feet.
Cutting the long story short, I really like him, I don't mind taking care of him, helping him through all he's going through, but I plan on telling him that we have to wait for a year before sex, so as to respect his wife, and so he and his new born daughter can also respect me in future. How long should a girl wait before having sex with a widower?
How do I get him to wait?

I have to say this..... You are an evil woman

you felt devasted about the death of your rival? please stop lying and tell us how joyous you were in church today

Hmm

Pray for wisdom

Aunty please fling that your 'respect' into the lagoon. Why didn't you respect her while she was alive, do you know the strain you must have put on that marriage? She was able to get pregnant after 17 years and she still didn't not have peace because her yeye husband was sleeping with chewing gum girls like you up and down. Go and marry him o, but know that you will reap all you have sown.

I have a question please, how do you side chicks rationalise sleeping with married mwn then turn around to claim "I am a good person"

Demibi005:

Been dating a married man for about 3 years, it was sort of on and off cuz he loved his wife, and always felt guilty. He was with me mainly cuz he needed someone to talk to, give him attention and a sex. After the last time he left me, which was last year, I decided not to have sex with him again. He came back and we became good friends, hungout, gisted but no sex. He kept begging, that he wasn't getting any at home. I said no.
About 2 weeks ago, he messaged me that his wife died during child birth, after waiting for about 17years of marriage, I felt devastated, he loved her so much. Now he's all lonely and vulnerable. He begged me to attend the funeral, that it would give him strength, I did. He even mentioned my name during the vote of thanks. He asked me to cook some soups for him, which I took to his house(first time going there) I wanted to cry. I gisted with him, tired to make him laugh. Then with a straight face asked me when we're gonna have sex, that he has been begging me for months, that he's going crazy. I said it's not possible o, it will be so awkward and disrespectful to his late wife. He gave me a tight hug, before I knew what was happening, his cum was dropping oon my feet.
Cutting the long story short, I really like him, I don't mind taking care of him, helping him through all he's going through, but I plan on telling him that we have to wait for a year before sex, so as to respect his wife, and so he and his new born daughter can also respect me in future. How long should a girl wait before having sex with a widower?
How do I get him to wait?

This is totally wrong!!!!
U slept with a married man while his wife was still alive
Can you imagine.
Definitely the man will surely cheat on u someday

Abi

myettiallah:

This is totally wrong!!!!
U slept with a married man while his wife was still alive
Can you imagine.
Definitely the man will surely cheat on u someday

Hypocrites criticizing her as if they are not guilty of anything!
I see nothing wrong in giving in to the man, the wife is dead and so has no right or claim on the man!!!
That man needs you more than you need him, give him the best sex, make him forget his wife, erase any thought of the wife from his mind, let it be only you that he thinks of, don't give him chance to look elsewhere and make sure he puts a ring on that finger!!!
Before I forget, hops he is financially OK? So that you won't have to suffer?
Baby girl you berra grab this golden opportunity before its too late!!

You've never slept with a married man?
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
I can bet you one way or the other, that your husband is cheating on you or eventually will, no matter how Christian you think he is.
It's the lounge that matters. I never stopped him from loving his wife. He was always there for her.
He liked me but loved his wife.
I asked for advice, not insult. Have nothing to say?shutting up is much better

myettiallah:

This is totally wrong!!!!
U slept with a married man while his wife was still alive
Can you imagine.
Definitely the man will surely cheat on u someday

Where in my write up did I say I'm a good person? No one is good. You can't even claim to be good. Sin is sin. Married men will cheat, but always go back to their wives. I NEVER put any strain on their marriage
Lmao @ chewing gum girl. You don't know me mehhhn
I definitely will reap what I've sown, like you also will.
I have a clear mind that I brought no harm to their family

SBL28:
Aunty please fling that your 'respect' into the lagoon. Why didn't you respect her while she was alive, do you know the strain you must have put on that marriage? She was able to get pregnant after 17 years and she still didn't not have peace because her yeye husband was sleeping with chewing gum girls like you up and down. Go and marry him o, but know that you will reap all you have sown.

I have a question please, how do you side chicks rationalise sleeping with married mwn then turn around to claim "I am a good person"

No one is saying it is right, it is wrong
But if you have also done something wrong, lied or insulted a person, you're a hypocrite.
Men will cheat. It's a thing of the flesh
Pls be realistic!

myettiallah:

This is totally wrong!!!!
U slept with a married man while his wife was still alive
Can you imagine.
Definitely the man will surely cheat on u someday

My rival?
In what way was she my rival?
The way people type without thinking just makes me wonder
He's in so much pain, why will I be happy?
Why will I want a fellow woman to die at childbirth?the most joyous moment in the world?
Pls think before you hurt others with your words

mezarddinny:
you felt devasted about the death of your rival? please stop lying and tell us how joyous you were in church today

I'm evil by doing what exactly? Sleeping with a married man? Or what else?
Let me guess, you're a saint

Obodo999:


I have to say this..... You are an evil woman

Thanks for the advice. Really helpful

lastclaire4:


It depends, mourning period is normally 3-6 months. But let me advise when it is time for marriage please tell him to inform the late wife's family about his intention.