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Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by musicwriter(m): 7:08pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
SBL28: Nothing is wrong with you, but of course, the type of society we live in makes it appear something is wrong with you. Doing those things you love and is currently pursuing is what life is all about. Don't listen to advise telling you to find love if that's not your natural inclination at this moment. If you needed falling in love at this time, you'll be the first to know yourself, you won't have been on Nairaland asking our opinion. Just continue to be yourself. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 7:27pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
SBL28: ![]() You are true dear.. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by DaddyNimo(m): 7:42pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
SBL28:lolzzzzz after one 1 Like |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by DaddyNimo(m): 7:50pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
SBL28:u call bad luck life? lol divorced at 28 is life experience to u? SMH ure just beating around the bush abt the fact that u married wrong, and I'm not gonna pity u for dat, and I won't even wish u on my worst enemy....you girls think marriage is like a car u enter and come out and hop into anoda one...yall rush into marriage and when the bubble burst u come online to seek for pity. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Spy360(m): 7:51pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
The truth is that you should not marry again, until you and your husband get back to your senses. Divorce is bad, unless life is at risk it shouldn't be an option. Meanwhile, focus on spiritual awakening. Wish you well. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 8:03pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
Spy360: Believe me, I know how bad it is. And it is especially hard on the fruits of the union, in this case two. You can't think for the other person, a lot of water has passed under the bridge but I don't want to give away too much here. I have left it all to God. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by BonkoINC: 10:08pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
SBL28: He has probably gotten over you and now enjoys himself with someone else.. and you are yet to get over what transpired between you two. I am not saying it's easy tho, but come to think of it. Is it worth it?. For you to even think or ask the question if you are ok.. means you know everything is not right. I think you are almost passing through the denial state. Before reality comes back at you.. fix your self. You only live once.. one way or the other you just have to move on and enjoy life to the fullest. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by iLegendd(m): 11:47pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
SBL28:This made me smile, especially "knock o." |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by samysmoothfresh: 8:07pm On Sep 09, 2018 |
MariaLavina: cloud 9 care to join me?.........................give me your hands and i'll fly you there ![]()
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Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Fourwinds: 3:44pm On Sep 16, 2018 |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Slapsticker: 12:59am On Sep 17, 2018 |
You got nothing wrong with you dear. Your mind has been focused on more important things to you. Romance prolly isn't on that list. My advice, remain open, hangout more often. Get back to doing things you did in your early twenties when you have some time; Maybe clubbing, partying, drinking, smoking whatever fits. My point is socialize! Join a support group, hit the gym, join a sports/dance/fitness club. Do anything asides staying in that shell you recoiled into after your divorce. Being a single mother is not being HIV positive. Life happens to us all! you didn't get married with divorce in mind. You took the oath hoping that "death do you part", and life happened. Find life again girl, be strong! you can be an accomplished mother, a succesful academician/entrepreneur/career woman with a steaming romatic life. Yes! you can have it all! 2 Likes |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by BabbanBura(m): 11:16pm On Oct 26, 2018 |
ashjay001: sadly, SBL28 this guy is telling you the honest truth - you gat to search inside of you for that attitude or habit lr both that may be messing you up - from your responses here on nairaland i see you need to work on some attitude problem to have a peaceful relationship except ofcourse if you want a zombie as husband. You also gat to get rid of your bitterness to have a healthy relationship - i hope you meet the right guy that will be understanding enough to help u through your healing. You need to also recognise that your chances may be limited and that there is no one perfect humam being - give room for adjustment, some growing up to do with your new found love - especially if the imperfections are tolerable and the guy is humble enough to make adjustments where necessary You can still find happiness and peace but may not be ready made my.dear 1 Like |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by otherway: 1:10am On Oct 27, 2018 |
SBL28: Go back to your husband or risk wasting your time or getting used by different men. You can't remain celibate forever so make peace with your hubby for the sake of the child. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by royal101(m): 1:34am On Oct 27, 2018 |
What is your real age if i may ask? |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by LordsApostle: 4:32am On Oct 27, 2018 |
SBL28:you came here seeking for something, u should have understood nairaland as an old member to know you would have those kind of comments, the best you could have done for yourself was to at least stay on the topic, ignore the irrelevant one, before you use your own hands to derail your thread, and make it a rubbish dump. U should be sensible. 1 Like |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by MissRaine69(f): 4:43am On Oct 27, 2018 |
SBL28: You sound like someone who is actually clinically depressed. Low self worth Very negative outlook Hopeless and helpless themes You need to do something about your general state of flux. You are ruminating way too much and it’s not healthy. I actually think there is something wrong and you might need to see someone professoonal regarding the direction your mind is going. You have taken a battering of your self esteem. NL is not the place to receive the help you need. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
MissRaine69: Lol see me see trouble o, madam please don't come and practise English on me. I am neither clinically depressed nor do I have low self worth. I was just thinking aloud. Nothing is wrong with me but you should check yourself, 'diagnosing' someone you know nothing about. You apparently struggling to sound intelligent. ![]() |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
otherway: It's a two-way street, I cant force another person to do the right thing. And I have no doubt I will find someone at the right time, I'm not in a hurry. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by MissRaine69(f): 10:25pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
SBL28:Your transferring.......all the best seeking whatever it is you are struggling to find. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by otherway: 10:29pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
SBL28: Ok .Continue. You will soon find out that all men are like local rice that even if you pick from now till tomorrow, you go still chop stone. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 10:33pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
MissRaine69: Ehn I'm 'transferring', how person go just wake up dey quote "clinical depression, negative outlook, low self worth, low self esteem" on my head because wetin happen ![]() |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Aquariann: 11:30pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
You used to be patient, sweet and kind before the divorce. And your interactions here were full of positivity. But all that changed after the divorce and you became very bitter. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by luminouz(m): 11:55pm On Oct 28, 2018 |
SBL28: ![]() I've got my eye on u!!! |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 12:05am On Oct 29, 2018 |
Aquariann: Lol, eskis sir, where do you know me from? P.s I'm not divorced, yet. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by anonymuz(m): 12:18am On Oct 29, 2018 |
SBL28:just open your heart..You are going to have a real man that will love you. I'm currently dating a single mom, and I always understand her even when she tends to be Moody or temperamental. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Originalsly: 1:46am On Oct 29, 2018 |
Reading between the lines.... there is no second chance with the marriage...cause is major. As your first love....married....and after two kids...everything fell apart.... you would have trust issues with men. If you had a few relationships before...experience would've helped you overcome this separation. You tried to pick up the pieces with a new man...only to find out later..he was married. Once bitten, twice shy...where does that leave you with trusting men period? Having no trust would naturally make you have no interest.I think for now...your mind has activated heart protection mode. ...therefore no feelings...no urge or romantic feelings. You got burned ...twice in a row..... the heart needs time to heal and reset itself. Move away from the relationships on fire readings.....that's not helping you...keep on doing what you do.... don't think about love...and certainly don't go looking for love....nothing comes before its time. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Aquariann: 7:52am On Oct 29, 2018 |
SBL28: Divorced o, separated o, time apart o, you know what I meant. Lol.. You really believe NL is anonymous? From your now deleted old moniker, to the new one which you use in dishing out advice typical of an angry or a jilted woman to ladies here, I know you. So calm down. Like you said, this is just an alternate moniker. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 7:42pm On Oct 29, 2018 |
Aquariann: Nawa for this your confidence in ignorance o Lol, ode. My other moniker is still very active, I don't even think i ever came to the romance section more than once with it, so go sit your clueless ass somewhere. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 7:47pm On Oct 29, 2018 |
anonymuz: Thanks ![]() |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 7:51pm On Oct 29, 2018 |
Originalsly: Thanks for the advice but i never said I dated anyone since the marriage fell apart. |
Re: Is Something Wrong With Me? by Originalsly: 7:58pm On Oct 29, 2018 |
SBL28:True...not dating...more like cons8dering. |
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