Saff:
It’s really just shameful knowing that your friend has seen your wife’s pant. It’s embarassing, there’s no pride in it. Unless your mentally strong enough to handle it, don’t even bother.

thanks.... I like people who are practical in what ever they do...

You have said it all

agarawu23:
but I hear say the "thing" no dey read meter

Lol....


Bit I'm dey expand

Why U feel say girls dey use alom bath?

eyinjuege:


There are many ladies who don't sleep with their ex.
It's possible for same friend to still sleep with a new woman the OP decides to marry. She doesn't have to be an ex, before he sleeps with his friend's wife, if the woman is game.
The real question is what are the morals of the lady in question? Has she got a questionable character?
Even the friend in question, is he such a reprobate to sleep with his friend's wife, whether an ex or not. If he thinks his friend can do that, then that friendship is not even true to begin with.

i am arguing with u oo on these ur points but then the fact remains that marrying ur best friend's ex and ur ur best friend around is like sitting on a time bomb. Old feelings will spark off and sooner or later the feelings will be unleashed. And besides no lady who respects herself will accept the advances of her ex boyfriend's best friend. Its kinder weird. Its better dating a neutral partner. Very soon we will be hearing about brothers dating their elder brother's ex girlfriend. End time tinzs.

olsome:
We all have our pasts, some are manageable while others are very complex. You love this lady so much, she is the best you have ever seen, but you discovered your close friend slept with her so much in the past. Will you still go ahead to marry her?

My opinion will be in two ways; 1-dont marry her because you wont be comfortable with friends, whether your wife is around or absent because of her past with one of your friends. Trust me your other friend(s) must definitely know about it.
2-If the love is a die hard inseparable love the "we die here kind'', marry her and relocate. This will not be easy though because you will have to start over again making new friends in your new location while you communicate with your old friends from time to time.

Edojoma:


My guy,,, I swear,,,, u yarn d truth,, u guys will b togeda drinking, after little highness,, u will b talking women,,, den Wat comes up next is anoda friend narrating how ur wife was banged ,,,,, lol,,,

And u won't b comfortable seeing ur friend dat banged her, wenever u c him,, u can visualize d banging,,,,

On getting home,, u pick up quarrel over little things,,,

Lol,,, save ursef d stress biko,,,

As for ME,, I can never n will never do it,, not becos she might bang him again but d trauma of d previous banging,, I can't contain it seeing my friend

Thats it.......
It wont end well

That'll be going against the bro code.

QueenSuccubus:



Just be reminded that u are marrying her coz of her attitude and not that loose hole between her legs..

In the Philippines eehn.. there's this woman who had 16children from her first husband sha. But when her husband died due to the altercation, her husband's friend who is a single guy with no kids at all marry her and had 8 more kids with her

AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER

missed you Boo... for months now i haven't even come across your comment...

Clonus:
Speaking from personal experience, I will not advice anyone to even consider that.
I met my wife through someone I considered my best friend, who was already married.
To cut long story short, we got married. Few weeks later I stumbled into their( my wife and my supposed friend) chat; it was a bomb.
I have never been my self and will never be.
The thought of knowing things your wife had done with your friend is killing to say the least. It's not what you will wish even to your enemy

i would like you to find an avenue as quickly as possible to make yourself happy, you owe yourself that, i am not interested in how your marriage works but from the look of things you are not happy and your happiness are tied to individuals ( which is very bad). you can still get yourself back, my plight is try and be composed, try and get your happiness back, even if you have to get psychological evaluation, get it!!! because when you are happy others things in your life fits in so easily like a simple puzzle,
let me end like this....
1. Never take a girl introduced to you by a male folk too seriously, most times they are only good for entertainment
2. you are in total control of your happiness, do not let it be controlled by individuals, no matter how close they are to you.

Biglittlelois:
Tonyebarcanista why are you not asleep?? late night duties??



At topic, dont do it bro, except you and your friend are now more like strangers.

Lol @night duties!

Anyway, was doing some random reading

newdawn2017:

My dear, d@'s lie. Most Ladies never go back 2 their vomits, I myself finds it repulsive. Unless she never really left in her heart,

When their ex sabi their mumu button? fogerrit

Saff:
It’s really just shameful knowing that your friend has seen your wife’s pant. It’s embarassing, there’s no pride in it. Unless your mentally strong enough to handle it, don’t even bother.

You sound like a good woman. Are you Igbo?

Clonus:
Speaking from personal experience, I will not advice anyone to even consider that.
I met my wife through someone I considered my best friend, who was already married.
To cut long story short, we got married. Few weeks later I stumbled into their( my wife and my supposed friend) chat; it was a bomb.
I have never been my self and will never be.
The thought of knowing things your wife had done with your friend is killing to say the least. It's not what you will wish even to your enemy

Not easy bro I know. U just got to move on. These days mos of us would not marry virgins as a lot of us have sex before marriage now. The only consolation is, we don't know the nigga that bleeped the girl. We ain't hurt, like man most girls we bleeped also have gotten married. Just try wipe am comot your memory and let your marriage work that's all

Me wey wan marry virgin....U come dey talk of borehole my paddy don drill... Taaah


Women should learn to close their legs and avoid men even caressing their body.

olsome:
We all have our pasts, some are manageable while others are very complex. You love this lady so much, she is the best you have ever seen, but you discovered your close friend slept with her so much in the past. Will you still go ahead to marry her?

Before your relationship?
During your relationship with her, OR After you broke things up?

edictng:
Once debe

Always debe.

olsome:
We all have our pasts, some are manageable while others are very complex. You love this lady so much, she is the best you have ever seen, but you discovered your close friend slept with her so much in the past. Will you still go ahead to marry her?

Yes.

Well it’s because he is your friend, but don’t you know if you marry a non virgin, so many peoples friends would have bleeped her well too.

olsome:
We all have our pasts, some are manageable while others are very complex. You love this lady so much, she is the best you have ever seen, but you discovered your close friend slept with her so much in the past. Will you still go ahead to marry her?

what actually are you looking for in a woman? Is it only sex? Everybody had his/her own flaw... One man's meal is another man's poison. There are some men out there that exchange ladies to each other. After done with them, another man get married to such ladies... Besides, let go off the past of her in your mind and never allow her discussion comes up between you and your friends. If and only if you see what you want in a woman in her. Build your home with transparency transparency and trust.

Recall, that human beings are difficult to manage... Except you are lucky to meet those who are submissive and Godly in Nature

Hedonini:
Iyen kolewerk.

After marrying her, the day you both start having quarrels, the so-called friend would he her first port of call. The day your dick starts losing signal (which must happen as a married man tired of the same stale soup), the so-called friend would be the first port of call. And worst of all, if that so-called friend is richer than you, you're doomed... DOOMED. She will always sneak to him for financial 'augmentation', followed by carnal supplementation.

It's an evil shadow that would never go away. Flee.

Side note: Okafor's Law works 100% of the time when that 'Okafor' is doing well financially.. When he is a full time sha prapra somebody with everything soft. If he's a loser or facing hard times, he would never smell that pussy. But if he is some kind of Otunba Cash or a big boy running things majorly and the woman can see it, forget it. He owns that pussy forever.

OnoEsther(f): 9:01am
There is nothing wrong with it as long as you love said lady.

There are people who crush on their friends partner, they shouldn't stop themselves from going for her if she breaks up.




Hmmmmmmm.... Okafor law is the beginning of wisdom

Quality20:
I don't know why ppl still wanna manage badly brought up ladies when chaste virgin girls and chaste widowed women are in abundant supply. What manners and morals can a woman or man who fornicates pass on to the younger generations?

fornication

newdawn2017:

My dear, d@'s lie. Most Ladies never go back 2 their vomits, I myself finds it repulsive. Unless she never really left in her heart,

Most ladies never go back to their vomits? Lol, why not speak for yourself alone?

Would life be simple of difficult if everyone we’ve ever slept with follows us everywhere we go. Just imagine the streets lined with people regardless Of is their proud of it or not... work will be crowded nobody to perform functions the world will in fact shutdown...

My point is does it matter in the long run? No will it affect you ability to show and be loved? Only if you let it and will it repeat itself ? No

In conclusion, your girlfriend just lost a potential husband. I feel bad for her. Back to square 1.

Fourwinds:





OnoEsther(f): 9:01am
There is nothing wrong with it as long as you love said lady.

There are people who crush on their friends partner, they shouldn't stop themselves from going for her if she breaks up.




Hmmmmmmm.... Okafor law is the beginning of wisdom

Nothing is wrong with it but the problem is the op... For him to come to nairaland and table the matter to us, it shows it bothers him and it will continue to bother him, even after marriage.

Teemelanin:
Nothing is wrong with it but the problem is the op... For him to come to nairaland and table the matter to us, it shows it bothers him and it will continue to bother him, even after marriage.

my sister it will also bother me ooooo....


To get a faithful partner these days is like seeking to get all the necessary grace and salvation to heaven..... It is gradually becoming easier for a camel to pass through the eye of needle than get someone faithful...

If you have a faithful wife or husband, your success in marriage is already 50%

Clonus:
Speaking from personal experience, I will not advice anyone to even consider that.
I met my wife through someone I considered my best friend, who was already married.
To cut long story short, we got married. Few weeks later I stumbled into their( my wife and my supposed friend) chat; it was a bomb.
I have never been my self and will never be.
The thought of knowing things your wife had done with your friend is killing to say the least. It's not what you will wish even to your enemy

Are you still with her or you are separated?

MrRichmond:
Very dangerous thing to do!

Friends these days cannot be trusted, as long as your guy don enter, he can get back there anytime he wishes no matter how much assurance she gives you.

A wise man once said

A pvssy once fvxked cannot be unfuvked, but it can most definitely be re-fuvcked!

so, give urself brain!

Best comment on this thread. @Op listen to these wise words.

QueenSuccubus:



Just be reminded that u are marrying her coz of her attitude and not that loose hole between her legs..

In the Philippines eehn.. there's this woman who had 16children from her first husband sha. But when her husband died due to the altercation, her husband's friend who is a single guy with no kids at all marry her and had 8 more kids with her

AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER

Totally unrelated but ridiculously insane. She no dey pity her vagina?

OK there's a girl I'm with and she's cool but she was with a friend of mine even though we no longer friends and I'm thinking long term with her so does it mean it's a bad idea.... Please I'll like to get ur opinions

solasoulmusic:
Would life be simple of difficult if everyone we’ve ever slept with follows us everywhere we go. Just imagine the streets lined with people regardless Of is their proud of it or not... work will be crowded nobody to perform functions the world will in fact shutdown...

My point is does it matter in the long run? No will it affect you ability to show and be loved? Only if you let it and will it repeat itself ? No

To get a faithful partner these days is like seeking to get all the necessary grace and salvation to heaven..... It is gradually becoming easier for a camel to pass through the eye of needle than get someone faithful...

If you have a faithful wife or husband, your success in marriage is already 50%

QueenSuccubus:



Just be reminded that u are marrying her coz of her attitude and not that loose hole between her legs..

In the Philippines eehn.. there's this woman who had 16children from her first husband sha. But when her husband died due to the altercation, her husband's friend who is a single guy with no kids at all marry her and had 8 more kids with her

AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER

That one na Philippine na

oyepaulkay:


Haha! The question is *a lady your friend has slept with in the past not had a relationship with in the past*

Her ex slept with her when they were dating, he made her believe he wants to marry her but after scaming her of 400k to sort his buisness deals during the process of giving her a ring. He then said his mother said if they marry, their marriage wont last and she's no longer in support of their relationship. Can u imagine? After collecting 400k. He sent her the message through whatsapp, cos he claims he's not in the country to explain fully.

Some men are evil.

Thank God she's happy with her new husband. Who didn't waste time in marrying her
No time for long courtship.