ogasharpsharp:


Lol the thing has been paining the guy for over a year. You sef check am na, is it beans? Every great sacrifice is an act of love. You take that sacrifice for granted then anything you see you take am[b]. And we all know that if the tables were turned his babe would never return the favour.[/b]

For real mehn, women are scum .

you just said, it all. that's why I have decided not to go into any relationship with my heart,but with my head.

if that is what she really did then its very bad and a red sign to ur future plans with her. if she really likes you, she wouldn't take such actions without your permission such a lady will give you headache when u marry her.

forget about her for your own good and make sure u collect at list halve of that money back.....I know she wouldn't want to pay back but how ever it comes just see it as a sign from heaving helping u to avoid a big mistake.

but if say na after marriage u do that kind thing for her e for better....she no go try D's kind thing na

Note: those ladies above insulting you and supporting her, have same character as her and can do even worst....so don't mind their words.

A stitch in time, saves nine.

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

it is still fraud haba. If she wasnt alive wont the family issue be resolved. So imagine u give ur mum money for business bt she go give one pastor. How wud u feel

I'm really dumbfounded by the comments coming from our girls here.
I just hope you girls are joking o, if not then there is a big problem.
Not even one of you condemned the girl's action.

The truth is this, none of you girls will come out and say such trash apart from nairaland because it's a faceless forum.

Note that I'm watching all of you and I and my friends or anyone relating to me will stay as far as possible from you girls.

which responsible person would spend a whole 500k on another thing outside what was initially agreed probably without the guys knowledge...
speaks alot about her person

I don't know when guys will have sense
Lets gather here and pray for this brother... #SayNoToEmotionalSlavery

The girl is not sensible, she's got the brain of a fish and the earlier you look elsewhere for love the better for you.. Many girls will worship you for giving dem 500k and here you are wasting it on a dullard in the name of relationship.

The only problem I see here is that she didn't inform you and hear what you had to say first. So call her first and tell her how hurt you were, if she does not show any remorse and apologise, gerra of the relationship.

Thunder fire u dia idiat...

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

You're Useless as the guy above you said about the girl in OP Question

Useless thing, can't you just shut up for once.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

First, never post issues like this on social medium because some people here are just sick up there while a few of them are reasonable.
Second, you shouldn't leave her because of that I know 500k is not small but you guys should talk about it.
She probably didn't think it through spending that amount on family issues because I think she shouldn't have done that, to be on the safer side make your findings properly

ogasharpsharp:
OP you know why I like you? Because your spirit man is strong, and it is this spirit man in you that is urging you to quit the relationship and run while you still can.

No matter how much I love a girl I can never drop up to 100k (even 50k, I don't give cash I rather spend) at once on her but you dropped a whopping 500k. Now, take a look at how the ladies on this thread are trying to trivialise that large sum of money, that's half a mil right there!

Trust me when I say most of them have never seen that amount of money in one go. Their account balance will testify. But they will tell you that "How much is even 500k sef?" Never encourage stùpidity in a woman because that is their default settings and it is your job as a man to correct that otherwise you bounce.

Investing money on a girl is like pouring water in a basket, it will never be enough. And these girls never have to make such sacrifices so they don't know what it takes and how it hurts when an agreement between two parties is reneged upon. Abi you no get family wey need half a mil? Abi you dey crase ni?

End the relationship as your spirit being is telling you, she will still do more as the relationship progresses, especially if she gets away with this criminal act of hers without any consequences. Yes, what she did is criminal but being a woman (synonym for stùpidity) she will try to shame and blame you for it (Baby you are not understanding, you don't really love me, etc).

A REAL man must always train his babe to know that for every transgression against him there will always be dire consequences otherwise see-finish will occur. Shalom!

PS - Never spend such money again on a woman unless she is your wife. They don't have sense!

That got me

I haven't visited the romance section in a long while cos of the shallow dull unintelligent comments I read here and today that I visited and decided to read a thread, I'm being welcomed with same comments. Apparently, the brain dead fellows who are criticizing the guy seem to have forgotten that all fingers are not equal and the dude gave what he could afford. 500k isn't any small money to be overlooked at all. I don't understand how someone gives you money for business and you spend everything on taking care of family. It's obvious you never needed the money for business.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

May your bro spend all his life savings on his GF .

ramselly:
Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

Have you empowered your younger sister or mother with 500k before?

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Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

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Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

This is poverty of the mind speaking through you

Girls are never satisfied even if you give her a million they will be like John gave his gf 5mil naira.

If I were you, I would be the one to rent the shop and buy everything in it, it will be mine with her working in it. In case she changes her mind all you will have to do is employ a new staff lol. This benefits is for the office of a gf.

Omon shine you eye, don't let a girl take you for granted.

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

shut up, just shut up!

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

shut up

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

I'm ashamed of you. To the guy, the girl comes first, but to the girl, her family comes first? Truly I'm ashamed of you and please shut up b4 you embarrass me further!

highqueen:
Mtchew.
You are very stingy.
To even think that you spent months before sending the damn money after she helped you with your business and everything.
She has been supportive yet you still wanna wave that off by quitting.
Na your type deh tell their wives not to help their family members.
Mtchew

shameless fellow, just shut it!

Most ladies you meet are supportive. They can play that you role with care, advices or just their emotional presence so leave that out.

Now, here is the deal: Half a million is a big deal.

That amount can do some things or even bulk up if you have fix it in ALAT.

I trust that you've learnt now that you should never spend Big on any girl that isn't engaged (formal family introduced ) to your family.

Family problems would always be there. One cousin needs WAEC money, a brother needs this or that, the painful thing you might discover is that some part of the money might have been spent on less important stuffs like new phones, aso ebi, etc and not critical stuff like health, etc.

500k would have settled a lot except she paid house rent for someone. Maybe another guy.

You appear to be the one considering a breakup. Guess what I think : She might be thinking just the same too. I'm fact, she might be planning to serve you a line soonest.

She needs to be taught how to spend money. She needs to make up for the money. This can't end in 'I am sorry' or rounds of sex (if at all) else she would do it again.

If managing resources is the only issue you have with her, I can bet that she is not a bad woman. You should strive to maintain your relationship and push to marriage aptly.

You can't find the perfect human. Even you aren't perfect. She needs to know how big the problem is.

She may not have squandered the money if the 700k were complete.
You should know the situation na.
She was happy you helped her.
She can't touch the money.
But it's not complete.
She had a lone 500k in her account. Which probably never happened before.
She must have bragged about her balance to a sibling.
Or one mistakenly spotted it while playing with her phone. Then tells others.
A need arises and they push the question to her.
Sade, do you have up to 45k with you? Lekan needs to resume school and as you can see, there is no money at home. I'll return to you by ending. (never happens)

She must have faced difficult dilemma but had no choice. She sent the money and the moment its less than 500, it starts raising down to like 25k.

She can't dare tell you nor ask you for any more money during that time. So she started taking out of it for hair, nails (if at all) and other ladies thing.

When the money reached 280k, her brain booted up, she realized how much was gone already and started feeling bad. She redefines her shop ambition to a smaller plan. But she would need 350k to do that. She needs just 70k more.

Feliz, her ex has been disturbing her for some time now. She noticed things have changed for him since he came back to Nigeria from his masters at UK. She realized she can just play smile for a little and perhaps raise the 70k or even more from him. So things went south. She spent a few more (30k) on cloths and accessories to look better around Feliz.

Now with 100k to remake, she did everything with Felix, but got only 20k during the entire week of hard labour in the other room. What a shame. Felix lives a fake life and wasn't really buzzed up as she thought.


Well, she spent the remaining of that month attending to some other men that have been on the wait list.

She made the 100k laslas. And tried to get a lower shop behind you. You found out and questioned her on why. She claimed she reduced her taste and is okay on this new level.

I am tired of writing. Lots can happen. Lots would have happened.

Next time,
If the budget is 700k and you know you can afford 500k.

Tell her it's ready. Tell her to bring 200k.

Since you're dating her, you should know her work and her income strength. If she has no job, where did you expect her to raise 200k from? Her family?

Lastly, keep the woman and appreciate her.. Visit her family once in a while and see how life is for them over there. You are going to be part of the family too if you proceed.

AryEmber:
The only problem I see here is that she didn't inform you and hear what you had to say first. So call her first and tell her how hurt you were, if she does not show any remorse and apologise, gerra of the relationship.

finally some sensible lady, after a year, there's no need for explanation, that girl don't deserve this wonderful man. He just go!

Les:
shameless fellow, just shut it!

It's like you are very stupid.
Make your comment and never quote me again.

MetroBaba1:


You and your comment is brainless.
I Dey cry for your boyfriend.

why una dey answer this girl. Una see say some body come ajegunle , una dey get time to answer am

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highqueen:

It's like you are very stupid.
Make your comment and never quote me again.

lowest queen!

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

if I tell you word this morning you will say am a bully...
your village peeps Don they touch wire's for head this morning

Les:
I'm ashamed of you. To the guy, the girl comes first, but to the girl, her family comes first? Truly I'm ashamed of you and please shut up b4 you embarrass me further!

Who do we have here??
Little girl, this isn't kiddies section!!!
Run along, go play with your toys!!!
State your point and don't ever mention me again!!!
I don't have the time for asslickers!!!
You are a big shame to womanhood!!!

Liliyann:


Who do we have here??
Little girl, this isn't kiddies section!!!
Run along, go play with your toys!!!
State your point and don't ever mention me again!!!
I don't have the time for asslickers!!!
You are a big shame to womanhood!!!

You can imagine the little rat.
I blame nairaland shaa