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Forget it...Think about it dis way- what if u dont av a rich father? what if he dies n he doesnt will any of his properties to u? wot if he has even died yrs ago wen he had notin n u guys were small?...Consider all des n continue d hustle, av it in mind dat if he cud made it, u can equally make it without his hlp...Alot of youth u see suffering ar also dealing wit issues like dis- rich or average father dat can at least establish dem, but d fathers wudnt just do it, dont b suprised if i tell u we even av few mothers like dat (tho few). Continue hustling n bliv in God. Dis country is just wack, if not, no one sud stil b dependin on parent or expectin money from parent after graduating.May God hlp us all. Forget it n dont b offended wit him...Remember, its his property n his money, n he has d ryt 2 use it how he likes

Thank you so much,i have already decided to look past the issue but it is painful...I will never treat my children like that,i will support them with everything i have until they have become successful CUZ i know that way they will continue to pray that i live long but when you don't make your children successful they will pray he dies early so they can inherit properties.

sherylbakky:
Forget it...Think about it dis way- what if u dont av a rich father? what if he dies n he doesnt will any of his properties to u? wot if he has even died yrs ago wen he had notin n u guys were small?...Consider all des n continue d hustle, av it in mind dat if he cud made it, u can equally make it without his hlp...Alot of youth u see suffering ar also dealing wit issues like dis- rich or average father dat can at least establish dem, but d fathers wudnt just do it, dont b suprised if i tell u we even av few mothers like dat (tho few). Continue hustling n bliv in God. Dis country is just wack, if not, no one sud stil b dependin on parent or expectin money from parent after graduating.May God hlp us all. Forget it n dont b offended wit him...Remember, its his property n his money, n he has d ryt 2 use it how he likes

There's really nothing you can do. The property is his, and I'm sure he also didn't inherit it from his own parents

Go and work hard for your own breakthrough sir. Leave your dad to do as he wants with his property. Perhaps, that's his own retirement plan.

BUT seriously,he is in his 60s and retired,he has more than he needs till he dies so why is it so difficult for him to help his struggling children.He knows we are not lazy children and do not bother him for help but when you sell a property that should have been ours,its only unfair that he didn't give us our share.If all parents are like him the crime rate of this country would be very high.

eyinjuege:
There's really nothing you can do. The property is his, and I'm sure he also didn't inherit it from his own parents

Go and work hard for your own breakthrough sir. Leave your dad to do as he wants with his property. Perhaps, that's his own retirement plan.

Oga go and work. He doesn't owe u a dime. He sent u to school and he tried. Biko u people should free him.. Just get ur own money. He already laid a good foundation for u guys by educating u. At 30 plus you're still looking for entitlement.. This is shameful. I've seen guys and babes from wealthy homes who made it without their parents. He might be keeping it for u guys but if you keep pestering him, he won't give it to u.

We all have work,in fact i'm very comfortable and i would say he didn't contribute a dime to my success and not even my school certificate brought me fortune.I have my own house,i'm married with kids,i and my wife use good cars but my point is that i seem to be the only successful one cuz i never relied on my parents and school certificate but my other siblings are still struggling with their peanut salary.My two elder brothers are still unmarried because they are not financially okay.

appsdope:
Oga go and work. He doesn't owe u a dime. He sent u to school and he tried. Biko u people should free him.. Just get ur own money. He already laid a good foundation for u guys by educating u. At 30 plus you're still looking for entitlement.. This is shameful. I've seen guys and babes from wealthy homes who made it without their parents. He might be keeping it for u guys but if you keep pestering him, he won't give it to u.

cuterichbigdick:
BUT seriously,he is in his 60s and retired,he has more than he needs till he dies so why is it so difficult for him to help his struggling children.He knows we are not lazy children and do not bother him for help but when you sell a property that should have been ours,its only unfair that he didn't give us our share.If all parents are like him the crime rate of this country would be very high.

The property shouldn't have been yours. It's his property. Not everyone is fortunate enough to be left an inheritance. If you are, good for you. If you're not left any, life goes on.
It's very easy for millions to be run through quickly, especially in Nigeria. Your dad is getting older, and will be having more health issues he has to face squarely. He is also not a very old man either, and could easily live 15 to 20 more years. How will he manage to sustain himself till then?
He has tried by sending you to higher institution. He even sent some of you to private schools. Be grateful for even that. Many young men are sponsoring themselves through school.
Not everyone will turn to crime. We have children of poor men who will never consider crime, so why should you consider it as a child of a relatively comfortable man, who is also a graduate. There's no excuse for crime please, and definitely not because your dad didn't leave you an inheritance

cuterichbigdick:
Thank you so much,i have already decided to look past the issue but it is painful...I will never treat my children like that,i will support them with everything i have until they have become successful CUZ i know that way they will continue to pray that i live long but when you don't make your children successful they will pray he dies early so they can inherit properties.

U ar wlc dear

In Nigeria of today everyone knows that university certificate is not enough to make one successful.there are millions of graduates out there without jobs or underemployed.imagine a graduate of Covenant university working a 55,000 naira a month job and my father is cool with it.please tell me when such a person will save enough money for marriage and raise a family.Even the Yoruba says Ti a koba ri eni feyinti bi ole lanri

eyinjuege:


The property shouldn't have been yours. It's his property. Not everyone is fortunate enough to be left an inheritance. If you are, good for you. If you're not left any, life goes on.
It's very easy for millions to be run through quickly, especially in Nigeria. Your dad is getting older, and will be having more health issues he has to face squarely. He is also not a very old man either, and could easily live 15 to 20 more years. How will he manage to sustain himself till then?
He has tried by sending you to higher institution. He even sent some of you to private schools. Be grateful for even that. Many young men are sponsoring themselves through school.
Not everyone will turn to crime. We have children of poor men who will never consider crime, so why should you consider it as a child of a relatively comfortable man, who is also a graduate. There's no excuse for crime please, and definitely not because your dad didn't leave you an inheritance

Op having experienced something similar,
It's horrific, The richest men in the world from Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates and Warren Buffet to Facebook Ceo Mark Zuckerberg all had family that supported them.with Connections, money...yes money and networks that enabled them focus, amplify and multiply their Talent and Business .
Some guys we looked down in school academically are presently in a better financial state now because their parents sent them abroad where there are lot of opportunities both for intelligent and not so intelligent people unlike Naija where even professional are looking for jobs or are Gross fully underpaid.
Even Dangote, Adenuga, Otedola , Davido Dimeji Bankole all had Family financial and Connection support.
Plum jobs in Naija are first gotten through Family and personal Connections and not through first selecting the best and brightest.
Even the most popular not richest Saudi Investor Prince Alwaleed Bin Tall Al Saud who has shares in Twitter, Apple, CitiBank and Snapchat had family financial support
Keep hustling and doing your thing and ignore the Man though tell him say Him no try. Keep hustling. That's what I am doing

cuterichbigdick:
Hello Good People Of Nairaland,i need your candid advice on this matter.

I'm from a family of six siblings,five boys and one girl who is in her final year in the University.Our parents had divorced since year 2001 and my father married a single mother (not legally) who already had 2 daughters but the daughters only came to my dad's house when they are on holiday.My father took custody of all his 6 children and we seldom get to hear from our mother until we are all adults.I'm the third born of the six children,i'm in my early 30s and to the best of my knowledge we are all obedient children.But i used to be the one giving my father a tough time because i expected much from him and i would tell him my opinion on matters affecting the children which usually led to beatings or scolding.

My arguments then was that since he is a rich man which everyone knew him to be,why can't he invest more in us his children by sending some of us to study abroad that most of my friends that we went to the same secondary school had traveled to different countries for studies and work but my father would always say NO and giving flimsy excuses this is as far back as year 2004.He made sure he sent all of us to different universities 3children went to private universities while other 3 went to public universities.And after school,he left us to fend for ourselves as men that we are.It wasn't easy finding a good job in this country and i would say the 5 of us are underemployed,we have jobs but underpaid.

My father had a big hotel running for 7 years and later started complaining of very poor sales and poor management amongst other things and decided that he would sell the hotel.The hotel is worth about 90 million naira which he later sold it for 55 million naira.Before he sold the hotel he had promised that he would settle all his children if he finally sells the hotel he was making us feel comfortable like we should try and find buyer and all that even though we advised him against selling the hotel which should have been our inheritance.

The problem now is that after selling the hotel for 55million naira,he did not give any of his childeren a dime from it.He gave his estranged wife who never gave birth for him 3 million naira,he gave his younger brother 2 million naira and paid tithe of 5.5 million naira to church.I thought he was still going to settle us and trying to calm my siblings until about after 4months he never said anything about our share then we decided to hold a meeting with him asking when he was going to settle us then he flared up saying he did not owe us and we are stupid,fool and all sorts of names for thinking that he would give us money from the sale of his own property.He said he had done his best for us by sending us to school that we should all learn to be on our own and all that.

I was really amazed and told him i could not believe that he is comfortable seeing his children who are mostly men work a 55,000 naira a month job and you are not concerned about ways to better our lives even when you have the money to do it.The most painful part of it is that I and my elder brother were the one that signed as witnesses on the agreement of purchase of the hotel and yet we never got a dime from the money.He is still very adamant and there is no family member that could talk to him in our favor.

What do you guys think we should do?

YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF!

Your father did nothing wrong except for paying tithe out of the money.

You are no longer a kid plus you are a graduate for crying out loud.

Why not think of how to secure a better job? Take professional courses to update your CV, keep applying for JOBS, don't settle for less.

YOU MUST BE INDEPENDENT AT THIS STAGE OF YOUR LIFE! else, the image below is how you would look in your father's eyes..

cuterichbigdick:
We all have work,in fact i'm very comfortable and i would say he didn't contribute a dime to my success and not even my school certificate brought me fortune.I have my own house,i'm married with kids,i and my wife use good cars but my point is that i seem to be the only successful one cuz i never relied on my parents and school certificate but my other siblings are still struggling with their peanut salary.My two elder brothers are still unmarried because they are not financially okay.

Why can't you help your siblings since you are very comfortable? At least, your dad gave his brother 2million Naira from the money.

I'm really ashamed of your way of reasoning. You are a graduate means you have been trained on how to think and make it in life. It's not about the paper certificate.

We are independent and doesn’t rely on him for anything for several years but it is only normal that you will expect some help from a father that sold a property for several millions.The worse part of it is that when people see us they would believe we are rich because our father sold a hotel and must have settled us

OgogoroFreak:
YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF!

Your father did nothing wrong except for paying tithe out of the money.

You are no longer a kid plus you are a graduate for crying out loud.

Why not think of how to secure a better job? Take professional courses to update your CV, keep applying for JOBS, don't settle for less.

YOU MUST BE INDEPENDENT AT THIS STAGE OF YOUR LIFE! else, the image below is how you would look in your father's eyes..

Well the interesting thing for me here is that he paid 5.5Million naira to a church as tithe but did not give his children a dime.

mmmnmnnnnmmm okay.

Of course I do help my younger brothers in fact two of them live with me even though they are working. I decided to accommodate them so that they can save money and not worry about renting an apartment and also help them in other possible ways

OgogoroFreak:
Why can't you help your siblings since you are very comfortable? At least, your dad gave his brother 2million Naira from the money.

I'm really ashamed of your way of reasoning. You are a graduate means you have been trained on how to think and make it in life. It's not about the paper certificate.

Seriously it baffles me a lot and I’m beginning to think it may be spiritual or he’s just being purely heartless

Guitarlife:
Well the interesting thing for me here is that he paid 5.5Million naira to a church as tithe but did not give his children a dime.

mmmnmnnnnmmm okay.

@OP, you're right to expect your father to assist the same children he brought to this world. Some fathers buy gifts for their children, including the married ones among them. In fact, many responsible and wealthy parents take it as a responsibility to sponsor their children's wedding (that's the norm for many rich and middle class parent).

Having said that, you do not have the right to argue or contest with your dad the manner at which he spends his money. Millions of dollars won't change his mentality, he probably struggled to get to where he's today, and not you or your siblings can change that mentality. It is too late, and the least you guys could do is take him for what he has become.

And the annoying thing is when people see us nice up or drive good cars they just assume that our father is behind our success

Laird:
Op having experienced something similar,
It's horrific, The richest men in the world from Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates and Warren Buffet to Facebook Ceo Mark Zuckerberg all had family that supported them.with Connections, money...yes money and networks that enabled them focus, amplify and multiply their Talent and Business .
Some guys we looked down in school academically are presently in a better financial state now because their parents sent them abroad where there are lot of opportunities both for intelligent and not so intelligent people unlike Naija where even professional are looking for jobs or are Gross fully underpaid.
Even Dangote, Adenuga, Otedola , Davido Dimeji Bankole all had Family financial and Connection support.
Plum jobs in Naija are first gotten through Family and personal Connections and not through first selecting the best and brightest.
Even the most popular not richest Saudi Investor Prince Alwaleed Bin Tall Al Saud who has shares in Twitter, Apple, CitiBank and Snapchat had family financial support
Keep hustling and doing your thing and ignore the Man though tell him say Him no try. Keep hustling. That's what I am doing

op just take it that you don't have a dad around again


your father giving you guys money is a priviledge not a right.

Your right is quality education (according to UNICEF) which he has given you.

I want you people to start thinking 'what if I don't have a rich dad what would be my next line of action'

Put yourself in the shoes of thousands of kids in Africa who had dead beat fathers and are still surviving

you said you did well without his help


why don't you show your brothers the way.

show them how you made it so they can make it too. Do this , instead of joining hands to fight the man for his property.

Its all about mindset

If you all have set your minds that without that money you can't make , opportunities won't come in.

Even when they come in you won't notice it because your mind is focused on the wrong things.

However, if you make up your minds that you can make it without your old man , you will

Stop comparing yourselves to your friends. Everyone's destiny is different.

Stop being bitter against your father.

Unforgivness can impede your blessings
complaining can impede your blessings.


Can your brothers begin to save no matter how meagre?
can they look into multiple sources of income while working at their jobs?

they can start drop shipping men's wears to their colleagues.


You people see a father who hasn't helped you.

I see a father with wealth of knowledge in business who can mentor guys to an extent.

You people see a father who hasn't helped you. I see a father who through his years in business has amassed connections which if you guys use well can sell your ideas / products to and get more connections.


You people see friends/ agemate who will laugh about your present predicament . i see friends who can help market your businesses by word of mouth or resharing on their WhatsApp.

Its all about perspective.

Yes we try as much as possible to forget about the issue but seriously it gives us sleepless nights cuz this our father used to tell his friends that he cherished his children so much but it’s all lies.

generationz:
op just take it that you don't have a dad around again


your father giving you guys money is a priviledge not a right.

Your right is quality education (according to UNICEF) which he has given you.

I want you people to start thinking 'what if I don't have a rich dad what would be my next line of action'

Put yourself in the shoes of thousands of kids in Africa who had dead beat fathers and are still surviving

you said you did well without his help


why don't you show your brothers the way.

show them how you made it so they can make it too. Do this , instead of joining hands to fight the man for his property.

Its all about mindset

If you all have set your minds that without that money you can't make , opportunities won't come in.

Even when they come in you won't notice it because your mind is focused on the wrong things.

However, if you make up your minds that you can make it without your old man , you will

Stop comparing yourselves to your friends. Everyone's destiny is different.

Stop being bitter against your father.

Unforgivness can impede your blessings
complaining can impede your blessings.


Can your brothers begin to save no matter how meagre?
can they look into multiple sources of income while working at their jobs?

they can start drop shipping men's wears to their colleagues.


You people see a father who hasn't helped you.

I see a father with wealth of knowledge in business who can mentor guys to an extent.

You people see a father who hasn't helped you. I see a father who through his years in business has amassed connections which if you guys use well can sell your ideas / products to and get more connections.


You people see friends/ agemate who will laugh about your present predicament . i see friends who can help market your businesses by word of mouth or resharing on their WhatsApp.

Its all about perspective.

cuterichbigdick:
Yes we try as much as possible to forget about the issue but seriously it gives us sleepless nights cuz this our father used to tell his friends that he cherished his children so much but it’s all lies.

well such is life.

You must forgive

forgiving helps in forgetting

use those sleepless nights to do midnight prayers and studying to get better.


When you guys make it he will still return to receive the glory from people


will you say because of that you won't make it?

@laird...U seems 2 also understand, if u ar not wearing d same shoes, u wudnt knw wher it pains...D hustle is real...It is well

Maybe you should take you mind off it..and become responsible for your own well-being..to become responsible for your life and outcome of your life.
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Sit and think. YOU CAN DO WITHOUT depending on the family wealth. Stretch. Pray to God for directions and creative ideas and take steps towards becoming independent. It's well.

VVV

What's that?

CharlesJok3r:
VVV

cuterichbigdick:
And the annoying thing is when people see us nice up or drive good cars they just assume that our father is behind our success

A lot of people don't know that clothes and cars are liabilities that depreciate and take money from ones pocket and clothes and cars cannot be used to measure or guage if someone is wealthy.
16 year olds in USa on college/University school fees loans drive cars on hire purchase..installmental car loans...it does not mean they are wealthy

In school I knew a guy who never drove a personal car in campus but was wealthier and had assets that bring money than a lot of other students who drove cars. He even gave a car out to a cab man to make returns but never drove a car in school
Wealth is measured by things and assets that bring in income and money and appreciate in value like Money profit generating businesses, property, land, ownership shares in companies, artworks, Rare antique car collections, rare antiques, gold, creating, providing services and goods that people pay for
Cars and clothes are Liabilities that remove money from the pocket by needing money to buy, maintain and depreciate over time (except Expensive Antique cars abroad)

Some people driving Corollas have more wealth than some other people driving Range Rover Sport and G wagon Benz Jeeps

that is the irony of life.

Laird:


A lot of people don't know that clothes and cars are liabilities that depreciate and take money from ones pocket and clothes and cars cannot be used to measure or guage if someone is wealthy.
16 year olds in USa on college/University school fees loans drive cars on hire purchase..installmental car loans...it does not mean they are wealthy

In school I knew a guy who never drove a personal car in campus but was wealthier and had assets that bring money than a lot of other students who drove cars. He even gave a car out to a cab man to make returns but never drove a car in school
Wealth is measured by things and assets that bring in income and money and appreciate in value like Money profit generating businesses, property, land, ownership shares in companies, artworks, Rare antique car collections, rare antiques, gold, creating, providing services and goods that people pay for
Cars and clothes are Liabilities that remove money from the pocket by needing money to buy, maintain and depreciate over time (except Expensive Antique cars abroad)

Some people driving Corollas have more wealth than some other people driving Range Rover Sport and G wagon Benz Jeeps

He truly doesn't owe you guys anything outside the physiological needs and education he provided for you before you became adults. Face front, double your hustle and hope for the best. It is well.

sherylbakky:
@laird...U seems 2 also understand, if u ar not wearing d same shoes, u wudnt knw wher it pains...D hustle is real...It is well

Thanks, a country where even professionals are looking for " grossly underpaid" jobs.
Where because of doctors looking for jobs, job slots for a federal Level 1 Medical doctor job is sold on the black market for 1 million naira..It is well

sisisioge:
He truly doesn't owe you guys anything outside the physiological needs and education he provided for you before you became adults. Face front, double your hustle and hope for the best. It is well.

sisioge, longest time where have u been? Miss u.

@OP, your dad is a stingy man and doesn't care about the future of his children. In this modern world, parents training their children to university is not enough for them to be successful and independent.

There are many jobless graduates with good results living from hands to mouth because they had no parents to support them financially to establish a business or connection to get a good job.

It's your father's responsibility to settle you guys with some money out of the hotel sale so that you guys can have capital to start businesses and be financially independent. Even Donald Trump is what he is today because of his inheritance.

@OP, there is nothing wrong in expecting inheritance from one's parents. It's a biblical right and don't allow your dad to deny you.