So, I've something that is of serious concern to me, and would love it if the guys on this forum could tell me what to do. I created this account now for this issue.

This happened like 8years ago, I and the guy in question were class mates, after we left secondary school, it happened that his place of residence and mine weren't far off. I later took a job just after school and while we were both writing JAMB and waiting on admission...we got closer. Occasionally, he visits me at my place of work and because of that; On one of those his visits; we kissed and had sex in my office toilet. Though it was wrong, I knew it was but I just couldn't stop him. I wasn't in any relationship and likewise he. We found ourselves not saying anything to each other like the 'L' word but we were constantly meeting in different locations just to quench our sexual desires after it happened at my place of work. I got tired of him later and told him off to stop coming around me. I had another class mate who happened to be his best friend; he brought that guy to come and beg me but I refused. I made up my mind and we stopped seeing.

Now here is the problem; I ran into him last week after 8 years, we talked. I'm in a relationship and he's in a relationship too but I now feel that if I had had a premonition of meeting him; I won't have taken the road I did that day. We chatted without having anything in mind, at least on my path, but this guy won't let me rest. To be precise; he said he can never forget how I fùcked him, sorry to use that word. He gave me all the instances of our escapes he remembers while I struggle to remember them on my path. I've told him off again that I'm not interested as those were things we did as kids but he won't listen. He went as far as saying that even if I'm married, he won't leave me alone and if I die; he would have sex with my corpse. I threatened him today with my bf, he told me I was saying my own. He knows my family house and where I work presently.

Now, what can I say that will make this guy leave me alone? I don't want to cheat on my bf.

In this JUBRIL REGIME?

Tell him You've 'STD' and thank me with 1 hot round of bleep Later ..

Vikkoh:
Tell him You've 'STD' and thank me with 1 hot round of Bleep Later ..

I can't tell him that. He's friends with a few of my old circle of friends. You could imagine what will go round if I dare say that.

graceypenda:
I can't tell him that. He's friends with a few of my old circle of friends. You could imagine what will go round if I dare say that.

Hmmmmm! He can't rape you.. JUST WARN HIM AND WALK AWAY! Or threaten him with his relationship..

Vikkoh:


Hmmmmm! He can't rape you.. JUST WARN HIM AND WALK AWAY! Or threaten him with his relationship..

He can actually rape me and I don't know if he cares about his gf 'cause if he did, he won't have been bothering me as he's of late.

graceypenda:
He can actually rape me and I don't know if he cares about his gf 'cause if he did, he won't have been bothering me as he's of late.

Stop giving him attention...
Can't you block him and stop answering his calls?
He can't touch you in your own home...

graceypenda:
He can actually rape me and I don't know if he cares about his gf 'cause if he did, he won't have been bothering me as he's of late.

Okay if he tries or attempts it, HIT HIS BALLS and Btw, how old are you? Sorry I'm asking..

Tell your guy about it

kingxsamz:

Stop giving him attention... He can't touch you in your own home...

EXACTLY!

dingbang:
Tell your guy about it

:' It would look IMMATURE Bro..

kingxsamz:


Stop giving him attention...
Can't you block him and stop answering his calls?
He can't touch you in your own home...

You won't understand.

I personally decided to stop taking his calls which I did for days, he left me a text I decided to ignore. According to him; today was his off day so he had my time. He called me like 12times but I didn't take any except his last call and we agreed he comes to my house 'cause my younger brother knows him as we all went to the same secondary school, but because of work, I closed late and couldn't meet him. Only to realise through his text as we couldn't meet that my bro told him where I work.

Even if I was the first girl he had sex with, so it seems though, would it be this bad?

dingbang:
Tell your guy about it

I thought of that and my bf will always listen, but what if he says trash about me to my guy? I can't tell how he would handle it as I thought of telling him and even giving him the guy's number to talk to.

If you insist I do, I can risk it.

graceypenda:
I thought of that and my bf will always listen, but what if he says trash about me to my guy? I can't tell how he would handle it as I thought of telling him and even giving him the guy's number to talk to.

If you insist I do, I can risk it.

please do it. Tell him an ex from your past is disturbing your life and its making you go crazy and totally pissed off.

Just sleep with him.
What's the big deal.its just sex. Maybe there's a reason for all this. Why don't you use this opportunity to confirm if you want to cut of contact with him or not.

After the sex you should know whether this will be the last time or the start of something new.

Who know, he might just be Mr right.
I know you will say, "but i don't really like him" look babe haven't you said that before about someone you later liked.
Give the guy a chance, he obviously loves you, is this a sin girl? I mean wouldn't it be cool knowing of this feels, really knowing?
See this off to the end, eventually you can call it off. Its all up to you

Dami12345:
Just sleep with him.
What's the big deal.its just sex. Maybe there's a reason for all this. Why don't you use this opportunity to confirm if you want to cut of contact with him or not.

After the sex you should know whether this will be the last time or the start of something new.

Who know, he might just be Mr right.
I know you will say, "but i don't really like him" look babe haven't you said that before about someone you later liked.
Give the guy a chance, he obviously loves you, is this a sin girl? I mean wouldn't it be cool knowing of this feels, really knowing?
See this off to the end, eventually you can call it off. Its all up to you

Thanks for the advice, but he isn't my kind of man. That was even one of the reasons I left him and sleeping with him will be me going against my principles. Again, I can't afford to hurt whom I date because of this guy. He isn't worth it, my guy is good to a fault.

You mentioned love, there's difference between lust and love. I would know if someone loves me, this one is far from that.

Before we stopped seeing, he came to my house; I was shocked to see him so I got pissed at seeing him being so daring. So, we argued and I wanted to drag him out of our house; he went all physical on me and over powered me with a kiss, we had sex in my house and he still reminds me of that sex.

dingbang:
please do it. Tell him an ex from your past is disturbing your life and its making you go crazy and totally pissed off.

Okay, thanks for the advice. I'll just tell him.

graceypenda:
. He went as far as saying that even if I'm married, he won't leave me alone and if I die; he would have sex with my corpse.

Pfffahahahahaha. It's over for you OP. There's nothing you can do.

Uglymugg:


Pfffahahahahaha. It's over for you OP. There's nothing you can do.

please, don't make it worse.

graceypenda:
please, don't make it worse.

Are you thAt good that he would even think of fucking your corpse?

Involve his girlfriend. if it persists tell your boyfriend or your brother. Any male that can stand up to him

What stops you from killing him.I hates Rubbish

graceypenda:
So, I've something that is of serious concern to me, and would love it if the guys on this forum could tell me what to do. I created this account now for this issue.

This happened like 8years ago, I and the guy in question were class mates, after we left secondary school, it happened that his place of residence and mine weren't far off. I later took a job just after school and while we were both writing JAMB and waiting on admission...we got closer. Occasionally, he visits me at my place of work and because of that; On one of those his visits; we kissed and had sex in my office toilet. Though it was wrong, I knew it was but I just couldn't stop him. I wasn't in any relationship and likewise he. We found ourselves not saying anything to each other like the 'L' word but we were constantly meeting in different locations just to quench our sexual desires after it happened at my place of work. I got tired of him later and told him off to stop coming around me. I had another class mate who happened to be his best friend; he brought that guy to come and beg me but I refused. I made up my mind and we stopped seeing.

Now here is the problem; I ran into him last week after 8 years, we talked. I'm in a relationship and he's in a relationship too but I now feel that if I had had a premonition of meeting him; I won't have taken the road I did that day. We chatted without having anything in mind, at least on my path, but this guy won't let me rest. To be precise; he said he can never forget how I fùcked him, sorry to use that word. He gave me all the instances of our escapes he remembers while I struggle to remember them on my path. I've told him off again that I'm not interested as those were things we did as kids but he won't listen. He went as far as saying that even if I'm married, he won't leave me alone and if I die; he would have sex with my corpse. I threatened him today with my bf, he told me I was saying my own. He knows my family house and where I work presently.

Now, what can I say that will make this guy leave me alone? I don't want to cheat on my bf.

ignore him , hide from him , tell ur bf

I once experience such rubbish called relationship.nne my advice is that you are the only one that can stop this.first of all stop giving him attitude but just don't notice anything about him.

rebirthforgoody:
I once experience such rubbish called relationship.nne my advice is that you are the only one that can stop this.first of all stop giving him attitude but just don't notice anything about him.

By stopping to give him attitude means I would have to be nice to him and you know where that will lead us to. How did you do yours?

I think you are fighting against yourself, not him. Your present bf is a nice guy and insecure, whereas this one is a dominatrix and you dig him for it. That's lust.

First know what you really want, then come clean with your bf about this guy and let him handle it. If he continues to bother you, then report to the police

graceypenda:
By stopping to give him attitude means I would have to be nice to him and you know where that will lead us to. How did you do yours?

By not responding to his calls,messages,even when I see him.

rebirthforgoody:




By not responding to his calls,messages,even when I see him.

He's not as crazy as this one then, and I guess he respects your decision.

Talk to your boyfriend about this, involve your parents and then police.


shikena

graceypenda:
He's not as crazy as this one then, and I guess he respects your decision.

My own is that the stupid guy threatened to kill himself what's my business self.I told him to kill himself that I will come for burial

sacx:
I think you are fighting against yourself, not him. Your present bf is a nice guy and insecure, whereas this one is a dominatrix and you dig him for it. That's lust.

First know what you really want, then come clean with your bf about this guy and let him handle it. If he continues to bother you, then report to the police

I never said by bf is insecure, so where did you get that from?

rebirthforgoody:




My own is that the stupid guy threatened to kill himself what's my business self.I told him to kill himself that I will come for burial

LOL, funny you.

This one isn't threatening suicide, so you see; we're dealing with two faces of the same thing.

MariaLavina:
Talk to your boyfriend about this, involve your parents and then police.



shikena

I've decided to tell my bf. I can't involve my parents or my brothers. How will I tell them I had sex with a guy and he won't leave me alone? I can't do that.