can you tell me one place in the bible where a woman is called and her husband name came after?
1 Sam 14:50- And the name of Saul's wife was Ahinoam, the daughter of Ahimaaz...

i am a christian, and nowhere in the bible states that. The bible call women and their father's name. Like 2 Sam 6:20- ... . And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David....

Michal is also David's wife.

I have a wife, the first of five girls in her family with no boy. i wanted her to hyphenate her name with that of her maiden name but she said i shouldn't worry. her choice. she was first her fathers daughter before my wife. My children will surely bear my name and that is what is important.

noturbusiness:

Was he called David jesse? Why was he called son of David? Why did she use Sarah wife of Abraham not Sarah daughter of so so and so like he used David son of Jesse?

The tradition of a wife taking her husband’s last name at marriage is not found in the Bible. In Bible times, most people did not even have last names. Women were often identified by where they lived (e.g., Mary Magdalene, Luke 8:2), by their children (e.g., Mary the mother of James and Joseph, Matthew 27:56), or by their husband (e.g., Mary the wife of Clopas, John 19:25).
In Western culture, it has been a common tradition for a wife to change her last name to that of her husband. The vast majority of married women in the West still follow that tradition. There is nothing explicitly biblical about doing this, since the Bible issues no command to do so. Thus, there is nothing explicitly unbiblical about a wife keeping her maiden name or opting for a hyphenated hybrid.

bennyann:
This is a hard pill to swallow for me. I'll say why.

I intend keeping my father's name just to honour the family. My father is the only man in his family and he has two daughters only. I'm the last.

Even if the name will die with me, I just want to keep it for that reason. At least, when I die, I wouldn't bother about the existence of that name and that's not foolish to me.

I'm the only biological child of my mum. Staying with her, I had a compound surname just to honour my step father because he's gotten no child of his.

I wouldn't want to go further but I think one should understand such scenarios.

I wouldn't condone anyone insulting my husband when I get married because he allowed me keep my father's name. For crying out loud, he will get married to me as an individual and not the name. Besides, his name will be the first or the major surname.

Though I haven't concluded if I will eventually use my husband's name solely or not but I think Our motives for doing some things should really be put into consideration.

Some have stories that can trash down some rules.

good luck finding such a Nigerian man that will allow that.of course by the time u are 37 and still single, maybe u will have a rethink of ur girlish fantancies.

abbeyfel:
This is the most stupid and baseless topic I've read on nairaland! What rubbish. Just mention where d bible said this specifically...

My people perish because they lack understanding.

asuustrike1:

The tradition of a wife taking her husband’s last name at marriage is not found in the Bible. In Bible times, most people did not even have last names. Women were often identified by where they lived (e.g., Mary Magdalene, Luke 8:2), by their children (e.g., Mary the mother of James and Joseph, Matthew 27:56), or by their husband (e.g., Mary the wife of Clopas, John 19:25).
In Western culture, it has been a common tradition for a wife to change her last name to that of her husband. The vast majority of married women in the West still follow that tradition. There is nothing explicitly biblical about doing this, since the Bible issues no command to do so. Thus, there is nothing explicitly unbiblical about a wife keeping her maiden name or opting for a hyphenated hybrid.

Why did he not use David husband of Abigail? Abraham husband of Sarah to describe them? The man names is superior . If you understand the Bible very you will know the importance of the male name as women names end with them but men names were use in genealogical records in the Bible.
There is a practice in the Bible that if a man was to get married and he died without raising offsprings, he wife was to keep his name and his brother will help the late brother raise kids that will also bear the late brothers name (it happened in the case of Judah first born . It also happened in the the case of Naomi and the son raise happened to be obeb the ancestor of Jesus. A question about the brother-in-law marriage was also put to Jesus) .
If they were not keeping their husbands name, what name were they trying to keep by doing brother in-law marriage? Why didn't they also make the same provision of brother in-law marriage available for late women also if the man and the woman name are equal?
That The Bible was not written in English but was given a direct translation does not mean you should not read and think deeply to understand the writters original thought

Wat a useless topic who name help self... in South America their names reflect materna and paternal tracts... u forgot d part wer d bible said d man shall love d wife as Christ loved d church and gave himself up for her... all this nonsense patriarchy traditions is bullshit if my wife says she no one ansa my name na she sabi as long as we get along love ourselves na im sure pass... joke Silva and olu Jacobs are they not humans na shitty topics like this de attract audience

asuustrike1:

The three main categories of sin are the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life (1 John 2:16). Pornography definitely causes us to lust after flesh, and it is undeniably a lust of the eyes. Pornography definitely does not qualify as one of the things we are to think about, according to Philippians 4:8. Pornography is addictive (1 Corinthians 6:12; 2 Peter 2:19) and destructive (Proverbs 6:25-28; Ezekiel 20:30; Ephesians 4:19). Lusting after other people in our minds, which is the essence of pornography, is offensive to God (Matthew 5:28). When habitual devotion to pornography characterizes a person’s life and he/she continues in sin without seeking help, making no attempt to stop or feeling no desire to change his/her behavior, it demonstrates the person may not be saved (1 Corinthians 6:9-12).
These verses and illustrations expansiate and explains why pornography is bad.

The tradition of a wife taking her husband’s last name at marriage is not found in the Bible. In Bible times, most people did not even have last names. Women were often identified by where they lived (e.g., Mary Magdalene, Luke 8:2), by their children (e.g., Mary the mother of James and Joseph, Matthew 27:56), or by their husband (e.g., Mary the wife of Clopas, John 19:25).

In Western culture, it has been a common tradition for a wife to change her last name to that of her husband. The vast majority of married women in the West still follow that tradition. There is nothing explicitly biblical about doing this, since the Bible issues no command to do so. Thus, there is nothing explicitly unbiblical about a wife keeping her maiden name or opting for a hyphenated hybrid.

Some women who legally change their last names after marriage are simply following cultural conventions. Many others, however, are consciously choosing to illustrate a couple of biblical principles, namely, the headship of the man and the fact that marriage is the union of two people into “one flesh.” Jesus taught that, when a man and a woman are married, “they are no longer two, but one flesh” (Mark 10:. The husband, as the head of the home and the nurturer of his wife (Ephesians 5:23), shares his name with her, rather than vice versa.
Other cultures may have different traditions regarding a woman changing or keeping her last name after marriage. Again, since the Bible does not specifically address the issue, the matter should be decided based on prayer, cultural considerations, and the wishes of the husband and the wife.
In a nutshell, no scriptural bases for change of name as it is tradition of men not God

I'm glad at how you were able to find a way to show that pornogrsphy has a conneCtion with sin. How you are unable to see that disregarding your husband by including your father's name is not equal to disobedience to the command of submission is what amazes me. You can choose to allow your wife do such, that is your own cup of tea. But calling men weakling for chosing to take their God given role as head of the woman is what I find surprising.

The Bible says a woman is to submit to her husband in all things. But you say a woman. can be selective in that regard.Is t that an order to disobey God?

You say these things are traditions of men. Do you know that some are approved by God who said we shouldn't remove the ancient landmark which h our father's have set.

Proverbs 22:28 Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set.

Tradition has it that we pay bride price and make our wife bear our name. But because of westernization which threw away the landmark, you also want us to do the same.

You can allow you wife bear whatever name she wishes. But never condone a woman. who goes against her husband's command to bear his name alone. That means you have condoned disobedience to Gods word which says women are to submit and be in subjection to their husband.

BTW, Magdalene is another name which Mary bore, not where she came from. Magdalene was included to differentiate her from Mary the mother of Jesus and also Mary the mother of James and joses whom the Bible also called the mother of ZEBEDEE's children (another way of linking her to her husband)


Mayhew 27:56 Among which was Mary Magdalene, and Mary the mother of James and Joses, and the mother of Zebedees children.

So you see, women are not identified by where they lived but whose wife or daughter or mother they are, all of which ties to a man.

OGHENAOGIE:
Wat a useless topic who name help self... in South America their names reflect materna and paternal tracts... u forgot d part wer d bible said d man shall love d wife as Christ loved d church and gave himself up for her... all this nonsense patriarchy traditions is bullshit if my wife says she no one ansa my name na she sabi as long as we get along love ourselves na im sure pass... joke Silva and olu Jacobs are they not humans na shitty topics like this de attract audience

Your decision to condone such from your wife might be the beginNing of your sorrows. Same way Adam foolishly followed Eve is the same way you will get destroyed for allowing your wife take mantle of leadership.

Have you ever asked Olu Jacobs to tell you what he might be suffering at home? Perhaps, you just concluded that they are happy based on red carpet pictures of them which you see.

alBHAGDADI:
How do you reason?

A man is a man. The woman is the o e getting married into a man's family. She has to adopt everything about them.

You do not have the right to ask me how I reason.
I always like to read your post but, this one is so off.
Are you that insure?

osomegbe:
can you tell me one place in the bible where a woman is called and her husband name came after?
1 Sam 14:50- And the name of Saul's wife was Ahinoam, the daughter of Ahimaaz...

i am a christian, and nowhere in the bible states that. The bible call women and their father's name. Like 2 Sam 6:20- ... . And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David....

Michal is also David's wife.

I have a wife, the first of five girls in her family with no boy. i wanted her to hyphenate her name with that of her maiden name but she said i shouldn't worry. her choice. she was first her fathers daughter before my wife. My children will surely bear my name and that is what is important.

Don't be myopic. The Bible most times gives deep details for better understanding.



1 Samuel 14:50
14:50 And the name of Saul's wife was Ahinoam, the daughter of Ahimaaz: and the name of the captain of his host was Abner, the son of Ner, Saul's uncle.

In the above verse, the Bible mentioned the name of Saul's wife's father for us to know where she came from. Same with Saul's captain. This doesn't mean that the Bible is saying she also bore her father's name along with Saul's name.

Michal was mentioned as the daughter of Saul so that we can know that it is the same Michal spoken of in 1 Samuel 14:49.

2 Samuel 6:20 Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, How glorious was the king of Israel to day, who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself!


1 Samuel 14:49
14:49 Now the sons of Saul were Jonathan, and Ishui, and Melchishua: and the names of his two daughters were these; the name of the firstborn Merab, and the name of the younger Michal:


If your wife had agreed to hyphenate her name as to yu wished, then it still works t have generated anything sensible. Perhaps, she saw the foolishness in that advice that's why she rejected it. Don't you know that when she dies, the name also dies? Now, how is the name preserved that way?

Vendee:

You do not have the right to ask me how I reason. I always like to read your post but, this one is so off. Are you that insure?

I'm sorry for my wrong use of words.

alBHAGDADI:

I'm sorry for my wrong use of words.

It's alright. I still like to read your post any day.

This is one of the reason apostle Paul was admonishing brother Timothy in 2 Tim 2 v23

New International Version (NIV)
Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.

please this topic is need less and have nothing to do with holy living, submission of wive to husband or spiritual things. Let's note that ' all things written in the bible are biblical but not all are spiritual.

A wife can bear the husband's last name only and not be submissive and vice vasal. A name is just a name and no one will know if a lady bears the fathers name, unless it is stated. So let focus on those things that are important after all a 'name' is just an identity.

Chiefjosy:


Keep deceiving yourself till your destiny is being used to buy Benz if something even Dey the destiny self

Who be this Suegbe? So you mean every woman you come across must be a broke fo.ol like you? The destiny of your generation sef join together no fit buy Benz that is why you think buying a Benz should be the greatest achievement of your destiny abi?...Kai, it is well with you...We are talking stock option in a fortune 500 kinda money you are here dreaming of buying benz...I can not begin to reason with you. Ewu Gambia,bia get off my mention, before I mop floor with you...

alBHAGDADI:
Adding her father's name to her husband's name is totally against the Bible. Including her father's name means her marriage, which her father should have no business in, now includes him. This makes it two flesh.

Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

It also doesn't show submission which is against the Bible which says wives should submit to their husband. It changes the ancient landmark which we all met.

Please, can you just quote a bible passage that tells where a wife took her husband's name

sweetrace:


Please, can you just quote a bible passage that tells where a wife took her husband's name

can you just quote a bible passage that tells where a wife didn't take her husband's name?

With most of these comments, all I can say is thank God these are not the only men in Nigeria.

BS of the highest order. What has retaining her dad's name got to do with her personality? If she drops it and adds that of her husband, does that change who she is or will be? Abeg leave all these crap n focus on who's gon be ur next president cz that's what is important right now. BTW, to improve and spice up your sexual lifestyle, and also boost ur heart, dental and bone health, order for your organic dried dates powder ( Debino). Recommended for both sex and more important for men (if u know u know). Call or WhatsApp 08067392996

Oh shut up. Every time somebody must be chopping someone’s destiny, somebody cannot be comfortable without chopping somebody’s destiny again abi? Abeg go and sit down

DaddyNimo:

keep choping their money...till they chop your destiny buy Benz.

I swear this shit is very annoying. If you wanna bear your husband Name fine, If you wanna bear your Father name fine but don't go packing the two name together it's just so annoying it just show that the woman is very confused.....me personally I don't care what name you choose to bear just make sure you choose one....

pocohantas:


No mind them.
Any day my man opens his mouth and proclaims himself Lord and me the inferior partner, I will make sure he gets no support from me. He will slave day and night ALONE to keep the home running.

no mind them jare, we dey manage them Dem go come still dey raise shoulder like who wear shoulder part... I am the head, I am the head,yen yen yen yen yen...mtcheeew... head kor, coconut head ni...I swear Nigerian men really know how to disrespect and put down their women, ie why if I must marry a 9j man, the man has got to be all that...ain't lowering no fv.ckin standards for no cretin. You go see them dey bash girls say Dem dey bleach, talking about self hate and all...it's just how we have become comfortable in putting down the Nigerian woman so she has to measure to their warped expectations.

The pattern I’ve noticed about weak men, everything and anything causes a dent to their ego. I think you’re a perfect description of that.

DaddyNimo:

I swear that's just the simple truth. if your wife uses compound name you're a weak man and dats why she married you cos you're weak and controllable

alBHAGDADI:


I'm glad at how you were able to find a way to show that pornogrsphy has a conneCtion with sin. How you are unable to see that disregarding your husband by including your father's name is not equal to disobedience to the command of submission is what amazes me. You can choose to allow your wife do such, that is your own cup of tea. But calling men weakling for chosing to take their God given role as head of the woman is what I find surprising.

The Bible says a woman is to submit to her husband in all things. But you say a woman. can be selective in that regard.Is t that an order to disobey God?

You say these things are traditions of men. Do you know that some are approved by God who said we shouldn't remove the ancient landmark which h our father's have set.

Proverbs 22:28 Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set.

Tradition has it that we pay bride price and make our wife bear our name. But because of westernization which threw away the landmark, you also want us to do the same.

You can allow you wife bear whatever name she wishes. But never condone a woman. who goes against her husband's command to bear his name alone. That means you have condoned disobedience to Gods word which says women are to submit and be in subjection to their husband.

BTW, Magdalene is another name which Mary bore, not where she came from. Magdalene was included to differentiate her from Mary the mother of Jesus and also Mary the mother of James and joses whom the Bible also called the mother of ZEBEDEE's children (another way of linking her to her husband)


Mayhew 27:56 Among which was Mary Magdalene, and Mary the mother of James and Joses, and the mother of Zebedees children.

So you see, women are not identified by where they lived but whose wife or daughter or mother they are, all of which ties to a man.

The above scriptures didn't say or tie answering of names. The Bible approves payment of bride price or dowry as some will call it but didn't say answering name entails submission. The scriptures are clear for all to see as regards answering husband's name. It is a choice hence not compulsory at all.

alBHAGDADI:


can you just quote a bible passage that tells where a wife didn't take her husband's name?

Exactly!!!! It was not mentioned because that is not what the bible is about. Changing one's last name is nothing but man's custom or tradition. It doesn't make a couple more or less married.

Saff:
Oh shut up. Every time somebody must be chopping someone’s destiny, somebody cannot be comfortable without chopping somebody’s destiny again abi? Abeg go and sit down

These folks are ridiculous for real

noturbusiness:

Why did he not use David husband of Abigail? Abraham husband of Sarah to describe them? The man names is superior . If you understand the Bible very you will know the importance of the male name as women names end with them but men names were use in genealogical records in the Bible.
There is a practice in the Bible that if a man was to get married and he died without raising offsprings, he wife was to keep his name and his brother will help the late brother raise kids that will also bear the late brothers name (it happened in the case of Judah first born . It also happened in the the case of Naomi and the son raise happened to be obeb the ancestor of Jesus. A question about the brother-in-law marriage was also put to Jesus) .
If they were not keeping their husbands name, what name were they trying to keep by doing brother in-law marriage? Why didn't they also make the same provision of brother in-law marriage available for late women also if the man and the woman name are equal?
That The Bible was not written in English but was given a direct translation does not mean you should not read and think deeply to understand the writters original thought

Were they bearing their names as we do today?
Did the Bible say they should use their husband's names? Where did you get all this man made tradition that has no scriptural bases. The Bible is clear on marriage but didn't say a woman should answer her husband's name as it is man made doctrine.

Hmmmmmmmm

sweetrace:


Exactly!!!! It was not mentioned because that is not what the bible is about. Changing one's last name is nothing but man's custom or tradition. It doesn't make a couple more or less married.

Proverbs 22:28 Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set.

asuustrike1:

The above scriptures didn't say or tie answering of names. The Bible approves payment of bride price or dowry as some will call it but didn't say answering name entails submission. The scriptures are clear for all to see as regards answering husband's name. It is a choice hence not compulsory at all.

Your husband is your Lord. If he says he doesn't care whether you bear his name, fine. But if he insists, you will not be disobeying your Lord if you go ahead to bear your father's name. It means you have not submitted as commanded by the Bible. Can you Now see how the Bible is applied in this case?

alBHAGDADI:


I'm glad at how you were able to find a way to show that pornogrsphy has a conneCtion with sin. How you are unable to see that disregarding your husband by including your father's name is not equal to disobedience to the command of submission is what amazes me. You can choose to allow your wife do such, that is your own cup of tea. But calling men weakling for chosing to take their God given role as head of the woman is what I find surprising.

The Bible says a woman is to submit to her husband in all things. But you say a woman. can be selective in that regard.Is t that an order to disobey God?

You say these things are traditions of men. Do you know that some are approved by God who said we shouldn't remove the ancient landmark which h our father's have set.

Proverbs 22:28 Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set.

Tradition has it that we pay bride price and make our wife bear our name. But because of westernization which threw away the landmark, you also want us to do the same.

You can allow you wife bear whatever name she wishes. But never condone a woman. who goes against her husband's command to bear his name alone. That means you have condoned disobedience to Gods word which says women are to submit and be in subjection to their husband.

BTW, Magdalene is another name which Mary bore, not where she came from. Magdalene was included to differentiate her from Mary the mother of Jesus and also Mary the mother of James and joses whom the Bible also called the mother of ZEBEDEE's children (another way of linking her to her husband)


Mayhew 27:56 Among which was Mary Magdalene, and Mary the mother of James and Joses, and the mother of Zebedees children.

So you see, women are not identified by where they lived but whose wife or daughter or mother they are, all of which ties to a man.

even as much as I agree with you on some part of the write up, I beg to disagree with these statements here

The Bible says a woman is to submit to her husband in all things. But you say a woman. can be selective in that regard.Is t that an order to disobey God?
You say these things are traditions of men. Do you know that some are approved by God who said we shouldn't remove the ancient landmark which h our father's have set.

Proverbs 22:28 Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set.
Tradition has it that we pay bride price and make our wife bear our name. But because of westernization which threw away the landmark, you also want us to do the same.

Any landmark not found in Christ is not expected to hold or what do you say to the removal of such things as kolanut, palm wine and even hot drinks for prayers during weddings anymore.

The names to be used by a couple is relative to them just like the number of children each family will want to have; but no matter what individual style each family wants to adopts, its has no bearing with the things of the kingdom

The scriptures is clear to all about answering husband's name. There is no scriptural bases as some are arguing on the use of husband's name. Some persons even said God approves tradition by citing Proverbs 22:28 Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set. By the time we analyzed the traditions of men we would see that their many traditions that are not scriptural