Babyvet:


Like I said mentioned previous , we do not know the status of the father of the children. A very vital piece that the op did not provide. I'm not being sentimental one bit. In some cases, I do believe that parental rights should be taken away , but definitely not for passport reasons. Reasons like being abusive and creating unsafe environments for the child and not being involved with the child.

justwise:


..and why should the option of giving up 2kids should be considered in the first place? Having a paper/passport does not mean that one will live happily ever and be successfully. You people post here as if having a foreign paper/passport is that big of an achievement, its bloody no big deal.

LUCAS99:


The same justwise that travelled to the United Kingdom about 10 years ago on a Student Visa...

During his interview he was able to convince the Visa Officer that he would leave the United Kingdom at the end of his studies.

That same justwise completed his studies in the United Kingdom but refused to return to Nigeria until he regularized his Stay in the United Kingdom.

That same justwise is advising the op to return to Nigeria without regularizing his stay in the United States.

The Big question is why didn’t justwise return to Nigeria immediately after his studies in the United Kingdom?

If you have done that, I would have personally taking you seriously but you choose the easy way out and got your papers but you now expect the op to come back to Nigeria without his Papers.

You’re not serious justwise...

Mancala:


You are right, she has provided no information about the father. However, my take is that an involved Dad should be screaming "bloody murder" if his kids were put at risk, and not be silent about what's happening. I was not suggesting that his parental rights should be taken away from him, rather I said she should ask that he willingly give them up "officially" to be adopted by her future American citizen spouse, to facilitate the speedily resolution of their status issue. He will always be their bilogical father, no one can take that away from him. However, he could consider giving away his day to day decision making rights over those kids, something he has already done for all intents and purposes. This is where I meant that you and Justwise are perhaps being a tad sentimental. He is apparently not in the picture right now making important decisions about these kids future. What difference does it make if this is made official?

LUCAS99:


The same justwise that travelled to the United Kingdom about 10 years ago on a Student Visa...

During his interview he was able to convince the Visa Officer that he would leave the United Kingdom at the end of his studies.

That same justwise completed his studies in the United Kingdom but refused to return to Nigeria until he regularized his Stay in the United Kingdom.

That same justwise is advising the op to return to Nigeria without regularizing his stay in the United States.

The Big question is why didn’t justwise return to Nigeria immediately after his studies in the United Kingdom?

If you have done that, I would have personally taking you seriously but you choose the easy way out and got your papers but you now expect the op to come back to Nigeria without his Papers.

You’re not serious justwise...

claremont:


I will do some research on this as I'm not conversant with the Canadian asylum system. However, I don't think it's a given that an illegal immigrant with kids can simply cross to border into Canada and be granted asylum. If the illegal immigrant is fleeing from abuse, it then begs the question as to why asylum hasn't been requested for in the US.

EgunMogaji:


Thank you Sir. I’ve been gradually lengthening my stays. Even though I was in Ibadan Sept/Oct 2018, as soon as I returned to the US I had to come right back in November for another two months.

I’m in negotiations for my borehole with an Indian family near New Garage. I watched a polo match this afternoon with some Italians and saw a family of Chinese at Chicken Republic. This is the same Nigeria that some are saying people are committing suicide.

I’ll send you a private message. Let’s meet for lunch, my treat, and discuss opportunities.

justwise:


..and why should the option of giving up 2kids should be considered in the first place? Having a paper/passport does not mean that one will live happily ever and be successfully. You people post here as if having a foreign paper/passport is that big of an achievement, its bloody no big deal.

Babyvet:


Lol, you are not the person to critize anybody , you have questionable immigration history yourself and you came here with student visa and suddenly because us citzen.

LUCAS99:


Is having a foreign paper/passport is that big of an achievement? Yes, it’s.

We all know the privilege & perks accorded to anyone with either a Blue Passport or Red Passport.

If justwise believes it’s bloddy no big deal then he needs to set an example by renouncing his British Citizenship, Surrending his British Passport & Book a one way ticket back to Murtala Mohameed Airport Lagos and enjoy the change brought by the Buhari led APC Government in Nigeria but I guess what justwise will never do that...

Babyvet:


But what if the father is dead? What if she took the kids to the US against the father will?

Mancala:


If the father is dead, she would need a copy of the death certificate to prove it and that is that. Only her consent is needed for adoption. If she took the kids to the U.S. against the will of their father, she is out of gas. In lay mans terms, that's akin to kidnapping. Consent of both parents is required for international travel and it will be considered a felony if she did not get his consent. With this type of felony, adjustment of status, even through marriage to an American citizen is not possible. I have seen both situations before. Let me disclose some personal things about myself at the risk of being identified by someone who is familiar with my situation. I speak a few languages fluently and have served as an interpreter and also a financial co sponsor at a few AOS and even stokes interviews. I have seen many of these situations first hand. She needs to be well prepared if this is the route she has chosen I hope she is still reading thes posts for her own benefit

maternal:


He also has well off to do family making money. I'm also confused why he hasn't returned.

Mancala:


If the father is dead, she would need a copy of the death certificate to prove it and that is that. Only her consent is needed for adoption. If she took the kids to the U.S. against the will of their father, she is out of gas. In lay mans terms, that's akin to kidnapping. Consent of both parents is required for international travel and it will be considered a felony if she did not get his consent. With this type of felony, adjustment of status, even through marriage to an American citizen is not possible. I have seen both situations before. Let me disclose some personal things about myself at the risk of being identified by someone who is familiar with my situation. I speak a few languages fluently and have served as an interpreter and also a financial co sponsor at a few AOS and even stokes interviews. I have seen many of these situations first hand. She needs to be well prepared if this is the route she has chosen I hope she is still reading thes posts for her own benefit

Babyvet:


But why does the op have to get married ? People keep mentioning marriage , marriage in the western world is different from marriage from back home . Even if of some you guys are encouraging arrangeee, the op only has $3k , so I don’t think that would be enough.

Babyvet:


You are very stupid and ignorant, you lack common sense. The difference is that I live here legally. Since your a us citizen and supposedly making good money , why don’t you help the op. So your talk is cheap.

TheCongo2:
@LUCAS99 , is the OP a he or a she ?
I thought OP was a lady but you have been referring to her as He. What is going on?

Itiswellblessed:


Phewww...chill bro.
Their father is not dead. He's in nigeria and very very active in his kids life.

As for Canada, that is not in my plans.

LUCAS99:


op doesn’t have any problem.

The only problem op have is himself...

I wonder why op suddenly wants to go back to Nigeria...

Does he realize how many people are illegal in this country & are carrying out their day- to- day activities

It takes some people anywhere from 5 - 10 years just to get their papers...

So why the haste from op...

He should be thinking about working & saving his money...

Even if op wants to marry someone he needs about $6000 to start except he finds someone willing to do it for free

Even if op wants to file for Asylum most lawyers charge from $5000 upwards depending on the complexities of the case...

Op needs to sit tight wherever he is:

Op has a job that pays under the table...

Op has a roof over his head...

Op has food to eat...

Does Op realize that there are some people that are currently homeless...

God forbid that happens he will probably try to kill himself...

Like I said before Op doesn’t have any problem...

Op needs to chill out...

People keep on saying what if Op is deported?

It gonna take anywhere from 3 years - 5 years depending on your location for an order of deportation proceeding to be finalized.

Op has several factors that would weigh positively in his favour:

Op came in with a valid Visa ( He didn’t sneak in from the border)

Op has two little children

Op doesn’t have any criminal history

Do you realize that Op can file for Asylum & Withholding of removal during his deportation proceeding...

He doesn’t even need to file it with USCIS

He only needs to file with the immigration court that has authority over her case...

Just last month I went to court with a colleague who is out on bond but is currently under removal proceeding he is next Master Calendar Hearing was scheduled for December 3rd 2021...

Yes you heard me right, December 3rd 2021...

Now God forbid Op is caught Op will be given due process in court...

I can assure you that the immigration court is so backed up right now that he won’t even get a date until probably 2022...

Anybody doubting me should go to the New York immigration Court at Federal Plaza and make enquiries.

The judge that preceded over my colleague case is Judge Jesse B Christensen...

Please most of you should stop giving Op high blood pressure before Op passes away from over stressing...

Babyvet:


You have all your facts wrong, don't be quick to respond. Go and read the op posts and responses.

LUCAS99:


You want me to read the same response where both you & justwise adviced her to return back to Nigeria twice...

You’re not serious...

Op I pray that whatever spirit or maybe Village people who knows is pushing to run back to Nigeria will leave you alone in Jesus name Amen.

TheCongo2:
@LUCAS99 , is the OP a he or a she ?
I thought OP was a lady but you have been referring to her as He. What is going on?

LUCAS99:


My brother I’m confused...

Somebody said is a She on the first page & when I was reading subsequent pages someone made mention is a He...

So I don’t really know...

Op needs to come & clarify whether is a He OR She...

So I guess we have to wait for Op to clarify this issue...

Babyvet:


I SAID READ THE OP POSTS, WHAT PART OF THAT CAN YOU NOT UNDERSTAND?

LUCAS99:


My bad...

Op is a lady.

It’s safe to assume so unless she say otherwise...

Mancala:


For the former and especially the latter half of your response, I am truly happy for you and your kids. However, am I impertinent to assume you are still married to your kids father? If you still are, and will remain so, then I'm sorry, I have no other suggestions to regularize your stay.
But you could consider this. American immigration laws are always changing. There is a strong possibility that congress may pass lesgislation granting "forgiveness" to all illegals in the future. It has happened before. They need to figure out what to do with an estimated 20 million undocumented immigrants sometime soon. The longer you're here, the better your chances. But this means y'all being in limbo for an indefinite amount of time. And what about hubby in Nigeria?
The first best option is to amass as much funds as yo can and take your children home to be with their father.

TheCongo2:


A He with 2 underage kids? Very unlikely

Babyvet:


okay when is the last time Amnesty happened in America ?