Respect55:

Where do u reside. Just get her to let go. I don't like violence

Respect55:


What do I stand to gain by holding some things back?
I have been careful from the beginning. I haven't promised her marriage neither have I borrowed anything from her. Not even sex

Respect55:

Would have reported to the church but we will be punished for courting without the church board 's notice.
I think her mum is even part of this so reporting to her is even out of the equation now.
I don't trust the police.
I'm thinking of leaving

mhizbel:

I agree with you to an extent... But did you involve prayers? It's part of the background check.

solasoulmusic:
I don’t know and I apologize if I was a bit confrontational in the beginning I’m trying to understand the psychological reason behind the change. People change for many reasons emotional one of them. Peer influence You said the mother was the one that said she had the money did money ever come up in your relationship and is there a new woman to perhaps inspire the beast in her?

I pray God keeps you safe

linearity:


You said your life is in danger from someone threatening to do you harm, but afraid to report her to the church for fear of punishment from the church?

And you don’t trust the Police to even petition them?

Bros, you neva serious.

The only to be safe is to document her threats, take pictures of her stalking you and expose her.

Petition the church and including lots of evidence, copy her on that petition.

Petition the local police, copy the police at the state level, also copy her.

Expose her on Facebook and warn her to desist from you.

She wants to control you and you can’t be careful enough to persuade her otherwise, so you must go full throttle against her or pack your baggage and leave PH.

Respect55:

My last conversation with the mum was that I 'should do the right thing' (in her words). We lost conversation after that meeting. We only greet in church

androidroot:
Respect55 I'll advise you to hookup with solasoulmusic, I think she's the right person for you.

solasoulmusic:
just trying to understand the situation o

Respect55:

All these things listed here will just cripple my little efforts here. It's not enough to make an entry BUT DO U HAVE MONEY to follow it up.
Maybe I will have to go to church

linearity:


I believe the lady is a coward, she is just try to intimidate you to see how you react. And, she will continue to push, if you let her.

You don’t owe her anything, to marry no bi by force. It does not cost a penny to write a complain and send it to the Police...sorry except to buy money to buy a pen and paper.

When write to the Police, company their boss at the state level and make that fact known to them. You are a Nigerian citizen and have the right to complain to the Police if your life is in danger. They may demand money from you, don’t give them if you don’t have, copying the State level will put them on notice if they don’t act.

Also copy this lady, when you write the Police, let them know that, if anything happens to you, they should hold the lady and her mother responsible.

Once the lady and her mother knows that, the Police, your church and all have known that, they will be the first people to be interrogated by the Police if anything happens to you, they will not only back off, they will start praying for your safety, because they know their peace depend on it.

Make such you document and include all their threats in your complain. You can’t just seat back and allow someone else to control your life like that.

solasoulmusic:
Thank you for shedding light without insult it’s hard to find a man on here who is mature enough to stick to the point. So do the right thing as per ? Marraige ? Is she pregnant and I’m so sorry but also how long have you known each other it’s possible your a victim of a desperate mother and bride but the whole threatening and stuff sounds more serious .. also what’s her mums role? How did you meet her ...did you request for it ....is she the one putting the pressure and please can you be specific

Call the name of Jesus sha if you still dey stubborn

androidroot:
Respect55 I'll advise you to hookup with solasoulmusic, I think she's the right person for you.

linearity:


I believe the lady is a coward, she is just try to intimidate you to see how you react. And, she will continue to push, if you let her.

You do owe her anything. It does not cost a penny to write a complain and send it to the Police...sorry except to buy money to buy a pen and paper.

When write to the Police, company their boss at the state level and make that fact known to them. You are a Nigerian citizen and have the right to complain to the Police if your life is in danger. They may demand money from you, don’t give them if you don’t have, copying the State level will put them on notice if they don’t act.

Also copy this lady, when you write the Police, let them know that, if anything happens to you, they should hold the lady and her mother responsible.

Once the lady and her mother knows that, the Police, your church and all have known that, they will be the first people to be interrogated by the Police if anything happens to you, they will not only back off, they will start praying for your safety, because they know their peace depend on it.

Make such you document and include all their threats in your complain. You can’t just seat back and allow someone else to control your life like that.

solasoulmusic:
just trying to understand the situation o

Respect55:

Yes, they want marriage. I know I will marry but this si so prompt. We lasted for just 10 months . Actually, we got talking through the youth's whatsapp group. We went private and sincerely, I asked her out. Yes I did. They just want instant marriage, engagement, assurance. That's just what broke us.

Respect55:

Don't get talked into his hands like that

androidroot:
Send him a PM to know more about the real situation

Respect55:

That's just all u can say?

Respect55:
Hello friends. Please I'm in a deep problem. I won't like to bore u with unnecessary details, so I will keep it short.

I came to the city of Portharcourt on a permanent basis roughly two years ago after service to look for job. Along the line, I met this cool, calm, gentle lady in the church. Things were going well but I noticed one attitude of hers along the line. She would abuse and threaten me at every misunderstanding. She is from this city.

Along the line, her mum insisted that I should get wine and make my intention towards her daughter clear and official and I shouldn't worry after that. They are very very well-to-do.

I told her that I'm not yet established here and needs to get my life together to start planning for marriage but she and her daughter were not in for that.

We broke off. The daughter has been on my neck since. She is threatening my life that I should leave portharcourt or she shouldn't be blamed for whatever becomes of me thereafter.

Moreover, I haven't taken anything from her - financially or even lovemaking. I haven't touched her. I took this as a joke till she stared frustrating all my efforts to secure job or even start a little business I'm doing now.

She traced me to my business place today and warned again. As if that was not enough, she sent me a deadly text this night that removed sleep from my eyes.

She has even dared me to involve the police and find out she is from this city.

Please, I need a helping hand. Help!

androidroot:
Who knows what God has for you (Solasoulmusic)

Respect55:

Would have reported to the church but we will be punished for courting without the church board 's notice.
I think her mum is even part of this so reporting to her is even out of the equation now.
I don't trust the police.
I'm thinking of leaving

Respect55:

On a serious note?
How do I get to meet u please

Respect55:

Would have reported to the church but we will be punished for courting without the church board 's notice.
I think her mum is even part of this so reporting to her is even out of the equation now.
I don't trust the police.
I'm thinking of leaving

solasoulmusic:
android

So automatically when you try to provide solutions on here you must be interested in the person ?

Learnstuffs:
Keep records of her threats. They will be invaluable for investigations. A signed undertaking and restraining order will be issued if you follow up the case with proofs of evidence.

For now be careful with her so that justice will not be served post mortem