lawman88:
you mean your mother threatebed to curse you just because she is not comfortable with the wedding date? please go with your woman. A CURSELESS CURSE SHALL NOT STAND....

It is Causeless curse; not Curseless curse.

It's obvious you don't study your Bible; you only swallow every rubbish emanating from a pastor's mouth. It's people like you that will oppose explanations, discussions, opinions, ideas, points of view that you have never heard before from your pastor simple because your knowledge of the scriptures is extremely limited to what you hear from Mr pastor.

That's the habit of a shallow-minded Christian.


You better desist. It is a dumb way to live a Christian life.

Dogalmighty17:


We have. We are compatible.

Have you prayed about it too? I mean did God say you are compatible?

Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

your mama is another big problem ooo....

toplinetrtrend:

Have you prayed about it too? I mean did God say you are compatible?

How God wan take tell am?

Your mom doesn't like your choice of a wife. This is the only way she plans to stop you.
Sit her down and listen to her first.
What an elder sees while sitting, even when a child climbs the tallest tree, the child will not see anything.

Hear your mom out before you make this rash decision

Decor with Lightbox

ityP:



How God wan take tell am?

God sees tomorrow

missyblissy:
Op someone said a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage that is the realty of life.

A woman that disrespects her husband and also informs her family of what goes on in your relationship and also takes sides with her family rather than trashing out issues as a couple,oga run for your life. You will regret marrying this lady. Do you want a peaceful home? A home you go to after the days stress? You don't need more stress.

Yes i know you love this lady more than she loves you and she knows and thinks you can never leave her, that you cannot do without her!!! She will use this against you and shes doing it already. She made you gravel at her familys feet, that sooo low to me!!!!

Couple fix wedding date and inform their families about it. I can see you are not united in this relationship, what will happen in the marriage if this continues? She will threaten to leave to her fathers house after marriage and you have to start begging again... This is so wrong.

I am independent woman but i don't disrespect my husband no matter what rather we talk the issues out and see it grom both perspectives. The Bible say woman should be submissive to her husband and the husband should love his wife, the way he loves God, op you fulfilled your part and more but your wife be didnot.

Make hay when the sun shines... If you have any doubt about this marriage, do not let it slide. You can never change any man or woman except they decide to change on their own. Am teliing you from experience.

Go to God, pray about it. Put all cards on the table. Think really hard and follow your head not your heart. There's more to marriage than just love, love is one of it, respect is another thing and self esteem is there and sooo much more.

so there are still women who thinks like this... see eh, if u live the talk, ur marriage would be a haven for u... ur husband go dey make mouth about u to his friends... may God bless me with a woman who thinks and acts like this

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

Brother please...DO NOT MARRY THAT GIRL..
i repeat...DO NOT MARRY THAT GIRL!!!

Eberechi24:
If am your woman, I will feel this way. It's not about being desperate. Why did you propose when you know you ain't ready. It seems you are using marriage proposal as bait to keep her.

Just sort your issue with your mommy. Show some seriousness, you might keep postponing till the end of next year.

Forget those men that want you to quit your relationship, they are miserable.

You carefully avoided the part where the wife to be is bossy and lacks submission. Also willing to cancel a relationship of 3 years over a wedding date shift from December to February.

I've seen ladies that endured date shifts of 1 year and above. Not that I support this but it happens due situations beyond anyone's control.

Eberechi24:
If am your woman, I will feel this way. It's not about being desperate. Why did you propose when you know you ain't ready. It seems you are using marriage proposal as bait to keep her.

Just sort your issue with your mommy. Show some seriousness, you might keep postponing till the end of next year.

Forget those men that want you to quit your relationship, they are miserable.

person never marry, e don dey complain about her being disrespectful and u have mouth to say, we that advice him to quit the relationship are miserable... maybe u are d woman... I put it to u tho, that man is gonna be VERY UNHAPPY in that relationship if he goes ahead with the marriage plans... I don talk my own

Leave this Relationship sir My very candid warning to you ,Life is short ,You have enough signal already ,but if you allow Love,Likeness to blind your eyes ,You may continue and regret this Later ,why would you see danger signs and yet put in your head in the same danger when its obvious you can Avoid it now .A friend had same experience before all advise fell on deaf ears today after one Child the lady Left ,She said she is hard working ,Independent and don't seems to need a man after all she is not barren ,had a son already .The guys mother and the lady mother were at logger heads till date .Men it was hell ,Marriage plans ,Date shouldn't be interfered but it quite unfortunate .No Respect In marriage ,No marriage Bro

Oh boy, u are growing into a man now. So u should start learning to make decisions without interferance from a third party. If your mum cannot make it in February then its fine. How will u feel if it was your mother in law that was causing the unnecessary delay?

Mankosi:
U never start marriage the girl don dey give instructions, wetin go happen when una finally marry? Guy I dey pity u in advance. Sorry

help me tell am ooo... except the lady is filthy rich, he should jaapa

This moniker just nailed it

IamD18:
Low self-esteem is damn bad!

What nonesense! Will you die if you don't marry the lady?

If little issues like wedding date can make her family advice her to call off the relationship, what then will happen when a bigger issue shows up in your marriage.

Trust me Bruv, if they really want you. I mean, if the lady and her mother really respect and like you, WEDDING DATE will not be enough reason for her to think of calling off the relationship, it won't just be enough reason for the mother to tell you to leave her daughter alone.

The earlier you understand that no one is irreplaceable, the better for you.

In my opinion; Kindly part ways with her,Mr.


PART WAYS!!!!!

jesmond3945:
Op you have to ask yourself this hard question, what do I want? Is this the girl for me or there is someone better? If you have problem with her not submitting, I am afraid it would get worse but if there are other good characteristics and you can able to manage then go ahead. As for your mum, yes it is good to honour and obey but you are a man, you need to take your destiny in your hands. It is only a woman that can be told what to do not and she would gladly dance to it not you a man but before then you have to get your respect back from your inlaws.

no other good quality can supersede RESPECT... if a lady isn't respectful, she can and would NEVER make a good wife

I dont get how family members will begin to have issues with wedding date? Is it not range dates you guys decide you present to the family and adjust as necessary.

Brides family will get agitated by frequent shifts but its not supposed to get up the threat level

Curse because of wedding in february instead of april?

Your mum doesnt want you to marry that girl thats all.

Besides february to april is just about 8weeks max.

You hold a wedding last week of february or first week of april its maximum 5 weeks.

You should be more concerned if you guys are meant for each other.

One thing I know is that our parents and parents inlaw will always try to blackmail us emotionally, ability to wriggle out of it without any incident is a true test of maturity translating to how prepared you are to get married.

You have to manage them both with tact or else you are in for a long ride.
Much ado about nothing o jare.

jefdr001:
Your woman finds it hard to submit to you, so she may not be respecting your mumc, hence your mumc and your girl will never agree on anything at all, not even wedding dates. you sound like a man that tolerate disrespect from a woman but understand that your family never will and they mean well for you. Because they are not the ones in love they tend to see more clearly. Also it seems your fiance sees herself more as a blessing to you than you are to her. If this is true your relationship is one sided and this is not good. Be a man and let your fiance respect your momc. Prove to her that she is just a total stranger you are learning to relate with. That is called giving her her seat. Never spite your family without a good reason and this obviously is not one. Let your woman learn or you move. No matter how painful.

Very wise words. One can deduce from his article that his mum is not comfortable with his impending union with the girl hence the lack of enthusiasm. They should first sort the underlying issues before even talking about wedding date.

Also, the chances that his fiancee will eventually become submissive are 50/50. A leopard will never change its spots.

Any way, love is blind but na inside marriage eye dey clear

Adexvivacity:
This kind of Bleep happens when the bride's family is richer than the groom to be family.
I purposely said no to the date my wife's family agreed to, so that they would know that am the sailor of my ship.....they grumbled and we ended the meeting without consensus....they called me after a week to tell me they have agreed to my date when they did not see my call. When am very certain that i wont go to them to beg for food and am not too old to find another woman if they refuse to concur.

if all men had dis strong will, Naija for don better

toplinetrtrend:

God sees tomorrow

my question is, how God wan take communicate wetin Him see to d guy

guy, this is the best advice u will get... if u take it, GOOD HEALTH TO U... if u don't, anything u see, no disturb us again o.



LEAVE THE GIRL... TELL HER AND HER FAMILY U NO DO AGAIN...

Resener13:

You still talk thank you to Wetin this 18 yr old girl dey talk. You don see where a girl dey give advice without showing emotions before wey you dey talk thank you. Lol we dey hear and we go see how everything go be in 1 year if you finally marry that your girl

Seriously I was shocked when I saw him say thank u to that rubbish advice. I wanted to comment but I just let it slide.

The sad part is you're begging them. A woman that remote you will crash you. That why leadership is not meant for woman. Ask God why he made man d head

ityP:



if all men had dis strong will, Naija for don better

This man with correct head. Not abeg them type.

thelish:


A mother that finds it convenient to curse a child of her womb because of ordinary marriage date is manipulative.

Quite true.some of our parents no dey try shaa. but it would be so bad if he goes to his inlaw's place for marriage alone.

jossytech:

This man with correct head. Not abeg them type.

no mind all those woman wrapper men

Dogalmighty17:

Please call off the wedding. That girl doesn't deserve you. She deserves someone better.

From your post, it seems you are insecured and will look up to your mum for everything. The bride's parents are trying to shield her from entering into that marriage.

3 years, 5 years, etc doesn't matter. What matters is the joy and happiness you both will experience forever.

From my experience, marriages formed on such premise don't last.

GOFRONT:
I hope say you and your wife don do una Genotype?

And hepatitis B test

Weak man

Please never go into any marriage that is being threatened by lack of submission from the woman especially when her parents supports her in subordination because you as the man will surely surfer it later. You can never escape it. Listen to your mother just as she is listening to her own mother before she will claim victory and make you live in regret for the rest of your life. Am an experienced fellow. Thanks for taking advice.

A woman dat lack respect n has too much money not good for a man. Forget mom story. If she's humble with her money, there won't be issue in both family. She ask what date is ok by you my love n she agree. Not resolve to threat. U can't even threat me sha. Dare it n i send u away lowokan. Oga walk away. Period. Arrogant woman is dangerous to live with not with threat